Kinky? or Quirky?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We expected swinging to primary be about married couples swapping partners for sex same or seperate rooms. But in reality it is not, for the majority its about same sex / bi play is compulsary. We are not complaining.   But we think mainstream would have no clue to the high incidence of same sex play within the unbrella of swinging and suspect vanilla types would consider swinging ....a bit naughty....and bi sexual play ...well kinky, a bit gay etc. Dominant...well we do tend to associate in a lesbian couple one will be kind of dressed butch ? therefore she would be the dominant one....wearing a strap on.   This dominant stuff we cannot relate to, As we treat each other as equals, neither of us are wired to accept that even if only play / fantancy.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Yes, nothing is kinky anymore. It's all normal but sometimes we just have to put a label on things. Maybe it is due to bondage porn being mostly girl on girl but the number of people who assume that I am either lesbian or bisexual is both surprising and depressing. Yes folks, I can, and have, dominated women in the past but it was never a sexually stimulating exercise for me.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I agree that mainstream, sex once a week, vanilla's have no idea as to what swinging is all about and even less about BDSM. I have also discovered that there are many people on here who have no idea either as you also have found.One misconception that I would like to clear with you is the essence of domination. It has nothing to do with inequality, disrespect or diminishing another human being. In it's true form it has nothing to do with pain or degradation but is the ultimate act of trust and when practised by two people who love one another it can become an act of great care and an act of love. And there is no need to hurt or restrain a person to dominate them. It is a mental exercise rather than a physical one. I know this is a hard concept to understand but I can assure you it is not as it seems on the surface.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'I love swinging both as a single girl and now in a couple. I'm far from dominant in the bedroom, in fact I love to be dominated by girls but I don't think bisexuality and dominance or swinging are even vaguely related. They are just a few of the myriad of facets that make us who we are as people and as sexual creatures. The swingers parties I go to (hosted by the same organisation each time) vary each time depending on who turns up. You can't predict the outcome or the style of play and the same rules of attraction apply as in non swinging settings. Dominant women are utterly irresistible if they're also feminine, sexy and seductive. And kinky? Using fruit n vegetables definitely is. Quirky? Prerequisite on my profile or I get bored Chilli xx Nothing I do is kinky, it's all normal to me...Eating soft fruit from a womans pussy is definitely quirky and so nice. I like mashed banana or paw paw or even whole banana - delightful, especially when i get to clit, labia and vag treatments.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I dont swing. Mine is essentially one on one only after I have gotten to know the other person involved. Some of the things I do are considered 'kinky' by main stream vanilla people. Hey even being on a website like this is kinky for some. I know people who consider looking at porn to be disgusting...women who have never used a vibrator in thier lives....sad but true. There are people who believe the breifest of oral encounters to be the ultimate in foreplay (and I am talking seconds.. brief) As for dominant women being bi sexual......I have been known to be dominant yes. Sometimes it is wonderful to just push your partner backwards and take control. Have him do what you want or do to him as you wish. I really struggle with subserviant roles and yes I am well aware of domination not being about pain, degradation or humiliation. . I have never even kissed another woman in my life and have no desire to do so. It does not interest me in the slightest. Do there blows that theory about dominant women being bi sexual. . I have always considered quirky to be just a little odd. Now that to me is a personality trait rather than a way of discribing someones sexuality.

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  14 years ago

  Quoting 'fionabee' I dont swing. Mine is essentially one on one only after I have gotten to know the other person involved. Some of the things I do are considered 'kinky' by main stream vanilla people. Hey even being on a website like this is kinky for some. I know people who consider looking at porn to be disgusting...women who have never used a vibrator in thier lives....sad but true. There are people who believe the breifest of oral encounters to be the ultimate in foreplay (and I am talking seconds.. brief) As for dominant women being bi sexual......I have been known to be dominant yes. Sometimes it is wonderful to just push your partner backwards and take control. Have him do what you want or do to him as you wish. I really struggle with subserviant roles and yes I am well aware of domination not being about pain, degradation or humiliation. . I have never even kissed another woman in my life and have no desire to do so. It does not interest me in the slightest. Do there blows that theory about dominant women being bi sexual. . I have always considered quirky to be just a little odd. Now that to me is a personality trait rather than a way of discribing someones sexuality.Great points

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  My idea of what's 'normal' and what's 'kinky' is always changing. No matter what I get into, I come to think of it as vanilla. So when I see someone actually describe themselves as kinky, I think... my god, what must THEY get up to?! :P

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ..full fill my partners desires and fantasies..... Does that make me Submissive..be on RHP.... Does that mean i'm a sex addict...play with girls....Does that mean l am dominant and bisexual..soft BDSM....Does it make me kinky or weird..socialise with many people incorperating chatting and fucking.....Does that make me a swinger..being confident and getting what l want....Does that mean l am dominant..submissive guys who want a happy ending....ok l may be dominant and kinky lolAt the end of the day we are all branded in one way or another and its how you percieve the acts.Kinky to me is anything that heightens your sexuality for pure indulgence. May be from having your fingers sucked to dressing ur man in suspenders and fishnets...what ever it is it is mainstream tabooDominant to me is confidence, getting what you want and being in touch with your sexuality and your partners. Oh and yes l have found many "wannatryits" on here. but they are "wishlisters" who havent a "fukenclue" what sex is really about. Just my opinion yanno.......

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  All I know is that erotic is when you use a feather... Kinky is when you use the whole chook! Bahahahaha!   Labels, schmabels... if it feels good and it's not hurting anyone (unless they like it that way!) do it

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We ar all Normal , some ar more Normal than others Thank God .Respectful B&D can be a sensory overload thats similar to an orgasm

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