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Jealous?...Is there a cure?

March 11 2010

Jealous of a FWB...Now I'm not the most eloquent of blokes, so bear with me on this one...I wonder, do you get jealous of your FWB when you know he/she is playing or (might be playing) with someone else?...I was jealous once when a FWB told me about seeing another man...and then I said...WHOA JOSE!!...is my glass half-empty or is it half-full?...HALF-EMPTY means i think about her a lot, send her text messages, feel grumpy when she doesn't answer or send me text messages...ignores me when i can see she is on msn...ignores me when i send her a flirt when she is online and she doesn't reply...feel sick in my stomach when i imagine what she is doing with someone else...get all churned up...wondering "is he better"...HALF-FULL means i think about her a lot, means I am happy when she has time to respond to my message, happy when she replies to my flirt, happy when she sends me a message or rings me...and when I am with her, she treats me so wonderfully, as if i am the only man in her life...why should I be jealous?...I'm not...So, it doesn't matter what happens in my life...I know that my glass will always be half-full...actually, i lie..overflowing is a more apt description...So, is your glass half-full or half-empty ???...do you get jealous and how do you cope...???Hope this all made sense...cheersjose...

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RHP User

16 years ago

I can't imagine getting jeolous of a fwb having fun with someone else... If you will let me put it this way... I reckon I would only be jeolous because I wasn't there to enjoy the same pleasure that my fwb got. Hugs Stalky

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RHP User

16 years ago

Hey Jose. Oh you make sense alright...out of the nonsensical. The FWB/FB sucks and your post just goes to prove how this situation messes with ones head. As hard as we try to resist the biological imperative, we become emotionally attached to the person who gives us pleasure. Gee, how strange is that?? I say....screw the FWB/FB (no more) and return to 50's values where its one person at a time with strings!!!!

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RHP User

16 years ago

What is that quote about possession? some will know what i am saying..We all love our cake when we are eating it..But when we have to share that beautiful chocolate taste and iceing on top ..Umm but i digress .. It is easy to share at the start with FWB then it changes..

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RHP User

16 years ago

I'm with you on the HALF-FULL..view..having a positive attitude can help in having a clearer perspective.which can be needed in times of doubts...i'd like to meet anyone who don't..lol..i'ts only natural..i'ts how i learned to grow.If the shoe was on the other foot...i'd have no worries with a fwb being jealous..if i were to have one...lolbut on the other hand i'd prefer to play with just him or in ffm situation.hehehexoxoxoxmumma

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RHP User

16 years ago

Jose, For me its definately half full where my FWB is concerned. In fact I am on his selection committee. Yes you read that right. When he is seeking online we peruse the profiles together and he gets my opinion on prospective contacts, we share the texts and emails between us and in some cases - especially lately as I am staying with him - I have met some to give my considered opinion on the person. I must admit he does the same with me. I know many are now reading this going Woah! you are living with the guy? We have an understanding for the time I am there and I do have my own room, he never pushes me aside to have someone else there. And me him. Come on people we are FRIENDS first - the benefits is just a side aspect of the friendship. A very tasty side but not what the friendship is built on. kisses

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RHP User

16 years ago

I never get jealous. I'm not that insecure about myself or my relationships with an FWB. I don't own him. What he does with his time is his business. I expect the same courtesy from him. I'm his friend, not his mother, wife or girlfriend.

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RHP User

16 years ago

All boils down to emotional attachment.If the FWB is something to lie on while you are having sex, then i would not get jealous.However, like Staky, if the FWB has a certain emotional element to it, then i would be jealous of not being involved.Funnily enough, the only FWB i have ever had that i was not emotionaly involved with, is the only ex-FWB that i have kept in regular FaceBook touch with.

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RHP User

16 years ago

It sounds like its moved past the FWB stage mate!

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Mr_MrsJones

16 years ago

Jealousy is based on fear. So Jose to use your glass idea. If you glass is half full you don't fear that they will leave you. If you glass is half empty then you are afraid that you will lose them. If you glass is empty perhaps it is because she has drunk too much of your emotions????????

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RHP User

16 years ago

Quoting 'Mynameonurlips' I say....screw the FWB/FB (no more) and return to 50's values where its one person at a time with strings!!!! ...strings can be so much fun when ya pull them :-) Jx

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