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It amazes me how many Men do not now how to wow a Woman
October 16 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
There are many many women who dont try to "wow" their man either and then wonder why it is all over. I dont think it should all be left up to the man at all. In this enlightened day and age sure it is nice to be treated like a princess but that does not mean we should act all precious. Most guys are not desparate either. They can be just as choosey as us women and have a right to be. Respect is a double edged sword. I tend to want more than just hot sex anyway. l We might be sitting on a gold mine lovey but please remember it is NOT lined with gold.
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RHP User
14 years ago
But I'm yet to see any evidence that there is a woman out there worth wowing, and until such time I reserve the right to stick my tongue out, flop my cock out and do whatever the hell I damn well like until such a woman, a woman who is worth wowing just happens to make herself available to me. Don't get me wrong, I like intelligent conversation but I'd sooner a fuck than a deep and meaningful conversation about the differences between sociopaths and psychopaths, or the stylistic similarites between Chuck Palahniuk & Bret Easton Ellis, but consider for a second that your original post is not only one dimensional and one sided but also sexist, misandrist, exclusiont man-bashing. But I agree with you wholeheartedly. I'm sure we're all waiting for that someone special but in the interim I've only got one thing to say to your little rant.... Suck it and smile, or get off your gender-imbalanced high horse and do something about it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Too fkn right Jenstar! What a loser.... pfft!! Fiona far point but I am pretty sure that if you meet with a guy for coffee then he flopped his dick out and said "Come suck it my lovely" you would rip him a new too. Wouldn't you? Well unless he was god's gift well then that would put a different spin on it. xxMeeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well i'm thanking my lucky stars, i honestly can not complain. Guys have gone way beyond considering there's no romance involved. Holy crap, i don't like the sound of your guy. Computer says noooooooo
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't even get the coffee!
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RHP User
14 years ago
there's nothing better than making sure your partner, one-night-stand, NSA FWB femme fatalle craves for you to do what you gotta do...and the 'wowing' ( whatever that means or takes) is all part of the dance-to-love. For me, I begin to erupt when she's turned on and shows it... so, jensta , next time u catch up with a hulk or a half-wit for 'coffee' and decide he's the one u wanna fuck - make sure he buys a full $100 dinner just in case his dick is crying out for a tug-n-suck leaving u high and dry..
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RHP User
14 years ago
You know I didn't expect it at allYou know at the End of the Day My response of No Thanks & leaving Was GreatYou gotta Hope he felt Rejected Or Even Stupid Fiona we all have our own standards& I will not lower mine in any way Yes I think I should be treated like a Princess We all should be!As for respect I'm Very respectful & expect the sameI think your Right Meeka I dont Fiona would like it Or would you Fiona ? with luv jensta
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RHP User
14 years ago
Talking with women (and men) is like playing a guitar - it's usually good advice not to flop your dick out half-way through.Playing piano though, well that's a whole other matter!I've travelled through multitudes of space and time while playing the piano, usually with an erection.Though I remember many years ago giving head to a piano teacher I was dating while she played the piano.Mmmmm.Sorry, what were we talking about?
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RHP User
14 years ago
funny but sad....... dont worry...the losers that play this way come unstuck....and end up lonely twisted and bitter. every womans worth wooing...to somebody. its just a matter of finding that or those somebodys....... dont undersell yourself though, or give it away for free........its worth remembering that if you make a man work for it he will actually appreciate you all the more..........make him woo you.....allow him to woo you..... and celebrate it when he does......
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sigmund Freud said just before he died, "what do women want" Us mere mortal blokes will never work it out.
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RHP User
14 years ago
You can spot a classy guy as easily as you can spot a classy girl. Just takes time to listen to them speak, observe them as a whole. Presentation etc... all before actually meeting via cam and chat. One red flag is all it takes, i don't need to be told twice that i'm going to regret going forward.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I would not allow it. By the same token, a woman gets treated how she allows herself to be treated. You went back to this persons place after coffee at the first meeting. How long had you been chatting to him? You were only after hot sex werent you? Maybe you talked a little about things like talking dirty and this was his way of showing he was listening The inference was there that you were going for sex. In the eyes of many men, that means you were not worthy of the consideration he would give to someone of mariageable material....whether you like it or not that is the way some think. Perhaps you conducted yourself in a manner in which he thought that you were open to such treatment. The way we all speak and act do have a bearing on the consequences. l You reap what you sow after all. l ...and no...we should not all be treated like a princess unless we are prepared to treat the man like a prince. It is certainly fine to have our standards....but to me, and obviously to the man in question, your standards were questionable. Having respect for ourselves and respect for others does not mean we can be precious and stuck up. Put it in context... there was enough there for you to chat for a while, there was enough there for you to meet, there was enough there for you to go back to his place....all hot and panting for sex. When he treats you the way you ask to be treated by sheer implication, you object. l Dont get me wrong, no one should be treated with such a lack of disrespect but I do not consider it to be all his fault. You need to take responsibility for your own actions in this as well. You are not entirely blameless here.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Someone once told me that "Girls need a reason to have sex, while us small-minded fella simply need a place." I think that's a pretty cruel generalisation. I was first encouraged to the join this site through some friends who are also here. They've explained how their dates transpire and to be honest, they seem to be going that extra mile because they've already built a repore before meeting. So their able to enjoy a little momentum leading into the date/meeting. Extended dinners, trips to the beach, even ice-skating... yes, I said ice-skating! Most of them explained that they preferred not to do anything on their first meeting and instead work up towards getting more physical through a couple of dates and meetings. I have to agree that the whole "hi, let's fuck" or "thanks for dinner... do you wanna' get down and dirty" sounds pretty crass by anyone's standards. But I'm sure they're out there and Jensta, I hope you're able to sift through all the wankers, fakes, frauds and complete losers to maybe find a few diamonds who are going to see you for more than just a piece of meet?...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Jensta, I agree with you....wtf are they thinking. It's not what we put out there it's just that some think with their dick continually. My response is, if that is what you a desperate for, go pay for it!!!! Recently I met a fellow on another site, we met for coffee, alot of fun chatting, he even helped me pick out a lawn mower lol...then I get a message later that night, he wants to f**k and kiss me and etc etc...wtf..So my point is no matter what "we are putting out there" "some" men just ruin it... xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with you Jensta, There has to be mutal respect for each other, You can guage what the guy is like by the way he presents himself and his conversation, wether via email / phone or on first date, and if the red red flag cums up then cut all ties with him. The first guy i ever met on this site he was a real gentleman, he treated me like a princes, opened the car door, even pulled the chair out for me in the coffee shop and sat me down first, he had respect and knew how to talk with respect to a lady,i agree with naughtychilli if you keep the bar very high, you will find a real gentleman who knows how to WOW you, Deliteme2
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RHP User
14 years ago
So do any of you "woo" a man ?lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
its not your fault. he is responsible for his actions, regardless of your input. hes the one who crossed a line of decency, and in that, there is simply no defence. its not you who sinned, or who did anything worse than to trust that you were safe with this guy.there is no blame thats not his.hes the pig, and you his victim.at every point you couldve said 'no', it matters little when that was....you always, always have that option....and i imagine, had he behaved differently, it wouldve ended up somewhere else.....but he didnt, and you left. his fault, his loss, end of story.
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contemplating1
14 years ago
I think Indie76 sums up pretty much my thinking! Well said! Enjoying reading all the input / advice from everyone! Have a good 'un.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Im sorry Fiona B but I couldn disagree with you more although I do think you make some valid points. Not everyone gets what they deserve, in fact I have often found people often dont get what they deserve I recently had dinner with a potential "friend"- who I had been chatting & emailing with a for a while. We met at a very nice restaurant at his suggestion. He was the perfect gentleman, nicely dressed, had organised a table by the water, arrived on time etc. I knew half way thru the evening that there was no attraction (on my side) for the evening to end in a tumble but I was having a very nice evening with him..the conversation flowed and although he wasnt my cup of tea - I thought.... who knows..perhaps we can be friends and I was enjoying his company. He was a very interesting individual He paid for dinner which impressed me (I did offer to pay for my half but he declined ) and again at his suggestion we went next door to a bar for a further drink. I paid for our drinks which was fair enough and we continued our chatter however I knew that the nite had to end soon and its always awful when your not interested but the other party is. I was wondering how I was going to "let him down gently"but he did that for himself. As we stood up to leave...he said ...out of the blue.. what he wanted to do to me He said Ïd love to slip my c^(&ck between your tits..rite now...!!!"- Because the bar was so noisy, I said "pardon"and he repeated what he would like to do to me.......I was literally gob smacked because absolutely no flirting or suggestive remarks had been made by either part during the nite......I so didnt see that coming....needless to say the nite ended badly with me leaving..him to his credit sms me an apology...but he still made me feel cheap and horrible.. .Note I was nicely dressed, with a hint of cleavage, but my tits arent outstanding so I dont know where the remark came from !!! Im sorry but just because we have met on a sex site..does not mean that sex was going to take place nor does it give anyone licence to speak nor treat anyone in a disrespectful way....and he made me a feel like a cheap whore, after what was a really nice nite (or so I thought) Im not a prude - however, respect is the key and even if the OP went back to the guys place - yes it would be fair to say that he probably expected sex..you dont speak to anyone like they are a piece of meat or garbage....do unto others !!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Mutual respect at arms length until you are sure you trust the person enough to get intimate. It may take one date or many dates, but make sure first.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It's the tease..then the please. Being on here (RHP) means we are looking not easy. I need to connect...they don't have to be Brad Pitt...Just click...courtesy...eye contact. Assume we are available...not open access. I want to enjoy the scent, the taste, the tease..the energy of sexual tension...then when we click and share fatasies...if one of them is a quick slam up against the wall...hey..I am your girl....untill then...let me play.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Welll....first they know you are looking for sexual encounters when you meet...so one expects to be apparised FOR sex. I am clena, slim, well groomed non smoker....who is friendly with whomever I meet...I think being a lady in public is important...and save my slutting for the bedroom...to get theere..there has to be a connection..a recipricol energy....tension excitement...desire. If it is there..GREEN light on...all systems go...if it's not...(and this is not their fault)..then thank you for your time...and Good bye and best of luck in your search.
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RHP User
14 years ago
We will Ignore the Negative Comments No of course I didn't deserve that Just for the record Fiona .......I did not Allow him to treat me bad I SAID NO THANKS & Left with No hesitation You know I posted this to discuss & make others awarenot to be told I did something to deserve this situation that took place You know Its just like saying she deserved to be ...............No one deserves that thats how I see it Sometimes People need to be a little sensitive to others needs Look at the end of the day there was no harm donewaste of my time & fuel but it just shows We all need to be Aware of what could be Im a Strong personality So for me it made me Angry like how dare HeJust Cause they look good, take you out & even PayYou Never Do Know ........... xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I never said you get what you deserve at all. I said no one deserves to be treated with a lack of respect. What I did say was.... You reap what you sow. You put it out that you are available for a quick fuck, then dont complain when that is what you are offered. I personally feel that there is more to this than the one side we are getting. l What if...... dirty talk was discussed and Jensta said she likes this. What if.....they discussed the fact that she likes a man to take charge What if.....this was his way of doing this as it was something he had never done before. l There is always more than one side to every story. Yes I know there are creeps out there. Yes I know some will be foul and degrading. Yes I have had messages saying "I wanna fuk u NOW" so I dont reply or I do rip them a new one. It does not happen on a meet though, not to me. I think I have more of an idea of character before the meet than that. l They had chatted for a while, they had had coffeee, spoken, got to know each other a little and then all of a sudden? with absolutely no hint of this crass behaviour prior in all of that time spent chatting and conversing? l I think not.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Talk dirty to him at any point EVER Thats not the way I rollI never do, unless I had met a Guy we had hit it off& got intimate different story then Do not presume I Behave the same way you do with Men Maybe you would like his number ?
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RHP User
14 years ago
We are all different however respect is the name of the game. I had one friend who wanted to meet up he had travelled from out of town, he texted me his hotel and room number. I texted him back and said I was uncomfortable meeting him at the hotel and that we would meet on neutral ground. Which we did, he was gentleman , we had a great conversation. There was no spark and so I was honest and said you are a lovely man and I need to go home now. He was very gallant about my feelings and that is the way it shoud bel. Very impromptu get together the other night with someone I had been messaging and emailing with, met for a drink, went on for dinner, enjoying one anothers company. We discussed our living arrangements children living at home, so no go, he suggested a hotel. I said why not, I waited for him to phone me and was pleasantly surprised that he booked into a very nice hotel. The bar was closed so we went walking and had a couple of night caps and then a wild night of passion. When you click you click and when you dont you dont. If a fella dropped his trolleys and said suck this, I would turn 180 degrees around and walk out the door. Maybe we should drop our undies and say suck this and make me cum and see how we go.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ive already said I would not wear that sort of behaviour. But then, neither do I fuck on first dates. I certainly dont go back to a mans place that I have only just met, expecting to be treated like a princess when all I want is sex. Dont try and get all hoity toity and bent out of shape with me because I do not find that you are entirely innocent in all of this. Like I said...two sides to every story. I just happen to think that this is more a mountain out of a mole hill situation. Try taking responsibility for your part in all that happened instead of making the majority of men out to be abusive, rude and crude. l I never do, unless I had met a Guy we had hit it off l But you DID meet a guy...DID hit it off...or what else were you doing at his place? Your profile DOES say meet first play later doesn't it?
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RHP User
14 years ago
thanks everyone for the comments on here, i have thoroughly enjoyed everybodies feed back. i am new to here and this is soooo what i am coming across....its so hard to knock back a hot sexy guy lol........especially when you know it will be a once off! i have met a lovely gentlemen so far so may just have to enjoy it....
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RHP User
14 years ago
thanks everyone for the comments on here, i have thoroughly enjoyed everybodies feed back. i am new to here and this is soooo what i am coming across....its so hard to knock back a hot sexy guy lol........especially when you know it will be a once off! i have met a lovely gentlemen so far so may just have to enjoy it....
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RHP User
14 years ago
He showed no class, no effort to make it hot or sexy
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RHP User
14 years ago
I talk dirty to everyone and no-one has pulled their dick out & asked me to suck it. What am I doing wrong??? LOL.Look we all have a little fun and talk dirty to each other, and the end of the day I think most people realise that it is a little bit of flirting which doesn't mean you have to act like a peeping tom loser pulling your dick out for any female who walks past. Meeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
I hear what your saying ladies, but for men they are always on the razors edge. One slip and they loose their nuts. In other words damned if you do and dammed if you don’t. I find that it depends who is whacking out their cock. Sometimes I like it, it says to me that I am a creature to lust over. Other times when its been inappropriate, ie a guy once came to share house with me and had his cock out within five seconds of answering the add and walking in the door. He was not alone for a while there I must have got every willy wager in the city answer my house to share add. One was so big it took my breath away but I still threw him out of the house. After all a girl can have to much of a good thing. However if I am on a site like this, and if I was after a man for me, it would be the sexual as well as the intellectual stimulus. But then that is me, I do not do the romantic dinner thing, in fact it makes me very nervous its to intimate. I can do a coffee that’s pretty quick and I don’t feel a guy has a right to eat at the Y if all I took was a long flat white, not a long fat white. Horses for courses and men just do not always read the signals. If they have a thoroughbred or a wild pony its the thought of the ride, that gets in the way of their perception of who you are. I guess if you are very clear up front that sex is not a given but you would like to just chat over a coffee or dinner. Spell it out for em ladies. If I get one waved at me now I think its a bonus, they wave less frequently as we get older so my take is enjoy it while you can, its just primal urge. There is no such thing as a cheap whore but there are enthusiastic amateurs they are what the men are looking for most of the time on RHP, if not then the date site is over theeeeeeeeeeeeeeere.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i'm ashamed to be male when i hear of guys who behave like this. its unforgivable.there is absolutely, and utterly no excuses for being so over the top. again, i say its his fault. for being the animal he showed himself to be. being invited back to a guys place is NOT a promise or guarantee of sex, and NO is and will always be NO. Jensta, i at least would like to apologise to you. for this guys behavior, for his words and for his disregard of you as a person. This is NOT how reasonable, responsible and respectful adults treat each other.......its just NOT good enough, under any circumstance. and any other women here who have been poorly treated by chauvenistic pig men, i apologise as well. sorry that you were exposed to this behaviour at all. it shoukld never happen.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Oh, come on Jensta, I gave it a damn good try in a previous topic (where have all the ...). There are us guys who love the flirt and romance just as much. It seems perhaps guys have forgoten the thrill of the chase. Perhaps too many women making too easy for us. I've commented to a few women I've chatted with, but not seek to meet, - make us guys work for it. Make us shower you in compliments, tease us make us want it more. If a guy wants you bad enough he will do the work and dance to the tune you play. Me I love the romance, I love the boogie, I love the ... no that's not it. The hunt the chase, grrrr.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I can start have any tipe of relation with out passion (kissing, talking about everything, cheeky things......ect) personally I think that's fun. Many Kisses
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captainkaos
14 years ago
I would have loved to have seen his face when you walked out the door. He shouldn't have assumed that you wanted sex just because you went back to his place. One starts slowly by kissing and fondling....... Every idiot knows that a woman needs to be turned on first......or so I thought. lol. Apparently there are quite a few morons out there. He could have at least offered you another coffee before he pulled his cock out. lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i read this topic quickly and saw "It amazes me how many Men do not now how to MOW a Woman " hahaha i thought it was about shaving a girls Beav had a good laugh.. then...read more man bashing zzzzzzzzzzzzz
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RHP User
14 years ago
Jensta , I would have made to look like I was about to drop my pants.......while at the same time ask him to suck mine you know....just to see the look on his face
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey , Sunnyaphrodite ... The tease and then the please ....I agree ... Build the expectation .. but then of course one has to then deiver!! There are some guys out there that can woo a woman ...
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RHP User
14 years ago
exceptions to the rule and some men will be able to do exactly that same behaviour and it would be looked upon as a risk taker who is primative and wild. But then again the air would have to be thick with tension and a few other factors like some positive signals that said gift would be gobbled up by willing female... mmm I wonder how many men have posted on here about a female pulling up her dress panties aggressively pulled to the side and asking for a dam good licking??? while the man in the situation saying it was inappropriate and not done with style lol The differences between males and females makes for topics that can make you laugh, frown, shake your head or lick your lips and cross your legs! Edward De bono has a book out on 6 thinking hats on different types of thinking for different occasions I think your friend was wearing a straw one with holes in it that day.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Who is Jismjunkie??? Throw a bomb in the forum then disappear! xx Meeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
Good to see most of you get it theres always one that does not lol Anyway ..........He had to have, felt like an idiot after pulling it out & being told No Straight up no hesitationthen as I was leaving he kissed me on the cheek hoping for a 2nd chance As if thats going to Happen No chance What I do say to any guys I talk to is i am looking for more than just random or once off Sex I also say when I meet with No expectations You know, I have a High Sex Drive so for me rhp is a good meeting point any potential partner needs to be highly sexed Until recently on my profile I had Jensta want a boyfriend with a high sex driveBest I change it back jensta xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Agree with indie76 Been on the site for a few years and when i first joined - straight out of a divorce - i thought that was the qay the site worked - so didnt have any success After realising that women do want to be wowed, wined and dined have had lot more success and am still in contact with most of the women I have met on this site. Doesnt always have to be when you meet but also in the chats and messages prior to meeting. Getting to know the person actually goes a long way.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Even if you did do randoms and fucked guys straight away for 1 nighters...It still doesn't give him the right to "whip it out" and ask/tell you to suck it! The guy has no decorum about him and if you did sleep with him I doubt he would've lasted more than a minute anyway...Sounds like you haven't lost anything at all by walking out! - As for the negative comments hun, don't even bother reading them...I know that you are a sensitive soul and you really should not let "energy suckers" get to you! Do as you have been doing and have fun doing it! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
DUCK!!!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
In my time on RHP, I have received some wonderfully helpful comments from members such as yourself and DGT, some humours and oh so naughty when Meeka gets going as well. Certainly my reading on these forums, and some of your direct comments, you well and truly have a right to express your view that the behaviour was not good enough. I’ve found your comments across many topics honest and very straight forward. A bit of the old male problem a woman openly enjoys sex, seeks to have sex, suddenly assumption that means up for anything and respect goes out the window. Guys, it’s okay that women enjoy sex as much as we do. I would have thought positive even. Just a shame, yet again to read a topic where a guy has found a way to take the fun out someone’s experiences through this site. Seriously, he should have been dropping to his knees first. What ever happened to the concept of ladies first, or was it going to be all over once he was finished. D_G_T, again I’ve loved your humour in these topics. Jismjunkie, find something better to do with your time, rather than invade someone else’s discussion topic for own personal issue. RHP, sex, fun, laughs, good times. Seriously.
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RHP User
14 years ago
You know Today I thought of you!haven't seen you here on the forums for a whileThanks for your kind thoughtsSo good to see you back here just gotta get some of the others back now jensta xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Jensta ..........your views are not unreasonable. As a guy I feel its important to go into meeting with respect and no expectations, whether the arranged meeting be for coffee or a sleep over. And if the chemistry is there and the guy is smart enough to pick up the signals on occasion if just may be fun and appropriate (though some what risky) to flop his cock out and cheekily ask if she sees anything she'd consider fun to suck. In such a circumstance if the guy has misread the the signals it would be perfectly acceptable for the woman to go into fits of laughter and get her magnifying glass out. With respect and noi expectations generally people will have fun and anything raunchy that happens then is a huge bonus. Dont let the bad experiences make you negative and keep smiling.
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RHP User
14 years ago
How dare you speak about my child like that and make a personal attack. Especially when my daughter is not here to defend herself. Whats the matter honey? l DID MY DAUGHTER FUCK YOUR MAN? l May I suggest that if you want to be so personal...stay off the forums.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yet another case of one bloke giving the rest of us a bad rep. Not the sort of thing to do, especially first time out.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I share a bad experience it is very Raw only a few days ago to make people aware of what can happenI know who I am I love who I am I know who loves me Theres always a Nasty Bitch ...... who has met me knows Im Attractive, feminine, confident, happy, & friendly We are very different 100%we all know who I'm refering to ......... I love Men I know there are good Men out there that treat Woman well I have had that This post was refering to my Bad experience on Sunday
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RHP User
14 years ago
Some blokes really don't have a clue.I meet a "man" (from another site) for what was supposed to be just a coffee date to see if we clicked. Firstly he looked more haggard then the pics he sent me. I knew instantly it wasn't going to happen, he sort of crept me out. Then he confessed he was married and his wife had had a baby weeks ago and couldn't satisfy him because she had hemorrhoids. You could just imagine how turned on I was by this point (not) and very offended. Having had children and knowing how crap you can feel afterwards I thought what a prick of a husband he was.We drank our coffee and I paid the bill. I thanked him and politely explained it wasn't going to happen. He got upset and said, "But I took the liberty of booking a room across the road. At least come back and suck my dick".I didn't suck the losers dick but he did write to me a few days later so say he had no hard feelings towards me. Damn straight loser.Now on a positive note I have meet some great sexy fun guys. You know who you are fellas MWAH xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Did you not ask for opinions? Do not refer to me as a nasty bitch because I am not saying "Oh poor You" and please stop ignoring all the others who are disagreeing, albeit a little more politely, and try and make out like only one is "negative" Yes. Lets all ignore all the negative comments made on the forums. After all, no one should be allowed to disagree at all should they? What a boring old place it would be if we all just agreed with each other. Like I said........ I REPEAT...... l NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT BUT YOU NEED TO TAKE RESPONSIBILTY FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS. l Lets once again reiterate... The spark was such that you chatted for a while before meeting It was all fine over coffee. In fact it was sooo good you went back to his place for some "afternoon delight" Am I right so far...or what did you think he was inviting you back for? Tea and scones? Maybe if you can not read a man's personality that well perhaps there is another, tamer site more suited to you. I am sorry but NOT all deserve to be treated like a princess no. Did you treat him like a prince? Clearly not. l If you cannot handle the fact that not everyone here is going to agree with you 100% then perhaps the forums is not the place for one so "sensitive" and next time dont ask for our thoughts. Just ask everyone who does not agree to refrain from commenting. Dictatorship at its finest. l Seems a little strange to me that you immediately walked out BUT the man had time to put his penis away, zip his fly up and race you to the door in order to kiss you on the cheek. ( The image af him doing a penguin walk to the door with his penis flopping out of an unzipped fly is just too funny.) Old confucious saying l Woman with skirt up around waist can walk faster than man with pants around ankles.
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RHP User
14 years ago
how many women think men are supposed to know how to WOW the particular woman that they're with regardless of the fact that we all want something different and, even if we looked at it entirely on a personal level, if you were to write down exactly what it is you want one sentence, keeping it simple and under 10 words and declare that, "This goes for every single man I'll ever meet from now until forever and there's no semantics, no assumptions of him being telepathic and no ifs/ands/buts or exceptions, every man who treats me like this exactly will wow the pants literally right off of me" I would still be calling bullshit.He read the situation wrong, he missed out, his loss. Hardly worth berating an entire gender.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I choose who I have in my life & I choose not to listen to your nastiness When I ask for thoughts here on the forum in future yours are not welcomed or taken on board I also will not give my opinion on your posts in the future As a Muture Woman I think its bestthen there is no time wasting over meaningless ConflictYou live your life the way you want & so will I
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RHP User
14 years ago
I thoroughly applaud your decision to avoid someone whose comments regularly upset you, but bear in mind that when you ask for thoughts, that's exactly what you get. Sometimes opposing thoughts help us to grow and look at things from another perspective. As a mature woman i think you should know by now that when someone disagrees with you it doesn't mean that person hates you or is deliberately being nasty. It just means they disagree.
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RHP User
14 years ago
To me there is nothing better then going on a date whether its to a movie,dinner or just a drink and enjoying great female company.If there is chemistry and flirty but on the 1st night we leave it at that then thats fine with me.Its builds up the level of anticipation as I said a good women is worth waiting for.The mental side of things is far too often over looked These idiots who just want pleasure for themselves don't know what they are missing.
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RHP User
14 years ago
One needs to surround ones self with "yes" men and women. If someone disagrees with you it does not necessarily mean they are being nasty, they just differ in opinion. Feel free not to comment on any topics you like but do not expect the same in return. It is my right as a member of RHP to comment on any topic I chose. I have not been abusive in any way and I am sorry if you feel that I have. I merely disagree with you and it would be a boring old world if we all did think the same. I am simply offering up an alternative veiwpoint.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have had guys say that to me .. following a coffee/ drinks / dinner meet .. and whilst there was no chemistry form my side .. I did not feel that it was offensive or inappropriate .. I felt that it was a show of how interested or how much my physical presence had an effect on the guy i was in company with .. Maybe its down to different peoples perceptions .. but given that you / we were meeting to ascertain . if there was any possibility of a physical encounter .. I did not consider it to be disrespectful or crude for the guy to say how he felt.. apart from the fact that it would advance his prospects any further .. With the OP .. if I had a guy say that to me .. I would have made light hearted joke about it .. and said .. SORRY .. if full from the coffee and not in need of any more fluid or mouth exercise and recommend that he put it away before it caught cold ..Just because we meet thru a sex site .. doesn't mean that we have to be crude or put out .. but we could all make a light hearted laugh about it .. AND my experience .. was not from this site .. it was from a very vanilla site .. the one similar to when you issue a written invitation .. and list a specific date for a reply .. Whilst the mind might be there for some guys (and girls) .. doesn't mean the action has to proceed .. One thing I definitely wouldn't do .. Is go back to HIS place on a first meet .. that to me is absolutely an opportunity for the unwanted to happen ..
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captainkaos
14 years ago
I think that the problem is that he (and other guys) assume that women live to suck cock. What makes a guy think that as soon as a woman walks in through the door, she wants to suck his cock???
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RHP User
14 years ago
"Theres always a Nasty Bitch ...... who has met me knows Im Attractive, feminine, confident, happy, & friendly We are very different 100%"My opinion, based entirely on the posts from both of these parties that I have observed over the last couple of months, is as follows (MY opinion):Attractive: well, one of these people has photos of their tits, arse and pussy. The other has photos of their tits, a beautiful landscape, and an interesting tattoo. Personally, I find pussy shots unnecessary, crude and offensive. I find tattoos interesting, arty and indicative of the person in question. I also define "Attractive" as 70% intelligence, 20% personality and perhaps 10% looks. So by my count, one party *claims* to be winning on that 10% but in reality is getting their arse kicked x9Feminine: embodying that which is female. Nurturing, protective, compassionate, strong, soft, caring... sorry, but I feel that the description is better applied to the other person. I have yet to see any of these qualities in the antagonist.Confident: arrogant vs. assertive. Nuff said.Happy: see the thread "Bloody Awesome!!!!!!!" Again, nuff said.Friendly: are you serious?!?!? Read through this thread.... your words are far from "friendly" and you get nasty and vindictive when someone has the gall to disagree with you! Whereas the other party has made a concerted effort to remain civil, polite and share thoughts without attacking anyone. I've seen one of these people go out of their way to be supportive, helpful and FRIENDLY in these forums (also, as I understand it, does foster care) whilst the other person does very little other than make inane comments and attack people who disagree with them! *indignant snort here*I'm sorry, I do not often get involved in slinging matches, but as only one party here is doing the slinging, I couldn't help but stand up and object.Also, I (and a number of people I have spoken to) find a certain person's posts very hard to read. Why? Grammar, punctuation, spelling.... these are all missing! My writing was more coherent in primary school! At least when I read the other person's posts, I don't get a headache trying to decipher what the hell they are trying to say. Sorry, poppet, but you crossed a line, and I'm afraid you just do not have the goods to back up your statement.
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RHP User
14 years ago
*Sits down with his jumbo popcorn and packet of Maltesers*.So... what did I miss? Would anyone like some popcorn or want to trade me some Jaffas for some Maltesers? .CheersRusty
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RHP User
14 years ago
Lil_Bit_Rusty, save some of that popcorn, I'll bring the Jaffas. Okay we have established that men can be bastards, basic animals etc and don't really know how to WOW women. Ladies, you certainly know how to wow us men. Great forum topic. What was it again.
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RHP User
14 years ago
You can lick my Jaffas if i can suck on your Maltesers
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RHP User
14 years ago
Brissyguy62...just in what world are you living? and what forum topic are you readng? Nowhere did I abuse or call the OP names. No where was I nasty, cruel or malicious, unlike the personal insults leveled at me (and my absent daughter) I suggest you re-read the topic and then get with reality. When a woman goes back to a man's place that she has only just met from a site such as this, she is placing herself at risk. That is a sad fact of life. To then complain that the man acted like a jerk is the least of her worries. It could have been a lot worse. She could be writing this from a hospital bed or her nearest and dearsest could still be searching for her body. If the OP was not up for some play, why was she back at his place? The sad reality is not all men are nice, not all play nice. If a woman is stupid enough to put herself at risk...then she should at least have the gumption to take part of the blame. No it should not have happened and maybe in an ideal world it would not have. If a woman is not 100% right I will not back her against a man....sisterhood be damned. Wrong is wrong. Two sides to every story. If a man is right then I will take his side. The sex of a person is totally immaterial to me. It is what I feel is right. By the way please do not take that as me saying I think the man is right in this case or that a man has the right to be abusive as that is not the case l Thankyou Ladywench for the kind defence.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think anyone who has actually met your child thinks she's a darling. Nothing more to say than that really.
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RHP User
14 years ago
*Passes popcorn to jas10119 so I can grab a jaffa*Now I know I don't need to remind you that good girls don't chew. .Ahem.... back on topic.... just for a moment. .Why goodgrlz are you trying to woo me?I know not all men will appreciate such a direct approach but let's be honest, most will. Whereas the opposite is true of the fairer sex. Some may like the direct "So let's do it" approach as that's all they're after, whilst most would much rather some kind (even the tiniest bit) of a connection.Sideskipping the sideshow, It's up to each individual person to decide on a case by case basis just how much wooing they need before any play is to happen. As most will agree, a no play on first meet rule is a good one to have. Each party is aware of what's going to happen, or rather, what's not going to happen.Of course there are exceptions to the rule, rules were made to be broken yada, yada, yada. If there's an obvious spark and it just can't wait 'til the next meeting then by all means, go for it. It would be nice if all guys (well... any and everybody really) could learn to show a bit of respect and decency.... But then us guys that do wouldn't stand out and look so appealing. .Righ,t now back to the show.Mmmm... Jaffas. .CheersRusty
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RHP User
14 years ago
Oh no Rusty, i always suck Maltesers, they melt in your mouth that way. I'm not sure how to "woo" but i have found that kissing them softly and sexily, grabbing their arse with one hand and their crotch with the other generally gets boys to share their maltesers with me
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RHP User
14 years ago
Now when are they going to put that in one of their ads. .*Gulp* Hmmm... Quite a technique you've got there goodgrlz... Did it suddenly get warm in here? Methinks you know more than you realise. Besides once you've got a guy by the maltesers you can pretty much do what you want with him. .CheersRusty
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RHP User
14 years ago
It does however beg the question about how you qualify or clarify to prospective 'dates' ones expectations and personal boundaries regarding decency. I'm sure there is someone out there for whom that type of approach is perfectly acceptable and perhaps desirable (if there is any you are reading this, we need to have a chat...)But seriously, is it possible that there was something in the conversation and context to that point that suggested such an approach was ok, or perhaps even expected on his side?I'm sure few people approach setting meeting like negotiating a contract or terms of engagement. Isn't it all flirtation and suggestion? In the context of a site like this - which many of my male friends simply describe as being as a "sex site" - perhaps we should be expecting more coffees or dinners with a side of cock?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Agree I have met Focus on numerous times met her at melb drink night we partied had alot of fun I have had Brunch with her & fiona ...... & done coffee & shopped Focus is great ......
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RHP User
14 years ago
You got it ...... you on the same page xxxDon't presume I met the Guy here I didn't ......... Vanilla site I choose not to share my whole life on the forum's but what I will say is I'm an amazing person that has a real life & has a well respected place in life On red hot pie forums you only see a small window of a persons life
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RHP User
14 years ago
You do only see a small window. I would naturally have thought that a woman at your age would have known that to go back to a mans place after only meeting the once was a recipe for disaster. Just because it was a "Vanilla" site does not necessarily mean that all on there are the salt of the earth. For god's sake woman you can meet a rapist at the church social. It would be really great if you could own up and say "Yes I did a stupid thing" Feel gratefull that you can complain about the jerk. l BTW (and another thing I will no doubt get misquoted on) It is all very well to list your good points but have you heard of the saying "Self recommendation is no recommendation at all" Just because a person may see themselves as attractive, friendly, charming, sexy yadda, yadda, yadda, does not mean that all see them in that light. It really has absolutely no bearing on wether the man done you wrong or not. Being attractive and friendly is no gaurantee that others are going to treat you well and it does not mean that you deserve to be treated better than someone who is less attractive or less friendly.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Chivalry is DEAD, and women killed it!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Naw nameisinuse, i think chivarly is dead in SOME men and yes, i actually do believe that the women they have had dealings with killed it. WHen you have bigger balls than the guy you're with and imasculate him on a regular basis (as i have seen publicly done on MANY occassion) you get that result. But i have been blessed to meet many guys who refuse to let it die, who stay true to themselves and don't let society beat the "man" out of them.
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RHP User
14 years ago
nick wilde you drive me crazy!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Some have it naturally some don't, however they all think they do!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Your forum on this is interesting! See how it stirs shame and blame from both sexes, it's not wrong to generalise now a day because generally everyone has got to the stage of live fast, play fast and leave all your morals behind to get where you headed! But some! Are not made that way and still respect the opposite sex, or try wowing their potential partners, but the pace of life and fakes, liars and con artists make it hard to allow this to happen! Or be received in the first place! It is sad that generally we are all guilty of it! it comes down to allowing some faith back in your life and give some people a go because there is still decent people out there, both sexes, it's hard to Leap and begin the trust thing but if we all keep building walls eventually this won't be a forum it'll be fact!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Little boys used to try and get a girls attention by giving them a shove or some other inappropriate thing.Some never learn how.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Should have realised once this topic got over three pages some mud was getting flung around! Fiona and I haven't seen eye to eye on a few topics but it's always a differing of the minds and never a "Im a this that and the other and she's obviously not all that so blah blah blah"..cant even quote it as I find it embarrasingly smug and quite high school!I also agree with Fiona's original post ( dont freak Fiona..Ive quietly nodded to myself on a "few" Dont get too excited ;) of yours in the past, I cant help but open up my mouth in others that I dissagree with.) In her fairly blunt forthright way she said what I would assume would be wise move, that is "I'm not interested in him, I'll take my cue here to exit" at the cafe all safe and sound.I'd never entertain the idea of going to someone's place if there was no spark..as you sawJensta the jekyl and hyde in a mans personality is only a zipper away, how are you to know? You really should count yourself lucky he let you go with the sickening pathetic kiss on cheek at the end..Agrees too, I get sick of the generalisation that men get in places like this. There's the good, bad and the have no fecking idea how to behave out there,the job is not to get caught in a situation that can turn from bad to ugly to worse . Think smart!!JMO
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RHP User
14 years ago
No means No- Respect at all times etc...Personal Safety should always be paramount...Just because you have "chatted" to someone for a long time,doesn't fill you in on there personality as a whole. This guys main problem was he is a jerk no doubt about it..his idea of wooing is somewhere lower then dustmites that Im sure occupy his carpets , dare say there are more out there, just as there are scary women with neurotic tendencies that only show when they haven't told you that there medication doesn't mix with their second glass of wine, or turn into stalker types after the poor guy turns em down..nutters nutters everywhere..its life out in the burbs!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
was the penis dirty or something?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I totally get the idea that women need to have a man that will wow. Its also in my interests to woo aswell. A more accommodating, more aroused, more interested, wetter the womanthebetter the fun forme too. Its not just the delight of slipping in my cock but also the mental, emotional, bonding as well. Knowing and respecting.Taking some timw to know the woman andrespectins isjust as important as the chemistry. Wanting, anticipating soon follows. (Without these there is nothing) Doing Activities and talking and laughing I think enhances the experience. Ameal or e moviesor awalk – all sorts of activities. The opportunity to cuddle, kiss. Fondle and if possible finger when appropriate are hot. Home for coffee. Its seems so important to talk and tactile things. To not jumpon board lol But nice things which can get increasingly more intimate. It does not need to penetration on the couch. Foreplay. As excitement, lust and thrills build up in the bedroom its so nice to tease and take seduction further. Views. Interested in thoughts from women. How ca I be a better lover?
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Circumfrence69
14 years ago
I personally find this kind of thing a blight on other men who just aren't creeps and know how to treat women- like myself. Sex is for mutual enjoyment not for one party otherwise he may as well do it himself on himself! This kind of scumbag is only thinking of himself anyway and not worth the time of day...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sex and all the various names we call in today, regardless of when, where (my fav) or who and how many should always have an outcome to pleasure all involved... Its not a one way street!!! Guess some guys just love to ruin it for most
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RHP User
14 years ago
would put it at about 35% of men know what they are doing (40% is high)Big percentage have no real idea/ just not into it.shame.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Soooo true is that statement honey. We are not hard up or are we sluts soooo please dont treat us as one. We just happen to enjoy sex just as much as you. And I'm over men telling me their going to cum all over me. Please give me a break. Stop watching the porn men and learn how to treat a women right and believe me the rewards will be great.
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