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How many chances do you give a guy ???
October 20 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
One chance.......... that's it well unless their dog died or something. As you say too many men so little time. So don't waste time on time wasters. Jeez can I get any more clichés in there?? LOLNEXT!xxMeeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
It depends on the excuse they may come up with. I have really only had two guys cancel on me in the 18 months I have been on RHP. Both cancelled a few days before the meeting and neither had the oportunity to do so again. I guess everyone has the right to a second chance. There are times when I may need to cancel at the last minute. There are times when we all need to. Illness and family crisis are things we can not plan after all. I would certainly leave the next move up to the man in question. If he contacted me first then maybe his excuse was actually genuine. I dont know about a man necessarily having to be grateful that we gave them the time of day. Unfortunate choice of words I feel as it really is a two way thing and the wording is a little princess-ish for me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
As a very busy professional, it takes a lot to juggle, work, uni, kids etc and arrange a time and as I make sure for business meetings, I am on time to any arrangement I make to meet, even if its just for coffee. I give the guy 15 mins, half hr max and have had 2 guys stand me up. They dont get another chance and are blocked as I could have been meeting soneone else who deserved better attention. It is just rude and you would not do that to your bank manager or lawyer now would you...? If a guy messages me earlier and says there is a clash, I am happy to re-arrange the time/venue as that has happenned to me on occasion.
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RHP User
14 years ago
screams 'married' to me. Tread carefully... It may be more about what you're getting into than about giving second chances.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we give them one........ if they cancel its game over.... we wont be mucked around....and nobody has yet impressed either of us enough to relax that at all............
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RHP User
14 years ago
If he is being evasive and your gut feeling is telling you something is up then move on down your friends list.Plenty of hot guys out there and lifes too short to waste time on a time waster. Boring
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RHP User
14 years ago
As I'm guilty of this too (and definitely NOT married) just have a busy work schedule.. so I give them two chances....though its definitely 3 strikes and thier out.... xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
btw What are the member stats for RHP? I always figured there were more guys on here which would make sense of the sentiment that the blokes should be grateful for the attention of a genuine woman. If it's stacked the other way then the women will have to compete for the scarcer resource - something I doubt will ever happen.
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RHP User
14 years ago
This is bugging me. Call it the wrong time of the month, call it being just plain persnicketty...whatever...I dont care l BUT l Why the hell should a man be GRATEFULL for the attention given to him by a woman? l Is to me, this an unfortunate choice of words. Can we not try for terms such as .... more appreciative perhaps? I dont like the idea of anyone being grateful for anybodies attention. It smacks of superiority.
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RHP User
14 years ago
However many chances you want as a woman
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RHP User
14 years ago
The question is worded towards women and I would figure that one chance is very understandable and two chances is very understanding. Three chances would be too many in my opinion.As a guy, there are absolutely be two chances - maybe perhaps three if my warning bells aren't ringing, but my warning bells do ring fairly often in life and I tend to listen to them.When you're walking down the street and you hear bells ringing from the crotch of a guy's pants, yep that's me.I think "irresponsibility" really has it in one though (and I'm not just saying that because of her spectacular smile) when she said:"Last minute cancellation screams 'married' to me."
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sorry my error.......100 Men to every 1 Women and yes maybe wrong choice of words in saying they should be grateful but I'm just getting sick of chatting to men who are keen and then they cancel the night of the meet. No more chances with me.....Ive had enough !!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Angel_Dreams I understand excatly what you are trying to say. There is NO excuse for standing someone up, have the manners to at least txt and say you wont be able to make it, to me thats just comman human decency!!! I have had to cancel meets in the past because of family issues but I alway make sure I let the person know that I wont be able to make it. As for a hard and fast rule on how many chances - I dont think there is one!!! Follow your intution and you can never go wrong!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'One chance.......... that's it well unless their dog died or something. As you say too many men so little time. So don't waste time on time wasters. Jeez can I get any more clichés in there?? LOLNEXT!xxMeeka What about 'Take things one day at a time" . . This thread is awesome... not so much for the content (for the record... I'd give him one chance, but if you like the thought of constantly getting yourself ready and excited about a date and then watching tv alone sorrounded by your cats, maybe give him a couple.) . Oh back to the thread awesomeness.... have you seen how many yummy breasts, bottoms and smiles are in here? Makes me just want to roll around in it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The majority of men from this site that have stood us up have done so with not so much as a message saying they couldn't make it. If they let us know they couldn't make it with some notice at least, we could then at least make other arrangements for the night. But out of the 21 guys that have stood us up, only one actually let us know that they couldn't make it.No second chances for those guys that don't even bother to let us know.
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RHP User
14 years ago
LoL @ Jean the pervert, i never thought of looking at profile pics to judge the content of a thread, 10 points.as for the chances,we are usually the culprit, work, uni, child, family.then again, we sort our play meets one month ahead in order to prevent it from happening,sometimes (birthdays) we get caught out, so a good excuse is a second chance,a lame one, is not.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Everyone may deserve a second chance.... But Opportunity is a funny thing....You will Always Miss 100% of the Shots....that You Never Take
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'irresponsibility' screams 'married' to me. Tread carefully... It may be more about what you're getting into than about giving second chances. That's a fairly narrow view to take. Life does get in the way sometimes, and there's nothing anybody can do about it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It depends on if the two people are really connecting and getting along well. Sometimes something really does come up to prevent them from getting together, but if a rapport is made, and a level of trust is built up, then it really may be worth it to give him a second chance! But if he blows that.... Bad luck! He doesn't deserve you!!!!Always remember ladies..... Not ALL MEN are a##holes! There are some of us who are decent human beings!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey Angel_dreams, We hear exactly what ur getting at, We have had nothing but time wasters and fakes lately, getting really sick of it, so now its 1 chance and your out, then move on if they screw it up. cheers
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