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Letting go of the married men...
March 08 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well, if you're missing them as friends, that doesn't have to stop, does it? Though it might test your resolve. You'd have to make it pretty clear which chatting and texts are OK and which aren't. If you're missing the sex...attached men aren't the only ones who know how to do it. You might just have to train up a few new partners, which has its compensations.
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RHP User
16 years ago
start seeing the blokes that are available. or is it that the others dont want committment that attracts you. i myself are recently seperated but certainly not looking to replace my wife straight away. it is not (all the good ones are taken) attitude that some girls have that make them choose to go after attached guys is it?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Nick Wilde.. You have said the line of the month !!! "Hell Saturn, I'd bang you like a screen door in a hurricane if you weren't so against us young ones but alas, if you ever feel the need... you know where to find me. " That's not quite my style Nick... I'm more of a gentle breeze on a warm summers day, kind of gal ! Your argument is exactly the one I've been using to sustain my immorality !!! My main reason against married / attached men is simply that I tend to get emotionally involved and then hurt ! I don't want to have an affair with a married / attached man. I ideally want an ongoing, regular relationship with a man who can care as much about me as I can about him ! I realise I am simply torturing myself with married / attached men. xx Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
It sounds to me, from some of your posts, like you have made the choice because you want someone who can be available to you emotionally as well as physically, you want intimacy and all that means. I know myself that is what I want, someone who I can wake up beside, and no it doesn't have to be every night. I want someone who will take me out for dinner, to a movie, someone who I can out dancing with. Attached men cannot give me this. I usually cut all ties for a while until such time as I know I am not going to be tempted. Lovers can be like a drug and sometimes you have to go cold turkey to break the habit. I'd be saying really clearly that I need a break and that means no texts or phone calls. You can always re-evauate in a few weeks. It takes 21 days to establish a new habit. And don't forget your lifelines. Ring your girlfriends when you get tempted, especially one who is good at reminding you what you have decided for yourself. Stay strong Miss Saturn.Wildly supportive
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RHP User
16 years ago
Know where you are coming from Miss_Saturn, good for you...my one and only affair with a married man lasted for 18 months, every Friday night. This man made me feel so special if only for a few hours... But I don't regret ending the affair..I would rather be alone and lonely than be in love and still be lonely..it sucks..and I still see him most days, he still texts and calls and that makes it harder...and the experiences that I have had with online dating makes it even harder to stay away from him..hmm another shot of concrete for me But where there is faith there is hope..have faith that you will continue with your resolve and hope that there is some sexy, gorgeous male out there that will make you not even give your married/attached men another thought..well we all live in hope hun.. Cheers, Cait_Sidhe
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RHP User
16 years ago
Wildtassie has hit the nail on the head..We need someone who is emotionally available to us. On rhp the woman here who are not available emotionally make it very clear , that any interaction is physical only ..The rules are set, which is great.. I dont know if you have been tricked by these guys as to them making promises or suggestions that they may leave their current relationship for you etc ? The beauty of what you are saying is that you have alot to give the right guy..And it will be special very special i suspect..If you werent a warm person Miss Saturn you wouldnt give a shit..Heart and soul is beauty.. xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have found myself in the same situation as Miss Saturn a couple of times. I'm someone who needs to be in a situation where its more than just a side thing because the wife isn't giving him enough.I need someone who is going to be there,friends with benefits would suit me perfectly,and im not talking oh yeah we talked on msn so that makes us friends. cheers sexyme21
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RHP User
16 years ago
I cant believe you are selling yourself short.You have to be prepared to be alone in order to find that someone special. Its the only way. What would you do if you find someone special right now and your out having a great time and one of your married friends called or sent a text and your date wondered why you didn't answer or tried to ignore the text? I know how I would feel if I was that someone special and I think if things were turned around and the call went to your date you would know that feeling too.Listen to your heart I think you know the right thing to do.David
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its a hard road to travel, but the rewards are worth it. To be able to go out in public, not look over your shoulder, or his, .. to have that feeling of freedom to do and say and be where you want to be, it feels pretty dam good! I too decided to cross them off the list... and feel like a better person for doing so. Its an addiction. but with a little bit of will power (or will not power) you will do fine! good luck, - Maple -
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RHP User
16 years ago
aww i would like to respond to 'wildtassiegypsy' post, that makes good sense.. miss saturn i think that shit that happened wit your personal trainer, plus these forums have been gettin pretty nasty lately and u hav copped a bit of that.. it is your fault what u choose to do, its not a bad thing its heaps good cause u just change it, i think u need to go find yourself a new personal trainer a sexy mature single one!! haha now that would b a distraction ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well... I'm managing ok. IN fact I'm thinking of giving up men all together... at least for a little while. This morning was a little tricky as all those married men returned to work after their long sex-less weekend (public hol yesterday)... my MSN was running hot as soon as I logged in. I realise that I am the one they think about after their weekend NOT because I'm special or that they like me but because in the past I have said YES to their requests ! AND... guess what ? NONE of them text me on Friday to say "have a great weekend" or on the weekend to see how I"m going. It's like feeding the seagulls at the beach. If you don't feed them ANYTHING they move on to the next person. If you feed them a TINY MORSEL OF FOOD, even KFC, then they linger indefinitely ! I would much rather be on someone's menu NOT because they are hungry but because they are thinking about what they'd like to eat next. Hugs, Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
i'm sure things will perk up...i know they did for me...after a really horrible text left me feeling low...next day there was not one, but two, really, really nice emails...so hang in there...heck, you've got saints and sinners in just over a week...cheers and big hugs for a lovely woman...jose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
I like the reference to them being like seagulls,I'd imagine its very true..although its not just the sole domain of the married/attached man, a lot of women (and Im not saying ALL women) are exactly the same..just need to find the right person after the same thing in the long term..it'll happen :-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm sitting here innocently !! Yes, hard to believe...I'm not even camming... just thinking about life, the universe etc. I've set my MSN to "Busy" to deter the bastards but then I get this message pop up: "fuck me" Yep... that's it ! From one married men. My reply? "NO" His reply "Ride my hard throbbing cock" I ignored him.... his reply "I'm waiting for you" ... Come on guys ... help me here... I'm trying soooo hard ! Seriously, it's fucking annoying. This guy hounds me day in, day out. I try and be polite. It's not working. You see... it's the seagull thing...I fed him once and now he just hangs around. Where are my single guys to back me up ??? (she looks behind her back and under the desk) Oh, that's right, they're NO WHERE ! Am I some kind of married guy magnet ? xx Miss Saturn
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Mr_MrsJones
16 years ago
Just a suggestion. In the past when a person keeps messaging and they don't take the hint I have just blocked them and taken them off my contact list. That way they can't see my status and I can't recieve their messages. Blocking is not permanent you can always unblock them if you decide you want to talk to them for some reason. It is not rude because they don't know they are blocked they just can't see you online. Otherwise set your status to appear away. You can still see everyone but they think you are not there. Then you can choose who you talk to. Be strong. You will be glad you did in later years.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'll help you keep occupied ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Miss S .. The married and attached men have a way about them that makes them more appealing in soo many ways.Besides about being safe..no chance of emotional entanglement.and women who play with are also more appealing to them for the same reasons...also if the play mate is single she will not so easily knock them back....There is a chance that you could develop feelings and wanting more for one, who would only break your heart...I agree with Tassie..We all want someone who can be available to you emotionally as well as physically, you want intimacy and all that means. someone who I can wake up beside, and no it doesn't have to be every night. I want someone who will take me out for dinner, to a movie, someone who I can out dancing with. Attached men cannot give me this. xoxoxomummacuddles n choc for you
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RHP User
16 years ago
If only one particular married bitch would let go of a friends FWB, then she wouldn't have felt utterly betrayed by this woman and totally let down by him!!!Whilst you are doing the right thing (shit, get married, stick with it), there are married chicks out there that have their FB's so totally under the thumb that others around them are severely hurt.Christ, I wish you could name and shame on here, one bitch would be blown out of the water LITERALLY!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'customer69' Too much takeaway food isn't good for anyone! That's what I told my former hubby, when he strayed from home cooked meals and dined on takeaway girls...I coped with the first one, but not the long term affairIf a relationship isn't working (marriage), it is better to end it, than be continually unfaithful...neither female gets a fair deal, the wife, nor the playmate. The guy however, has a wonderful time...dining on home cooked meals and takeaway food!Trish Well it does get worse....lol. Single guys trying to meet a girls and hey the married guys are getting the Candy! My Gawd man. What hope is there.lol. Im changing my profile to married looking for some fun :) And hey 10 to 1 bet ya I score.lol. Hugs Jules:)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Please delete and block every married man that you have on msn, then do the same on here. If you want more than that, like intimacy and being treated special then that is what you have to do. Also, could be a good idea not to cam either for anyone. Then make a fresh start. If you come across anyone here that you think you might get on with etc, then don't msn or cam but meet for a coffee and go from there. As boring as it sounds, don't jump in the sack with them either for a while cos it could be good to maybe build a friendship first.i dont cam and rarely msn but i dont follow the rest of my advice as i am one of those dreaded married women that Taipan has mentioned who makes it quite clear that she is not available for emotional involvement.Good luckXX
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RHP User
16 years ago
Seagulls come in.... shit on everything... then leave! - Maple -
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