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How do you pitch a party?

May 10 2011

Salina and I have run some parties in the past. The last one we did we didn't enjoy as much as the hosts. It could have been the rain, the place, the people. But it turned us off for a while. The problem is your trying to do so much with very little knowedge of the people you invite. Our biggest thing is for out events is meet, great, eat and play as a bonus. The biggest misconception is that she and I are all about 'the sex' We are "sex people" We have always offered newbies to come to our Saturday lunches to suss us all out. We have always tried to promate the sort of party you would have with your best mates with the sex bits added. Anyway it's seems that the people who are into the friendship type of thing never really hang around the scene that much. Or you've got your hardcore swingers who think talking us just abit too much bother. So as I sit here on the train to work, in a carridge full of nuns thinking. Is there a happy medium of friendship, wine tasting, shared interests and sex. Or is that just expecting too much? Andy

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RHP User

15 years ago

....a carrige full of Nuns.....that would be an fun Saturday lunch. :)

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15 years ago

Justice is indeed a sweet incentive, when you are prepared to stand on your digs, We penned a little offiical and very legal note to my snoopy work colleague expressing my deep concern about how his actions had threatened not only my career but also may have cast some sort of shadow over my reputation in my workplace. Im sure the smile ive got on my dial has not diminished since i popped into the office a little early today to find in an email to me that my little holier than thou peeping tom has unexpectedly resigned. Cootar is a very happy chappy

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RHP User

15 years ago

welcome to the lifestyle...lol

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15 years ago

Hi Andy (& Sal) We normally don't reply to forum posts for our own reasons, but we hear a cry for help & we are here, we have been where you guys are at & hosted our first party 8 years ago. There was a lot to learn from that one & everyone since & to be totally hoest we have found the happy medium that you seek. While we are happy to share all this with you guys we feel it better not to lay it all out in a public forum as we learnt a long time a go you can only please some of the people some of the time & that is part of your problem that you are reffering to. If you guys are keen to learn more then let us know & we will be happy to give you the advice you are seeking, outherwise its the trial & error path that lies in front of you. Nawtyandnice

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RHP User

15 years ago

<<<Leesa xx

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15 years ago

One thing i can say is....if you host a party dont do it for YOU to play, do it because you love the lifestyle and want to see people enjoy the party. A swingers party is not about the hosts getting rocks off it is about giving people a place to experience the lifestyle. We DONT ever play at our club or any parties we have hosted, our whole purpose is for our patrons not about us. We choose private times to play if we choose too.THat is what works for us and always has. We find looking out for our patrons the best way to host a party and we come last.Not about US , it is about the lifestyle for US.xxxxxxxxxxLeesa

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RHP User

15 years ago

My partner and I hold BDSM parties because we love the lifestyle and like being hosts. We rarely play with each other at parties but occasionally play with others. Sooner or later you may find that you get some regular patrons that become good friends that you can play privately with.

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15 years ago

I wouldn't like to think it's too much to expect. However I've never attended a party and so I have nothing to base my own expectations of what one should be on. In saying that, were I to attend one, I'd rather like your idea a lot more than a lot of others I have heard of in my time on RHP. . I think a relaxed, casual and social environment, with friendly people and play as a bonus, rather than an expectation would be a nice, no-pressure introduction to the scene. . I sat next to a couple of buddhist monks on a plane last night ... Funnily enough, I was too busy being fascinated by their obvious iPhone addiction than what might have lay beneath their robes

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15 years ago

Well we went to a party the other week and i must say it was a huge let down for alot of reasons,but we are straight forward and told them and we left. maybe because it was the fisrt they had held in sydney but we were hoping for more poeple to be there, nothing against the party hosts but we like our parties to be big and full of life.

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RHP User

15 years ago

If you do attend parties that there are not too many there, just remember that they went out of their way to host the party and probably spent a lot of time preparing the event, as no one usually books for parties it is hard to gauge how many are coming. But in the end of the day...IT ONLY TAKES 3 PEOPLE TO MAKE SWINGERS...lol

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15 years ago

We went to a house party hosted by "loseurselfinus " whilst in Brissy on our Chrissy hols, and it was an amazing party....best we have ever been to. Everyone seemed to get on well, and everyone certainly looked to be enjoying themselves. I guess it all comes down to who you invite to the party....Well done guys, and hope there is more next time we come to Brissy....

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