M68 F61
How things change...
August 10 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
Nope!Never been attracted to men much older then myself and as it stands Mr Sat is a tad younger then me.Before RHP,Ive always pretty much stuck with my own age group never straying more then say 3 years either side.What I am kinda fascinated with is I'd never thought myself attractive to anyone younger then my age group.Im sure many a woman my age on here has found the same thing.Since being here though my eyes have opened up to some rather hot possibilities!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have always been attracted to people my own age group. These days the age is more flexible but still not attracted to guys way younger than I am. I find more and more it is the spark, the conversation, the wit that maketh the man and not the age. I do appreciate the looks of a really well built man in his 20's or 30's but not sexually attracted...just the pervert coming out in me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Wonder if it isn't a generational thing...at least to some extent, and definitely the times they are a changin'. Back in my early to mid 20's I would have thought that a woman was well past my zone if she was 30 and would have been one of those things I didn't mention to my friends if it did (occasionally) happen. There was no such thing really as a "cougar" and women of say 40 that played with guys in that age group around 25 or so were still looked at with a jaded eye. | Today it's the done deal...which really, I think is a step in the right direction recognizing that people can connect on a lot of different levels in spite of or regardless of age. There are some versions of this that don't fall in that category of course...but those kinds of exceptions to the acceptable have always been around. | ...damn, what's going to happen when Gen Z shows up.
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RHP User
14 years ago
When i was in my twenties, the though of having sex with someone over 40 was not something i would have never considered!!!! Now that I am in my thirties, and having experienced the delights of an older man, im glad I had the sense to broaden my horizons. Just like our tastes in food, clothes, music and the like, our sexual preference changes over time too. Age is just a number (within reason!!!!!), im more interested in the person!!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
as long as it isn't against the law or predatory then it is all good. haven't had a cougar experience but would love to try sometime . sure there is plenty i could learn
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Mr_MrsJones
14 years ago
As a young person I would be constantly making rash statements like "I will NEVER have sex with someone who is fat and old." Then of course I went and had a three year relationship with a man who was reasonably overweight and considerably older than me (although most of that was the way he acted.) As I get older I live more and more by the adage, Never say Never and always try everything at least once. So I am like Mrs CC it isn't about the age, it is more about the person themselves.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've always found that partners have been a minimum of four years older than me, but close friends and playmates vary in a range of around 35years. It is all in the attitude; that twinkle in the eye.
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RHP User
14 years ago
My ex husband is nearly 11 years my junior. My current partner is 50 but doesn't look it. Prefer to play with the over 30's as they have a better understanding of BDSM.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I just find the closer someone is to my age - or even beyond it - the easier it is to relate. Of course, there are exceptions..
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RHP User
14 years ago
I hope JJ will forgive me, I don't mean to hijack this topic but it seems an opportune time to ask the ladies; what happens to a man at 45? Being a couple of years over that mark myself and as one that likes to respect the criteria stated in women's profiles, I do notice that the vast majority of women have set the cut off mark at 45 and wonder why. I don't remember anything falling off or decaying when I woke on my 46th birthday so is it an arbitrary number, or maybe just a 'safe' number (if I say 45 then I won't get anyone over 50)? I do understand that for many there are ages that appeal and ages that don't. 45 is as good as any (I'm not even going to ask about those that set it at an even more random 43 or 27) but I wonder if its just fashionable in some way (most other women have set it there so I will). I must say, had I noticed before I joined, I may well have been tempted to get to work of my birth certificate with the tipex!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
In my teens the idea of an "older man" was always my fantasy. as they say girls do mature faster than the boys and in my case, faster than the other girls too, especially physically and it can not help but make you more sexually aware. Admitedly at the age of 16 I thought an older man was 20!! Ahh youth :) Andrew is 36...4 years is nothing at all and I don't see that as an age difference at all. I wonder, Mrs JJ, are you finding yourself more attracted to younger men because they are the ones that pay you attention? I was never particularly interested in younger men, and when I found I was I freaked out completely because I realised that means I am getting old!!! Once upon a time younger than I was the difference betweenn a boy and a man....now there is such a thing as a young man....oh dear :P I guess as half of a couple, I do wonder how Andrew feels about it. How would I feel if some young perky thing was vying for his attention?? Hmmmmm....Nope........did not have to think for long, I would be thrilled, because then he would care less about what I was up to hehe ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Was having a general chat a few days back, when Mrs JJ pops up and says... Funny' when I was young I was attracted to older guys' but now Im more mature I like younger guys...A certain amount of that is simply due to the fact that Mrs JJ has aged. If when she was 20 and saw a 30 year old man that she liked, he was older. If (due to the powers of time travel) she saw the same 30 year old man when she was 40, he was younger but still just as attractive. Same dude, right? It's just her perspective that changed...
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think you nailed it in one. Getting attention from the younger set probably makes you more aware. Working in retail, makes me a sitting duck sometimes but you have to take the good with the bad. There are just as many older and married guys who make pass's as there is younger guys.. Dont get me wrong, nothing wrong with Mr JJ.. but attention from a attractive young male is nice..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Noted
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mrpollux' I hope JJ will forgive me, I don't mean to hijack this topic but it seems an opportune time to ask the ladies; what happens to a man at 45? Being a couple of years over that mark myself and as one that likes to respect the criteria stated in women's profiles, I do notice that the vast majority of women have set the cut off mark at 45 and wonder why. I don't remember anything falling off or decaying when I woke on my 46th birthday so is it an arbitrary number, or maybe just a 'safe' number (if I say 45 then I won't get anyone over 50)? I do understand that for many there are ages that appeal and ages that don't. 45 is as good as any (I'm not even going to ask about those that set it at an even more random 43 or 27) but I wonder if its just fashionable in some way (most other women have set it there so I will). I must say, had I noticed before I joined, I may well have been tempted to get to work of my birth certificate with the tipex!! I don't know what happens at 45 but I do know that by then a lot of blokes have started to show signs of wear and tear. Their complexion is weathered, the gut has started to spill over the jeans and they think that doing it "doggy style" is a bit kinky. They spend much of their leisure time in sedentary pursuits like fishing and watching footy and their social life is limited to one night a week at the pub or when one of their mates has a barbeque. Going out for a nice meal means going no further than the local football or RSL club. At home they don't cuddle with you on the lounge because they prefer their favourite chair which points straight at the TV. They will never admit to anyone that they met you via online dating. They have no motivation in sprucing up and meeting lots of women for casual sex, they just want to find "the one". By 45 these guys are too set in their ways to know how to live.Some guys have kept their physique or got rid of the belly and keep themselves looking good for their age. They know what BDSM stands for and will happily tie themselves in knots to try a new position. Their leisure time is spent actively participating in the stuff the other guys only watch on the telly and their social life is full and active. When they ask you out for dinner you know you have to get out your best outfit and nicest shoes and hosiery. They don't cuddle much on the lounge as they are too busy fucking you on it or on the coffee table. They recommend online dating as a fun way to meet girls. They are happy to meet any number of women for fun and if they meet someone they want to stay with so much the better. By 45 these guys have realised the best way to live.I know who I would want to meet.And I did! Sexy and still young at 50!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'MistressT' I don't know what happens at 45 but I do know that by then a lot of blokes have started to show signs of wear and tear. Their complexion is weathered, the gut has started to spill over the jeans and they think that doing it "doggy style" is a bit kinky. They spend much of their leisure time in sedentary pursuits like fishing and watching footy and their social life is limited to one night a week at the pub or when one of their mates has a barbeque. Going out for a nice meal means going no further than the local football or RSL club. At home they don't cuddle with you on the lounge because they prefer their favourite chair which points straight at the TV. They will never admit to anyone that they met you via online dating. They have no motivation in sprucing up and meeting lots of women for casual sex, they just want to find "the one". By 45 these guys are too set in their ways to know how to live. Some guys have kept their physique or got rid of the belly and keep themselves looking good for their age. They know what BDSM stands for and will happily tie themselves in knots to try a new position. Their leisure time is spent actively participating in the stuff the other guys only watch on the telly and their social life is full and active. When they ask you out for dinner you know you have to get out your best outfit and nicest shoes and hosiery. They don't cuddle much on the lounge as they are too busy fucking you on it or on the coffee table. They recommend online dating as a fun way to meet girls. They are happy to meet any number of women for fun and if they meet someone they want to stay with so much the better. By 45 these guys have realised the best way to live. I know who I would want to meet. And I did! Sexy and still young at 50! Thanks for your input Mistress. I must admit that there were a few years in my early forties where I could no longer play sport the way I used to, I was in a dull relationship where we hardly looked at each other and I think I vegetated for a while so I understand your comments. Maybe having a younger partner has kept me on my toes in more ways that just physically. Sitting in front of the tv is way down on my list of things to do; I want to live my life to the full in every way but I can understand that there is a generalisation about men of my age and that a lot of women may not want to be invited out on a date where an afternoon siesta is an obligatory diversion from pruning the roses rather than a post coital necessity!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mrpollux' Quoting 'MistressT' Thanks for your input Mistress. I must admit that there were a few years in my early forties where I could no longer play sport the way I used to, I was in a dull relationship where we hardly looked at each other and I think I vegetated for a while so I understand your comments. Maybe having a younger partner has kept me on my toes in more ways that just physically. Sitting in front of the tv is way down on my list of things to do; I want to live my life to the full in every way but I can understand that there is a generalisation about men of my age and that a lot of women may not want to be invited out on a date where an afternoon siesta is an obligatory diversion from pruning the roses rather than a post coital necessity! In between working, racing cars, boating, and fitting in the occasional flight in the microlight my partner has shown me that just because you are getting older doesn't mean you have to stop having fun. Post coital siestas? No Way. More like "lets do that again!"
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RHP User
14 years ago
...as by the time you are 45, you should have mastered the Jedi art of sleeping with your eyes open whilst a female is speaking to you. Darwin...survival of the fittest and the ability to adapt. | Quoting 'MistressT'Post coital siestas? No Way. More like "lets do that again!" | That way you can look like you are awake and interested when they are telling you all that stuff about their mother and the sale at David Jones and what went on with the neighbors...you catch a couple of hours a day napping then when it comes time to play you're a legend. | I'm now going for my Jedi Master's degree...it is written in the great Book of Relationships and Great Sex that once you have mastered the first...you will ultimately be able to eat dinner whilst asleep too. | Growing old is not painful...you just have to take it seriously to succeed.
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RHP User
14 years ago
21yo male vs Milf = ok for a long deep and meaningful one night stand. 21yo male vs Milf long term = raised eyebrows. 21yo female vs 40yo Man = fine and has been forever. 21 yo female vs 40yo Man long term = perhaps eventual mismatch but less raised eyebrows.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...as by the time you are 45, you should have mastered the Jedi art of sleeping with your eyes open whilst a female is speaking to you. Darwin...survival of the fittest and the ability to adapt. | Quoting 'MistressT'Post coital siestas? No Way. More like "lets do that again!" | That way you can look like you are awake and interested when they are telling you all that stuff about their mother and the sale at David Jones and what went on with the neighbors...you catch a couple of hours a day napping then when it comes time to play you're a legend. | I'm now going for my Jedi Master's degree...it is written in the great Book of Relationships and Great Sex that once you have mastered the first...you will ultimately be able to eat dinner whilst asleep too. | Growing old is not painful...you just have to take it seriously to succeed. Who talks about sales and mothers? More like what size turbo or which set of injectors are best to modify the car with. Or what will we get up to in the dungeon tonight? What shall we try next? All the time we are planning which weekend we can take the boat or the microlight out.Growing old is not painful but why take it seriously? Grow old disgracfully! Adventure before dementia!
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