Is sex better if you are in love? Or is it just different?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  10 times better

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  but we still love our sex with other people - yum

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ...having sex becomes making love.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  It will always be 'better' with someone you love for lots of reasons, but perhaps one of those is the 'practice effect' lol. The more sex with the same person you have, the more you learn each other's needs and the 'better' the sex becomes.It's important to remember that even with people you love, the kind of sex you have will change over time and even within the same week. I have a theory that there's 3 main kinds of sex in a long term, loving partnership:1) What I call 'married sex' - you know, its been a helluva day, you're both knackered and you cuddle up and have sex and it makes you feel better, and connected but it's pretty basic - functional you might say.2) What can only be described as 'fucking' - This is all about raw, lustful passion, you must have each other and it's down and dirty. It might be over very quickly or it might be a long ole session that leaves you raw and exhausted. It's the intent that's important here.3) What society calls 'making love' - this is really about tenderness, taking your time, reconnecting more emotionally than physically. You know it when you've done it and it leaves you glowing with the feelings of love with your partner.I'm not suggesting that the three types can't mingle every now and again, but I've observed this general pattern in lots of relationships. It's important because I believe each type has a fundamental place in a healthy relationship.So is sex better when you're in love? Answer: it depends, but on the whole, yes!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I had a girl once who had no limits sexually (at least none that this horny little bastard could find and I did try). We had great, adventurous fun but we were not in love. The connection you have with that one special person enhances the experience and results in greater satisfaction. Luckily for me, I fell in love with the second most adventurous girl I ever met. Yes I have found Jen's limits but it took some effort.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  without love....its just sex. add affection and commitment, and it becomes 'love making'...... the rewards are multplied and become a 24/7 thing, rather than just being an 'immediate' payout.....

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Now ..just got to find that rite one...apparently theres a knack to that....in a world full of seven billion people !!!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'Jay_Me' Last Oct when I was o'seas , I had a brief affair with a girl I befriended . To start off it was just sex, but after 2 weeks it became more passionate and loving.. we grew attached to each other and then sex became love making.. We both knew it would end when I had to leave to come home... But while it lasted it was nice.. The love making was 10 times better than the first time sex... So definately love making for me... First time sex is hot, horny and lustful. Second time sex is gentler, passionate and still lustful.After that....... it becomes love making.Sex is more meaningful when there is a connection.Is it love or just unadulterated lust ???Either way the sex is definitely much much better.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  So, so much better. For me, without love, I usually just feel empty.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  there definately needs to be some connection, doesnt have to be love, a too often used word, sometimes like a throwaway line almost. but definately an emotional connection for sure, the feeling of endless possibilties maybe, not just tonite, but tomorrow...............lets sleep on it, let tomorrows sun bring what it may, if we feel this way again, maybe you ll stay,it is what it is either way,

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  14 years ago

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  14 years ago

  I've only been in love once and the sex was fairly average but I didn't mind because I was in to him in totality, not just in bed. That said, I've moved along a it since then and now can't imagine falling in love with someone who wasn't fantastic in bed.

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