Living Double Lives Whats Your Thoughts?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  does this! person! make you angry!! or do they! use lots! of punctuation!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Yes he does make me angry! Especially that I asked the question Have u been having sex with her! he said NO straight to my face Then when all revealed! Now its my fault! lol how does that work? Its not someone from here Its a guy that Ive had a relationship with for 2 & a half years! Yes I have a profile here and thats no secret! Sometime ago When we were trying to detach, I had sexy fun With a really hot guy! from here When he asked I told him! but u know what at least I was honest!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Personally i couldnt give a flying Fuck

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  wannabyummymummy

  15 years ago

  Waste of time NEXT!!!!basically in my opinion this should be about low maintenance relationships/friendships/associations of mutual fun, if someone is messing with you and not being straight up or are just too much like hard work then that is it for me!!As far as the 'double life' part, well that can be kind of fun, we fit that category really, we lead normal family life with family and regular friends and we keep our naughty little' playdates' to ourselves and the people we 'play' with, two lives, twice the fun

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I can get into enuff trouble leading one life, two no thanks

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  it can be done its a lot of hard work but t can be done... my ex did it to me for nearly 6 years ..... good things await me have done my time in hell lol

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'phoenixlady64' it can be done its a lot of hard work but t can be done... my ex did it to me for nearly 6 years ..... good things await me have done my time in hell lol Would never do to anyone else what was done to me..... One life and a happy one at that is all I want....

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Unfortunately there are some people who live double and triple lives...gotta sift through it is all I will say... My girlfriend got fucked over by a false for just over 6 months....not pretty... Phoenix I am a big believer in Karma.... xxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'BlackStilettoes' Unfortunately there are some people who live double and triple lives...gotta sift through it is all I will say... My girlfriend got fucked over by a false for just over 6 months....not pretty... Phoenix I am a big believer in Karma.... Try not to let it taint you but its hard ..... xxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  My life is a double life. No I do not have a guy on the side as I have no permanent partner and I am up front and honest with any I choose to become intimate with. My on line life, however is separate and completely different to my personal and private life and it is very rare that the two cross over. There is one exception. Your profile of a double life can apply to many people, those cheating and lying and those who are not. I can be prone to erratic outbursts and behaviour as well, especially at a certain time of the month if chocolate is withheld. Lets fae it, that is a killing offence. You are just pissed that you got sucked in, cheated on and lied to. That does not make a double life.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Can make you feel guilty or bad about yourself...unless you allow them! xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I put alot of time & effort in to our relationship! Loved him unconditionally! part of our time we lived together, very connected, did lots of things together! Oh well our time is done! time for me to move on! To bigger and better things! Yes It must take lots of mental calculation! to do this! that would explain the erratic behaviour & outbursts! xxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I feel sorry for people like them.. It hurts when someone lies to you...however they must live in a world of hurt and unhappiness to do this to other people.. they are so unhappy that it has actually paralysed them-they may as well be in a hospital bed for how they live in a perpetual state of inaction to make the necessary changes in their life to lead a fulfilled life-or worse they're walking around in a delusion believing they actually are the current incarnation of the Viconte de Valmont (this one only usually works though if the victim doesn't know about creatures like him). So here's how it goes...the unhappy bunnies get the brilliant idea that if they take a shortcut to a shortcut-by taking a hostage into their fantasy-it will do something to alleviate their unhappiness or powerlessness they feel-however this only leads both people nowhere... Realistically-it's slavery-because their deceit entraps another into their world of falsehoods to do their badding- they are not truly informed therefore not consenting-and so have no choice about what it is they are engaging in-as far as I understand when you are forced to perform tasks set by another with no free choice about your destiny that's slavery. So the person doing this is not that far from a human trafficker really..not hot at all-more like a cream coloured manilla folder in a filing cabinet at Interpol. How do they guarantee that the person they involve themselves with isn't as bananas as they are? It's usually when things end that you know the truth.. Because they will say nothing-as there is nothing they can say to you.. They will avoid you..all their words stop. You know because at least when someone says "you're too fat, poor, Wiccan, Nazi, or affiliated with rights of gay whales" or "I don't want to get married"; "I'm joining the priesthood"; "actually I'm not a guy/girl" or "I really didn't like it when you smacked my younger sister/brother in the mouth for what she said" you know it's probably something you're not happy to hear-who ever is when someone dumps them? But in time you'd think back and say "yep I'm not going to change-neither are they...but they were honest about their reasons for the break up and hey my swastika wearing coven mates from Krispy Kreme appreciation didn't really like him coming along with me to those rainbow whale meetings in the first place". It's sad really because this person you really liked or loved lied to you-so what it does is taint every good memory of your time spent together...every compliment, gesture, caress, kiss or dream you shared. Yet the memories are there-and you can't erase them-so every time they pop into your head-what should be pleasant ends in a sting.. You would feel terrible because it's not so much your body-but your soul has been violated-you let someone into your world that really didn't deserve the showcase-you now realise they didn't even deserve to be let into the showroom or see the brochure. You would feel tired and drained because you realise the effort that you put in for which nothing is ever guaranteed-yet this was never ever going to go anywhere..this person can't make themselves happy-they would never make you happy. All the things that made you grow to like or even worse love this person-you realise were probably lies too.. You were responding genuinely to an illusion...something created just to get you to play their game. You would wonder did I imagine this? I'm sure I didn't because the number's on my phone bill, there are the entries on my statement from where we went and what we did.. The break up is stage two of their fun-because it's self-saucing...as now either the spouse/partner is back from their promotional tour, shopping, sabbatical, shiftwork, overseas or whatever they were doing when they were seeing you or just suddenly back to normal and things go from being amazing between the two of you to them becoming the Amazing Houdini. And you would want answers now-understandably-as you are in a bit of shock-especially after all the plans you had made, you can still smell them in your bed or on your clothes-or you had standing plans for the weekend-suddenly cancelled. However, they now use your behaviour as the reason for the break up-say calling or messaging them-which is reasonable as you've been hot and heavy and intense previously-at their initiation and now you're thinking where'd they go and wonder what's happened? They will say you are too needy or crowding them.... Worse still-if you've heard nothing or only something completely lame and out of character and thought well-this is strange they were all over me like a body wash two days ago-what is now going on? I want an answer-so off you go around to see them-see now it's perfect for them-they can say you're a crazy stalker-get the hell away!! Admit it-you're definitely crazy but not that you'd want to hurt them but thinking how the f*** did this happen? What did I do wrong? Not so much that they broke it off with you but-How did I not see it? Personally, I can forgive anyone most things-as I understand even good people make mistakes as it's part of being human-however this is much different to being a doormat or to be abused or treated with complete contempt as it would be to experience going through something like this-something that must be completely devastating to the unprepared. To discover too late-someone was lying to me in such a way-would be very extremely disappointing as it would mean that they actually believed I was worthless-which is really their loss more than mine as I kind of think if you have to go to such lengths to get sex-"You sir are quite the loser!" I'd then be thinking "How the hell did I end up with such a complete loser?" When people get upset about this happening to them-others think it's because they have low self-esteem they are upset. It's not-it's not so much about being rejected or used by this person-and someone that has not been through this and is getting it through a textbook would not understand...it is the self-doubt that encroaches-especially if someone was not resilient or already quite vulnerable..they would then possibly start to think.. "How can I ever possibly trust myself to be good at choosing someone again?" As they may not realise that the deficiency is not in the victim of such a scenario-as most people will generally see the world for what they carry inside-if you are a good person you tend to give most people a fair chance and trust them unless they gave you reason otherwise-why would you not? However, if you've been a victim and have been exploited or predated upon or abused when you were vulnerable you may only see that every person out there is going to try and get you eventually-so you might as well get them first-in my opinion by engaging in this deceptive behaviour, it really doesn't make them seem clever or powerful-it really makes them seem quite simple minded and weak. What is unfortunate is the many that have more than one run in with people like this can tend to become just like them-or give up-on relationships or even life-however I think life's too short to give up for yourself-let alone for people like this-out there. Betrayal is truly a gift-better sooner than later-it's one thing to lose a few months or a few years-imagine losing your house or your life to one of these people?!?!? If they were just honest with themselves initially about being unhappy or bored they'd then make the changes they need to have the life that they really want and be too busy being happy living that in bliss-than purposely hunting down and hurting other people that probably had too much to deal with or do in the first place-let alone deal with the world of self-indulgent narcissism or misguided self-therapy these characters visit upon others. I do feel sorry for them because they usually lead these long boring lives attaching themselves parasitically trying to feed themselves from the people that are good, truly interesting and strong rather than developing the attractive qualities themselves. If only they did that they wouldn't have to pick pocket from people the experiences of adoration and affection they seek or experiences of their victims' lives vicariously. They would find that if they were just their authentic selves and asked they'd get all they wanted-the whole world and then some... Why have the crumbs if you can have the whole cake-seriously? Get off your behind-change your own life-rather than dismantle or destroy another person's for your own amusement. Rant over now... NymphetamineDrm

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