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Lasting connections?
December 09 2024
And when I say connection, I mean more than a one night stand. I am under no illusions what this site primarily is for.
Thoughts?
Comments
RHP User
3 months ago
I should add I've met a great person here, yet no further plans.
NeoAndTrin
3 months ago
I think like anything, it's entirely within the realm of possibility.
You just have to stay true to what you want and look for that in a potential playmate.
friendseeker
3 months ago
Yes definitely. I have many friends I met thru this site. Some are just friends and a few are FWB.
Felicitous
3 months ago
Not at all!
It may take a little longer to find someone where chemistry and desire for continual connection match - but when it does .. ugggggghh it is so worth the wait!
I've been seeing someone for over a year & half.. still blissfully delicious.
Both of us married in ENM relationships.
I tend to prefer one partner at a time and self limit but my lover is free to see others.
Have heard of many couples having much longer situationships.. decades.
My husband also prefers an ongoing connection.. so there ARE men out there looking for this!
I think if you lead with what you desire and what you want to give as parameters.. then pay very close attention to how others describe themselves.
Ie If someone is looking for 'casual fun' I know they're not a match for me because I'm looking for more of a deeper connection.
Then allow each connection to direct itself... ones that you are both being expanded and grow into are generally the ones that seem to last.
I've had a few shorter life ones ... 6 months ish. I guess each connection is very different and so is its shelf life.
Last tip... not having expectations is really important. One night can turn into many or not if not the right fit.
Hope that encourages.
V
MsSuperFoxy
3 months ago
Lol! Welcome to Hotel California.
No you are not deluded.
Many people come to this site for various adult reasons.
If people made their intentions clear from day dot, it would makes things a hell of a lot easier.
Some what huge returns with minamal effort. Others want huge returns with maximum effort.
The trick is in the vetting process and picking up on Red and green flags.
Sometimes one night stands can lead to a never ending one night stand.
Who knows what the next person brings? It's a mind Field where one enters but cant leave.
Ms Foxy x
EarthQueen
3 months ago
I know people that have found serious partners and love on here and other similar apps. I think keep an open, but discerning mind. Can I mention your profile doesn't match your pictures. You mention being an outdoor person liking an active lifestyle but your pics are all sexy lingerie/sexual focus. I think you should have pics to reflect all parts of you if you are looking for something more serious. Just my observation .
RHP User
3 months ago
Yeah it exists. But like any useful lasting connection anywhere in life, it isn’t common.
Abs and I have had fwb setups which have gone 1-2 years in some cases.
Everything, however, is finite so enjoy it for what it is.
Howling_Izzy
3 months ago
It all depends on that connection. I met a woman on RHP and it was meant to be casual ongoing hookups, but we just clicked. It was more than a friendship with a lot of sex. She was in two mind to stay in the country, but there was for her, family.
RHP User
3 months ago
After a few bleh experiences and some nice experiences on here I connected with someone through the site and we've had a great thing going for about 7 months.
So no, you're not deluded to think it might happen, it might just take a bit of time and some connections that aren't like that first.
I do think you ladies need to be very clear on what you want from the site though.
Good luck!
boobsandbusted
3 months ago
We know a few ,who have met and many years later still happily coupled up and in the lifestyle still enjoying it ,no different to other lifestylers
Mr b
Margo_Lover
3 months ago
I think it's rather difficult to find lasting connections anywhere. We have met some lovely people via this site, and a woman I consider my best friend (other than Margo) via another similar app. Along with a few other wonderful connections. Most end up being deep, beautiful connections, rather than sexual connections for me/us.
Although those lovely, deep people/experiences, represent a tiny fraction of the overall contacts we make here/online :(
- Alex.
RachWandered
3 months ago
People have set ideas about what they want and unfortunately don’t want to be upfront about it.
So no, you’re not deluded. You’re just just sophisticated enough to understand that the app you meet on doesn’t have to confine the relationship to a simple ONS.
I’ve got to say as well… playing as a single woman is tough and the app is very ho hum at the moment…
For what it’s worth, I’m waiting on someone who can’t distinguish between too and to, or here and hear, to decide if he’s too busy too fuck me a third time… yay me!!
It is what it is …
Buccaneer999
3 months ago
Not at all... I've made some great friends on this site with people who remain friends out of the bedroom. And though I wasn't necessarily looking for it, I ended up in a long-term relationship for several years with a fantastic lady I met through a similar site.
Ex007
3 months ago
Oh RHP is responsible for many marriages. You just never know what the future holds.
Flirtydancer
3 months ago
My constant bug bear with modern/online dating. Yes I have high expectations, but I know I'm worth it and I have a lot to give for the right person. No matter if it's on rhp or any other platform
SugarAndSpiceWA
3 months ago
It’s definitely possible to find a long-lasting relationship on sites like this, but as @Alexis said, it’s not easy.
One reason is that hookup sites often attract a disproportionate number of people with avoidant attachment styles. This makes sense because individuals with avoidant attachment tend to fear intimacy and connection. They’re often comfortable in the very early stages of relationships, where things are casual and non-committal, but as soon as a deeper connection or real intimacy begins to form, they feel overwhelmed, anxious, or uncomfortable—and they pull away.
Platforms like RHP are particularly appealing to those with avoidant tendencies because they allow users to see multiple people simultaneously. This setup enables them to maintain emotional distance and avoid the vulnerability that comes with forming deeper bonds.
For someone seeking a meaningful, long-term relationship, it’s important to be aware of this dynamic and approach connections here with realistic expectations. Recognizing these patterns can help you navigate the challenges of dating on sites primarily designed for casual encounters.seekandplay
3 months ago
Not deluded at all. I found myself someone on RHP who wanted the exact same thing, not sure how the planets aligned, but the connection is there and was absolutely worth waiting for. It was by chance, after not being on here for months, sick in bed, I decided to have a little look at my messages. 8 months on, we still see each other frequently. You just don’t know when it will happen, so stick at it. But yes there absolutely are others looking for the connection over a transaction x
RHP User
3 months ago
I would love to meet someone that you have a great connection love is an amazing feeling when you have someone that is willing to put in the same amount of energy
Sarmi
3 months ago
I don't think that you are deluded at all.
It's just a matter of perhaps being clear in communicating what you are looking for from the outset.
Set a boundary for your suitors. They tick the box or they don't.
Waurgh
3 months ago
Not deluded... it can happen. When you know, you know...
TSVPlaytime
3 months ago
I wouldn’t say deluded but it’s a low percentage
firstresponder
3 months ago
I understand completely where you are coming from.
I to have been trying to find a lovely woman who is missing the company of a guy who genuinely wants a connection and who has old school values , a rarity these days.
Stick to your values cos they are what makes you, you .
Good luck on your journey and hope you find that someone soon.
Enjoy and be safe 😊
Pangolin28
3 months ago
Can't believe I had not replied to this thread. I have met many here over the years that have made wonderful connections. This place isn't just about hooking up. It is about enjoying company of like minded peoples. For me without making a connection I could not be bothered. I am very open and love open conversation and this place is perfect for that. That said it is not easy to find, especially as the world has become very fast and disposable and that includes most forms of relationships sadly. So no NS you are certainly not deluded just perhaps among the minority here
Orgasmorator
3 months ago
I hope so because what you describe is exactly what I am hoping to find (ongoing and genuine ENM connection).
Mctag9
3 months ago
I'd prefer to meet a long term partner who is already in the scene, I can't ever see myself being physically monogamous again and I'd rather be with someone who is likeminded and enjoys it as much as I do, so much more fun!! Whilst I have introduced partners to the scene, it can be a bumpy road. I'm having fun, but I'd love to meet someone who I emotionally connect with. If anyone is local to me, feel free to flirt or PM(shameless advertising, I know 😀)
ShadyGrey
3 months ago
ill chuck you honest five cents worth.. on this matter of relationships and casual sex site/s from my first hand latest personal experience recently with a mafure woman... well she did nit put this on her profile was seeing many others at same time and so how is guy to think serious that is from my persoective. and now no longer friends with this o
oerson ( not from this website) .as makes out that i led her down the garden path.. this is all like wtheck.. so yes confusing deludung and never ever is it black white set in stone theres even more junk now in space that. oould fall and more buses and cars in traffic and so many more self opinionated. self _improved people. plus so many peope to choose from if yoir in city life ( i was forever in tbe jungke if concrete and sourdom) so i moved on..
quiet of cou tdy life find🌅🍒real value in life and i do see though after only brief stay on this site it is very much all so much better than me..question?? chucking it out there
Sugar Dating prostitution wheres the difference.. who wants start that topic.. boiler room.ready lol
. i dont do either .. but payimg for it well sugar coat it for what it is
. oldest profession in book websites full.of them
.as are most.. so maybe men like me can not and will seemingly make it hard to find a true woman..or Immeadietly value ,worship a,nd want keep a woman eslecially ones who sell themselves or are overly active and in your face without discretion . like think fairs fair and honesty openness and reality.. far too many dreams ..no princes or pumpkin carriages.
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Paradoxical
2 months ago
Best advice I can give is, work a potential person out, don’t judge them by the last person they remind you of.
Everyone is so different and their lives are so complicated that the wrong person for someone else can be perfect for you.
It’d be so much easier if men didn’t try to be players,
Enjoy the surprises.
A nice guy is just around the corner
Irish77
2 months ago
It's luck really I think. The first person I met over here nearly a year ago. I still meet regularly. Anyone else after that has been hit or miss.
AGent67
2 months ago
Would love to find a playmate that wants to do ongoing fun. Very difficult to find on here and also people's situation change and sometimes it doesn't work.
:(
CAMELION123
2 months ago
Don't believe you are deluded at all.... as a female I believe we are generally more in touch with our emotions. Sexually, I don't know about you other ladies but ... our emotions are closely connected to our sexual arrousel? Sex is not just a physical act. I had just finished mastibating unsucessfully with two vibrators. One I was trying to jamb up my arse. I had ear buds playing loud music for sensor distraction and a rabbit on throb.... but it was still missing one factor. I wanted hands and lips on me. I wanted to be pulled around and my hair tugged. I wanted ... unexpected things to happen. So... we can all sit on these sites having brief shallow encounters, when what we are really seeking is deep in our imaginations. We just need dare to express it. Seek it in a partner or stay single
RHP User
2 months ago
We live in a transaction / commodities economy for everything now - anything we do is monetised by someone.
Even paying for stuff is monetised by the banks now.
Dating has become the same. We’re being more conditioned to interact without actually meeting in person and this translates to losing the ability to intelligently connect.
I’d say most people under 30 are affected by this going off my experiences of the last 5 years.
They cannot hold a conversation - specifically recycle information into a follow up question that perpetuates the learning and bonding.
Future relationships for gen z and beyond will be markedly different.
Mmmm2
2 months ago
We met on RHP and have been together for 3 years and it just keeps getting better! I honestly can say I have met my soul mate! Wasn’t looking for it at all but it was hard to ignore. We continue to play together, evolving and learning together. It’s an amazing journey
MrandMrs
2 months ago
Good luck with that !
Curvesnextdoor
2 months ago
Yes you have to wade through the rubbish and the bed notch chasers
RHP User
2 months ago
It’s all just one night stands on here. It’s f u c k e d
Ellie67
2 months ago
Gutted that i haven't been able to make any connections on this site. Tried twice to verify my profile & sent two photos which have been declined. Not able to reply to any messages befor doing so. Now think i'm going to give up & look for another site. Apologies if anyone reading this who has messaged. Recommendations for alternate site welcome.
PassionWhispers
2 months ago
7 years later my young lover and I are going on and off 😆.
Sidebyside
2 months ago
Im the same- totally open and for playing, but also ultimately looking for love or at least giving something a go. I'm presuming this isn't the site, but if if it is- at least I'll know our sex life is going to be as fun as I'd love.
Sect8080
2 months ago
Not delusional… we all want different things. I’ve been on and off this site since 18 years of age. I still keep in contact and friendly with couples and singles who’ve left the scene in a non sexual way. Attending birthdays, their kids events etc and made genuine friendships with many. I have best mate who’s female that o see weekly off of here and if it’s sexually I rather repeated fun times rather than ONS. That being said, there will always be people who only want ONS and either are dishonest about it, or you just genuinely don’t click enough for a second or 3rd time. Then there’s also the busy side of everyone’s life where the stars don’t routinely align for play or meet ups based on whatever the priority may be. I would t worry or loose sleep over any of it… but there are people who genuinely want to repeatedly see others.
cutekezzy
2 months ago
I would love to meet a man close to my age who shares my passion for spicy sexy times and be part of a couple. Not so easy to do these days as most men want a younger woman….
Melly1
2 months ago
I think some here take advantage of people for their own pleasure
I think I agree with you slightly deluded
Restlessgirl46
2 months ago
I’ve definitely found this to be a major challenge here as well with the majority of guys saying exactly what they think you want to hear.. “yes ongoing.. yes connection” even after amazing sex to be ghosted….
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