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Lasting connections?
December 09 2024
And when I say connection, I mean more than a one night stand. I am under no illusions what this site primarily is for.
Thoughts?
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NS247
9 days ago
I should add I've met a great person here, yet no further plans.
NeoAndTrin
9 days ago
I think like anything, it's entirely within the realm of possibility.
You just have to stay true to what you want and look for that in a potential playmate.
friendseeker
9 days ago
Yes definitely. I have many friends I met thru this site. Some are just friends and a few are FWB.
Felicitous
9 days ago
Not at all!
It may take a little longer to find someone where chemistry and desire for continual connection match - but when it does .. ugggggghh it is so worth the wait!
I've been seeing someone for over a year & half.. still blissfully delicious.
Both of us married in ENM relationships.
I tend to prefer one partner at a time and self limit but my lover is free to see others.
Have heard of many couples having much longer situationships.. decades.
My husband also prefers an ongoing connection.. so there ARE men out there looking for this!
I think if you lead with what you desire and what you want to give as parameters.. then pay very close attention to how others describe themselves.
Ie If someone is looking for 'casual fun' I know they're not a match for me because I'm looking for more of a deeper connection.
Then allow each connection to direct itself... ones that you are both being expanded and grow into are generally the ones that seem to last.
I've had a few shorter life ones ... 6 months ish. I guess each connection is very different and so is its shelf life.
Last tip... not having expectations is really important. One night can turn into many or not if not the right fit.
Hope that encourages.
V
MsSuperFoxy
9 days ago
Lol! Welcome to Hotel California.
No you are not deluded.
Many people come to this site for various adult reasons.
If people made their intentions clear from day dot, it would makes things a hell of a lot easier.
Some what huge returns with minamal effort. Others want huge returns with maximum effort.
The trick is in the vetting process and picking up on Red and green flags.
Sometimes one night stands can lead to a never ending one night stand.
Who knows what the next person brings? It's a mind Field where one enters but cant leave.
Ms Foxy x
EarthQueen
9 days ago
I know people that have found serious partners and love on here and other similar apps. I think keep an open, but discerning mind. Can I mention your profile doesn't match your pictures. You mention being an outdoor person liking an active lifestyle but your pics are all sexy lingerie/sexual focus. I think you should have pics to reflect all parts of you if you are looking for something more serious. Just my observation .
Primal_Curiosity
9 days ago
Yeah it exists. But like any useful lasting connection anywhere in life, it isn’t common.
Abs and I have had fwb setups which have gone 1-2 years in some cases.
Everything, however, is finite so enjoy it for what it is.
Howling_Izzy
9 days ago
It all depends on that connection. I met a woman on RHP and it was meant to be casual ongoing hookups, but we just clicked. It was more than a friendship with a lot of sex. She was in two mind to stay in the country, but there was for her, family.
Alexis
9 days ago
After a few bleh experiences and some nice experiences on here I connected with someone through the site and we've had a great thing going for about 7 months.
So no, you're not deluded to think it might happen, it might just take a bit of time and some connections that aren't like that first.
I do think you ladies need to be very clear on what you want from the site though.
Good luck!
boobsandbusted
8 days ago
We know a few ,who have met and many years later still happily coupled up and in the lifestyle still enjoying it ,no different to other lifestylers
Mr b
Margo_Lover
8 days ago
I think it's rather difficult to find lasting connections anywhere. We have met some lovely people via this site, and a woman I consider my best friend (other than Margo) via another similar app. Along with a few other wonderful connections. Most end up being deep, beautiful connections, rather than sexual connections for me/us.
Although those lovely, deep people/experiences, represent a tiny fraction of the overall contacts we make here/online :(
- Alex.
RachWandered
8 days ago
People have set ideas about what they want and unfortunately don’t want to be upfront about it.
So no, you’re not deluded. You’re just just sophisticated enough to understand that the app you meet on doesn’t have to confine the relationship to a simple ONS.
I’ve got to say as well… playing as a single woman is tough and the app is very ho hum at the moment…
For what it’s worth, I’m waiting on someone who can’t distinguish between too and to, or here and hear, to decide if he’s too busy too fuck me a third time… yay me!!
It is what it is …
Buccaneer999
7 days ago
Not at all... I've made some great friends on this site with people who remain friends out of the bedroom. And though I wasn't necessarily looking for it, I ended up in a long-term relationship for several years with a fantastic lady I met through a similar site.
Ex007
7 days ago
Oh RHP is responsible for many marriages. You just never know what the future holds.
Flirtydancer
6 days ago
My constant bug bear with modern/online dating. Yes I have high expectations, but I know I'm worth it and I have a lot to give for the right person. No matter if it's on rhp or any other platform
SugarAndSpiceWA
5 days ago
It’s definitely possible to find a long-lasting relationship on sites like this, but as @Alexis said, it’s not easy.
One reason is that hookup sites often attract a disproportionate number of people with avoidant attachment styles. This makes sense because individuals with avoidant attachment tend to fear intimacy and connection. They’re often comfortable in the very early stages of relationships, where things are casual and non-committal, but as soon as a deeper connection or real intimacy begins to form, they feel overwhelmed, anxious, or uncomfortable—and they pull away.
Platforms like RHP are particularly appealing to those with avoidant tendencies because they allow users to see multiple people simultaneously. This setup enables them to maintain emotional distance and avoid the vulnerability that comes with forming deeper bonds.
For someone seeking a meaningful, long-term relationship, it’s important to be aware of this dynamic and approach connections here with realistic expectations. Recognizing these patterns can help you navigate the challenges of dating on sites primarily designed for casual encounters.
seekandplay
3 days ago
Not deluded at all. I found myself someone on RHP who wanted the exact same thing, not sure how the planets aligned, but the connection is there and was absolutely worth waiting for. It was by chance, after not being on here for months, sick in bed, I decided to have a little look at my messages. 8 months on, we still see each other frequently. You just don’t know when it will happen, so stick at it. But yes there absolutely are others looking for the connection over a transaction x
Itcouldwork
2 days ago
I would love to meet someone that you have a great connection love is an amazing feeling when you have someone that is willing to put in the same amount of energy
Sarmi
18 hours ago
I don't think that you are deluded at all.
It's just a matter of perhaps being clear in communicating what you are looking for from the outset.
Set a boundary for your suitors. They tick the box or they don't.
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