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Independent Women- a turn on or a turn off
December 01 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
JayJay, I have a faulty power point and dishwasher that's stopped pumping water and I can't figure out why yet .... in seriousness I think being independent is a great thing. Hypothetically If I were to say there are a bunch stereotype jobs that belong to women I would be lynched, or at least taken to the corner and spanked
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RHP User
12 years ago
to do my dirty work. I have no choice but to be independent. I even had to 'relocate' and brown snake (and it's head) from my front yard last summer.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Turn on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'paint_me' to do my dirty work. I have no choice but to be independent. I even had to 'relocate' and brown snake (and it's head) from my front yard last summer. I'll handle spiders and all other creepy crawlies..... but I don't do snakes!!
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Beachlover1999
12 years ago
Trouser snakes!!!!!! Lolol Python by preference!!! ;)))
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RHP User
12 years ago
And I'm happy to be used in and out of the bedroom...... The more a woman does around the house, the less she'll be hassling me while I watch the cricket.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' And I'm happy to be used in and out of the bedroom...... The more a woman does around the house, the less she'll be hassling me while I watch the cricket. Wanna bet? Pusscat xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Independent women have always rocked my world- so massive turn on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
A pink toolbox at Bunnings, so got a red one and blinged it with stick on diamentes lol. I even know how to use most of the tools in it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
been out shoveling in the paddock fixing the retic in a mini, boots and singlet. Something about freedom. I am very independent, emotionally as well and love time on my own. I do not know if it is good or not, though I love my own company and can go a week with out seeing anyone. I have found though, a few men are intimidated by a self sufficient woman.
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RHP User
12 years ago
direct quote here. “How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself?” re independence. so you should be JayJay, nothing new there as in either of the species doing it for themselves, their way. Some men can cook, even mop a floor lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hate all that stuff... Happy to pay someone to do all that. I have other specialities. ;-)
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
You're turning me on! I have a 'thing' for tradies and those with manual skills. It's a real turn on and must be mentally tied to having someone look after me. But that said I was raised to be a fully independent and capable woman, so I've climbed roofs to clean gutters, have, with boymates, fixed my cars and faced challenges but you know what if a bloke wants to do it for me I'll gratefully take that offer. The one thing I see as being an exclusively male task is disposing of dead animals, not pets (where I've buried and moved the bodies) but the random dead animals which turn up from time to time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Environment. They call me a bitch when I pit forward opinions contrary to theirs. I'm very independent, that is scary to a lot of men. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
and don't give a rat's if they call me a prick. It's a slight none are not man enough to speak their mind. That's their issue not mine. I don't mind mopping floors or cleaning houses, done a lot worse, it's not unsuitable to my way of thinking to the rank of me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I also look at it in the respect that it keeps me active ! A while ago the kitchen sink blocked and I had no choice but to call a plumber as I didn't have the tools needed to unblock it. The day before he was due to come out I was bored so I pulled up the pavers and dug out around the drain access, about 3 feet deep !!
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RHP User
12 years ago
But why would I want to? I'm independent in that I don't expect anyone to rush in and rescue me, I'll pay someone to do it for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Can you change a flat tyre? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' I also look at it in the respect that it keeps me active ! A while ago the kitchen sink blocked and I had no choice but to call a plumber as I didn't have the tools needed to unblock it. The day before he was due to come out I was bored so I pulled up the pavers and dug out around the drain access, about 3 feet deep !! This must be the first time I've ever been turned on by someone talking about digging a hole. Shee-it! I stand by my comments on why women in their 40's are so goddamn good. JayJay_66, RESPECT. 3 feet deep. Oh my god.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't find an independent woman intimidating ..until she puts the tool belt on !
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hate all that crap myself... I pay people to do that for me... Want to come over and be my handy woman? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't wish to be made someone's life, but just part of it. This is my thing. I love to be included, this means I don't care if you're better at it than I, but there's no reason why we can't both attend to things to see that it gets done!! After all, there's no I in team!! Besides, painting the house, or gardening, etc can be a good prelude to sex, can it not?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Low maintinence. You can come over and mow my lawn. Water my garden, fix my roof, put a new head gasket on my car, and I'l love you all night long.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I got told some years ago by a very lovely friend that I needed to let men feel useful, so now I do!
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Yup I've changed a few, even had to change one for my lil metrosexual Italian Engineer when we got a flat (he put the nuts on backwards!!! Lol), have changed out a raditor and hoses and even did a harmonic balance in my V8 years ago once I got my hands on a torque wrench. Renovated a house, knocked out walls, excavated, concreted, formed up, poured and wheelbarrowed, drafted the plans for council, tiled, roofed, painted, gyprock sheeted and plastered. Stuff paying someone else to do it that's too damned expensive!!! I used to crank over my old diesel waterpump, once it was primed; then go feed the oigs and horses in nothing but my gumboots so yes Inspirit I don't mind the peace and serenity either :). I don't mind snakes, spiders freak me and die once they enter my habitat but I loathe cockroaches!! Give me a spider anyday. Pink Toolkits are available at Bunnings and Autopro outlets, Bunnings also do pink plumbing kits JayJay usually around Breast Cancer Awareness time. I don't think I'm necessarily independent, but stuff has to get done and it isn't going to happen on it's own or just cos' there's no man present now is it! ~ Sisters Are Doing It For Themselves. DISCLAIMER: There ARE some things that a man IS ESSENTIAL for though 😍
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RHP User
12 years ago
I once had to call upon him to change a tyre for me! Reason being I tried and tried to get the tyre out of the boot but the struts for the boot are busted and the lid kept slamming on my head! Plus was in a short tight work skirt. So as I stated I did have a go first , besides it was an opportunity to see your smiling face ;pp - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Very good with pliers. O:-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't do tools well... I have always been independent,I have never relied on a man to look after me...a single mother with a daughter ,she was my focus,as was my work ....serial monogamy was not something I embraced..we all make choices in life my independence has meant that I have lived my life the way I have wanted to...do men find me threatening?....only the ones hiding behind the door. cwhereitgoes....I think I love you..a man quoting Anais
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'll bear you in mind next toothache mes... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
As for independent women... Love em. But, being a tradie, I love being utilised... But detest being used. Its been 4 years since I've had a shed :( You know, full of my tools and bibs and bobs... It's been 4 years since I've had my own home to maintain, I really struggled with that aspect of my life post separation, I'd always had something to do in the garden, around the house, in the shed... You get the picture. So when a woman, or any friend for that matter, needs help or I see something that will become a problem later, I point it out to them and offer to help them with it. I just see it as something that friends do... Hp xo 💌 Because friends really should have benefits...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I independently google which is the best tradie to come do the job. I'm one of the clumsiest, least coordinated people I know so the thought of me out there with a hammer or a saw fills me (and others) with a certain amount of dread. I don't do certain things simply because of the risk to my health and safety. I am an independent thinker and traveler though. I like to spend time with myself and don't feel awkward if there's no-one to talk to.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Most women, that know me, want to dig a hole 6 foot deep.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've yet to meet you..... But I have my shovel ready :pp - Posted from rhpmobile
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Beachlover1999
12 years ago
I think the reality, in my experience, is quite different. Men like be be needed, wanted, useful and when I can fix stuff, garden, decorate, change a car tyre (lol JJ), mend children's toys, unblock a drain, manage a pool, put up a shelf and negotiate with tradies (only when absolutely needed).....many men don't like this!!!!! I love doing stuff it's very satisfying. My Dad fixed EVERYTHING and I learnt from him, so why should I step back and let a man do it? I do think many men are put off and probably why I am single C'est la vie!!!!! :))
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unicorn... How does Google tell you which tradies are better than others ? As opposed to the yellow pages or the trades section in your local paper... Or by asking at your local "tradies shop" ? Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
an independent, intelligent woman ticks so many boxes !
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precious142
12 years ago
our house rule was - he did the "boy" jobs ( and gardening cos he loved it) and I did the "girl" jobs - old fashioned I know but worked great for us.....and I still live by that rule.Yes I can do some "boy" jobs when its an emergency, but I like to contribute to the country's economic wheel and pay people who like doing those jobs and are good at it.I would rather put my energy into making money in my own business (in a very male dominated industry), which I took on after we spilt and have been doing so on my own for the past 5 yrs......And in that time I have met many males who are quite intimidated by that fact - don't know why?????Apart from the knob-head who kept staring at my jewellery when we meet for a coffee - and kept saying how nice it is to meet an independent woman....yet hesitated at buying the first coffee!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'huggybear206' an independent, intelligent woman ticks so many boxes ! Could not agree more! A woman who knows her own mind and can act on it is hot!
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Haven't relayed on anyone for anything for years, something's I like doing and something's I despise doing, but truth of the matter is someone has to do it so I guess I'm it. If I can't do it, then it's time to call a tradie, whilst I sit back and watch with a beer in hand....
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RHP User
12 years ago
JJ, nope, would never be intimidated by that but then I do like women who have a backbone and even a little stubborn and definitely independent! But on the same line of logic, are you women intimidated by a guy that is housetrained?" As is quite competent at cooking, cleaning, ironing etc? Do you feel unwanted if he does it all? lol Honestly in today's society, the gender rules for self preservation around the home etc are blurring into one rule for all. Most of us here that are single are quite independent simply because we have to be - there is no one else to do it for us! Mooka
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RHP User
12 years ago
Gotta luv a woman who gets off her arse and had a go..? Doesn't matter if she doesn't do it as well as a man , at least she's having a go and not waiting for the knight in shining armour to materialise and do it for her. What do they say, god helps those who helps themselves ? What does peeve me is when a woman feels she has to do it better. Be happy with what you can do?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lovinit28 :)) And Mooka I'd love a man who is house trained !! BUT .... I don't know about All the cooking .....my kitchen is my kingdom ! I love cooking ;p And no would not make me feel unwanted... Would free up some time so I can be "wanted " in other ways :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' I don't do tools well... I don't suffer tools lightly either.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am in the process of writing ''The Lazy Woman's Handbook''
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am independent and have painted houses, mowed lawns, installed retic systems and a whole lot of other things but I prefer to watch a man do it.... that's a turn on for me. Maybe why I work in a male dominated area and have a thing for hot tradies...Yum especially he's wearing a pair of well worn jeans and a tool belt and sporting a muscular tanned body... oh geez the vision is getting me all hot and bothered ... where's my phone, I need to call a friend! LOL SF
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RHP User
12 years ago
Independent women to be sexy, in a world of equal opportunities I've found some women to be more prepared to do things that were generally done by men only, now it's hard to find guys that'll even do some things, they either don't have the know how or are too lazy to have a try, if it's something I've done before and a lady mentions she has to do something I don't mind offering assistance but I'm not going to drop everything every time for a "damsel" in distress...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can't wait to find a woman to do all the heavy lifting. Seriously though, independence can be both a turn on and a turn off. I am crazy about self reliant women! Dependence is a terrible thing, mainly because I am really horribly lazy, irresponsible and impulsively wilful. I need you to be able to stand over there and walk alongside, as opposed to being carried. In saying that, I can't stand stubborn "I can do it myself" attitudes being expressed at every moment, which force me to stand powerless, watching as "they" do whatever it is incorrectly. Its simply stupid in my opinion. Sometimes independence should include independently choosing to learn from others. I'll happily learn from you. If you repeat an action ten thousand times you will become a master. If its the wrong action, well, good luck to you. RA
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'WildSong'Have I been getting the wrong advice? I got told some years ago by a very lovely friend that I needed to let men feel useful, so now I do! So, who's useful and where are they!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
No men are NOT intimidated by independent women. I am a very capable woman, renovating five houses single handed in my life time, worked in a make dominated industry, I just do things for myself. It never occurs to me to ask for help when it is something Ican do myself. What it does is make a man feel as if he is not needed. Men like to feel needed. When rhey dont feel needed it is aittle emasculating. Ask for help. Pretend you can not change that spark plug. It is also the way you ask as well. Don't say "can you" or "could you". Of course they can and could !!!! Try "will you" instead. It is a very hard thing to do to ask for help, especially when you have never asked before. Especially when life has conditioned you not to expect any help. - Posted from rhpmobile
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
Provided you don't mind me doing my bit in the kitchen, at the ironing board or any of the other house-hold chores to share the work. ET xox
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' I am in the process of writing ''The Lazy Woman's Handbook'' May I pre-order this please.
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RHP User
12 years ago
turn on x1000
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm the classic, strong-minded, independent stereotype and the main downside I've found so far is that I tend to attract dependent men, then leave them when I get tired of feeling like their mother (especially when the sex dries up!).
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RHP User
12 years ago
Absolutely! A woman who is independent and is not afraid to throw on the scruffies and get her hands dirty is very sexy indeed! Not to mention the bonus fun that can be had with such a woman. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have found that some men are intimated by me I have 4 young kids and its nothing to me to shove them in the 4wd and attach the campertrailer (haymen hitch) on my own (prob not a pretty site as its on top of a hill and I have to reverse as perfect as I can - then I straddle the trailer and push with my legs to line that perfect little hole up ... ) I can't help but always think of a guy saying I can't find the hole lol... I will arrive at my camping site then spend hours setting it all up ... My neighbours are used to seeing me on the roof cleaning gutters, mowing and whippersnippering (I show the men's lawns up lol) it's a sence of accomplishment to do it on my own ... Have to admit I called defeat at pushing the wheelbarrow up the driveway and over a bit of 2x4 I called on my old fb and I repaid him with my services and roast dinner lol .. (It did turn me on watching him come to my rescue lol) Good for you Jay Jay - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
The sexiest women of all are tomboys in a cocktail dress... but what worries me is the number of boys these days that can't change a tyre, how could they possibly service a complex machine like a woman :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
I assume you are referring to those of us women with spare tyres?We also enjoy a grease and oil change occasionally..and a jolly good waxing...and...well you get the drift.
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him_and_me
12 years ago
I'm practical, intelligent, creative and a lateral thinker and I can change a flat tyre on a car or a bike, I'm also happy to let Him take the bins out on Wednesday night and to deal with the compost! x Me
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's funny you say that. I was married to the most independent and capable woman I have ever met, but found it intriguing that when we moved in together, without discussion on the matter, I was relegated to the jobs of picking up the dog poo, mowing the lawn and taking the bins out. Beats me 😉
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RHP User
12 years ago
It goes back to my original comment. Just because I can doesn't mean I want to. My Ex's greatest complaint was that I didn't need him......I can do ANYTHING I set my mind to, including the physical stuff......I just choose not to. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Me too! 😄
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm terrible! I can change a tyre and do everything... I'm not scared to break a nail but I'm just not a very practical person. Hopeless!! Am good at making cups of tea and holding the ladder steady... And saying thank you soooo very fetchingly.
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him_and_me
12 years ago
Sometimes holding the ladder has benefits... And Kale that's right. I can but don't necessarily want to! (I love you, him. And you're just so much better at driving the wheelie bin than me ;-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Awesome, sometimes that's as independent as a woman NEEDS to be... hp xo 💌 In Melbourne for Xmas... wingman and playmate required... Sorry sold out...😎
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' Unicorn... How does Google tell you which tradies are better than others ? As opposed to the yellow pages or the trades section in your local paper... Or by asking at your local "tradies shop" ? Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it... Does anyone bother with the Yellow Pages anymore... all info worth finding is on the internet these days :P
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