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Knickers in a Knot..
March 28 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
How do we keep the great lover when you know they are having great sex elsewhere too - have great sex with them too Taipan. What am I looking for at the moment? Someone who is fun, imaginative, who doesn't take life too seriously and who will experiment with me. Or maybe show me the ropes. Sometimes you just connect with people - no ryhme or reason to it. xx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
in the past I have overccomplicated lots of things but this is a new year and I want lots of fun. Year of the Rabbit you know. Kisses on your bum Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
I gave up on looking for answers a long time ago. After years of meditating by the seashore, breathing in and out like the waves, face turned towards the sun and eyes closed, I've concluded that breathing is all that really matters and every wave with bring something refreshing.... but every wave also takes something away from us. Now the Federal Government wants to put a tax on the air we breathe out... and I don't know how long I can hold my breathe.... what I do know.. is that eventually I will have to pay tax for the air I breathe out and there seems nothing really I can do about it... so I'm going to sun myself a little longer... taking freely, all the deep breathes while I still can.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
How often do we complicate things..? . ALL the time! I'm a self-confessed complicater! Or rather, my brain is. My body can simplify things much easier. . What do we do with the ONE ?? How do we keep the great lover when you know they are having great sex elsewhere too ? . Depends on your definition of 'the one'. If they're the one, then there is a mutual love that keeps you firmly in a place within them that noone else belongs in and anything or anyone else becomes peripheral or secondary... . When we hit the search button what are we looking for ? . Hmm ... If we are looking for 'the one', then that's a very personal search criteria obviously. If we are looking for the peripheral or secondary, then a different search criteria usually applies I suppose. . More confusion in an already confused state of mind ..Ahh and then we cum and it all settles down again !! . That sounds like a male thing to me LOL. I'm not so sure all women are programmed to resolve confusion via orgasm. Sometimes you hit the search button and you find what you weren't looking for. Then what? Sorry. I hate answering a question with a question! Perhaps it comes down to meditating by the waves and waiting for the planets to align ... I think the answers to your questions (assuming you're asking and not merely wondering out loud) depend on how you view the 'big picture' and your beliefs on fate and destiny and the like. . I'm not even sure I understand the questions properly. But I know I liked Meeks' and Stalky's responses better than my own! More sex, more sun, more fun. MUCH less complicated from where I'm sitting! :-D
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RHP User
15 years ago
How do I format posts in the forums that make sense when using a Blackberry damnit?? Now THAT is a question I would like answered!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I read your response and got all hot..and confused lol... No i didnt !! but you got it right with what i was asking..I am not talking about me here just a general conversation..I wouldnt know who or what the ONE is..But we hear or read about people looking for the ONE alot.. As Stalky said we are taxed on everythng these days Like a GST we had to have or a Banana Republic and more tolls.. How the fcuk do we keep our sex drive up !! Ah thats something that cant be taken or taxed !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hell yesI complicate sexcos I really want loveI complicate lovecos I want someone who is good at sexI complicate lifebecause I want to live a life that has some meaningto me, my family, my communityI complicate dreamsbecause I sometimes want them to be realitysometimes I searchbecause longing takes over my beingsometimes I accept that being alone is a valid lifestylesometimes I know exactly what I am searching forand at other times I am open to all possibilitiesSometimes I have found someone I believed to be "the one" and he was, for that momentHow do we hold onto "the one"No need to hold on. . . .if it is "the one" they will be there because you are their "one"If they are not, you are just another delusional seeker complicating things.WILDly complicated
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RHP User
15 years ago
i think sometimes we do complicate things sometimes we should just be honest with EXACTLY what we want and sometimes we need to LISTEN to exactly what the other person is saying some people just have a way of bringing out a side of us that we like, so with that person we want things to go further sometimes we really need to listen to the words a person is saying to us and actualy hear them, because maybe, just maybe they are telling us the truth of what they want maybe the other person is only having great sex with someone else because the person they really want to have great sex with...isnt listening to what they want but then who knows we are all different and we all want different things...so i have no clue at all lol roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
You see our hunger for sex and in some instances more can be a head fuck..Again this is not about me just a convo from observations i have made through the forums etc.. Is it like going to a restaurant , looking at the menu and liking 3 or 4 dishes , then finding it hard to make a choice !! I know this sounds like a Sex In The City episode !! please read on like Carrie... Do we look at sex, like we do a menu ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
ok sorry iv never watched sex in the city..not my type of show so i have no clue as to what your about there with Carrie ok sex and the menu...that i understand me, no i dont...i see what type of fish or chicken they have and then im happy im a tad bit more fussier with my men i want them not married, not taken, tall, dark hair, normal, see im fussy hahaha so me no not a menu...but i do make it complicated...just like this post way too complicated hahahaha roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Have to have a laugh food and sex ..!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
You made a good point Roxxy when you said we should be honest about what we want. If we were honest from the start there would be no lies to complicate things.When you find the ONE you tell them.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Roxxy I have found that some men will only listen to want they want to hear so everyone else can see much more clearly want is going on than man in question. Well Taipan it definitely sounds like you are in some sort of quandry I mean why are so confused? hehehehe. Sorry I am shit stirring now. Well hope your life is clearer now & of course your comment re keeping up your sex drive above - I hear horny goat weed is good. :P Oohh I'm bad - somebody smack me. xxx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' Do we look at sex, like we do a menu ? Main meals or Tapas??? / Depending on what stage in our journey we are we like to have something we can really sink our teeth into and take our time enjoying...at other times we would rather sample everything until we find the one that we want to enjoy for quite sometime... . because everyone is at different stages at different times what one partner could be viewing as great sex and wanting to only have that with that person the other person maybe at the sampling stage...or just not understanding the rules/boundaries/ideals/etc that the other is expecting... . Roxxy is right - communication...laying things out straight and really listening to each other... is the key to uncomplicate matters...and sometimes just because at one point of the sexual relationship one was sampling doesnt mean that at every point they will be...they too may have found the 'meal' they want to sink their teeth into and enjoy . That and not letting me near a keyboard - damn I have confused myself again . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' i think sometimes we do complicate things sometimes we should just be honest with EXACTLY what we want and sometimes we need to LISTEN to exactly what the other person is saying some people just have a way of bringing out a side of us that we like, so with that person we want things to go further sometimes we really need to listen to the words a person is saying to us and actualy hear them, because maybe, just maybe they are telling us the truth of what they want maybe the other person is only having great sex with someone else because the person they really want to have great sex with...isnt listening to what they want but then who knows we are all different and we all want different things...so i have no clue at all lol roxxy Roxxy you have to admit though lots of people just tell their patners / FWB/ etc exactly what they want to hear because .. well I don't know really becuase you want to please them, because you want to continue seeing them, lots of reasons. And no offense to any men (cause you know I love you all) but they are a little dumb when it comes to women and the way we operate - they can't read between the lines, or sometimes see what is in front of their face. Well, I personally think it is because they don't want to see because it is too hard or too inconvenient, etc. So you are saying that people need to LISTEN to what is being said - but it is not always that simple is it. As for me - I like to think that I will never be on my death bed thinking if only I had asked? xx Meeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
We go through complicated state of minds often.. Picking clothes , to perfumes ..Lovers to food.. Do we complicate this prcoess sometimes yes..Simple answer really nothing deep or hidden meanings for the topic ,just an easy dabate ..When we hit the search button here it is a lucky dip..For sex..otherwise we would be on RSVP .. Now i am confused !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
these days i listen to only what a man says and if he is expecting me to read between the lines...that is his problem im not a mind reader and no one should expect me to be plus no one else is a mind reader so i shouldnt expect them to be either and like Meeks said...i dont want to be on my death bed wondering what if as for sex and the menu...im still taking the fish, with kinky sex on the side please..il take it all to go, wrapped in glad wrap so Taipan...your friend needs to open his ears and listen to what is being said and believe that whoever is saying it is being honest and to stop reading things into it...because sometimes thats what makes it all too complicated roxxy...still not having a clue
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RHP User
15 years ago
And no offense to any men (cause you know I love you all) but they are a little dumb when it comes to women and the way we operate - they can't read between the lines, or sometimes see what is in front of their face. Well, I personally think it is because they don't want to see because it is too hard or too inconvenient, etc. So you are saying that people need to LISTEN to what is being said - but it is not always that simple is it. As for me - I like to think that I will never be on my death bed thinking if only I had asked? xx Meeks I will probably get shot down for this but I have to say it. Men are not dumb when it comes to women, it's the women who can't communicate with the men. Very few women are able to tell their men the total truth and simply say what they think the guys want to hear. Or they avoid talking about issues that they think will antagonise their partners. This is confusing to guys, most of whom just say what they want or tell it like it is. Men are uncomplicated beings. Don't beat around the bush, ask for what you want and you may be surprised.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Taipan, that this is a hypothetical question, a pondering resulting from things you've read in the forums, I would say this: People should really consider the bigger picture and where they fit into it. I agree with much of what has been said before me, especially what Mistress T and Roxxy and Meeks have said. When you (anyone, not you specifically Taipan lol *sigh*) find someone that ticks all of your boxes, both the ones you know you have and those you didnt realise you had until you found 'the One', then I would suggest that you tell them. Better out than in. It is not a weakness, or an invitation for headfucking, as you put it, it's honesty and it's decent to let someone know where they stand, regardless of sensitivity. Feelings and expectations and limitations are always best communicated, so as to avoid misunderstanding or reading between the lines, which is a dangerous sport at th best of times! Quoting 'Taipan12' You see our hunger for sex and in some instances more can be a head fuck..Again this is not about me just a convo from observations i have made through the forums etc.. Is it like going to a restaurant , looking at the menu and liking 3 or 4 dishes , then finding it hard to make a choice !! I know this sounds like a Sex In The City episode !! please read on like Carrie... Do we look at sex, like we do a menu ? And if your problem is indeed, too much choice, and having trouble deciding between 3 or 4 items from the menu, then I strongly suggest you send me your scraps! I'll enjoy them wholeheartedly, I'll tell them the whole time where they stand with me and what I want from them. If they prove to be "the one", I'll tell them that too, lest I get mown down by a bus tomorrow and go to my grave knowing I was less than forthcoming about my feelings for them. I hope this assists with your culinary confusion and I'm sorry you feel the need to keep pointing out to us that this is not about you
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' We go through complicated state of minds often.. Picking clothes , to perfumes ..Lovers to food.. You forgot one that we are all very good at - simple answers to questions in these forums....lol.....and yes I am guilty of that . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MistressT' And no offense to any men (cause you know I love you all) but they are a little dumb when it comes to women and the way we operate - they can't read between the lines, or sometimes see what is in front of their face. Well, I personally think it is because they don't want to see because it is too hard or too inconvenient, etc. So you are saying that people need to LISTEN to what is being said - but it is not always that simple is it. As for me - I like to think that I will never be on my death bed thinking if only I had asked? xx Meeks I will probably get shot down for this but I have to say it. Men are not dumb when it comes to women, it's the women who can't communicate with the men. Very few women are able to tell their men the total truth and simply say what they think the guys want to hear. Or they avoid talking about issues that they think will antagonise their partners. This is confusing to guys, most of whom just say what they want or tell it like it is. Men are uncomplicated beings. Don't beat around the bush, ask for what you want and you may be surprised. Mistress T, I totally agree and should add that my post above is as applicable to women as it is to our uncomplicated men!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had to clarify Flirty as i recieved messages ..which confused me ...so i thought it was important to point out i wrote the topic as just that a talking point.. If i write a book about a murder, doesnt mean i committed the murder !! Robust debate is good ..I agree alot with Mistress T though..Guys get bashed for saying exactly what is on our minds ..yes mainly dirty thoughts lol..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' I had to clarify Flirty as i recieved messages ..which confused me ...so i thought it was important to point out i wrote the topic as just that a talking point.. If i write a book about a murder, doesnt mean i committed the murder !! Robust debate is good ..I agree alot with Mistress T though..Guys get bashed for saying exactly what is on our minds ..yes mainly dirty thoughts lol.. Guys complain about not getting messages and now you are confused by receiving them??? Taipan, not used to the attention huh??? , Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mistress T - I completely agree with what you have said & I kind of said that didn't I ? That women tell men what they want to hear. So it isn't their fault they can not read between the lines. Flirty - are you calling me scraps. Hehehehehe. Roxxy - I am totally with you. I am the first one to say - SO I SUPPOSE A ROOT IS OUT OF THE QUESTION?? As a few arses on here will tell you. :) Actually I think I have an arse fetish now that I think about my time on RHP.... so delicious. xxMeeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
LOL ..see now this is a robust debate !
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' If i write a book about a murder, doesnt mean i committed the murder !! I think Taipan is ready to kill someone. We are just teasing you - you should stop taking the bait.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Nah just a spanking from Mistress T.. !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
It is really simple if you know what it is you are looking for Taipan. Life is a complicated exersize and one thing I keep asking my kids is this "Will you remember this in ten years time?" If the answer is "NO" then it really is not important. Too many people wander through life not knowing what they want, let alone how to go about getting it. I have also found that way too many poeple think that what they have between thier legs is of paramount importance. Cumming does not always make the wrongs right. It does not always settle the angst. Often times, it can just be another complication itself.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12'Nah just a spanking from Mistress T.. !! Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Stalky that tax you refer to is already in place mate, masquerading as Carbon Tax and in the small print you'll see the label 'Carbon(di-oxide) Tax' and just for now, it's a tax on exhaling, Inhaling is still free until a levy on O2 tax passes legislation anytime soon. . I'm stockpiling compressed air to avoid the expense.
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RHP User
15 years ago
If anyone wants a spanking please come over here and bend over with cheeks exposed.Anyone else now got the scene from Monty Python and the Holy Grail in their heads?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Not sure if this really answers the OP question but a very good forum girlfriend of mine, who is one smart lady, sent me this quote which really resonated with me. So I thought I would share it as it speaks to why men & women will sometimes complicate things. This is a quote from Elizabeth Gilbert :.. "I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism." . So true... so now I quote another great forum buddy of mine.......... "NEXT" So Taipan I guess - when the menu just doesn't satisfy all your needs you know - entree, main course, plus dessert than you just put that menu back in the draw and pull out the next one. So easy to order takeaway when all you have to do is pick up the phone or log in to RHP. hehehehe. xxxMeekaPS hope you didn't kill anyone in the night.
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RHP User
15 years ago
has anyone noticed that it is impossible to get good chocolate cake these days. Went to a beautiful restaurant on the weekend and they didn't even have chocolate cake on the menu. Obviously too common Darlink.... I WANT CHOCOLATE CAKE NOW PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!xxxMeeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hasent this got Knickers in a Knott..or is it just my knickers ?? Why are we soooo serious on such a topic ? How about you read Wild Tassie Gypsy's reply..then get spnaked by Mistress T.. Then watch Sex in the City ..as in every episode there is a question thrown up just like this topic.. I think we look at the menu everyday ..dont you ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I use to be confused.... ....now I am not so sure.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I WANT CHOCOLATE CAKE NOW PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!xxxMeekaSo say I was to find some... or even bake some. What sort of doors does that perhaps open? You know... hypothetically and all.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' I use to be confused.... ....now I am not so sure. lmfao.... that's similar to "I don't understand how people can call ME condescending... which means they think I speak down to other people". :pHugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Jean_Girard' So say I was to find some... or even bake some. What sort of doors does that perhaps open? You know... hypothetically and all. Oh no.... it sounds to me like someone better hire a large tarp for this one. (Hold in the remnant christmas decorations this time please, I'm still pulling glitter off my bum)... It's going to get all wet and messy. :pHugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know exactly what I would do to theOne it's really very simple and so uncomplicated.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sounds eveil Dontgothere... ( a ).would you feed him.. (b) tie him up.. (c) ( tie his knickers in a knot )
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' Hasent this got Knickers in a Knott..or is it just my knickers ?? Why are we soooo serious on such a topic ? How about you read Wild Tassie Gypsy's reply..then get spnaked by Mistress T.. Then watch Sex in the City ..as in every episode there is a question thrown up just like this topic.. I think we look at the menu everyday ..dont you ? But this is just healthy debate isn't it? You know like you said above - don't take me too seriously will you. As you forum regulars know I try never to be serious, it's not good for my health, and the one time I do I get my bum smacked. Boo Hoo. Ok, so maybe my quote wasn't relevant - but I really like it. I mean how many people or friends do you know that do this. Taipan for you Darlink I have put my twisted knickers back up. xxx Meeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'd be soooo nice to him easy peasy lemon squeezy
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RHP User
15 years ago
My promise to you Jean_Girard you get me a GOOD slice of chocolate cake - I will do anything you want. Clear enough for you. ( Although I reserve the right to say no if I feel like it. ) Can I bring Stalky along though??? Pretty please. xx Meeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ummm and nice can be soo bad..Lucky Lemon !
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RHP User
15 years ago
I do agree that we complicate things un-necessarily all the time by 'over' thinking and under acting. we're so damn scared of looking stupid or gushy or emotional that we can even let the One slip out of our grasp because of our unwillingness to put ourselves on the line. All we had to do was tell them how we felt, or let them know how they made us feelshouldn't be hard but it is. . I'm not even looking for the One right now, but I guess what I've done is made myself available if he should happen along without too much concious thought. I don't have my 'hate' on for all things relationship, but not planning one at the same time. What i do know is, when it happens it will be very very open, nothing held back on both sides, nurture and encourage each other as an individual as well as part of a couple. Basically I'm giving myself the opportunity of a second chance at happiness and the kind of relationship I should've been able to have in the first place. and in the meantime, i plan on having some very very good sex Just incase I was getting a little too soul bearing LOL
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think youve got the mindset all sussed out for when your One arrives. He'll most likely appear when you're not looking so be ready! LOL . Meeks, I think your quote is very relevant babe, so tell anyone who doesn't think so to piss off back into emotional immaturity!! ... And leave your knickers down, it's nicer!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' Hasent this got Knickers in a Knott..or is it just my knickers ?? I think we look at the menu everyday ..dont you ? But you aren't wearing knickers And you know what is even more fun - picking things from a menu with some friends when you are going to have a PARTAY !!! Now that is fun. I definitely don't look at the menu everyday if I understand your meaning correctly. But it is true I'm looking!! LOL - aren't we all??xxMeeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have read this whole forum hoping for answers and am now more confused than before. Why don't women out there just tell it how it is and more importantly is there any women (apart from the asorted few) that will tell a man exactly how she feels and what she wants?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Very few women will tell it like it is nor will they tell a guy what they really want face to face, it is different on the forums. But.......Alwayshorney you may get lucky if you ask the right questions.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mistress T - don't men do this too? Isn't that more a universal thing that sometimes people just don't want to face reality or like my quote suggestions you just keep on hoping instead of looking at the true picture. I think that's human nature - its just that some of us hold on longer than others. Or do you disagree?? xx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Most women are afraid to tell it like it is because they don't want to offend the guys. They don't ask for what they want because in general women take a more submissive role.Men try to please as best as they can but tend to be more sensitive than women if their efforts aren't up to scratch and they take offence easily as a whole.Not all guys are like this by the way. Some actually ask for directions.......
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