How to start

December 26 2024

Hi guys, after some advice. We are early 40s married couple looking to spice things up. We want to start slow to make sure we are both comfortable before taking the plunge. After recommendations on whether to attend a club or meet select couples for dinner and drinks and see how it goes?
Any advice is welcomed

Comments

  • NatSquared

    NatSquared

    a month ago

    I'd suggest giving a club a try. We prefer private meetups ourselves, but it takes a lot longer, it puts more pressure on you, and you need to be firmer about your boundaries.

    I see you're in NSW, I can personally recommend Our Secret Spot, it's a well run place that offers a range of events including newbie nights and socials.

    Before doing anything make sure you talk about your boundaries and feelings first; I've seen a number of guys think they're chill then freak out when their wife goes down on another guy. Work out what you will and won't do while you're there, and don't be afraid to spend your first visit just meeting people or playing with each other.

  • Us4you

    Us4you

    a month ago

    Wow, this sounds exactly like us when we started. Not sure how to go about it but excited by the anticipation of it.. I would suggest making sure your partner is in 100% agreement first and then organising a meet and greet in a public area to see if you click and then take it from there , or go to a club where you do not have to participate if you do not feel like you want to, but can still watch and get an idea of the atmosphere and what goes on…. but take it at your own leisure and enjoy the ride , it certainly can be exhilarating and heaps of fun. I know we love it.  it probably wouldn’t hurt to work on your profile a little if you plan on meeting people on this site perhaps a profile photo and a validation so people know you are genuine…. just a suggestion.