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How to say "thanks but no thanks"?
February 21 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well, we're all grown ups. At least in theory. So, sure it's disappointing to get a "thanks but no thanks" message. If you want to take the sting out of it, maybe say what you've just said. Great to chat, but you're not what we want for intimacy. Who knows, maybe some of those could turn into friends that you would hate to have missed out on meeting. Even if nothing else. I think a message like that would be better than being ignored (no answer) or a blunt no thanks. It'll be interesting to see what the regulars say to this one. Cheers.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think that if a person has paid for membership and has taken the time to send you a message deserves a reply. If it is a crude message or a one liner...I just reply with a template reply. If I get a nice message but am not attracted to the person then I send this message..."Thanks for your message. I'm sorry, but you're not what I'm looking for. Good luck in your search and enjoy xox" I find that I get alot of messages back thanking me for my nice reply! In the end rejection hurts everyone...but it is up to how the individual takes it! Just always remember...as you have feelings...so does the other person on the other side of the message...no matter how great/bad their message is! Good luck! xFunlovingx
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Innercircle
14 years ago
Hi, we'd be happy to chat with you or even meet up, but we are not looking for any more play partners at this stage. Hi, thanks, but we have been inundated lately, and want to explor those friendships before we commit to any more. Hi, we are taking a break from the scene for a bit, so we aren't looking for anyone new for a bit.Hey, we are having trouble keeping up right now, so we might have to have a raincheck....and if they dont work...Hey, you guys are ugly, thanks but eewwwwww
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RHP User
14 years ago
The WORST thing you can do is not say anything......that is just rude.If you have approached someone then seen headshots that you dont find attractive for whatever reason just reply with a short message (not a massive putdown) that you do not wish to go any further at this stage....or sorry you are not really what we are looking for atm. At least they know where they are at with you guys and not just left hanging. Most people take it well and move on with no hard feelings.You need to see headshots asap when you are talking to someone too. Its way harder to say "no thanks" if you have exchanged 25 messages and think they are what you are looking for.......thats from experience.
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RHP User
14 years ago
You'd think people would get used to rejection around here wouldn't you? Plus, for many of us we're talking about a spur of the moment decision. How am I to know, for example, that I'm going to feel really horny on Wednesday fortnight at 10:00am? We've all got to appreciate that "sex" takes a bit of getting into. Sure there are days where I'm a dirty indiscriminate slut, but there are other moments where I'm very particular, and others still where I'm just not into it at all. All we can ever do is stay in tune with what our bodies tell us. This can mean that one minute you're thinking a particular contact is really going to answer your immediate needs, and other times, maybe not at all. At least so far as I'm concerned, it's a case of right place, right time, right opportunity.... so rejection, and the ability to say next, go hand in hand. Get used to it. Grow up, and resist the temptation to get annoyed when someone says no thanks, or no, not right now, thanks. As to the question, just say something like "Im looking for something in particular right now, and if my desires change, I like how easy going you are, so I'll let you know". Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' You guys are damn good with gentle let downs I'm impressedQuoting 'rockercouple80'Hey, you guys are ugly, thanks but eewwwwww This one inspires me with something particular to my profile "After connecting with you online, I've realised I really need to strengthen my celibacy"You think?Nah maybe I'll just stick to my usual Thank you for your email. I'm not wanting to take things further but I wish you well in your pursuits.Chilli xxAlways say please and thank you and wash your hands after.... This cracked me up. Love your work!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Cool, thanks for the tips everyone...There's some good ones in there rockercouple :)I think we want to keep it classy, esp in terms of respecting those who take the time to message us.Hahah though I have cut sick at some individuals who I will not name, who seem to have zero manners in their messages to us! Don't worry, no one here!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi as our profile names say’s were a Cute Pair Into Sex I guess it could be your dyslexia that thought we were a cute pair into Obese Pricks .... I now can see the confusion and must apologise for our inability to not be a little more precise. All The Best Maccas is that way --->
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RHP User
14 years ago
When i said I like a chunky malunky maybe I wasn't being clear about precisely which part of the male anatomy I'm referencing, pin dick. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
Chunky malunky? Isnt that a brand of jam? :D
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RHP User
14 years ago
shake it just the right way Meeks........it's man-jam shake it up and down, back up to it, shake shake shake, and lower yourself onto that big piece of chunky malunky
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RHP User
14 years ago
...I prefer to stay within my own species. | *shrugs*...although there are some hot looking aliens on Star Wars.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I feel you should not be afraid of disappointing someone. You'll start reminding me of my mother who is constantly worrying about offending people. And as such ties her self in an emotional knot.. if you feel you've been honest and polite, feel fine with what you've said. Of course someone who wants to meet up will feel a little disappointed on a knock back.. but hey.. that's life.Did I just mention my mother on a sex forum? Damn...
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RHP User
14 years ago
People gonna fall hard over the most diplomatic rejection message. . People gonna accept and move on without hurt over the most diplomatic unfavourable outcome. . Their interpretation about a choice they offered.
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RHP User
14 years ago
After receiving lots of these emails lol The best way people have broken it to me is just by being honest, there is no need to lie so just be polite about it and tell the truth :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' Did I just mention my mother on a sex forum? Damn... Personally, am just glad you didn't mention my mother...
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RHP User
14 years ago
any reply is better than none we all have feelings some people take no harder than others but what is worst is to lead some one on and tell them that you want to meet or you arewhat they are looking for only to back out when you try to meet they back out and dont reply to my msgs if you change your mind thats fine but a least let them know so they are not left wondering why or what has happend
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