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Is this wrong?...

January 18 2011

My girlfriend had been seeing a hot guy who's quite a player (Topless Waiter) for a regular casual fun for two months. They've been seeing each other for quite a few times within those period as there're lots of physical attraction between them. When he was with her, he's very affectionate and always kisses and cuddle which made her feel good about it. One day, he asked if she wants to try and have a threesome with one of his hot topless waiter friend (his best mate), and she said yes. The three met up and did the business which she wasn't enjoying it and stopped halfway through which the guys were cool about it. After that, she still kept seeing her guy as usual and things go as normal. One night, they had conversation which initiated by him that he's lots of physical attraction to her but he doesn't want or look for anything serious. She's a little upset to hear but played cool by response that she felt the same. After a good thought, she then realised and told him she has to stop seeing him as she's falling for him and didn't want to get too deep. He agreed and accepted. A few days later, the guy's best mate (the one in a threesome act) contacted my friend if she could help fixing his back pain (My friend's a massage therapist and does private work). So they arranged time for a massage but in the end the guy said to her that he's been missing her since that threesome thing and like her a lot as she's amazing woman and that he wanted to make up for last time as she wasnt enjoying it. At first, she didn't want to because she still thinking about her guy but the best mate insisted his friend won't care and will accept it as he was one initiated the conversation that lead them to stop seeing each other. Anyway, she slept with the best mate because she was a little upset with the fact that her guy wont care anyway so why should her....The guy found out and got mad at her that she slept with his best mate (who he suggested she has a threesome with) and doesnt want to talk or have anything to do with her again. My friend is now feeling quite confused and not sure what to do whether say sorry or leave it. The question is; What do you guys think about the whole situation? She really needs some comments, is there anything she could do to make it better as I believed that she still wants to casually see the guy...or is it no point? Sorry for a long story. Cheers, Maya

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Ok this is the way i think it went. Your friend was fucking a guy casually. She then had a threesome with this guy and his mate. She then stopped seeing the first guy becasue she was getting attached to him. The first guys mate then rang her saying hew needed a massage, When he went over, he convinced her to fuck him. The first guy found out and is now angry with her. She is now confused as to what to do. I think thats about it. My view is: She had a casual relatonship with one guy, who was happy to see her go because he didnt want a relationship. She then decides to have sex with his mate. Well the first guy has no right to be angry, and she has no reason to apologize. What relationship they had(and that was only casual) was over, so she did nothing wrong. She should just tell the first guy to mind his own business and get on with her life. Cheers

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Ok here's the real beef of this story. Her ex boyfriend is embarrassed that she went off like a fox in a hen house for his mate without remorse and that's what he cares about to most. It amazes me how the best way to get revenge on an ex is to show them that you couldn't care less... but there you go. He doesn't care for her... he is only thinking of how his best mate will be crowing over that little victory for the next two years!Of course, he might be totally in love with her and has suddenly come to that realisation at the thought of his two best friends getting all sweaty together without him in control.HugsStalky

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    The first guy said he didn't want a relationship and moved on...From the moment he walked out the door...It's none of his business who she has sex with! He has absolutely no right to be angry at all. But also by the sounds of it...your girlfriend needs to grow some balls...She needs to speak her mind from the start and not do things or say things that she thinks will make others happy! Tell her to yell...NEXT! And enjoy it!! xFunlovingx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    as above and above

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I think your friend needs to get it right in her head, she wasn't actually with the first guy anyway, so she fucks the second guy that the first wanted her to fuck anyway..... So what i think is your friend's casual relationship with the first guy is over seeing as he got pissed off about her fucking his friend.....WHILE HE WASN'T THERE, is all it comes down to, he's jealous because your friend obviously has a little bit of a thing for the second guy yeah????? So she should see him if she wants to.....It just might work out between them..... Guys just get way toooo fucking jealous when the woman they like or liked goes for someone else, ANYONE really..... But if it's someone they know..........That's a bit different hunny The only "PROBLEM" if you will out of this is, i hope the first guy isn't the real jealous type, he just might go viral, but if all he's saying to her now is that he doesn't ever want to speak to her or see her then fine, happy trails fucknut.....BUT she CAN NOT say sorry to him for something that HEEEEE started, he asked for the 3way, so he was the one who put the other/new guy infront of her..... So i say if she really thinks there's something good with the other/new guy then she should give it a shot..... PLAYFULGUY.....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    He (Topless Waiter #1) was a player (and not a very nice one by the sounds of it). The End. . No, I don't think she should go back for more. Kleenex the confusion away...delete people who make you feel bad (like Topless Waiter #1) and look for people who make you feel happy. And...."HOT" and happy don't always go together. . Cheers :)

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  • billecart

    billecart

    15 years ago

    omg why why why does sex have to be so hard.. oops i mean friendships so hard dont let feelings get in the way of a good bonk no mater how long it lasts. we should all learn to share our toys

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    The alarm bells should rang loud and clear the moment the guy suggested a 3some with his best friend. ? Im sure if the guy had any real feeling for her other than a casual fling he would not have invited his best friend to fuck with her in the first place. ? If it was me that spoke to my mate about fucking my girlfriend' Im sure I wouldnt be putting too much importance on her as anything else but plaything ? Seems she put far more importance on the relationship than he did.. If she thought letting his mate have sex with her would make him like her more.. Im affraid she got it all wrong.. We all do some silly things we wish we didnt, so its time to get up and get on with the more important things in life.. Soon this will be a memory only...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Too late to lay claim that he is upset with your friends actions to fuck the other guy again. To Bad so Sad ... Jog on Tosser she should be telling him after all he had his chance.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'wowwow09' Too late to lay claim that he is upset with your friends actions to fuck the other guy again. To Bad so Sad ... Jog on Tosser she should be telling him after all he had his chance. That's pretty much what i was saying aswell wowwow, i think this fucker had his chance, he's the one that blew with Maya's friend, and he should NOT get in the way of what could turn out to be something good with (toplees waiter no.2)..... MAYA just tell your friend not to worry about (topless waiter no.1), because it will only make it worse for her and furthermore if it comes down to it, she should think if it does make her feel like shit to scrub the both of them altogether, in my opinion it seemed like a pretty dodgy scenario to begin with..... Hope your friend makes the right decision, but the decision has to be for her sake not anyone elses..... PLAYFULGUY.....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    THEY WERE ON A BREAK!!! You sure this isn't an episode from an american sitcom??? lol

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    The guy has no right to be angry, not because of the fact that they'd stopped their casual 'thing' but because of the threesome... You can't have your cake and eat it too - especially when you've already offered to share the cake with your best friend, then subsequently told the cake that you don't want to be with it anymore anyway because you don't want to have a serious relationship with it. But enough from me, I'm going to see if I can find some cake...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    They weren't even boyfriend and girlfriend. It's all casual, they have no social life outside of bedroom like dinner, drinks or anything. She didn't even know or met any of his friends apart from that guy she had threesome with. So would that make it different in your point of view?...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Hi guys, Thanks so much for all comments. They're all very helpful and I've told my girlfriend what others said. She seems a bit better about it now. Cheers, Maya

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Not attached? Not seeing the person anymore? not in the same area code....you are fair game....man or woman...How quickly are men to get mad when the girl that was being fucked is being fucked by someone else...including a best mate...no law against it... I have heard this debate around the work campfire and i always keep my mouth shut because i know people will not agree with me....here i can say it....fuck and forget if its fleeting...fuck and fall in love if its feeling.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Topless Waiters! Bet you can trust one of them to be faithful? And as to the heading "Is this wrong"? Nothing is wrong lest thinking make it so. I'm sure it will all work out in the end.

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  • captainkaos

    captainkaos

    15 years ago

    NEEEEEEEEXT!!!! Forget both of them. They are BOTH players AND users. Find someone normal and not a "pretty boy" (Am i bitter? No.Not at all. lol.)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    The topless waiter is a jerk. He didnt want her but doesnt want anyone else to have her either. Well, he did want her but not permanently...just for fun. It was over and technically he should have no reason to get angry if she has sex with someone else. l HOWEVER.....this is his mate we are talking about and there are some places you just dont go. Mates is one thing and sex is another. It all depends on the closeness of the friendship as well but now he feels betrayed by his mate and this brings out more anger...especially as he introduced them both. He is probably feeling even more insecure...being the jerk that he is...thinking that she fancied the mate more than him and left him to take it up with the mate. l More so if she had sex with the mate shortly after calling it off with the first guy. The best mate is a sleaze as well, imagine cracking onto your mates ex...a few days after you break up? I think she had sex with the best mate to make the first guy jealous. It backfired and only made him angry. l Many men usually have a do as I say and not as I do attitude towards sex and dont want a girl that plays around. It is ok for him to do it as he is a guy but the girl needs to be a little more decorus in thier eyes. Now he can not trust her...or his best mate. l I would suggest that she leaves them both alone and finds someone more mature in attitude to play with.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I have a question... < How did the second guy get her number/details if it was the first guy that set up the threesome? < I think she was set up! Simple < Tell her to go out and find a real man that doesn't play head games! xFunlovingx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    As everyone has expertly pointed out... the MMF thing is the problem here. Your friend upset the Ying, while trying to satisfy two Yangs. . There is only one way to rectify this sort of imbalance. A MFF. Your friend needs a fun, sexy and very naughty friend and a tall reliable stranger to sort life's balances out. Easy.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Two tall strangers. TWO TALL STRANGERS!!!Jeese Jeano.. some wingman you turn to to be. :pHugsStalky

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'maya34'Hi guys, Thanks so much for all comments. They're all very helpful and I've told my girlfriend what others said. She seems a bit better about it now. Cheers, Maya Your friend had no need to feel like shit in the first place, she just thought of it as a fun filled evening, which unfortunately for her turned to shit later down the road and made her feel like she did something wrong.....I just hope she never said sorry to this (topless waiter no.1), because he was the one that started it with asking her to do the 3way, so it's his fault that she even met (topless waiter no.2)..... Sweetie, your friend really didn't do anything wrong is what i was getting at, but if this sort of thing EVER happens again for whatever reason, a 3way i mean, lets just hope that the 2 blokes are NOT best mates..... But on a serious note it is life lesson learned i think and she should say no the next time if there is a next time.....It can only cause trouble for her.....My opinion she needs to find a really nice guy inwhich whom she can have some kind of relationship with, or atleast "friendly" relations.....I hope she is ok and i hope she finds what she is looking for in life, because it's a Super Crazy Long Ass road to be there by herself..... PLAYFULGUY.....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'Maxking2010' Ok this is the way i think it went. Your friend was fucking a guy casually. She then had a threesome with this guy and his mate. She then stopped seeing the first guy becasue she was getting attached to him. The first guys mate then rang her saying hew needed a massage, When he went over, he convinced her to fuck him. The first guy found out and is now angry with her. She is now confused as to what to do. I think thats about it. My view is: She had a casual relatonship with one guy, who was happy to see her go because he didnt want a relationship. She then decides to have sex with his mate. Well the first guy has no right to be angry, and she has no reason to apologize. What relationship they had(and that was only casual) was over, so she did nothing wrong. She should just tell the first guy to mind his own business and get on with her life. Cheers

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    im a very loyal person and there are some places i would never go and that would definately be to the friend...friends and family are definately no go zones where i am concerned but personally i think she has been played by them both i hope she has told them both to rack off neither of them are worth her time or energy roxxy

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