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Love and Other Bruises

December 31 2010

This is in part a posting about pleasure and pain a little about Dominance and Submission. Lots of people will say they do not like pain when the reality is that to various degree we all do. The pain receptors and the pleasure receptors in the body are basically the same. Take for example running a nice hot bath if it is just right we love it…Pleasure…If it is too hot…Pain. The same receptors are giving us different information. So the perfect bath for you will be way too cold for me, but the perfect bath for me will be too hot for you and cause you pain. So you will think if he likes it that hot he likes pain. No true I just have a higher please reaction to the heat. Lots of people say that have a low or high pain threshold, I prefer to think of it as saying I have a high pleasure threshold. Now let’s see this on a sexual basis do you like a light pinch, a playful bite and soft smack during foreplay or sex. Probably to most people this is acceptable. Taking it to the next level when the same things are done a little harder the pleasure threshold for some people is exceeded and they no longer like it. It is the same action but now our brains process it in a different format. Many people like what most would be considered as pain during sex. Take a master and their slave if they do something wrong they get a punishment, it can be a spanking with a hand or with a cane, these can be and often are very hard. It is not unusual for this to result in Bruises and other body marking. So I see masochism for want of a better word as people who have a very high tolerance for pleasure as opposed to someone with a fascination for pain. Add to this an aspect of Pleasure and pain occurring at the same time in the same area and the brain can muddle the signal giving pleasure as the overriding sensation. From experience I know that exposure to something that starts as painful can turn to pleasure quite easily. So is there a line and when do you know if you crossed it ? Have you pushed through a pain barrier to discover that there can be pleasure on the other side ? Does pain just scare you to the extent you can’t push that boundry? LC

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RHP User

15 years ago

I know from personal experience I have an extremely high tollerance to pain. But when it comes to all things sexual.....forget it! A gentle nibble is accepted. I rarely even tollerate a slap on the arse in the heat of the moment. My hair can be pulled to the extent that it is ripped out and I dont feel it but please do not pull my hair during sex. I do not have a submissive bone in my body and am likely to fight back. On the flip side of the coin...I am seriously tempted and probably will begin to explore the more dominant side of my sexuality this coming year. Not happy to push through my own pain barrier...there is no pleasure on the other side...only anger and retaliation. But am more than happy to inflict pain on others.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Not every submissive or slave sees pain as pleasurable but we all have our own level of pain tolerance during any sort of sensual activity. Yes, thats sensual and not sexual. One may lead on to the other but they are very different activities and have to be separated when discussing this topic. When our senses are heightened we can perceive pain and pleasure as two different things. For instance if someone is made to orgasm over and over eventually the orgasm can be perceived as painful. If pain starts light and is built up slowly, the body releases endorphines in higher quantities and thus produce a heavy rush of pleasure. I have done sessions where the guy has taken one hell of a flogging and enjoyed it immensely yet he still started swearing and hopping about when he stubbed his toe on the way out the door. I speak from experience when I say few people find pain a pleasure.

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RHP User

15 years ago

A fine line in which I'm starting to enjoy giving as well as receiving...

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RHP User

15 years ago

Must be a time of confession for me...OK LC...I am one of the rare few that MistressT is talking about..I love pain...and have had it inflicted upon me a number of times...however..its not just anyone who can inflict it upon me (so dont bother people I already have someone who I allow that privilege and dont require anyone else thankyou)...back to the pleasure and pain aspect..sur eif it is going over that boundary then I will ask for it to stop however I know that this is something that is rare and few inbetween but also for me it depends on where the pain is being inflicted as to how long I can enjoy it before the pain mode kicks in and I am begging for the pain/pleasure to stop...I probable havent explained my self well..but eh! thats what you get this gorgeous Sunday Kisses Focus

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RHP User

15 years ago

It all depends on who is testing me...the attitude of said person...how they make me feel...and how well they have led me up to there.I love being bitten...but dont think that any random can just come up and sink their teeth in.NO!They are likely to cop a fist to the face!I love it in the heat of passion...he's been kissing, licking, nibbling me...then as my orgasm spills over...his hands grasp my hair...pulling my head back...growling....and biting my neck....firmly...then licking over the marks he has made in my flesh....No wonder i have a thing about vampires!I also dont mind a spanking....a really hard bum massage...or my back scrubbed with a brush...and although the first few passses will make me jump....my brain then changes the feeling from pain to pleasure.Couple that with hard breathing and moaning in my ear...gawd...I turn to jelly.YUM.JMO...BJxxx

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RHP User

15 years ago

Sometimes it isn't so much the pain but who inflicts it and how they inflict it. And also what mood you are in.

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