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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Of course we all have situations where we find ourselves feeling unsexy or someones too rough or they just dont know when to stop (or start...lol) We have only been playing for a about 2 years, and have learnt lots in that time. It will bring out ANY insecurities you 2 have, but it gives you the chance to TALK about it after and make sure you are heading on the PATH you both want Try new things, chat about it after, and with others, keep an open mind, and then see where the adventures take you.. above all remember its JUST FUN. Bernie

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Half way thru play, we have stopped and also had that happen to us others have stopped half way. All times it has been going further than what was agreed and was discussed beforehand. Issues have included, Jealously, introducing bi play,bi girls just wanting the female touch, going further than agreed and non performance from the men. (nerves, this is bigger than what you would expect) Unfortunately the damage done with the couple is permenant from both sides, the night ends abruptly. Most important look after your own relationship, discuss what went wrong and try to amend / reach agreement for the future. Thats if you two want to swing? A side issue, we were testing ourselves when we log on to RHP, do we look who has viewed us first to maybe play for real? Or do we go to the forums to just talk about playing?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think like anything else it can sometimes be a case of trial and error but then that is what signals and safe words are for. Don't be pressured into anything, always talk to your partner about everything. We are all here to bring something new/different/exciting to our relationships.... don't get me wrong we have made some great friends and had some amazing sex, but this is about us and your experiences should be about you, don't forget that and never compromise on it. Our rule is if its a no for one its a no for two. We don't need to explain or justify.... if we don't feel it it ain't happening. First time for us i was so nervous but once things got going my loins took over and we had a great time. Good luck and HAVE FUN!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Swinging is all about the communication, and communication and communication. After almost four years swinging we still find things to talk about when it come to sswinging. Never decided half way through that things were not good but have had a couple I was playing with as a single girl have an argument halfway through play, now that was interesting. We have also had lots of couples tell us their rules then when play got started they broke all their rules

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  We always have a debrief afterwards, or a dissection, or reunion sex or all three!! Seriously though we both make sure we are always aware of what is going on with the other one. We are both careful not to overstep boundaries that we have set together. If something happens that causes an issue we talk about it afterwards. Sometimes it can take a couple of days before those little niggles are properly described and dealt with. Having other people pull out halfway through. Yes we have had that happen. At a club on New Year's Eve of all things. Unbeknowst to us the couple were new and this was their first time. Talk about putting the pressure on!! Anyway there was wait for it.. a communication issue. He ended up storming out of the whole venue. That incident made us very wary of newbies at clubs.

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