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Is sex just sex or is it more????
March 08 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
well Sexy.-male speaking here- fright--I believe both are for me, i can't speak for -night twice or three times rules works 80% of the time tho i believe you can be mature if possible, having a friendship with another couple/ person whom you have sex with AS long as there no emotion connection. but when you need it, i mean want it, i have it and thank you. good bye.but i would like to have the friendship with others whom i share my chambers with, as long as it's not emotion friendship.if that makes sense. but i could be talking out my back side.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Really from the beginning all parties should tell each other what they do and don't want.Because if you don't, you think you can have certain things and then find out later down the road(when you have emotions towards this person)that those feelings aren't reciprocated like you said or they won't do something because its left for relationships b/f,g/f. So with these emotions that aren't felt for us,what are we supposed to do?just say goodbye or is there an easier way?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sex is never JUST sex. if we are truely honest with ourselves, none of us are JUST after a quick release of endorphines and bodily fluid. We are all seeking acceptance, and closeness with someone else. That said, honestly is ALWAYS the best policy, and entering into a sexual relationship with someone needs the ground rules stated up front. Thats why so many people express this in their profiles. cheers and good hunting xoxo
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RHP User
16 years ago
is one of those things where i find you cannot tell till your all in the same room have chatted to people online & met people in the flesh who i've really liked but in person the 'spark' wasn't there which is fine, and i still speak to peple who i haven't played with rules are o.k but everyone is different (thankfully) and the exciment of meeting someone new is always a thrill do find the sex better if i enjoy the persons company, before nudity (but thats just me) the main thing is to HONEST about what you want and need swinging like everything is deeply personal like walking in the rain, strong coffee, smile, wine a womans curves, passion , laughter all these things are to be enjoyed and make life fun if your not having fun?? why bother cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sexyarse great question ! Ummm i agree with sexyme if there ground rules are layed then play on..But and there is a big but..it human to get attached to some point or confuss lust with love..When we are in our heightened sexual moment i am sure we have all said things to the other person that may not have said sitting around having a cuppa !! yes the animal in us all.. So what is the answer here ? I dont know because if the sex is great and the connection is also then we want more..I think it may well end or slow down when one party finds another who can give them more of what they want and i guess feel secure with it .. Got me thinking sexyarse !
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Mr_MrsJones
16 years ago
I feel exactly the same as you SweetPetite. (Lady Speaking) There has to be some intimacy and some connection of the mind. I cannot hop into bed with someone who doesn't do much for my mind or who I don't have a little in common with. We have always looked for people that we would see on an ongoing basis and even those that we would eventually become friends with. The sex gets better with people you know a little and feel comfortable with. Once you get a bit comfy with someone you can explore things that you might not have otherwise. Of course emotional attachment will happen if you see people too much or too often and share too much of your lives. The difficulty is knowing where the line sits and taking care not to step over it. Relationships and emotions never fit neatly into little boxes as much we try to make them. There is always grey areas that start out ok but end up not ok without you realising. Lords way of looking at it is that if it is affecting your primary relationship then it is time to speak up, take a step back and get your primary relationship in order. It takes communication and honesty to do this but it does work. Based on our experiences it is possible to be very good friends with some people and play and stay married. It sometimes gets a bit tricky but it can be very rewarding
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SexyArse
16 years ago
Haha sweetiepie ur a funny girl. Great tits - love ya.Just wanted to get a different slant on things.U really do love these forums don't u - hee hee xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I've become attached once.... and we are still attached. He was the third guy I met and there was and still is much more than a sexual connection and that is why we continue to be together. I still meet other guys and find that to be fantastically exciting. I've met 3 guys several times and find that now we now know a bit more about each other we have a nice friendly chat beforehand and then get down to business.... then chat some more afterwards... then off home I go or he goes. I have to say that it's the "had a great time" message afterwards that makes me happy to see these guys over and over. They are repectful and considerate and taking the few seconds to send such an sms and even a "how you going" text a week or two later shows that they are genuinely nice guys. I don't get the "hey wanna fuck" message from them either. These guys I like as very good friends with benefits and I enjoy their company very much.... and they know who they are!! But I know that I won't get attached to them in the way I got attached to my partner. I don't know how I would handle it if someone became attached to me.... I think that's why I always make it known that I do have a partner so the potential for any attachment is diminished because they know ahead of time that I am not 'available'. Sweet and satisfied
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RHP User
16 years ago
being new to this scene, i think that a 2 or 3 meet rule is quite a good idea as it would be more difficult to form a ny kind of bond. But i think it can be possible for people to meet morethan that, only if a person is just able to keep it as just sex. sometimes i think people get confused with emotions and lust especialy after great sex. Emotions are hard to figure out sometimes but i think that if somebody feels strongly for a person after one meet, then it's best to steer clear and move on to the next. I think this is bound to happen from time to time in this scene, so people must just stay clear in their minds about why they are doing this. and remember the key is to HAVE FUN and not get emotionally hurt
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RHP User
16 years ago
Being new to rhp and only haveing met 2 peoplem so far. i can only come to think that a 2 or 3 meet rule is a good idea as people can get attached after a few meeting/dates, but it all depends on hte individual. There is always a risk that there could be a connection with in 1 meet and i think that this could always happen. But some times i think that people can always be confused as to what is an attraction and what is pure lust especially after great sex. I believe that if that happens, and it's bound to the more people you meet. the best thing to do is to distance yourself from them and be truefull with them, after all this is all about having fun and not getting your emotions hurt. have fun and stay safe seems to be the best rule. jeffy
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RHP User
16 years ago
Personally I've yet to get emotionally involved with any of the partners I've had over the years. At least never too deep that I couldn't easily walk away from, move on and forget about them the next day.Not to say I'm cold hearted, far from it, I've cherished the connection and intimacy with the rare few willing to share that with me. That is the kind of sexual encounter I enjoy the most, a friendship with benefits. Affection without possession, free to come and go as I please, see whomever I please, obligated to no one, responsible only for myself. However, when I'm with a partner, my attention and thoughts are with them during the time we are physically together. The rest of the time, out of sight out of mind.It's very hard to find someone like that, they're all too scared that you want them for an exclusive boyfriend/husband. When in my case, they couldn't be further to the truth. The 'conventional' relationship has never been an interest of mine.Fuck buddies are dime a dozen. I have one, and it is purely just sex, we get together when my hormones go out of control and I have no other options at the time. I don't like him, I don't hate him, I'm indifferent to him, don't know much about him, don't really care to know him, but I've been sleeping with him once or twice a year for the past few years. He's a convenience. He's good looking, and he seems to know his way around a womans body, though a selfish lover unless prodded.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Looking for a hangout. Looking for hot sex. Looking for a life partner. Don't have to be the same person, and don't have to be right now. (well ok it'd be nice if the hot sex was right now) Random
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SexyArse
16 years ago
Well Random I will keep my fingers crossed for u on all counts ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I became attached once...That threw me completly!..For a while actually.. Had lust a cpl times..But now I just see it as it is....sometimes wonderful sex..but lucky for me most times have stayed wonderful friends.. Huggies sweetpetite41xxxxxxxxxxxx sexyarse.....lol.Random don't need help..He doing just fine to score..lololol
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