How to ask your partner to become a swinger

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  FeistyFatty

  4 years ago

  Being here with a solo profile is probably not a wise start. There's alot of great Podcasts and Books out there on the lifestyle. Hubby and J both enjoyed The Ethical Slut. We never really had an "initial conversation" about non monogamy. There was definitely no need for one to convince the other. Our journey was very organic. A drunken threesome during schoolies week in 1997 and the opportunistic ones in the years after lead to us gravitating to swinging then an Open Marriage really easily. Communication is key.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Be open and honest. Talk about your sexual fantasies. His and yours. Couples in this lifestyle usually have strong bonds and trust. That’s different to enjoying sex with others. Use the trust and bond to talk about experimenting. Aim to emphasise that he is the one you love but you also have sexual fantasies that you would like him to share with you.

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  teamaj2

  4 years ago

  Every couples relationship is different and what evolved for us or with other couples may not turn out so well for you. Honesty , open real conversations about wish lists , fantasies and my number one piece of advice is - whatever your partners reaction is, be respectful, patient and understanding. I agree with the above comments that a committed couples relationship can thrive and grow within exploration. If a relationship is fractured , struggling with jealousies , insecurities it can destroy a relationship. Baby steps perhaps is probably how I would describe our journey . I knew from day one of Mr Js hopes for exploration. My reply was a definite- NO WAY. He was patient ( beyond belief ) , planted lots of seeds , it had me intrigued . It took 10 years to come to fruition. Totally worth the wait . Like your partner , I too had to get my head around that I was all he really needed. For us exploration was about both of us having amazing adventures and fun together . It deepened the bond we already had . Communication before , during and after attending parties or meeting others . Having boundaries that truly fit in with what you both are comfortable with and being open to discussing moving the goal posts of your boundaries in a respectful way . Good luck . Ax

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  TarzanJane

  3 years ago

  Get them really drunk

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