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Is it right to invite others to join an existing threesome/foursome

July 05 2018

I wonder if this has happened to others and what do you all think should be the best way to handle it... We attended a Swingers Club last weekend and decided to start playing in one of the rooms, we left the chain on and the door open. Soon enough a couple we had seen a few times before (and that we both were attracted to) asked if they could enter the room to watch.My wife promptly invited them to sit on the bed and join is us, the hell with watching!!! :-) We were enjoying my a lot of foreplay and the temperature was rising steadily when we noticed that there was a group of people watching, one of them a woman we had seen earlier (but were not interested in playing with). To our dismay, the couple playing with us invited her to join us in a fivesome. To be fair, we didn't object (in hindsight because it caught us by surprise and we were not quick enough) and she came in. We were not interested in playing with her and her presence brought the temperature right down. We kept on playing but it was not the same, and I am sure it lasted way less than it would have otherwise. Has this happened to anybody else? how would you handle this? Any tips would be appreciated.

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FeistyFatty

7 years ago

Say something at the time. U didn't have to play with the added guest just because the other couple invited her in. Pretty simple. - Posted from rhpmobile

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swingbliss

7 years ago

Well, we didn't play with the other person.But your right, at the end of the day we should have just said something.The issue is more about us not having any chemistry with the extra person, and that affected the whole experience.Also, and I didn't mention this earlier, that lady had already asked if we wanted to play with her and her partner (who was missing at this point in time), and we had politely declined.So that made it a bit awkward for us who are relatively new to playing with others...maybe with time that sort of thing will not bother us. Thanks for the response.Quoting 'FatFunFiesty' Say something at the time. U didn't have to play with the added guest just because the other couple invited her in. Pretty simple. - Posted from rhpmobile

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FeistyFatty

7 years ago

Well the added info would have been helpful initially lol Can understand how this new addition has put a dampner on proceedings. The takeaway from this experience remains the same; use your voice and never lower your standards to take one for the team..... if there's no chemistry there's no point. Better times to come x - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

It’s part of the swinger club experience when it’s open rooms/play areas. I personally wouldn’t have said anything either but I would have left shortly after if I REALLY didn’t want anything to do with the other person. Otherwise continue what you are doing, and if they try and touch you is when you have to say no thanks. You can’t do much about people having sex close by or right next to you sometimes. It is usually an open space.

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RHP User

7 years ago

I suppose the other couple should have check with you first before inviting her as well. That would have been the polite thing to do.

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ElectricDreamers

7 years ago

It sounds like you did what a lot of others would have... If you had joined the couple rather than the other way then maybe it's not so bad that they didn't check in...

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RHP User

7 years ago

As newbies who are still yet to experience this setting it would really put us off though if it happened. If we found a couple to play with we wouldnt want anyone else to join with out asking us first. - Posted from rhpmobile

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boobsandbusted

7 years ago

was on the other foot and we were the women or couple that was invited in by the others ,just out of decency we would have declined knowing you didn’t want to play earlier ,if the other invitees really took our fancy , we would say something along the lines of ,thanks but not right now ,come find us and maybe we can have some fun later your scenario has happened before to us , and the extras hands we didn’t want go a wandering and we have pretty much just stopped , said need to grab some water have fun and left not to return but then again sometimes an unexpected invitee can be a bit of unexpected fist pumping fun, just gotta go with the flow and how your feeling on the night about things or find a lockable room and shut the door mr b - Posted from rhpmobile

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