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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Well I've put down not looking for men, have that both in my criteria and within the written profile, and yet still out of the people who view and email me the most, the vast majority are single (or not) men. I'm baffled as to how exactly they find my profile using the search function, as I'm not looking for men and so I shouldn't show up in 'women looking for men', unless they're deliberately searching via 'women searching for couples' or 'women searching for women' in the hope of changing someone's mind?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  You don't have to pass an intelligence test to join up.Cheers Felonious

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'amuse_bouche'Well I've put down not looking for men, have that both in my criteria and within the written profile, and yet still out of the people who view and email me the most, the vast majority are single (or not) men. I'm baffled as to how exactly they find my profile using the search function, as I'm not looking for men and so I shouldn't show up in 'women looking for men', unless they're deliberately searching via 'women searching for couples' or 'women searching for women' in the hope of changing someone's mind? I know how you feel, had the exact same issue when on here as a couple. Seeing as there are morons out there who will actively seek out and message people who aren't looking for them, I only wonder how much more unwanted attention those people who incorrectly set their preferences receive.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'Whinge? How fast did they block ya?! DGWhinge yes but I'm not going to waste my time and membership money messaging people who don't want to hear from me. It's hard enough getting a reply from the people who actually are ;-)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  It doesn't matter what you put, if someone likes the look of you they will write. Even when you click 'send message' and it says they aren't looking for you, either because you're a couple or whatever or your age is wrong they click 'send anyway'. As amuse_bouche says, they think they will change your mind. It gets annoying when people write to you when you have clearly stated what you want and they aren't it. It generally is single dudes and older couples but I'm sure its different for others. Sure, look all you want at the profile but you don't need to hit us up. They have wasted their own time really by writing the message.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I have a few musts when it comes to a potential meet ive even gone to the extent of putting a likes and dislikes on my page but people still dont read or care   Age is a big factor for me my dad is only 45 (teenage parents) so when i get a flirt or message from anyone over my age limits i dont reply cause it makes me feel ill cause of my parents age ive even had people my grandparents age contact me and i just cant do it   Height is also another factor for me i will not meet with anyone who is shorter then me (unless there is a connection) but even then its only ever been a couple of inches otherwise i feel like a giant at 6 foot next to a little shorty

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Profiles starting with things like "I am so sick of game players! I don't want time wasters, crazies, psychos, so sick of you! If you're gonna waste my time fuck off!" Yep, read a few profiles that started off like this. Reeaaally makes me want to reply to you.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Yeah I always get really hot for those negative ladies.. They bring me down from my hi so I don't feel so special.. Such a sweet holiday ~laughs~You make a good point dear ~smiles~Quoting 'DeviousMissM' Profiles starting with things like "I am so sick of game players! I don't want time wasters, crazies, psychos, so sick of you! If you're gonna waste my time fuck off!" Yep, read a few profiles that started off like this. Reeaaally makes me want to reply to you.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quite a few profiles just come across as very very angry! It may be a tirade against single men or a tirade against bi men or a tirade against couples or age groups. I have no issue with people saying "you're not for us", but the vitriol some people put in! Even if I do fit their criteria I am usually completely turned off by it. I remember one profile contained about one paragraph about what was wanted and about three paragraphs telling single men that they were nothing special and had nothing to offer and stop even looking at the profile etc. this one actually had something along the lines of "your mother may think you are special but I/We don't". I got a flirt and replied with the flirt about planets not colliding and got a message about a page long telling me there must be something wrong with me mentally, spiritually and that I probably couldn't get it up like a "real man" anyway. Some people just suffer from FITH........Fucked In The Head (as a good friend of mine calls it). I still laugh every time she says it so seriously :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Haha I love that diagnosis, might have to start using it and just not telling people what it stands for :-) Quoting 'justforfunisall' Quite a few profiles just come across as very very angry! It may be a tirade against single men or a tirade against bi men or a tirade against couples or age groups. I have no issue with people saying "you're not for us", but the vitriol some people put in! Even if I do fit their criteria I am usually completely turned off by it. I remember one profile contained about one paragraph about what was wanted and about three paragraphs telling single men that they were nothing special and had nothing to offer and stop even looking at the profile etc. this one actually had something along the lines of "your mother may think you are special but I/We don't". I got a flirt and replied with the flirt about planets not colliding and got a message about a page long telling me there must be something wrong with me mentally, spiritually and that I probably couldn't get it up like a "real man" anyway. Some people just suffer from FITH........Fucked In The Head (as a good friend of mine calls it). I still laugh every time she says it so seriously :)

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