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Is internet porn ruining sex?
May 17 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
I dont watch a lot of porn... but I think practice makes perfect so I'll just keep practicing thank you very much. As for banging you senseless... well, it's nice to feel and hear the sound of that slap of the spuds.. plus.. what is that? It's like pussy tonsils or something that the head of my cock rams against? That feels pretty good too... hehe. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with you InTraining.I think it also leads to erectile problems and that they end up not being able to get off properly without their own hand on their cock. More of a problem with the 35 and under crowd.Of course guys will disagree, but on discussing with my friends, an unofficial survey, has found that men who look at a lot of porn and wank to it, want to be like porn stars, but just don't have porn star hardons.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have noticed a change in sex styles by certain men (but not all). I have found that particular techniques become fashionable and I discover that it's part of a popular porn (or on one of THOSE sites with Red in the name). I prefer a man who can show creativity, who knows when to be rough and when to be gentle. I never watch porn, I use my imagination, I go with what feels good to me and judge my success by my partner's moans and groans. I like to use my senses to know what is a good move, what my partner is enjoying etc. A man who does the same will always be on a winner with me. But... there are LOTS of men who watch porn and DONT replicate what they see. I think RHP tends to attract very sexual men and women who perhaps like to push the sexual boundaries. xx Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am not a porn guy..For me it is about being abit unique ..My creative mind takes me and my lover to whatever place we want..
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'll be honest alot of men do get delusioned by that hardcore crap, but more women I find like it more sensual and fun, like seriously all I see in hardcore porn is them talking dirty example "You like that dick huh huh?" obviously it's just so the producers make a nice pocket full of $$ to keep the viewers into it. with the partners I've experienced its more like were both giggling, flirting and foreplay, touching, yeah I gotta admit sometimes I Give it to them hard (depends how dry I am at the time to) but I'm probably one of a handful of men that still see it that way.
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RHP User
16 years ago
See.. most guys think exactly what you said but unless we're related to poindexter most of us are not articulate enough to put it in such eloquent terms. Next time you year a guy say "hey, you wanna root".. just put it into perspective that all the things you said are the images in his head :p. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Stalky Men always have an excuse..... Do I need to forgive men for their primative communication style "Me HORNY, wanna fuck". Or... should I expect that in 2010 men can learn to communicate in a fashion that's a little more eloquent. "Hey babe, you are sexy and hot, I'd love to take you to dinner then make love to you all night long." I can go to Bunnings and manage to select a spanner from a screwdriver AND I can even ask for help if I need to so why not expect similar of the male species when it comes to sex ? I LOVE men... Happy to keep searching for all the Poindexters ! xx Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
Glad to know it isn't just me having a bad run... It wasn't that long ago that my partners were sensual and sexy, but now I don't even think the word 'foreplay' is in their vocabulary!This brings me to another question- is there any tell tale sign to know what a guy is like in bed before you do the deed? I don't mind if they're inexperienced, that way we can learn together, just not trying to stick it in my arse every second and trying to throat fuck me! Call me a hipocyrte but if I'm interested in actually dating a guy I take it slow. Problem is then that you have invested time into the relationship only to find out that they are a hopeless freak in the bedroom : (
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RHP User
16 years ago
Porn is too easily accessible...even my 12 year old and his mates pressed the "yes" button to being over 18 in primary school 2 years ago!! I had to sit him down and explain to him that they are mostly actors and that is not how real life is!! I have not had sex now in over a year as I had found the last 3 before that were a disappointment. As I put in another post on here...It was like the porn movies...Licked for about 30 seconds, suck them off till lockjaw set in and then had my ovaries pounded up to my throat!! It was horrible...and whats with the men slapping you while having sex??...If I want to be slapped I am old enough and ugly enough to ask for it!!! Alot of guys these days have no idea what it takes to truely satisfy a woman!! I totally agree with Miss_Saturn...its by feel and moans and writhing in pleasure NOT the moans of pain and writhing to get away!! All those sites are full of actors and you will hardly find any real people on there making actual love or enjoying pleasurable sex..both ways!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
When we were growing up the only chance we had to look at porn was the odd Penthouse you would find under Dad's bed or an R rated soft core VHS (BETA in my case) that looked like it had been viewed at least 55 times it was that scratchy. You learnt from each other and communicated your wants and desires. Unfortunately a whole generation of men will grow up assuming what they see on the internet is real. I don't think it is helped by the fact that so much of it these days is amateur content. If the girl next door is uploading images of herself onto the internet or is filmed giving a guy a blow job who can blame them for thinking that all girls might be that way. Whiel there is a time and a place for hot unadulterated sex between consenting adults, nothing beats the pleasure of making love to someone you genuinely care for and love - knowing you would do anything for them to please them and have them pleas eyou.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Really Miss Saturn, I was just trying to say, without being completely obvious, how much I enjoyed what you had written and I wished that I had been so gracefully considerate in my initial response. See what I mean!! We are soooo misunderstood! Hugs and snogs Gaz Quoting 'Miss_Saturn' Hey Stalky Men always have an excuse..... Do I need to forgive men for their primative communication style "Me HORNY, wanna fuck". Or... should I expect that in 2010 men can learn to communicate in a fashion that's a little more eloquent. "Hey babe, you are sexy and hot, I'd love to take you to dinner then make love to you all night long." I can go to Bunnings and manage to select a spanner from a screwdriver AND I can even ask for help if I need to so why not expect similar of the male species when it comes to sex ? I LOVE men... Happy to keep searching for all the Poindexters ! xx Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
that men should just look after their own jollies and if women want something in particular that their guy should be doing.. then they should be vocal... "Oh no".. I was told... we insensitive men should learn to read the signals... I mean.. if a woman pushes her bum back, litterally ramming into my groin and thighs.. I should be entitled to think she is enjoying that slapping sensation... to which I might be enticed to enhance said particulars by a bit of harmless arse slapping. Yet, the answer is obviously no... none the less... reading the signals is no easy task, so speak up!! Women often lack the skill of verbalisation... for so many, sex seems to be an almost wordless activity.. well, oral sex is for cdertain.. but hey... making moaning sounds is noice.. but hardly can be considered an articulate word... So often, I employ the use of a pillow... apart from its fantastic ability to muffle sounds when necessary.. and heighten ones sense of breathlessness.... there's the contradiction between the softness of the pillow and the roughness of the intercourse to consider... a good pillow is soft on flesh... it ensures I leave no thumb bruises while I'm pulling back those hips.... oh lordy lord... "fuck me hard" is usually a reliable vocal instruction.. more women should employ those words when they want it rather than leave us guessing. Communication is everything. Hugs Stalky Quoting 'xFunlovingx' "lockjaw set in and then had my ovaries pounded up to my throat!! It was horrible...and whats with the men slapping you while having sex??...If I want to be slapped I am old enough and ugly enough to ask for it!!! Alot of guys these days have no idea "
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RHP User
16 years ago
Just as women can say what they do want.. they can also say what they do not want... of course, women can never make up their minds.. so guys should expect the unexpected. :p So dont just lay there all starfish like an dwondering when this will end... all the while getting your ovaries re-aligned... unless of course, that's what you enjoy. :p Hugs and teases Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm sure people were saying the same thing when Playboy, Penthouse, etc were first published 50 odd years ago. If you think about it from a different perspective, Internet porn has made some 'alternate lifestyles' easily accessible to those wanting to become informed and explore more. I guess the real problem is (and always has been) being able to communicate a need to explore certain sexual desires with the current partner. I would rather risk spoiling the moment and say something to let the guy know what he is doing is not quite right for me than say nothing and let the guy 'bang away', hoping (praying) it will end soon.
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RedHotCoast
16 years ago
my wife asked me to makelove to her like they do in the movies. So I bent her over fucker her up the arse pulled out and cum on her face. hahahahahaha um...er.... Ill get back in my cage now
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RHP User
16 years ago
i enjoyed ur posts dude, u obviously like to give it to the girls in more ways than one. all in good fun of course. having said that i do believe misssaturn had a valid point. moans may not be verbalisations in plain english but they can be translated as follows - 'the activities u are presently undertaking are concurrent with my expectations in regards to this encounter and it would please me greatly if u would continue along this course of action.' may just sound like a grunt or a moan but its really a concise way of communicating an elaborate message. hahahahaha. im a geek.
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RHP User
16 years ago
4 SURE LOTS OF GUYS WANT U TO BE THERE PORN FANTASY! ITS REALLY CRAZY! TOO MUCH ACCSESS TO PORN ON THE NET, THEN THEY WANT TO PLAY IT ALL OUT, AND THATS FINE IF THE WOMAN IS UP FOR IT, IF I WANT TO MAKE A PORN IT CERTAINLY WOULDNT BE SOMEONE I JUST MET OFF RHP, IT WOULD BE SOMEONE I TRUST 100%
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RHP User
16 years ago
I find all the new 'Terms' and acronyms interesting like MILF and Poles-mokers and such. I can always tell when someone is Net-porn-obsessed as these terms roll of their tongues like water. I do find the descriptions and titles of pics/vids on the net are womanising and coarse. Making women to be targets and victims or promiscuous in design. Esp the Asian administered sites with their gramatically inferior descriptions and social differences apparent. They think that's what we want. They should think again.
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RHP User
16 years ago
When i'm in love with you - i make love to youWhen you display sensuality - i'm sensualWhen your horny - its hot & passionateWhen your flirty - i'm playfulWhen you act like a pornstar - expect to be fucked like a pornstarI never sleep with women if i'm not attracted to them beyond the physical. There is always some kind of attractrion that will dictate the type of sex.Besides, your pleasure = my pleasure.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm a regular porn watcher, but tend to enjoy softer clips. To me real life sex is all about listening to your partners physical reactions when you are stimulating them. The way they breath, moan, the way their body reacts when touched a certain way. I also agree that people are to impatient now days, as well as people having much higher expectations of things. We now live in a world that the norm is interacting with/via a computer and personal interaction with real people is used less.
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RHP User
16 years ago
My wife asked me to make love to her like they do in the movies, So I fucked her in the arse and came on her face!! Opps I think we have been watching different movies. LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
In training I actually think you have just had a bad run, porn is just another form of sexual releif, desire fulfillment, it is sad some men prefer this and the other alarming thing you mentioned is no foreplay I think foreplay is a major part of any relationship especially the man giving foreplay to the women. So overall In training it will all improve dont look to hard into it as I dont believe there to be a major issue here
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RHP User
16 years ago
There is a time and a place for everything. In training if all your lovers were slow sensual types you'd probably be on here complaining that all you'd like is a hard fast drilling for a change. Yes I think porn may be contributing to more kinky or strange sexual practices, but where's the feedback?Slap his face (not hard) and say "go slower asshole".Even a simple "I don't like that" would suffice.Its about sharing, yes? Women always say " We're better communicators". how about you put up?RandomYes I realise slapping face and calling people asshole during sex is from a porno you saw a few weeks back but you're taking it out of context.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' I agree with you InTraining.I think it also leads to erectile problems and that they end up not being able to get off properly without their own hand on their cock. I think that's a POSITIVE, they last for aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaages
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RHP User
16 years ago
My god !! just when ya think they know nothing..........................up comes a youngun with wisdom !!............. Mr 2428....................I love the way you think !!! might get that tatooed on my inner thigh lol impressed and happy miss b
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RHP User
16 years ago
It's amazing! I was only just having this conversation with a friend the other day. I reckon all the fairy tales little girls are brought up on like Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella etc. has ruined sex. You know....because they believe that all sex is about Prince Charming reading your mind about the kind of passionate love making women expect! xx ~sheen~
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think the big problem is that people have lost their imagination. I'm not sure if it is about how much porn people have access to, but you have a look at people now and see what they do for relaxation, xbox, iPhone, ooooh shinny, stimulate me 24/7. I think that you need to close your eyes and describe what you like to do, you have to feel your tongue slowly sliding up the inner thigh, kissing softly behind the knee as your hands move ever so slowly up etc......... People don't have that now, they need to be shown which I think is sad really. There is also the problem where people don't have a connection to the person they are with so why should they give a crap and rock the other persons world....... I don't watch porn and rub many out, probably why I'm so damn horny most of the time! so maybe I am just full of crap, but I have learned that if you give well you get back GREAT!
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RHP User
15 years ago
In training, of course what happens in sex is all the mans fault and his attraction to porn. You don't play a part in the act, it is just something that happens whilst you're busy thinking about other things. I always believed that love and sex was a 2 way street, give and take. Whether the fantasies come through porn or elsewhere, if you're happy to be a silent partner or expect him to make all the running in regards to sex then it's his fantasies will get lived out. Making love or having sex takes 2 people to be in the moment and interested in pleasing themselves and their partner. As for foreplay, that can start anywhere if you know what you're comfortable with and varies with the person. A risque text or flirting whilst out, a whispered indication of what you'd appreciate in a more secluded setting all sets the scene. Giving some attention rather than expecting it all to be one way street, look at me, look at me..... ( Onya Kimmy) all can lead to a more attentive male partner because he feels that you have an interest in him also I agree with the later comments on here that fairy tales and that what you put in is what you'll get out of sex contributes as much to unsatisfying mutual experiences as the access to porn of any sort. In the modern environment where someone or something else is always responsible for bad experiences (in life in general), it's time to take responsibility for your own gratification. Learn what you want and how to express that to your partner. Porn is just another access to gratification for a number of people, and whilst it provides an insight into them it doesn't limit their mental ability. I'm not saying that men are perfect, I know I'm not. But really is there really any difference between this question and why am I always attracted to bad boys, once again your choice but someone elses fault. Regards Brad
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RHP User
15 years ago
If your ex-partners are doing you like porn movies, then they are simply doing it all wrong, you're not VHS or DVD, you're a woman...imagination, consideration, adventure, improvisation; these are a few of my favourite things....
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