Irony don't you think?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Kinda makes one wish there was an invalid-date box that could be ticked against a profile. 5 ticks and they are orange flagged. 10 and they are red flagged.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'irresponsibility'Kinda makes one wish there was an invalid-date box that could be ticked against a profile. 5 ticks and they are orange flagged. 10 and they are red flagged. Should be 3 strikes and your banned though :-P

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'romanceaintdead' Quoting 'irresponsibility'Kinda makes one wish there was an invalid-date box that could be ticked against a profile. 5 ticks and they are orange flagged. 10 and they are red flagged. Should be 3 strikes and your banned though :-P Harsh! How'd we know that each striker is a unique and genuine person? If someone stood me up the way cougar4fun was stood up, I'd be angry enough to set up a couple of fake profiles and strike the guy... But I don't think I'd bother with 10 fake profiles...

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I completely agree that if you plan something and do go out of your way (or they have said they will) to be there....a blind no show or not communicating is clearly rude and a waste of time. | That said, there are times when soemthing comes up legitimately and you can communicate that graciously and honestly. I have been there/done that and later the result has been just fine, thanks. | There are other times when maybe on a Monday you say "Yes, sure...sounds great" but a couple of communications later make you want to rethink or maybe just pick another time. If it is clearly comminicated...I don't see an issue and the reason maybe quite valid. Could be as simple as a getting a better understanding of who you will meet and what the real intentions are...like spontenaity rather than a pre-set or predetermined evening with more "rules" thrown out there than are really needed or suited to what you may have intended. | I personally have only one guideline and that's to make it spontaneous with no expectations other than to meet someone that you may be interested in meeting or atrracted to and let the night (or day) take it's course no matter what the outcome. One man's "time wasting cock tease" might just be another man's "wow...she is really dynamite" and conversely for the ladies. And let's face it gals...you do have the upper hand here and at times use it will full authority and advantage. That alone is enough of a "blacklist" for me...as it what another thread referred to as the "loose lips that sink ships". Not a big fan of reading my journal out to someone else either...that's a bit crude really. | A revenge board? That could work either for or against you and let's face it...there are plenty of whackos out there that would have the time to create enough profiles to blacklist someone out of spite or simply because of the "I'm not that into you" thing that can occur between a "let's meet" and a "let's not" or a "let's but later when we know each other better". | I like spontaneous...and I really don't like being boxed in or out. This site can unleash the best or worst of any of us and I for one would prefer not having my own personal experience which may be vastly different that yours pre-determine the good from the bad. It's a journey and the experiences and outcomes are far too variable. I would rather leave it to chance...and form my own personal and private conclusions from there. The opinions of others can and should stay where they are.... | ...and I will make up my own mind, thanks.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Maybe that's not such a bad idea really...the strike rule and a tally board? Of course, maybe it's not such a bad idea that all members have to pay some dues...you can't vote in a lot of clubs unless you are a card carrying member, right? Gee...that might even level the playing field...no free members and extra benefits to those that do pay their dues? | So sure...maybe the "strike board" is not that bad of an idea and should be a feature of the Premium or Plantinum Memberhship costs that some of us pay. RHP pay attention...this could just be a great way to market your membership fees! It may not be a free anarchy of terrorism, but then again there are those of us that know that... | ...freedom is never free.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Oh you poor girl cougar4fun. There is an endless list of shakespearean tragedies here. The one where the taxi does not turn up is the worst. I have no sympathy. Im a bi guy and if I want I can get someone every night of the week. Guess he must have been extra special, how rude of him to not travel 450km. Personally, anyone that needs to travel that far for sex is a loser. To the red flag strike club. RHP membership is not a job. Its not an exclusive club. We have as much of an obligation to anyone here as we do to a stranger on the street. There are many here just to get off on communication, the prospect of a meet is as good as the meet. Stop this moralizing, some of you sound like spoilt children.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I agree it would be to easy for vindictive exes to get them kicked off. But At least the flag idea we would see the stats, he could always excuse them but 10 no shows would at least keep us on our guard...and the possability of getting no shows would keep them from not showing up. Like Ebay feedback. Great idea! Mrs H xx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Markusss67'Oh you poor girl cougar4fun. There is an endless list of shakespearean tragedies here. The one where the taxi does not turn up is the worst. I have no sympathy. Im a bi guy and if I want I can get someone every night of the week. Guess he must have been extra special, how rude of him to not travel 450km. Personally, anyone that needs to travel that far for sex is a loser.To the red flag strike club. RHP membership is not a job. Its not an exclusive club. We have as much of an obligation to anyone here as we do to a stranger on the street. There are many here just to get off on communication, the prospect of a meet is as good as the meet.Stop this moralizing, some of you sound like spoilt children. Slightly harsher than I'd have said it, but a very valid point nonetheless. Best to block them and move on I think. I'm still rosey enough to believe genuine people with manners exist around this place. You just have to have the patience to find them ... I find being very selective at the outset and giving careful consideration to whether I actually want to meet up with a complete stranger works for me better. I kinda like CM's philosophy - the first one. Oh, and in the OP's defence, I kinda got the impression the person she was referring to wanted to meet up. Clearly, he didn't need to or he may well have been good for his word and turned up.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Markusss67'Oh you poor girl cougar4fun. There is an endless list of shakespearean tragedies here. The one where the taxi does not turn up is the worst. I have no sympathy. Im a bi guy and if I want I can get someone every night of the week. Guess he must have been extra special, how rude of him to not travel 450km. Personally, anyone that needs to travel that far for sex is a loser.To the red flag strike club. RHP membership is not a job. Its not an exclusive club. We have as much of an obligation to anyone here as we do to a stranger on the street. There are many here just to get off on communication, the prospect of a meet is as good as the meet.Stop this moralizing, some of you sound like spoilt children. ouch thats harsh....the point is once again someone didnt bother saying they werent coming its perfectly fine if you arent coming and have changed your mind for whatever reason...just let a person know common courtasy doesnt take a lot of effort and you never know the other person might just give you another chance roxxy

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Markusss67'Personally, anyone that needs to travel that far for sex is a loser. I have done just that. I travelled the entire country to meet someone I wanted to have sex with. Lucky she turned up lol. But, I wanted to meet and get to know her which I did so does that count as well? I've been stood up plenty of times for various and no reasons at all. In the end, I've learnt to not take it personally and see it as their loss. I believe in Karma so they'll get theirs and I'll eventually get mine.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I would travel around the world, crawl through lava filled tunnels, climb jagged mountains, and swim shark infested oceans for true love. For a sexual romp the distance is proportional to the quality, 100km max (wink wink Don & Diane) The strike rule will never happen. RHP relies on members, not just paying members. Guests are as valuable, they provide the produce that us shoppers like to browse. As stated, any strike system will be abused. There are a few members here that I have rubbed the wrong way. Not wanting sex with someone after meeting should not allow them to have a way to soil your profile. Remember RHP is a business, not a charity (.com.au not .org.au) They want profit, and my humble view have a great formula. Jetplace (RedHotPie parent company) if it ever goes public, ill be buying shares. Well karma is nice, not magic. Be nice to people and the word spreads, be an ass hole and that will spread. I always read a profile, look at the pictures, and check out the friends list. I, as a general rule only accept friend requests after meeting, On occasion I will bend that rule, but will remove them if there is no ongoing "friendship" I never send a friend request to some one I have not meet. The friends list tells you what type of people they like and what their like. A mile long list of interstate friends says their a social net-worker. A short list of locals tells me that you're a liked social light. As for the stood up date. Hell yes, rude. But i go by the rule, 50% of people are of below average IQ. They have difficulty in all aspects of life. Rule one for me here. Communicate, assess, then commit. Too many here go: looks, grunt, need.... I have never been stood up, never been left waiting.

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