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Is it all or nothing v show up, for that first meet and greet

January 14 2019

Here is a recurring theme on the topic boards of people not showing up or ghosting after exchanging a few pictures. To what extent are you then willing to meet someone who might not exactly match all your requirements, but who you understand is likely to rock up for a meet and greet? What is that worth to you v all your other criteria (age, body shape etc). I appreciate in this - if you are not a single male, you are spoilt for choice, - there is an investment in time and effort in meeting up with someone, - there is a risk that person might not show up (validations etc though may give you at least a reading on whether this may happen), and - we all want and deserve the ideal. I am also not talking in this about having sex, I am talking about meeting someone face to face to see if you and they want to have sex.

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RHP User

7 years ago

I'm not a single male and I'm far from spoilt for choice.

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RHP User

7 years ago

Meet first ... If I agree to meet someone for a chat over drinks, then I do. Even if they don't exactly match what I'm looking for. Sometimes you just have to look a person in the eye to really gauge the vibe. And figure out if there's any zing. Virtual stuff sux sometimes.

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RHP User

7 years ago

All or nothing v show up ... Interesting way to phrase it.

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Rlee552

7 years ago

You make a fair point MrMojo and my language could have been better on that point and the demographics of the site

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RHP User

7 years ago

To answer your question I have meet first play later in my profile, and that has generally been the way it goes.There have been a couple of women form a significant distance who didn't want to travel for nothing. We did talk a lot before meeting and of course exchanged photos, it worked out fine.

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FeistyFatty

7 years ago

I'm actually the opposite...... I've only ever done 2 face to face meet over a few beers encounter....... both times was unsure if there was enough physical attraction to play...... I was right....... had a great time drinking and chatting like old friends but no spark from my end. Some, I've chatted with for a bit on kik, then invited over when it suited both our schedules. Chatted for maybe 10mins, and then couldn't keep our hands off each other. With some men that can really push my buttons before I've even laid eyes on them, its opening the door in lingerie or less and Boom.......😍

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narnia11

7 years ago

Go with your gut instinct.. I've learnt the hard way that if something is a little off online, chances are you're right and it's going to be blatantly obvious in real life. Unless there is an attraction or connection with the initial message exchange, why take it further and meet?

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horneycouplewa

7 years ago

I'm totally willing to meet people even if they don't match exactly to what we/I are looking for BUT it will be on own terms now days, generally at a club or before we have arrangements for something else. Like everyone time is precious and we live rural. People who are reliable are wonderful and even if they are not the exact criteria of what we are looking for...….personality can so over rule a lot of that also. As a matter of fact my views on potential players are slightly changing, definitely not settling nor taking one for the team but I guess I'm maturing in this lovely world of dirty swinging :)...OK OK I'm well matured LOL Being a profiler so to speak, yes validations, profile right up, pic's (all as per usual) although pic's can come later so I found recently and a fantastic message or conversation over rules the typical looking for young hot stud with stamina hahahaha...so over that shit :) MrsH xx

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horneycouplewa

7 years ago

adding some champagne to my last comment :/

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RHP User

7 years ago

Considering if it is the possibility the high standards that are the problem. We certainly changed our search terms over time, not to do with no shows, but experiences that were not quite right. That was all for the better, and opened my mind to think outside usual channels. Peachy

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RHP User

7 years ago

If Ive been chatting to someone and they arent exactly what Im looking for, I will meet them for a drink or coffee. Ive done this before and there has been an instant attraction. You cant really gauge a person by online photos or chat. The only things I wont bend the rules for are guys who are attached or who smoke. I prefer to meet face to face and get the real person instead of his online persona. Ive been stood up twice in 4 years, so not too bad, I can usually tell if someone is genuine about meeting.

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