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Is less more?Do we try to cram as much as we can
December 02 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
We are taught to stop on a red light ,go on green light,have breakfast ,lunch and dinner at certain times,get a licence for a car,save to buy a house,pay it off after 40 years of life ,study and educate our self ect.I actually think we should live "with less "in our life and enjoy it.Hunt for our food spend time growing our own food being less dependant on the system as a whole.Lets face it we work to pay for rent or a house and food.maybe at the end of the week we can buy something nice for ourself and in 50 years time we have a house full of junk.Time is one thing we can never get back and i think that time is more valuable than money ,i can always make money but can never get time back.I have been thinking of going bush for a while now ,you never know i might just go soon :)Less is alot more,share time with someone ,take quality over quantity and enjoy yourself day by day.Screw the rat race and everything it stands for
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love it when I try to cram as much cock in my mouth as possible! I do stop to savour the taste of a hot hard throbbing cock! I love to stop and smell a man's scent as I lick his balls! And when I do less, I just lay back as he tit fucks me! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
The lovers and the new experiences - sexual and not non-sexual, particularly travel, for me is smelling the roses and trying to truly appreciate life. There is nothing more simple or more basic than sharing your body with someone else. Xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
In 2000 I had it all and more Living in NYC with a husband that adored me, a penthouse in the upper East Side, a burgeoning medical career and both of us on 6 figured salaries...- we denied ourselves nothing in any shape or form (materialistically and sexually) and yet deep down I was not happy..there was a little voice in the back of my head..my Eat, Pray, Love moment In 2001 - I watched my city come under terrorist attack and destroyed and nothing will erase the memories and sounds of that day, 6 weeks later my husband died..and this was the catalyst for me to walk away from it all..to live a simple life, embrace it fully and I did...rid myself of everything and I mean everything in my life... For years I worked for "Medicines sans Frontieres" ...in countries where I learnt to become grateful for clean fresh water. I simplied my life and in all honesty I was happier...I met the most amazing people and traveled to some of the beautiful and fantastic places in the world...and I saw and experienced many things 12 years on , my journey included finding the love of my life and losing it again, the loss of material items and health ...but it also meant I found my self and I believe I am a better person now than I was back in the year 2000 Now Im in Perth Australia (where ?) - who would have thougth it ?..My life is very simple indeed due to circumstances some of which are beyond my control...but am I happier ? ..no Im not...for many reasons ..and I do still worry about what is going to happen to me in the future (dont we all ?) and loneliness is a bitch ......but am I content.? ..Yes... because I am here in a gorgeous free country where all I have to do to go and get a clean fresh healthy glass of water is turn the tap on.......and I am so grateful for that. The Epicurean life is for me..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Less is more, to a certain extent. I dream of living on a self sustaining property on kangaroo island, having my daughter with me as often as possible and teaching her that the basics in life are all we need, that all the other "stuff" we accumulate in life is a luxury. That time spent with loved ones is more important than anything else.
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RHP User
13 years ago
What an amazing woman you are!! And Perth is lucky to have you! Life events are always a catalyst for change. I guess the bigger the event, the more dramatic reassessment of our lives we make. They don't get much bigger than 9/11. Recently a friend of mine (fellow RHPer) had a malignant tumour removed from his pancreas. As soon as he could he sold his house, packed a bag and is regularly sending me pics of the most exquisite scenery in Laos. I did the Sydney supermum bullshit for 14 years. Fulltime career / 3 kids / very little maternity leave / McMansion in the suburbs blah blah blah (not to mention the hubby who gambled away our entire life's worth unbeknownst to me). I now live in a 120 year old shack on 100 acres in the country.AHHHHH the serenity! I am more at peace with myself, I enjoy every crazy little thing that happens in the country (although the brown snake in my back room I could have foregone) and I've never been so happy with so little - and that's a lot! Great topic Freya and one we all need to consider.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mmm the best of both worlds. A woman that can relax while working ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Good topic Freya.. I try to find balance in what i do and take on these days..I have thought i have had it all in the past also..but i couldnt balance the work and personal life..something always has to give.. Now i dont cram , i do what i know i can do now enjoy, appreciate that and not worry about something i could have done or had.. We cant have it all..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' In 2000 I had it all and more Living in NYC with a husband that adored me, a penthouse in the upper East Side, a burgeoning medical career and both of us on 6 figured salaries...- we denied ourselves nothing in any shape or form (materialistically and sexually) and yet deep down I was not happy..there was a little voice in the back of my head..my Eat, Pray, Love moment In 2001 - I watched my city come under terrorist attack and destroyed and nothing will erase the memories and sounds of that day, 6 weeks later my husband died..and this was the catalyst for me to walk away from it all..to live a simple life, embrace it fully and I did...rid myself of everything and I mean everything in my life... For years I worked for "Medicines sans Frontieres" ...in countries where I learnt to become grateful for clean fresh water. I simplied my life and in all honesty I was happier...I met the most amazing people and traveled to some of the beautiful and fantastic places in the world...and I saw and experienced many things 12 years on , my journey included finding the love of my life and losing it again, the loss of material items and health ...but it also meant I found my self and I believe I am a better person now than I was back in the year 2000 Now Im in Perth Australia (where ?) - who would have thougth it ?..My life is very simple indeed due to circumstances some of which are beyond my control...but am I happier ? ..no Im not...for many reasons ..and I do still worry about what is going to happen to me in the future (dont we all ?) and loneliness is a bitch ......but am I content.? ..Yes... because I am here in a gorgeous free country where all I have to do to go and get a clean fresh healthy glass of water is turn the tap on.......and I am so grateful for that. The Epicurean life is for me..
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RHP User
13 years ago
wasnt it a wonderfull idea to to divide our day into 24 hours and program us all to beleive we need all these nice shiny material goods to make us happy...somehow money became more important than time and people....which is a real shame....i live life for me and my kids ....time cannot be replaced..money can..kizza if u havent seen it you might like a little vid called "the story of your enslavement".....(there is a couple of them when u google,pick the one with the picture of the teacher from pink floyds the wall...
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Shineasbabe27 your story has touched n inspired me! Thankyou for sharing! Sometimes we get so busy making a living, that we forget to make a life. Xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
For funloving............WOW!!!!! "I love it when I try to cram as much cock in my mouth as possible! I do stop to savour the taste of a hot hard throbbing cock! I love to stop and smell a man's scent as I lick his balls! And when I do less, I just lay back as he tit fucks me! xFunlovingx "
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RHP User
13 years ago
2012 has been life changing for me by choice. Downsized my house, new car, new job, new circle of friends, new social life and most of all new attitude. I feel a lot happier and my old friends comment how much more vibrant, alive and "free spirited" I am. I do take time to smell the roses and enjoy the ocean breeze in my face along with many other things that I used to put on the back burner. I'm all for a simplier life. Wish I'd made the changes years ago, but then I wasn't ready to appreciate it then. SFxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
thank's everyone for sharing.....cheeky I love this..''sometimes we are so busy making a living we forget to make a life''
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RHP User
13 years ago
Leave a reasonable looking corpse behind you when you go, maybe you should slow down along the way but I'd rather live than live with regrets about what I might have done. Ever been to a funeral where the old bugger in the box was at that 'Oh he lived a very long life' stage and everybody was whispering about how awful he really looked? Too much life and not enough livin'.Duane Allman - Eat a Peach
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Freya, What a great topic to post on... I can hardly relate to your story and won't try to compare my experiences with yours - other than to say this too is one of my most passionate topics. Thank you for asking the question. Living a simple life is something I have been pursuing for the past 4 years. But just because I enjoy my simplicity, I don't surround myself with simple people, or simple experiences. For years I had built a life based on achievements, house, car, family, job, etc At 30 I was hitting the goals I wanted to achieve by 40 - but then through a combination of injury and relationship struggles, a funny thing happened.. I realised I was becoming a person I didn't want to be. My ex wife wanted me to become that person, and that really didn't sit comfortably with me at all. I knew I would hate my life, my family and me if I continued with all that pressure. Flash forward 4 years into my journey... and I've take a big whack from that arrogance stick I used to carry. Becoming a single dad of two girls had tought me patience, patience beyond my wildest dreams - and a capacity to love and be tender and intimate more than I had ever thought I'd achieve. Shared custody is sometimes tough - but I think my girls give me more than I'd ever be able to give them. Moving to a tiny apartment near the beach has brought me peace and solitude, but also enabled me to combine the water, sand and exercise all together, which has lead me to re-invigorate my sporting passions and dreams. Incorporating new and unconventional people into my life has brought me a new circle of friends who constantly amaze me with their antics, their passions, and their theories on everything from Julia Gillard to quoting each word in Top Gun. Finishing my Masters has give me intellectual stimulation outside of the workplace. My frustration with not being able to play the guitar and sing at the same time has brought me humility and massive respect for talented people - artists, musos, athletes etc So I've downsized, stopped worrying about achievement and money, picked up some new things - and even funnier thing has happened... With all the pressure off - I've become more successful at more things - with less stress, and much more happiness... with much more humbleness and quiet resolve. I love my life, and although it may not look simple from the outside, those inside know how simple it really is. And along the way I've discovered that sometimes people listen more to a whisper than a roar. Thanks again for the opportunity to contribute... blurting inner thoughts to strangers is fun sometimes eh ? A
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RHP User
13 years ago
I not only agree with your op to the affirmative, but live this exact lifestyle currently. Every single possession that I own is either in the truck or in the car. While it does have it's disadvantages, one big advantage is when I see my kids, we stay at a caravan park. It's like a once a month holiday :). That said I still have ambitions to achieve my personal goals, but living is about experiencing in my view. How can a kite truly fly, if its tied to the fence?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Trust me I’m not awesome, nor amazing. ( I can be a real pain ) ...I just played the hand of the cards that I was dealt -you all would have done the smae I just happened to be in the wrong place at the rite time...and lived thru an incredible event which will forever be etched into history while most of you watched it on TV - us Generation X and Yers of NYC underwent total evaluation of who and what wewere post 9/11 - (ask any New Yorker and he will talk of his life dvived into two pre and post 9/11) so many of us who witnessed that day of devastation and the days after really did sit back and take stock of what was really important to us ( and I know for a fact friends over there re doing it again after Hurricane Sandy) - its just a pity it took a couple of hijacked planes and the death of many to alter so many peoples way of thinking !!! My husband was dying so I was somewhat prepared for that inevitable conclusion but the fact that these cataclysmic events happened in my life literally within 6 weeks of each other, well who would have thought it ? ...nothing is certain in life and nothing should ever be taken for granted ever – not your health, your friends nor your family Cheeky Arses, I think you put it beautifully with your quote as Freya said Sometimes we are so busy making a living we forget to make a life....how awesome is that quote ? and to everyone else that shared ...thankyou - so interesting peeping into your lives...!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
so others may simply live! Who remembers that saying? It inspired me to to cut up my credit card. Thank you Freya for the topic and to the people who have posted and shared their personal stories, I give you my appreciation. My watershed moment came at 35 when I contracted Ross River Virus. Within just a few months the very organised over-achiever became a tired, dispirited, no achiever. My professional credibility was threatened so rather than risk all I had worked for, I left my job and moved to the country. My recovery included wandering through the forest and meditating by a waterfall almost daily. My rambling could take hours and in that time I would see so many different birds, hear beautiful birdsong, explore different trees and feel the life giving energy of the forest. I re-connected with nature at a very deep level. During this time, the creative self emerged and I began to write again and draw. After some months I moved south, found a part-time job that I loved and completed a Masters degree that expanded my thinking and brought new people into my life. Then an overseas trip that was a dream come true.Since then life has been somewhat of a roller-coaster and there have been some great highs and terrible lows. I have learned more things about myself including my resilience. I have also learned full time work does not work for me. I have to have "soul" time which means time to dream, time to paint, draw, write, make music and stories. That means I am not caught up too much in the consumerist trap. My collections are things of wood and stone and feathers and shells; natures offerings that bring colour and texture to my living space. I do dream of that self-sufficient farm though I would probably prefer an intentional sustainable eco-village. I know life is full of possibilities and I enjoy time to reflect on those rather than trying to do them all. So yes, for me less is more and I'm not cramming.
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RHP User
13 years ago
i took the option to kick back a bit, and now, for the same money as previously, i spend 5 days out of an 8 day cycle at home...lovn my 4 day weekends. life is simpler and much more fun, and instead of spending days at work, i get to relax, or go for a ride, or just spend the day out with my wife......love it!
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RHP User
13 years ago
sydneyvakka I loved reading your words,sometimes the worst things that happen to us can conversely be the best things.Your simpler life does indeed sound like a richer life. Shinasbabe,I hope your life will now be one of good health and much joy. HT your pared down lifestyle is inspiring.When we don't have so much ''stuff'' we have so much more room for the things that matter. Peachy lots of hugs indeed. x R
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RHP User
13 years ago
for anyone whom is not familiar with this little story.....Mayonnaise Jar & Two Beers... A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.' The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.. 'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else---the small stuff. 'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand. One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented. The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.' The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of Beers with a friend. i had posted this somewhere else ,but i thought i was worth pulling out again
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' I love it when I try to cram as much cock in my mouth as possible! I do stop to savour the taste of a hot hard throbbing cock! I love to stop and smell a man's scent as I lick his balls! And when I do less, I just lay back as he tit fucks me! xFunlovingx aint ya are you the femal version of wowow?
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RHP User
13 years ago
To add to the mix. Why is it that as human BEINGS we spend so much time DOING and very little time BEING? It seesm some people her have also gotten that message Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' I love it when I try to cram as much cock in my mouth as possible! I do stop to savour the taste of a hot hard throbbing cock! I love to stop and smell a man's scent as I lick his balls! And when I do less, I just lay back as he tit fucks me! xFunlovingx aint ya are you the femal version of wowow?
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RHP User
13 years ago
you win I am going to get hubby to put the hammock up again mutter mutter mutter yessssssssssssssssss I will learn to say NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO more often umm you dont mean sex, do ya?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'coasteride'kizza if u havent seen it you might like a little vid called "the story of your enslavement".....(there is a couple of them when u google,pick the one with the picture of the teacher from pink floyds the wall...I have seen it mate,but thanx anyhow. Have you seen "The Secret of Oz" or "9 meals away from anarchy" they are another 2 great videos.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That's very inspiring Coasteride.....love the story. I have a couple of people I will be sharing it with... Thanks and hugs SFxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
OhmmmmmmmOhmmmmmmmOhmmmmmmmThe sound you just heard was the guys lining up pulling their zippers down, life simplified. Make a joyous sound unto the universe and good things come to you, now just pop one in your mouth and keep on ohmmmmmming along.NO is a four letter word, you should have your mouth washed out you know!
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