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⚖ Is it a yes or no if their partner doesn't know? ⚖
February 20 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, I would xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
No.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No, I wouldn't.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Neither of us would.
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RHP User
13 years ago
naaaar
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RHP User
13 years ago
yeah
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RHP User
13 years ago
It depends. In the past, I've said no. And I've also been down the path of yes. It would be the same in the future - case by case, on it's merits/circumstances.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No, I wouldn't.
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RHP User
13 years ago
yes
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not for us, no exceptions.
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RHP User
13 years ago
for both of us , its a 'no'....regardless of whether their partner knows....or not.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, I would.I nearly put an argument in here, whoops :P P.s. how about you MrsPeachyPare?
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RHP User
13 years ago
No I wouldn't.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Why would I ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
4 for... yes I wouldand 9 for... no I wouldn'tThanks for specifying that it's both of you to the couples who have posted :-)Thanks peoples I didn't share my opinion earlier so it didn't become the topic of the topic blond_gypsy, I will eventually...
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RHP User
13 years ago
yes
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nope- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes Kisses Focus
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'cpl4fun76' Nope- Posted from rhpmobile Should I count that as 2 from both or 1 from one of you? I'll count it as 1 if I don't hear back. Peachy
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RHP User
13 years ago
But it's not a necessary component, I don't seek married men, and prefer single. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
What mesolonghi said.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes.. IF I WANTED to.. and THEY wanted to.. the partner can go take a hike I want to make this a statement... I DID NOT STAND BEFORE LAW AND GOD AND STATE I WOULD BE FAITHFUL.. SHE DID.. if she choses to braek her vows.. who the hell am I to deny her. I will probably die of gunshot wounds.. but Fck me.. I am watching my Father die of EMPHYSEMA.. I would RATHER be shot by an angry hubby for fckn his bride!! THEN take it in the chin when I am Judged!
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RHP User
13 years ago
and I do often
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RHP User
13 years ago
Unsures count as yes. Couples count as 1 unless they say it's both of them.10 yes I wouldand 12 (including myself) no I wouldn'tSee you again if we make it to the next page
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erotictouch4u
13 years ago
Yes ! They are a consenting adult who makes their own choice so why should I judge them? ET xox
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RHP User
13 years ago
No
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RHP User
13 years ago
My integrity say's No and I hate the thought of being an enabler, but I have with 1 man previously, so:Am I allowed 1 YES and 1 NO Peachy?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Never would I knowing that.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
No.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's a deal breaker here. A beautiful quote I heard the other day "If your relationship needs to be a secret, you shouldn't be having it" I get 46% of people here will disagree, but I tend to lean with the other 54%.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, from me..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yesssss
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dame Internet connection, My apologies!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not mine. YES.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I wouldn't
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes
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RHP User
13 years ago
Never had the opportunity to find out
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RHP User
13 years ago
NoWe did it but it didn't feel good
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have in the past and not known ! So its a YES
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not fair on there other half
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RHP User
13 years ago
No- I wouldn't knowingly 'do it' but sometimes you can be caught unawares. A a general rule a big fat NO if their partner does not know about it NA
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes
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RHP User
13 years ago
As stated before no...I don't need some crazy women chasing me and trying to kill me F**k that shit
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RHP User
13 years ago
Obviously it would be hypocritical otherwise
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hey it may depend on the situation, for me yes! My wife is paralyze from the waist down! But ill never leave her!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sure. Its their relationship. Shouldn't be my choice on what they do.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
👍Yes- Posted from rhpmobile
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sammilling
13 years ago
yes for me
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RHP User
13 years ago
IF they're going to lie about that, what else are they going to lie about? If I can't trust them, why would I fuck them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
nope- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes I would
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RHP User
13 years ago
But is case dependant
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, them not knowing just makes it that bit more exciting.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
A huge fat resounding NO !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some time back, I would have said no. Now I see it's an individual's reason and choice. So yes!
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RHP User
13 years ago
No thanks
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RHP User
13 years ago
There business is there business- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
A big no - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm not judging, truly, but deceit...? It's NO from me... either you both agree to the rules of the game, or someone is being decieved and that's just going to end in hurt, not sure when that became part of our construct....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes. Doesn't make me a good or bad person. It has nothing to do with me. If a interested party is interested and Im interested then sure. Their choice their consequences, your not stopping it or changing their mind. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes yes- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
and decided it wasn't for me. Each to their own....
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Redbull101
13 years ago
Yes!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
No way- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
The subject of deciet is raised whenever we discuss extramarital affairs. When discussing deception, there are three main (although not entirely encompassing) categories, lying to save the feelings of others, lying to protect one's self and lying to the self. There are innumerous gradations of lies. I'd like to share the opening section of an article with you - Honesty not always the best policy position by:Mirko Bagaric From:The Australian May 19, 2010 THE biggest liars are those who claim never to lie and hence we should be embracing the honesty of Opposition Leader Tony Abbott for admitting the occasional fib. The people to be most suspicious about are the ones who push the sanctimonious nonsense that lying is always immoral. We all lie. Yet none of us accepts that we are dishonest. That's the biggest lie of all. We should be less embarrassed about lying and ditch the delusion that dishonesty is always bad. That way we could focus on the circumstances in which lying is permissible and indeed desirable as opposed to engaging in the mother of all deceits by pretending honesty is an absolute virtue. From the pragmatic perspective, lying is endemic and only getting worse as a result of new communication devices. It is particularly rampant in non-social settings. A study by Friends Provident showed more than 80 per cent of people admitted to telling at least one lie a day, with two-thirds admitting to having lied at work. The most common workplace lie was faking a sickie. A quarter of employees stated they lied about having completed work and about 20 per cent lied to cover up a big mistake. The study also showed facilities such as text messaging and email made it easier for people to lie because it made them feel less guilty than lying face to face. This survey relies solely on self reports and, not surprisingly, is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the frequency of lying. The truth about lying is that we all do it much more than most of us care to admit. We nearly always deny lying because we are scared of being viewed as pathological liars and hence never being believed. An earlier survey by psychologist Jeff Hancock of Cornell University showed respondents lied during a quarter of their social interactions. A University of Massachusetts study showed most people lie in normal conversation when they are trying to appear competent and likable. According to the study, 60 per cent of people lied at least once during the course of a 10-minute conversation.
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RHP User
13 years ago
yes Its their problem not ours
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks for the article, doesn't change the lie in my view... if the partner doesn't know, then for me, it's a "no"... fallout?
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JessicaRabbit
13 years ago
Wouldn't want that done to me so wouldn't do it to someone else. Dida Xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
No, seriously, who would want to be involved in all that secrecy? It's a nightmare. I'm just pointing out that deception is a part of life and to distill the complex subject of infedelity down to, "It's all about lies" is a huge over simplification. Deception is involved but that is not what it's about. It's often about searching for something that is missing from your life or is being withheld from you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
whats refreshing is that nearly all the couples here have the same sentiments as ourselves...that its a 'no'.... and its nice to know that the Gallup Polls in the US on the topic of infidelity...show that a consistant 90% or so of those who responded..said infidelity was 'morally unacceptable', and who are we to go against popular public opinion?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I discarded some hedging their bets and some popping up twice and I got 32 'yes' and 32 'no' give or take. (Someone may want to recheck this.) I also know for sure that there were at least three 'yes' voters who are abstaining from this survey as it has been done before. I saw that 90% result too. Funny how often people will say one thing but do another. You do realise, ofcourse, that to the vast majority of the vanilla population, bisexuality, swinging and open marriages are 'morally unacceptable'. Got any messages for them?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Depends on who it is doing the asking...what is happening in my life....too many variables to count!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' whats refreshing is that nearly all the couples here have the same sentiments as ourselves...that its a 'no'.... and its nice to know that the Gallup Polls in the US on the topic of infidelity...show that a consistant 90% or so of those who responded..said infidelity was 'morally unacceptable', and who are we to go against popular public opinion I would like to see the same Opinion Poll on "Open Marriages" and bringing in another man to help satisfy your woman....my guess is it would be just as high! Would you then go against the opinion poll? I have no trouble with either...but what if the opinion poll was against what you do with your sex life? xFunlovingx
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blackbig
13 years ago
Yes. Adults can make own decisions ... Have said Yes before and will say Yes again. I only do NSA fun.- Posted from rhpmobile
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DonnaBrett
13 years ago
YES .... because other people's issues & lies are not our problem, we are only there for sex...not romance!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I say no. Did it once, not a pretty ending. But if it has been a while, that no could start looking like a yes
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wannabyummymummy
13 years ago
These days it would be a yes
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'mikeandshel' whats refreshing is that nearly all the couples here have the same sentiments as ourselves...that its a 'no'.... and its nice to know that the Gallup Polls in the US on the topic of infidelity...show that a consistant 90% or so of those who responded..said infidelity was 'morally unacceptable', and who are we to go against popular public opinion I would like to see the same Opinion Poll on "Open Marriages" and bringing in another man to help satisfy your woman....my guess is it would be just as high! Would you then go against the opinion poll? I have no trouble with either...but what if the opinion poll was against what you do with your sex life? xFunlovingx but the topic here is whether we'd play with an attached person..ie infidelity.... of the 8 couples (whose profile says 'couple') 6 said 'no'...thats 72 %...and yea, i agree the approval rates for open marriages/bi play/ whatever would be less than encouraging...never said they wouldnt be...but thats off topic...isnt it? we understand that its undesirable, we've been there ourselves, its hurtful and hateful to discover your love is with someone else...we wont accept that from each other, and are compassionate enough to feel empathy for those who may find themselves in a similar situation... so we choose to not be the 'other' parties...quite simple really...and we choose to not associate with those who opt for this path...again...quite simple.. it seems that one person can quote figures from mainstream society, but we cant ? i have to wonder why ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'mikeandshel' whats refreshing is that nearly all the couples here have the same sentiments as ourselves...that its a 'no'.... and its nice to know that the Gallup Polls in the US on the topic of infidelity...show that a consistant 90% or so of those who responded..said infidelity was 'morally unacceptable', and who are we to go against popular public opinion I would like to see the same Opinion Poll on "Open Marriages" and bringing in another man to help satisfy your woman....my guess is it would be just as high! Would you then go against the opinion poll? I have no trouble with either...but what if the opinion poll was against what you do with your sex life? xFunlovingx but the topic here is whether we'd play with an attached person..ie infidelity.... of the 8 couples (whose profile says 'couple') 6 said 'no'...thats 72 %...and yea, i agree the approval rates for open marriages/bi play/ whatever would be less than encouraging...never said they wouldnt be...but thats off topic...isnt it? we understand that its undesirable, we've been there ourselves, its hurtful and hateful to discover your love is with someone else...we wont accept that from each other, and are compassionate enough to feel empathy for those who may find themselves in a similar situation... so we choose to not be the 'other' parties...quite simple really...and we choose to not associate with those who opt for this path...again...quite simple.. it seems that one person can quote figures from mainstream society, but we cant ? i have to wonder why ? You got it wrong..it came to my mind as I was reading your post....Not only about infidelity but what others would perceive as infidelity (Ie: Open marriages...Swingers, etc)! I didn't mean for you to get defensive...It was an honest question! Maybe these Forums aren't for me anymore...Seems you can't ask a simple question these days without people getting defensive and arguementative! No hurt was intended! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
...to say "infidelity was 'morally unacceptable', and who are we to go against popular public opinion?" on one hand and then to suggest that public opinion on open marriages is irrelevant. Also, fiddling the figures to try to support your cause is a little dishonest. Are you suggesting that a person's opinion is less valid because it doesn't come from a coule's profile?
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RHP User
13 years ago
...the chances are that a person voting as half a couple will simply go along with their partner (not accusing anyone here, just speculating) to avoid conflict on what is a very emotional subject. I think the single votes are more reliable.
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enange63
13 years ago
nope
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RHP User
13 years ago
xFunlovingx You got it wrong..it came to my mind as I was reading your post....Not only about infidelity but what others would perceive as infidelity (Ie: Open marriages...Swingers, etc)! I didn't mean for you to get defensive...It was an honest question! Maybe these Forums aren't for me anymore...Seems you can't ask a simple question these days without people getting defensive and arguementative! No hurt was intended no offense taken so wasnt being defensive or argumentaaive....these damned forums dont really allow for conversation.... theers none of those face to face nuances or clues to humour etc... i do get what you are saying...really, and was attempting to further discuss it... people do look upon some of the things we do or promote here as 'infidelity' etc...and i do get that theres a whole range of behaviours that 'vanilla' people dont 'get'...or even want to 'get'...but thats how it goes.... infidelity tho, in the way its usually taken..as one partner 'straying'...is actually much much more relevant here than anywhere else...here its a common place occurrence...as we'd rarely go more than 24 hours without being asked by someone who is married/attached and playing on the 'sly', if we'd be up to meeting and hopefully up for 'play'...even tho we plainly state otherwise in our profile..to date, we've been approached only the once from a non 'lifestyle player'....someone whose wife is a close and dear friend/wokrmate of my wife in fact, which is causing Shel a little anxiety at work...ie how does she not tell her friend? (she will i believe, its who she is) the figures i mention...are available from Gallup themselves..who are the world largest data collecting news agency...and the words are theirs...i didnt coin the phrase 'morally unacceptable'...they did. and...as a couple, its only the opinions of other couples we really see as relevant to ourselves..we answer only to each other, but singles anwwer to no one but themselves.... and as such their agendas are very different to those of couples.. ..so really arent reliable indicators at all......i did no 'fiddling of figures'...i dont need to manipulate whats patently obvious to anyone who can read...or count, 'spin doctoring' is best left to those who deal in mistruth....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' the figures i mention...are available from Gallup themselves..who are the world largest data collecting news agency...and the words are theirs...i didnt coin the phrase 'morally unacceptable'...they did. and...as a couple, its only the opinions of other couples we really see as relevant to ourselves..we answer only to each other, but singles anwwer to no one but themselves.... and as such their agendas are very different to those of couples.. ..so really arent reliable indicators at all......i did no 'fiddling of figures'...i dont need to manipulate whats patently obvious to anyone who can read...or count, 'spin doctoring' is best left to those who deal in mistruth.... Oh wow, Mike, look at that. You actually managed to make me laugh out loud. I've got tears in my eyes. ...Ummm, ...you were joking, weren't you???
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