M58
Letting things flow.............................
October 07 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
I find when I love someone so much, I want things o be perfect for my partner. Maybe it's just because of a few hang ups I have thatI probably need to work through. I remember once surprising my ex husband (while we were still married) by buying him a nice jumper, just because I thought he would like it. He didn't like and I ended up returning to the store 6 times to change each item before I got fed up and told him to go back to the store himself and pick out something he thought was more suited to him. He did that a lot and I guess we had very different tastes in things. Even though I know my other half is really happy and touched every time I do something nice for him, I want it to be just perfect where nothing could possibly have made it a better experience, just because I love him.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Your right, sometimes things turn to shit so you need to be flexible. Having said that, some of my favorite memories, whether it be a naughty weekend with a lover or just a weekend away with friends have been totally unplanned and random .... nothing is perfect, just make the most out of what you got...
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RHP User
13 years ago
the best laid schemes of mice and men gang aft a-gley....... 1786
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RHP User
13 years ago
wiccan, sorry to hear about the incident with your ex-husband. No offence but would it have hurt him to say "Thanks, darling"? By the sound of it, your new partner does love everything you do. It sounds like you two are happy there so just enjoy what you have together and go with your heart whenever you want the things to be perfect. Keep smiling, richo1968 xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie'Your right, sometimes things turn to shit so you need to be flexible. Having said that, some of my favorite memories, whether it be a naughty weekend with a lover or just a weekend away with friends have been totally unplanned and random .... nothing is perfect, just make the most out of what you got... Thanks, coodi_yowie, Sometimes when you do plan things and then go with a change to it, it can lead to such awesome times too
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RHP User
13 years ago
allow for change and go with with the flow. No expectations and keep it simple is always best!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi i find it best when you just let things happen naturally..you dont want to over cook the cake ..
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RHP User
13 years ago
and generally as close to planning anything as I get is booking my flights and sometimes the motel room....but even then thats flexible. Recently I went to Bris for a dirty weekend away which turned into a dirty week away.... I find that if there is too strict a plan in place as to whats happening then it stifles the fun of the trip as youre too busy ensuring youre getting to the next activity. Im also in the habit of buying people gifts for no apparent reason just because I saw it and thought of them. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
13 years ago
Firstly the girl that was accompanying me on the trip had lied to me about her hiking abilities and bush crafting skills just to get into my pants. The cheek of her!We left the car at the bottom of the mountain and with an expected 3 hour hike to reach the lake and 5 hours of daylight left with fine weather, things were looking good.Things started to go downhill though as soon as we started up it. Firstly her choice of bushwalking footwear left a lot to be desired and she was having trouble walking and managing the backpack at the same time.Every few hundred metres she would fall well behind and constantly complain about everything from her ankles to the flies and the back pain from the pack and to top it off something flew into her eye as well.I lightened her load so many times that I eventually had all of her gear and I even grabbed her handbag off her as well. She protested over me taking her bag but I insisted I keep it as then she would have nothing more to moan about (until later that night in the tent anyway :D. hehehehShe said I looked funny and admittedly I must have looked like gay Himalayan sherpa with my mountainous load and pink Gucci shoulder bag.Anyway now well behind schedule and losing light fast I was getting a little snappy and irritable as she was still insisting on taking breaks every few hundred metres or so. At this point I would have turned around and gone back but that would have been worse as most of the return trip would have been in the dark, and I had to carry everything.Onwards it was and on reaching the lake just on dark it didnt take long to discover that "somebody" had misplaced the torch at one of the "Oh my legs and back are killing me, here you take this stages".By this time we were now bickering like a happily married couple and she was insisting we place the tent on a slight easterly facing rise overlooking the lake so as to have a better view of the water in the morning to which I said we aint building a frikkin holiday house here and its dark and you lost the damn torch and the ground is hard there and I didnt bring a frikkin 5lb hammer to drive in the frikkin tent pegs with and the frikkin sun will frikkin over heat us in the frikkin morning and if the wind picked up that tree could shed a branch and kill us blah frikkin blah blah blah.Well long story short she got her location location location as death by branch would have been quicker and less painful than death by nagging, so, about 35 minutes later the love nest was up and ready and a fire had been lit to prepare dinner by.We had a bit of a laugh over the trip up the mountain, had a wonderfull dinner and a nice white beside the warming glow of the of the campfire, the moon had just risen and things were looking pretty good for a fun night.Not to be so, as on making our way to the tent it was soon discovered that she had not chosen the spot too well at all.Picture this, about 10,000 angry bullants (jumping variety) crawling and leaping over everything in sight! To top it off she was frightened of creepy crawlies and shrilly demanded that I kill them all immediately!To wit I asked her if she remembered where she had put the 20 litres antrid or my flame thrower, her reply to that was a scowling look (I thought it was quite funny myself) Luckily the tent had been fully zippered up and none of the six legged inch long stinging freaks had managed to reach the inner sanctum of our little love cocoon. We made it into the tent un stung thank fuck for that but she got her whinging arse bitten in the wee hours as she poked her twat out of the flaps to take a pee hahaha ahhhahah♋
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RHP User
13 years ago
The best plan is to make no plans. Spontaneity rules! p.s. 0zboy, did she at least put out after all that?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'allow for change and go with with the flow. No expectations and keep it simple is always best! Thanks, inspirit. I totally agree with your input about keeping it simple with no expectations. Sometimes, no plans and going with it can be the best.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Lost_Focus' and generally as close to planning anything as I get is booking my flights and sometimes the motel room....but even then thats flexible. Recently I went to Bris for a dirty weekend away which turned into a dirty week away.... I find that if there is too strict a plan in place as to whats happening then it stifles the fun of the trip as youre too busy ensuring youre getting to the next activity. Im also in the habit of buying people gifts for no apparent reason just because I saw it and thought of them. Kisses FocusHahaha, a dirty weekend...........into a week, Lost_Focus. Will have to try that one.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '0zboy'Firstly the girl that was accompanying me on the trip had lied to me about her hiking abilities and bush crafting skills just to get into my pants. The cheek of her! We left the car at the bottom of the mountain and with an expected 3 hour hike to reach the lake and 5 hours of daylight left with fine weather, things were looking good. Things started to go downhill though as soon as we started up it. Firstly her choice of bushwalking footwear left a lot to be desired and she was having trouble walking and managing the backpack at the same time. Every few hundred metres she would fall well behind and constantly complain about everything from her ankles to the flies and the back pain from the pack and to top it off something flew into her eye as well. I lightened her load so many times that I eventually had all of her gear and I even grabbed her handbag off her as well. She protested over me taking her bag but I insisted I keep it as then she would have nothing more to moan about (until later that night in the tent anyway :D. heheheh She said I looked funny and admittedly I must have looked like gay Himalayan sherpa with my mountainous load and pink Gucci shoulder bag. Anyway now well behind schedule and losing light fast I was getting a little snappy and irritable as she was still insisting on taking breaks every few hundred metres or so. At this point I would have turned around and gone back but that would have been worse as most of the return trip would have been in the dark, and I had to carry everything. Onwards it was and on reaching the lake just on dark it didnt take long to discover that "somebody" had misplaced the torch at one of the "Oh my legs and back are killing me, here you take this stages". By this time we were now bickering like a happily married couple and she was insisting we place the tent on a slight easterly facing rise overlooking the lake so as to have a better view of the water in the morning to which I said we aint building a frikkin holiday house here and its dark and you lost the damn torch and the ground is hard there and I didnt bring a frikkin 5lb hammer to drive in the frikkin tent pegs with and the frikkin sun will frikkin over heat us in the frikkin morning and if the wind picked up that tree could shed a branch and kill us blah frikkin blah blah blah. Well long story short she got her location location location as death by branch would have been quicker and less painful than death by nagging, so, about 35 minutes later the love nest was up and ready and a fire had been lit to prepare dinner by. We had a bit of a laugh over the trip up the mountain, had a wonderfull dinner and a nice white beside the warming glow of the of the campfire, the moon had just risen and things were looking pretty good for a fun night. Not to be so, as on making our way to the tent it was soon discovered that she had not chosen the spot too well at all. Picture this, about 10,000 angry bullants (jumping variety) crawling and leaping over everything in sight! To top it off she was frightened of creepy crawlies and shrilly demanded that I kill them all immediately! To wit I asked her if she remembered where she had put the 20 litres antrid or my flame thrower, her reply to that was a scowling look (I thought it was quite funny myself) Luckily the tent had been fully zippered up and none of the six legged inch long stinging freaks had managed to reach the inner sanctum of our little love cocoon. We made it into the tent un stung thank fuck for that but she got her whinging arse bitten in the wee hours as she poked her twat out of the flaps to take a pee hahaha ahhhahah ♋ I am sorry to hear that one, Ozboy, but it must have been funny at the time. Have you gone hiking with others since?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Was there a second date???
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RHP User
13 years ago
at that point I didnt want her to put out and only wanted to put her out.richo1968 yes I have gone hiking with others since, and that story above is a good one to tell late at night whilst snuggled up warm in bed :D♋
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'richo1968' wiccan, sorry to hear about the incident with your ex-husband. No offence but would it have hurt him to say "Thanks, darling"? By the sound of it, your new partner does love everything you do. It sounds like you two are happy there so just enjoy what you have together and go with your heart whenever you want the things to be perfect. Keep smiling, richo1968 xx My ex husband and I were and still are total opposites. You're right, my other half does seem to love everything I do and I love our times together. xx
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