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Longest YOU have spent RHP'n on-line with some1 b4 meetn them - the result when meeting?
March 24 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
I find that meeting them ASAP takes away from any of the bullshit they can talk online! I have gotten to know guys for a while over MSN/phone or whatever and usually was disappointed when I met them as they were nothing like their online persona! Also some guys only chat to say "I'm horny" and expect you to cyber with them...if you don't....then don't expect to hear from them again till they are horny the next time! I say chat...but not too much and not for too long. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
All that pre-emptive chat builds expectations. That can be rather dissapointing. I think it's better to have no expectations.... just go hell for leather and if the sex is good, then maybe have some small talk... exchange a phone number... maybe tell your real name... swap prescriptions... that kind of thing.HUgsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am with Stalky on that one - I am just not into spending lots of time emailing and getting to know people on line. So I am not really qualified to answer your question as I have never known anyone "well" before I have met them. I feel it is a waste of time because you build up a picture of someone in your head and they are rarely the same in person. Although I think I have gotten to know some people over the forums more than anything else. There is one forum contributor who I have been chasing around the forum for months and months and months. He only showed any interest when I changed my profile pic to my bum. So a bum man. So we have now swapped numbers & given each other full medical history with prescription detials. xxx Meeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
My experience on this crazy site is to meet sooner rather than later, I have found if the guy is just into endless chat he has no intentions of ever meeting, only on here to get his rocks off in cyberland. . I do like to swap a little banter with messages get a 'feel' for the other person without forming to many unrealistic expectations (on both sides). Ofcourse, real life does intrude at times and working out a time that suits both can sometimes take a little while but for me.....definately sooner rather than later.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sooner rather than later is often better although we're so crap at sparing any time for new friends as old ones take priority (whether play or not) so there has been times we've sent a message or two off then lost touch then retouched then lost touch and so on...when the planets align perfectly we've met a few people we've been meaning to meet forever and had a wonderfully good time but we usually haven't had endless chats with them so it's more or less meeting anew.
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RHP User
15 years ago
.. Although I am the opposite of most people here in that I do prefer to get to know someone via some messages or emails or chat first. I choose to do it this way for a few reasons. Firstly, I'm time poor and too busy right now to have much of a social life. Secondly, I'm a big fan of the "connection" and meeting new and interesting people. I'd prefer to get to know someone well enough that if when we meet in person, sparks don't fly, that we have enough of a friendship to fall back on so as to make it a great meeting without any awkwardness. Lastly, I am happy to say I am not here (and never have been) purely in search of great sex or a great relationship. . So I think this is what makes me a fan of the buildup. I think if I was here to find great sex and/or a great partner, then I'd be arranging meetings sooner rather than later for the reasons the others have said.There are people here who I have become fantastic friends with over many months. Some I plan to meet very soon, some I have yet to make any move to meet up with. . The last person I met on RHP was via a very happy accident and I found great sex and a great relationship. And so now, anything else I am lucky enough to come into contact with here is just icing on top of my already yummy cake!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' .. Although I am the opposite of most people here in that I do prefer to get to know someone via some messages or emails or chat first. I choose to do it this way for a few reasons. Firstly, I'm time poor and too busy right now to have much of a social life. Secondly, I'm a big fan of the "connection" and meeting new and interesting people. I'd prefer to get to know someone well enough that if when we meet in person, sparks don't fly, that we have enough of a friendship to fall back on so as to make it a great meeting without any awkwardness. Lastly, I am happy to say I am not here (and never have been) purely in search of great sex or a great relationship. . So I think this is what makes me a fan of the buildup. I think if I was here to find great sex and/or a great partner, then I'd be arranging meetings sooner rather than later for the reasons the others have said.There are people here who I have become fantastic friends with over many months. Some I plan to meet very soon, some I have yet to make any move to meet up with. . The last person I met on RHP was via a very happy accident and I found great sex and a great relationship. And so now, anything else I am lucky enough to come into contact with here is just icing on top of my already yummy cake! Everything you said!! You are the first I have encountered that has the approach I am most comfortable with, at least there are 2 of us!
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RHP User
15 years ago
i find if i chat for too long we never meet thats mostly my fault...im a runner lol so the more i get to know someone the closer we become...the faster i run so to me if i chat longer than about a month im out the door but i have been chatting to a bloke in Sydney and by the time i meet up with him (if it happens) it will be about 10 weeks and thats just because iv been busy with kids and life...but normally meet soon or im out lol roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I am with Stalky on that one - I am just not into spending lots of time emailing and getting to know people on line. So I am not really qualified to answer your question as I have never known anyone "well" before I have met them. I feel it is a waste of time because you build up a picture of someone in your head and they are rarely the same in person. Although I think I have gotten to know some people over the forums more than anything else. There is one forum contributor who I have been chasing around the forum for months and months and months. He only showed any interest when I changed my profile pic to my bum. So a bum man. So we have now swapped numbers & given each other full medical history with prescription detials. xxx Meeks 'n ? sitting in a tree... K. I. S. S. I. N. G. WHO???? hehe
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mmm now that would be telling. Hehehe. Meeks & "What's your real name? " Sitting in a tree F.U.C.K.I.N.G
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RHP User
15 years ago
Some of my best encounters have been after only a little preliminary chat/couple of texts then meet in person but also there are weeks where i can't meet anyone so there's a bit more of the 'getting to know you' in that busy time and the build-up has led to a really hot meeting. . If it works for you, it's awesome, keep doing it your way! xx Sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Mmm now that would be telling. Hehehe. Meeks & "What's your real name? " Sitting in a tree F.U.C.K.I.N.G Dirty, cheeky girl... TELLL USSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!! (i do have a life BTW, just not right this minute... hehe)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I prefer to spend the time getting to know the person on line first and this can take several months as I am not in a position to travel more often. Many seem to find the trek to my part of the country a bit daunting. It seems to sort the serious condenders from the time wasters as well. Those that cannot be bothered chatting for a month or more are only after sex and quite frankly I would rather the friendship first and last. I have one man that I chat to all the time and have been chatting to him for over a year. It was eight months before we actually met and boy it was fantastic. I dont think we will get the opportunity to meet again but one never knows. It has certaily not lessened the friendship but has in fact deepened it. When I do get to meet it as if we are old friends. I know so much about them, have seen them on cam often and there is no awkwardness at all. Local people and those living close by I tend to meet a lot quicker. It is not difficult to drive an hour as opposed to driving for six hours.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I like to not muck around IF we want to meet. I think you soon come to the realisation pretty quickly during messages if it is going to be an online friend or perhaps something more or a gettogether for other reasons. Just work it out and cut to the chase. I have been let down by the expectations of long chatting, phone calls and fell in love for one day! (not from this site) Then nothing. Perhaps that should be a separate post. I like to chat for a little Talk a little and then meet if both are uncomfortable. If not, Next! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
If the chat gets intimate before you meet and then you meet and you don't feel chemistry - awkward!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm not meeting some axe murderer or something lol i take a week or so to chat see if we click then will meet. i wont go on for moths just chatting that's boring and not what i want, yes the longer u chat the more bs u get so week or 2 and if we get along which is a major thing for me to feel comfortable to meet. makes it worth our while not meeting and it dying in the butt
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RHP User
15 years ago
A play date?? ...longest for me there was 6 weeks but we lived in different states...if they live locally well I do believe early on there waas one guy i exchanged maybe 2 messages with and from first message to meet ing was maybe 2 hours...lol...now though am a little more cautious . socially - well there are some gorgeous people I have been chatting with for around 12 months now that i still havent had the pleasure of meeting - but this year I am planning on meeting as many of these people as I possibly can...lol . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
current boy i met after 2 days? awesome. if someone`s a dud/wanker/whatever, I`d rather know that day, rather than waste any more time talking to them. I say this because I attract `interesting` ppl... location plays a big part in this tho, i`m lucky living inner city in that i can say `let`s go down the pub`. I think because i`m looking for sex, tho, not a life partner, I`m not really all that fussed on whether we agree politically etc. If i was looking for a life partner, I think I`d spend a little more time interviewing...
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