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How hard is it

September 21 2011

We are a 40 year old couple looking for a attractive, fit male who has the goods so to speak for a 3some. (never done this before)Anyway, my wife was a virgin when we met, butter would not melt in her mouth, prim, proper an all that.I had a guy interested, said the right things in response to my AD etc and we chatted and i passed her number onto him, they chatted for about a week, then he dissappears when she asks for a photo. She was a little put off as it was a big step for her to even chat with another male.any way 1 week later i find another guy, he is upfront and sends pics etc, she likes the look of him and i give hime her number, they chat for a week every night, she even sent some nude pics of herself, she has never had a nude photo taken in her life, so she was really stepping out of her comfort zone. He says all the right things etc, then she says about meeting up, she doesn't hear anything, then he sends a filthy video to her and starts using very degrading sexual language. It was like he scored and now the true colours come out. How hard is it for a guy to be a gentlemen and treat women with respect, he was in, but had to be a dickhead.So it has really set her back and i don't think she could let herself go like that again.rant over.....

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RHP User

14 years ago

is that you have no pics up. YOu have to sell yourself. No one wants what they can't see. Keep trying guys, don't give up. This is a shallow game, at least say in your profile that pics are avail, i understand that not all of us can put one up.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I think thats pretty bad behaviour from these guys, and I am not sure why they'd do that.I've had propositions in the past from couples seeking a third, and unfortunately acouple of times I was not able to oblige them (in one case my dinner dates were on their way, and in the other I'd have had a hard time explaining to my mates why I was bailing)...In all cases though, it is a bit of a privelige to be asked, and should only be met with a "thanks I'd love to" or "sorry I can't".How hard is it for people not to be asshats?Oh and good luck in future, hope it works out!

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erotictouch4u

14 years ago

That's the thing. It is partly a game of chance, not knowing how brave people are on the other side of a computer screen or phone and how timid they become when faced with the possibility of realising their secret desires. Keep trying and one day someone will come along, fullfilling your wants and not be too shy or too crass and you will have a wonderful time. ET xox

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RHP User

14 years ago

It's just luck of the draw, you struck a couple of dickheads. There are HEAPS of decent guys on here who are more than willing to be polite and friendly and show you a great time, don't let those 2 ruin your fun. Unfortunately, without putting pics up your options are a little more limited. Sorry, but it's true. There are plenty of things you can show that won't identify you and you don't have to be undressed.Best of luck to youxx Sarah

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RHP User

14 years ago

You really need to put some pics up. Even if you blur your faces (like we have done for privacy). People do like to window shop and at least then people will see what you guys look like.There are indeed plenty of nice guys out here, and yes plenty of losers too, so bear with it, don't be put off but a few bad eggs, and try again.Best of luck xx

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RHP User

14 years ago

That you the male organise this for her. Insist that the guys: 1/ Photos ....nothing less don't even talk if they cant do that. 2/ You talk to them not your wife 3/ It is not necessary to give the guys photos of your wife, if they ask straight away forget them but you can towards the end if all else stacks up. 4/ You lay down safe sex etc, where not to go. 5/ Tell them evenings only...dinner first in a public place so you both can bail out if you want. 6/Insist they pay their way including sharing accommodation costs....and tell them to take jump with cheap motels! 7/Show your wife profiles and messages of 3-4 that stack up and let her then decide which one or two and you talk to them and then reconfirm with your wife she is still happy with her choice or she wants you to look further. I will not expose my wife to all the time wasters / b/s artists out there! When you get to play if they get a bit rough don't be afraid to tell them stop....last thing you want is your wife to have memories how sore she was for days after! We tell them we don't want to talk on MSN and phone every night, one phone call and a couple messages, for us we don't want to be friends (we don't be so rude and tell them that) But couples different story very different approach.

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RHP User

14 years ago

the real truth is that you dont need photos. as a couple you should be receiving a huge number of responses, but be aware that a huge majority of the guys will be wankers and timewasters...........do as JUSTENOUGH suggest... and you cant go wrong........ stay in control and understand that its you two who make the rules, and you two who set things up......if the guy baulks....piss him off.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Thats pretty harsh mikeandshel....but sadly true.We find pictures increase the volume of messages/flirts but the results are still the same. Many guys enjoy the chace but when it comes time to man up and meet most got to water and just dissapear. We had three guys pull out last week alone, they choose the day and time......get used to it.Having said that there are good ones out there, if you lived local we could pass on a couple you might like.

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RHP User

14 years ago

hi guys yeah im a single guy and have had sum fun with a couple of couples and both times the gents have spoken to me also so i rekon thats a good start , i also noticed that alot of ppeps are alltalk so that also gets us genuine guys a bit pissed so if ur serious let them know straight up ur intentions and what u wxpect from them and always start by havinga few drinks it certainly makes it alot more relaxed Scott

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newyboy70

14 years ago

I have even resorted to looking for a male escort.At least you know they will show.Yes previously booked a motel room and had a no show (waste of money).The real bad part is that she is the most conservative thing you could meet and she stepped out into the world and this has really set her back confidence wise.Poor guys don't know what they missed out on, she is a stunner.Thanks everyone for the replies.PS: as for pictures, no way in the world would she ever let that happen.

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RHP User

14 years ago

No pics, no fun Are you into this more than her? I have to ask how keen she is and who is driving this little adventure?

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RHP User

14 years ago

That does not surprise us....Its not as it seems in the swinging world. Good on you both! Quoting 'newyboy70' I have even resorted to looking for a male escort.At least you know they will show.Yes previously booked a motel room and had a no show (waste of money).The real bad part is that she is the most conservative thing you could meet and she stepped out into the world and this has really set her back confidence wise.Poor guys don't know what they missed out on, she is a stunner.Thanks everyone for the replies.PS: as for pictures, no way in the world would she ever let that happen.

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RHP User

14 years ago

WINDOW SHOPPING ?????????????? NO ONE IS FOR SALE

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RHP User

14 years ago

but do you want someone who has been there done that and are disconnected from the whole thing? and just looking for the cash at the end? or would you rather someone who was keen to meet and interested in everything that happens? he should pay you, not the other way round.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Really great advice above esp 'justenough'. And watch out for parasitic dick- wads like the twerps you encountered. Just to think some poor woman is most likely end up being a partner to one of those scumbags one day. Now that's an unsettling thought. Good luck.

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contemplating1

14 years ago

There is some thoughtful advice above. Pity though, some seem to get there jollies here by just being (insert expletive) Makes it frustrating for the decent people, who get disillusioned, and also genuine peopel who are trying to make contact. G'luck out there!

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RHP User

14 years ago

I cant believe that they guys would do that, if your anywhere near kirribilli give me a shout

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RHP User

14 years ago

Don't give up as there are some really wonderful sexy single guys out there...it's just a matter of sifting through and you will eventually hit the jackpot. We have a few select guys that we have threesome's with from time to time...and I say only a few because there are so many complete wankers we have had to knock back. If I like the guy's profile or message I will encourage Mr V to do most of the communicating before initial contact. Our guys always books us a nice room somewhere...lets face it the atmosphere isn't quite right at the local Formula1 I do agree with the other's saying put some pics up. Even if you keep them in your PG like us you can be very selective about who you open your gallery up to. But no way do you need to be hiring someone...sure they are going to be skilled in all the right moves at the right moments but it's staged. There are plenty of sexy sngle guy's on RHP, just keep looking and it will happen. Your wife is going to go off in a big way...can we watch?

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