M60
Kiss and tell?
October 21 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
...and before anyone reminds me of how pedantic I can be, I have to admit to late night spelling and grammar errors. My apologies! I had and interesting experience not too long ago that has still left me a bit stunned...and that's not easy to do! | In speaking with a rather attractive and fairly popular female on this site, she went to great lengths to tell me about any number of the folks here that she had been with...male, female, couples, et al. I found this very surprising...and put it in the "too much information" box immediately. I now know things about a few of the folks here that I would rather not...my own decorum covers that off of course and I am not the type to breech what I had thought would have been a friendship. | So here's the question. Am I just different, as I would prefer to maintain a bit of privacy and certainly offer/expect that in return...or is this fairly common? I would hope not, as I would rather form my own opinions...and not be intrested in discussing conversations (or anything else for that matter) that may occur between individuals on this site with anyone. hat are your thoughts?
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RHP User
15 years ago
On the information being given out. I would not like all my personal information being divulged to anybody. I have, on occassion, discussed someone in general terms, if I have actually met that person. I am not talking in a sexual reference here but more as a friend. Let us say that I met JoeBlow for the first time and he asked me, in conversstion, had I met many people off this site? I would say that yes I have met quite a few socially. Any information...or discussion that follows would be kept at a socially acceptable level. Which is the normal thing even when meeting someone in the more conventional way. More a "Oh do you know so and so?" type of getting to know someone conversation and usually over coffee or drinks, not on line or via telephone. Sexuality, whether I had been intimate with them or not, would not get mentioned at all. I believe that the intimacy side of this site is personal and should remain so. I have also been known to ask another woman member about a man if I have my doubts. This is also kept in confidence, and is more for safety that anything else. I do tend to judge as I find though. I am with you on this one Mr Midnight, talk about me by all means, but please keep it in general terms. Only mention things I would tell my mother. My business is just that......MY BUSINESS.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' On the information being given out. I would not like all my personal information being divulged to anybody. I have, on occassion, discussed someone in general terms, if I have actually met that person. I am not talking in a sexual reference here but more as a friend. Let us say that I met JoeBlow for the first time and he asked me, in conversstion, had I met many people off this site? I would say that yes I have met quite a few socially. Any information...or discussion that follows would be kept at a socially acceptable level. Which is the normal thing even when meeting someone in the more conventional way. More a "Oh do you know so and so?" type of getting to know someone conversation and usually over coffee or drinks, not on line or via telephone. Sexuality, whether I had been intimate with them or not, would not get mentioned at all. I believe that the intimacy side of this site is personal and should remain so. I have also been known to ask another woman member about a man if I have my doubts. This is also kept in confidence, and is more for safety that anything else. I do tend to judge as I find though. I am with you on this one Mr Midnight, talk about me by all means, but please keep it in general terms. Only mention things I would tell my mother. My business is just that......MY BUSINESS. Yes, but what you tell your mother, and daughter for that matter, might be a bit more than most.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ba ha ha ha. Those on this site who have actually met me know full well that what I tell my mother, or more importantly my daughter, is most definatley more than most and also the reason why. Well picked up on. However, we may discuss thiings in a more indepth manner than I would with anyone else, the intimate details will always remain just that..........intimate!
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RHP User
15 years ago
It is interesting isn't it? When a person says they are discreet then that's what you would like to believe. However not everyone's idea of being discreet is the same. Many things can be revealed about a persons personality in observing their behaviour. That's where I find the forums most useful. There is only so much you can discover about a person via email. How they behave in public will always tell you so much more. There are people on here that from their picture and profile information (or lack there of) I wouldn't consider having coffee with but after reading their posts I am sure I could have a meaningful conversation with them over a red wine. If a person is willing to engage you with their gossip then you can be sure they will engage someone else when it comes to what you have shared with them. I also recall a phrase that said " the things we dislike the most in other people are the things we dislike most about ourselves." I am careful with what and who I share with. If I don't know someone well then I keep the conversation fairly generic. It's unpleasent enough when people attack each other openly in the forums but can be entertaining if they can take as good they give. People, complex creatures. A+
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RHP User
15 years ago
Is being with someone who is "popular" on this site!! I go into chat at times and would never have sex with any of the Reg guys in there!! As was written in another post on here, a guy met a woman for a coffee (I think he said) and nothing happened. But from what I understood because he didn't want to take it further, she then had him treated like a leper in the chatroom even getting him banned!! Neither would I have sex with a reg on the Forums. I don't want to go where every other girl has been!! Discretion is a very high priority for me!! Never kiss and tell!! I would be careful who she is talking to about you! Make your own judgements and don't listen to anyone else. There are a multitude of reasons for them to lie to you! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am with you midnight i don't want to know who has been with whom and what went on, i think there can be a little too much said at times and as pointed out previously one person's opinion of someone could differ from the next.It seems there is two types of discretion here, one from the 'outside world' and one within 'the scene', it seems to be taboo to tell 'regular folk' what you get up to but OK to share with 'swinging folk' (pardon the pun) what you get up to, i just don't get it, and i do find it a bit of a turn off if people start talking in intimate detail about others from here because i am acutely aware that given a chance they would share the same info about me.Having said that there have been occasions where i have asked other ladies on this site about certain males (as suggested by fionabee) as a safety thing and it is not about performance but about what the person was like to meet with and it is kept in complete confidence i have also (when asked) given the same info to other ladies here.I would NEVER share a bad experience with others if i didn't get on with someone, i may indicate that we didn't 'click' but would let others find out for themselves, i think bad mouthing others is in bad taste and only comes back to bite you. In the same way bragging about who and what you have done is a little trashy too what goes on in private should stay private and i think that if you spend too much time worrying about what others are doing you potentially miss out on the fun yourself we much prefer to live and let live and just do our own thing.I guess though that can sound a little hypocritical when we have validations and we have given them, isn't that kind of the same thing?? Anyway to each their own, we are all here for fun and if part of the fun is in the sharing then that is fine for you it's just not probably our thing.just my thoughts,Mrs GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
Those who boast the most often have done the least !!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Id kiss and tell but id never give out the person's username unless he was a real arsewipe and i recommended to steer clear of them due to safety issues etc. Also i would definitely make it clear to that person that your not interested in their rantings of other pple on this site (politely of course) Cheers The Squirt x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personally I'd prefer to generally keep things off the radar.I usually find there is little to gain by broadcasting what people have been up to.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Is being with someone who is "popular" on this site!! I go into chat at times and would never have sex with any of the Reg guys in there!! As was written in another post on here, a guy met a woman for a coffee (I think he said) and nothing happened. But from what I understood because he didn't want to take it further, she then had him treated like a leper in the chatroom even getting him banned!! Neither would I have sex with a reg on the Forums. I don't want to go where every other girl has been!! Discretion is a very high priority for me!! Never kiss and tell!! I would be careful who she is talking to about you! Make your own judgements and don't listen to anyone else. There are a multitude of reasons for them to lie to you! xFunlovingxNot every regular in the forums boasts about thier conquests nor are they promiscuous.
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RHP User
15 years ago
As a professional bondage Mistress I have to be the ultimate in discretion when it comes to my clients. Even without mentioning names, some of their unusual fetishes make them instantly recognisable. On a personal note I think that if you tell me in general conversation that you have slept with a particular person then I don't think it is my business to pass that information on to anyone else.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Interesting comments and thanks...good to see that in the main, there would be others that share in my opinion and preferences for good taste, decorum and discretion. I do not see these values changing from one "world" to the next...simply because I am exercising my preferences for interaction with others, be it business, personal or pleasureable. The players and game may change...but the basic rules (for me at least) should remain the same. | I can only imagine how some of my clients in business would react were I begin to detail any and everything from their financial dealings down to their personal lives with others...and this would be no different, | And as to passing along references....no thanks. We are all indeed quite unique and what one person may find as ordinary....the next may find as the extraodinary. | I like the thought that we are all not...the same.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am more than willing to speak about things I have done...but never reveal with whom I have done those things...unless they too are there to say it was them.When the experience is negative...I also don't name names.... unless provoked.JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' The opinion/recommendation is always given it's correct weight and value. Sweetie xx | Not unlike Olympic diving? There is a performance value for the dive itself...then you factor in the degree of difficulty and extra points for execution? | ...which way to the pool?
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RHP User
15 years ago
However there is a difference between 'trusted friends' comparing notes and what Mr Midnight originally described, i agree with the comparing of notes amongst close friends (us girls are known for it in fact, sorry fellas) and i don't even mind sharing experiences but always without naming of names when discussing in that context. I think bottom line is that privacy for all should be respected Mrs GC
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