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How do you detect a person is single?
March 22 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Cant wait to find out what the single signals are. As for believing what is written in profiles....NUP A smidgen may be true, but the rest, not (except for mine of course :))
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have been caught out on this one a couple of times... Men who portray themselves as single and they are not... Found out when the wife made contact !!!!These days if he can't chat after 5pm or if he can't give a mobile number that he can answer at night or he can't meet at night .. the warning bells start ringing ..Finally a girl has to follow that gut instinct... If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck.. then its a duck !
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RHP User
15 years ago
we find that asking to chat after 8pm sorts out the attached from the singles.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xxticklishxx' Cant wait to find out what the single signals are. As for believing what is written in profiles....NUP A smidgen may be true, but the rest, not (except for mine of course :)) Everything in my profile is true!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mine is easy as it says attatched / but i am single and married but defacto was engaged but that changed when i got married but after i married i became seperated and then defacto and divorced but stayed defacto ahhhh fuck I dont know what the fuck I am
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know I have been caught out a couple of times by so called "single " guys....it is a hard one. In general, I would like to belive what is written in profile, in reality there is always a doubt. . I have found that * guys who can only meet during the day, *always busy on weekends and cant catch up, *wont meet locally, *no interest in dinner etc, *suddenly tell you they are off on holidays, (never having mentioned it before) *all talk and no action, *only want to chat & see pics, * "travel" for work a lot, * dont ask what you like for breakfast * never invite you to their home * wont let you kiss them till they are undressed (cant have any lippy on the collar now can they....lol) * no pics on site, even in the private gallery . ....usually indicates they are attached in some way where they dont want to be found out. Now I do realise some of what I have said is fairly general.....but if there as least 2 or more of the above then I am not going to allow myself to be disappointed, no matter how tempting.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'us2pierced'we find that asking to chat after 8pm sorts out the attached from the singles. Thank you lovely people, great advice....ducks everywhere lol wow adore your quote wow lol xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
and that is because the younger kids in my care go to bed then and they need me before hand so the time has nothing to do with it. Many married men have wives that work night shift anyway. I find that given time things start to not add up. If I was to meet a random stranger who was from another state / city then it would be difficult yes but I dont really do the random sex thing anyway. I prefer to get to know my victims first. They will need to be very accomplished at lying to get past my interrogation techniques for long. lol.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'rcflyer69' Quoting 'xxticklishxx' Cant wait to find out what the single signals are. As for believing what is written in profiles....NUP A smidgen may be true, but the rest, not (except for mine of course :)) Everything in my profile is true! Then you must be a smidgen
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RHP User
15 years ago
I find the general signs are what time shall i come your place. Mind you some of the time they ask that question cause housemates but alot time is because family home. Awww poor wowwow you confused male....You even confused me ffs Kunti xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Call me a little old fashioned but ask them straight up in person. If they stumble they are attached if not you are right to go.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Wow ! You girls really are screwed up,aren't you ? What a gross set of assumptions and inaccurate statements you make here !!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
id never do a married/attached man on purpose but sometimes you just cant tell i can be contacted at most times...but after 8.30 is best, because of the kids, at other times il fob a man off i wont have men in my house...i always pay with cash if im paying for the room, rarely use my card i even wear a wedding ring...not mine it belongs to my nan, but they dont know that lol i can only meet at certain times, or if im given a lot of notice then sometimes i can meet ay a different time but im as single as they come...so i have no idea at all all i do is listen carefully and pick them up if something they say doesnt make sense sometimes it takes a while...time i dont care to waste personally lol but they will screw up sooner or later...you just have to hope its sooner roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I believed someone for 6 months! No more of that. Now if they can't or don't want to prove they are single then they most likely aren't. I usually put that in my first or second email. It's incredible how many men suddenly stop writing back. . An invitation to their home is good. I know many folks with young uns don't like to do that for good reason, and women for safety reasons, but a quick tour of the wardrobe and the bathroom can help put a mind at rest. Stalkerbook is my fave single-meter. You don't even have to become friends. Just ask them to ensure their profile is not restricted and then you can browse away - photos, friends, wall, relationship status. They can make it private again once you have finished stalking. . If he is staying at a friend's house and is not on Stalkerbook then he is in a relationship. . A single man will be happy to prove he is single.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yep Stalkerbook is good. It is pretty easy to find out thier real name. Most will give it to you. I am more relaxed now but when I first started on line I even went to the electoral office...just to make sure he was who he said he was. This only works within the state you currently reside in though and the information is free.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Other potential red flags:I can only see you at short notice. I am a single dad. I live in the country and commute to the city for work. (My wife is at home minding the kids and running the household/farm, whilst I play up with rhp city females on my way home to her).
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Debrouillard' Wow ! You girls really are screwed up,aren't you ? What a gross set of assumptions and inaccurate statements you make here !!!Most of us girls appear to have had this done to us Debrouillard and are not making assumptions but stating the facts as we have discovered due to lying married men. If you are single then you have nothing to worry out and if these things are the case in your 'single man life' then you can explain it very easily. Don't forget just because you are honest that means all the other men are too !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
* cant/wont meet you socially somewhere first - or if they do its is well away from their local area * NEVER stay overnight * 'text me first so I can call you - I might be busy' * they bring toiletries and insist on a shower after a short play session (and this includes their own soap) - cant go home smelling differently now can we? . These are just a few other precautions that those who have been openly playing without their partners knowledge have told me they do. . Hope it helps < Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Debrouillard'Wow ! You girls really are screwed up,aren't you ? What a gross set of assumptions and inaccurate statements you make here !!! I have a few female friends on here, and the all of the posts here are spot on. A single guy can answer and talk most times,and is happy for you to call and text anytime. If they are not, it means something is not right A very Single..Maxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
on here i stick with if he has no pics if he has ask me in the relationship status if he wont show me a pic straight up plus i always ask straight out now if he cant do any of that....NEXT roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Geeze ty everyone. My eyes are certainly wide open now. Some of the things above I have never thought of. This IS based on the facts. I did get conned by a guy, not from this site, it was another site. I adore this site FYI. After a couple of weeks of really lovely dating, yes I know that's rare!!! His guilt got the better of him. He fessed up oh and during a very romantic dinner..mmm awkward. I felt sorry for his wife and child. It was the feeling of being "had" that really disappointed me. This was a site where both pay $ so I thought I would give it a go. I thought when all parties paid perhaps there would be a chance of meeting people who deserve my time. Wrong! Oh must look out for the manbag OMG, thanks Focus oh and those ducks, thanks Sassy mwahs. I should have put this in Secret Womens Business although would have liked to hear from Positive fellows out there on the subject. Or am I fool, the guys don't have this issue..do they? They love married women and women who are attached and the singles...they have it all. It's a moral issue for single femailes seeking single men. I just don't want that conned feeling to happen ever again or anyone else. xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Your comments are either extremely naive or you are stirring the pot... "Wow ! You girls really are screwed up,aren't you ? What a gross set of assumptions and inaccurate statements you make here !!! " I think you may find that 99.9% of the women who have commented here are not screwed up.... ...more likely we have been screwed over by men claiming to be single just to get a screw. . What you call a gross set of assumptions and inaccurate statements are truths that we have individually discovered. You may be a genuine guy and find it hard to believe that men can be so "devious." . One point I do find very interesting...BlackStiletoes asked the question "How on earth do you really know if a person is SINGLE?and the advice to date has been how to suss out if men are single. . Is that because guys really dont care if women are single or not?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'BlackStilettoes' Or am I fool, the guys don't have this issue..do they? They love married women and women who are attached and the singles...they have it all. It's a moral issue for single femailes seeking single men. I just don't want that conned feeling to happen ever again or anyone else. xxx I can't speak for other guys, but it's definatley a moral issue for me and I'd be pissed off to be told that a woman was married/attached when she'd said she was single.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thank you Andra for your view. Really glad you wrote. I shouldn't generalise although speaking from experience. xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'BlackStilettoes' Or am I fool, the guys don't have this issue..do they? They love married women and women who are attached and the singles...they have it all. It's a moral issue for single femailes seeking single men. I just don't want that conned feeling to happen ever again or anyone else. xxx A little off the mark there....I WILL NOT EVER play with anyone who is married/attached, and likewise if I'm attached (not gonna be married again.....for a while, anyway :)) then I'm off the market.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Married men put the toilet seat down.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'wowwow09' Mine is easy as it says attatched / but i am single and married but defacto was engaged but that changed when i got married but after i married i became seperated and then defacto and divorced but stayed defacto ahhhh fuck I dont know what the fuck I am lol sounds like you have ticked every box!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I guess because a woman (and yes I know she is really a woman...lol...gotta love drinks nights) asked I assumed she was asking about men but you do raise a valid point...unfortunately (for research purposes) the attched women I have spoken to are playing with their partners blessing and knowledge because the woman wants to explore her sexuality and there are very few men who will deny their femal partner this opportunity (especially if - in some mens minds - it will lead to them having two girls) though the one woman I have spoken with who is playing outside the marriage without her partners blessing is open ab out ti - maybe thats the key - women are more open about it than the men...thoughts please?? . But I would love to hear from guys about how to pick if the 'single' woman is bullshitting them about their relationship status . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Gotta love drinks nights, I have also met the lovely miss shoes... :) . A couple of guys have expressed their thoughts on married women, it would be great to see if more could share their tips and experiences as well.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Before a 'war between the sexes' breaks out, Honesty is not gender specific, there are slimy sly sheisters of both sexes everywhere in life....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Andraxx' Quoting 'BlackStilettoes' Or am I fool, the guys don't have this issue..do they? They love married women and women who are attached and the singles...they have it all. It's a moral issue for single femailes seeking single men. I just don't want that conned feeling to happen ever again or anyone else. xxx I can't speak for other guys, but it's definatley a moral issue for me and I'd be pissed off to be told that a woman was married/attached when she'd said she was single. Good to see im not the only man here with principles. If you care more about a quick root than your partners trust you are shit in my eyes, and I dont find shit appealing.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Unfortunately it seems these days not telling the whole truth is common nature on both sides of the fence... Especially on sites like these ones. Males and Females both can be accused of the ''yes I'm single" when they know full well that's not the case. Tbh, I'd say just follow your gut instinct, like the old saying goes, if it seems to good to be true, well then, it most probably is.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'focusliason' I guess because a woman (and yes I know she is really a woman...lol...gotta love drinks nights) asked I assumed she was asking about men but you do raise a valid point...unfortunately (for research purposes) the attched women I have spoken to are playing with their partners blessing and knowledge because the woman wants to explore her sexuality and there are very few men who will deny their femal partner this opportunity (especially if - in some mens minds - it will lead to them having two girls) though the one woman I have spoken with who is playing outside the marriage without her partners blessing is open ab out ti - maybe thats the key - women are more open about it than the men...thoughts please?? . But I would love to hear from guys about how to pick if the 'single' woman is bullshitting them about their relationship status . Kisses Focus I never have and never will play with a married/attahced women. Even with her partners blessing unless all three of us are present.I just dont need the potential headfucks. To answer your question MS Focus, it is the same thing that you would look out for.The dead giveaways are these, or a combination of Can only meet during the day Only online during the day or late at night Your chatting away on msn, and suddenly they are gone Cant get out at night, or if they can need plenty of notice Have to rush back at a certain time Phone switched off in evenings and night. It's a simple thing. If your single, there should be no reason for any or all of the above to happen consistently. Im single, you can call me anytime , night or day. Hope that helps Miss Focus..How is the mechanical work going?? Maxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Tyrian29' Married men put the toilet seat down. Still trying to break that habit! Gotta get used to "My house, My Rules!"
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RHP User
15 years ago
i also make it very very clear that if i find out a man is NOT single then i will hunt out his wife and stalker his arse i tell them there will be tears and they wont be mine im nasty sometimes hahaha ohhh Charles....im sure my night will be great thanks its good to see some of our wonderful men have morals too...thats a good thing in a man i think roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Theres usually a few signs as some have pointed out. Cant chat after a certain time, can only meet during the day etc. Though of course have to point out not ALL of us married/attached lie, eg like my partner and i, we are both aware of what the other is up to, prefer play together but can play alone and list ourselves as being attached/married and usually have a couples handle to go along with our single handles. We're ALWAYS happy for ANYONE to contact the other AND turn on our cam to prove the person is speaking to whichever partner theyre chatting with. TO us its as annoying as it is for singles to be lied too about marital status as we're honest about OUR status so why should they not be as honest
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AmiablePrick
15 years ago
If he's shopping alone in a supermarket and has bananas in his basket.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok! two points from my experience's 1) I have found there are just as many women that are "SINGLE" that turn out to have really pissed of Hubby's on these site's!(Yes I have almost been killed by one, Big pissed of hubby, I prefer to know upfront what I need to be running from with no suprises) 2) From mate's, work collegue's and my experience, even though we are single due to our experience with some women, being the usual story of meeting seemingly nice woman, haveing a good time then suddenly out of the blue come's the I'm pregnant (protection was used and supposedly the women are on the pill too), it's your's, cough up the cash, They no longer take women home and use play phone's only.
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RHP User
15 years ago
easy peasy you ask them for their home phone number or you say you will only play at their house if they refuse either then they are more than likely married
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Tyrian29' Married men put the toilet seat down. I am not married.. nor have i ever been.. But I have always put the toilet seat down. Both infact, it just looks better :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I strongly disagree with you there Charles. If someone is married or attached and are going behind their partners back, I would like to know.. It is my business as i would be that third wheel, that SHOULD NOT be there.. If they are in an open relationship and both parties are happy with a third wheel, that is fine, but I would definately like to hear it from their partners mouth that it is. No one likes to feel used and lied to, and it is not a great feeling if you are caught out and seen as a home wrecker, when you were oblivious to the fact..I don't think the ladies on here are trying to tar anyone with the same brush, they are just giving, in their own opinion, some tell tale signs to look out for.. I do not agree with them all and I am definately disappointed with how increasingly hard it makes things for legitimate persons on here trying to sift through the bullshit.Justin:)Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' I have been internet dating for 5 years. I chose to do it because it's my preference. Whether I am married or have a partner or whether the lady I am playing with is married or has a partner is none of my business or your business. YES, I have had sex with married females knowing they are married, or have a partner. I have also had sex with a lesbian partner. I accept most ladies regardles of their status as who they are. I think you are doing yourself a disfavour if you don't want anything to do with married men or married women. I actually helped a maried woman get her family back together by talking to her, and yes, we had sex. We all need someone in out lives at some point of time, for emotional and sexual pleasure. While some fems complain about married men, I think some of them need to look at themselves in the mirror instead of painting all married and attached men with the same brush. I think it's just plain wrong to do so and is not really clear concise and objective thinking. I know some men and ladies have baggage but we don't have to keep on seeing them after the first date. There is no obligation on any of us to continue dating a person if there is "something wrong". The something wrong is really a thing that we have chosen that we are not happy about. So, I say from experience from females that have told me, yes, some of their fuck buddy relationships have been wonderful, with whatever the combination of relationships they are both in. My advice is to keep a clear concise and objective vision of why you are here on RHP, and enjoy it as much as you can. Happy fucking Tassie Rose with your young gun.... ...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi BlackStilettoes, If the person is smiling and happy he is single !! lol just joking....the married ones cum quickly ?? the married ones dont sleep over ? the married ones are boring !
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' Hi BlackStilettoes, If the person is smiling and happy he is single !! lol just joking....the married ones cum quickly ?? the married ones dont sleep over ? the married ones are boring ! iv had a couple that iv found out about later and that is one thing that they have had in common they cum really quick and they were as boring as bat shit...its all about them roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Bingo baby !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Maxking2010' .To answer your question MS Focus, it is the same thing that you would look out for.The dead giveaways are these, or a combination of Can only meet during the day Only online during the day or late at night Your chatting away on msn, and suddenly they are gone Cant get out at night, or if they can need plenty of notice Have to rush back at a certain time Phone switched off in evenings and night. It's a simple thing. If your single, there should be no reason for any or all of the above to happen consistently. Im single, you can call me anytime , night or day. Hope that helps Miss Focus..How is the mechanical work going?? Maxy Sorry Max but I completely disagree. I am single and have been for four years now and those things will happen to me consistently. I have children and give them my attention until 8:30 and often later on weekends. They are at school during the day so day times is real good for me. I do need plenty of notice as they are not my children tend to need specialist carers to babysit. During the day I do need to rush yes. They have doctors, counceling, dentists, any amount of sessions booked. MSN? Often they just wander in looking for me so I click off what am doing. The only one that does not apply is the phone and even then I will not talk to a "friend" when they are about. I bet many of the women here are the same so you see it is not as simple as all that.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It doesn't take much to figure it out.1. If you are male you couldn't care either way no point testing the waters.2. For females it's a piece of cake a. ask for their HOME phone number. If they won't give it, no matter what the excuse, don't have one, it's broken, telstra have probs, someone stole it etc etc etc. 99.999999999% they are lying and married. b. if you are only asked to call at work or call a mobile or office number, read above. c. if they make it difficult for you to contact them, especially after work hours or weekends, read above.There isn't a guy on the planet who wouldn't sell his soul to get sex so it doesn't take much to work out that if there is the remotest possibily that they make it difficult to contact them at any time, or difficult to get together or can't get mail address or an invite there then you can bet yr ass they are attached/married and lying.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thank you for all your input and advice. hahahaha Taipan The whole toilet seat thing mmm interesting..It does simply look better with the lid closed. Although I don't care if a man leaves it up or down, call me weird. Oh well happy hunting for me finding single men seeking single women. Yes msn and cam all good. Just seeking honesty! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
First time on this forum..... think the biggest question here is one some of you have discussed before..." can you believe all on this site ??? Are the profiles true ? I am pretty niaive so guess mine is close as it can be.. single or not ?? what all those signs ... 5pm... and all that evidence ....mmmmmmmm . Only way is to meet them ?? What are we all doing here ?? Looking for true love.??? enjoy the fun......... Guess drinks night must sort out some of the bullshit.... never had the front t go !!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Can I disagree with Roxxy and Taipan - single guys can be JUST AS BORING !!! And some married men are more fun than single men. Although maybe that is the exception rather than the norm. xxMeeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'CensoredTip' If he's shopping alone in a supermarket and has bananas in his basket. at least that's what I was told. So apparently I am supposed to shop on a Tuesday night and look for a guy with bananas in his trolley. Then I have to pretend I cant reach something on the top shelf and have to ask him to help me. Yeah right like that's going to happen. Knowing my luck the only guy I'll see with bananas in his trolley would be a midget..............so am I then supposed to pretend I cant bend over and reach the bottom shelf??????
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RHP User
15 years ago
yes have heard that theory, I like peaches and pears instead. xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xxticklishxx' Quoting 'CensoredTip' If he's shopping alone in a supermarket and has bananas in his basket. at least that's what I was told. So apparently I am supposed to shop on a Tuesday night and look for a guy with bananas in his trolley. Then I have to pretend I cant reach something on the top shelf and have to ask him to help me. Yeah right like that's going to happen. Knowing my luck the only guy I'll see with bananas in his trolley would be a midget..............so am I then supposed to pretend I cant bend over and reach the bottom shelf?????? I don't like bananas, and Thursday's the only day I can go shopping (except for the weekend). I'm not a midget, however, feel free to bend over and pretend you can't reach the bottom shelf....
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RHP User
15 years ago
i have to go to the supermarket on a tuesday night look and see if he has banana's in his trolley then he is a single man??? i would have thought that meant he was just a monkey roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I select single guys from rhp to attend our Friday parties, the process i go through is long and tedious to make sure they are single.You see our patrons dont want hassles with married men pretending to be single so here goes.1: must have a face picture on profile ( you see most married men wont have photo up in case they get recognised.)2: mail them after that has been done to make sure they understand we dont allow married men in our club pretending to be single guys.3: tell them we expect respect and honesty and if we find out they are married they will be banned for life.You see that usually works well, cause most people wont respond or will not come after the last message.Has always worked for us and we have the best membership of single guys and proud to say they are all single.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I select single guys from rhp to attend our Friday parties, the process i go through is long and tedious to make sure they are single.You see our patrons dont want hassles with married men pretending to be single so here goes.1: must have a face picture on profile ( you see most married men wont have photo up in case they get recognised.)2: mail them after that has been done to make sure they understand we dont allow married men in our club pretending to be single guys.3: tell them we expect respect and honesty and if we find out they are married they will be banned for life.You see that usually works well, cause most people wont respond or will not come after the last message.Has always worked for us and we have the best membership of single guys and proud to say they are all single.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'nomadcrusers'easy peasy you ask them for their home phone number or you say you will only play at their house if they refuse either then they are more than likely married Nomad, I can see your point, but its not always right. I dont give out my Home phone number to ANYONE, unless they are a very close friend or family member. I also dont have people over her for sex, because i have a 12 y/o son living with me,
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RHP User
15 years ago
Nothing like ticking a good box !
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RHP User
15 years ago
Now I've started pulling the profile pics apart LOL all of a sudden im noticing things like one toothbrush only on the basin, what sort of creams and powders and deo's looking for dirty washing everywhere...... help!!! *note to self, remember to actually check the guy out* PMSL
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Maxking2010' Quoting 'nomadcrusers'easy peasy you ask them for their home phone number or you say you will only play at their house if they refuse either then they are more than likely married Nomad, I can see your point, but its not always right. I dont give out my Home phone number to ANYONE, unless they are a very close friend or family member. I also dont have people over her for sex, because i have a 12 y/o son living with me, im with you there Max...no one has my home number but my mum and the school and i also have 100 kids living in my house...he would have to be a very special man to me to have my home number or address roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
and those singles of us (both male and female) who dont have landlines??? uhoh - now I'm in trouble...lol... . The toilet seat??? My flatmate is male and has learnt quick smart to put the lid down but other single guys (especially if they have been in relationships previously) put the lid down too. . Maxxy - the car is stuffed - this mechanic has hung up her tool belt...lol... . Taipan and Roxxy - I'm with Meeka on this one - have had some seriously boring single male fucks too (and yes I was at their place)...boring and it being all about them is a mind set not necessarily an attachment to relationship status (and for the record I have had some boring female ones too - married and single) . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Alot of people have great mobile plans that don't require landlines. I am cool with that. That is not a detector for me. What CI said rings it home for me, pardon the pun. I think a structure for me is to be built to better screen. Heck I didn't want it to be that serious geeze. For the record! I would never go to a guys place straight up. Although do not entertain at home straight up that is. I certainly volunteer my home ph number. I have no secrets. If I chose not answer, they can leave a message. xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'bianca_dd' It doesn't take much to figure it out.1. If you are male you couldn't care either way no point testing the waters.2. For females it's a piece of cake a. ask for their HOME phone number. If they won't give it, no matter what the excuse, don't have one, it's broken, telstra have probs, someone stole it etc etc etc. 99.999999999% they are lying and married. b. if you are only asked to call at work or call a mobile or office number, read above. c. if they make it difficult for you to contact them, especially after work hours or weekends, read above.There isn't a guy on the planet who wouldn't sell his soul to get sex so it doesn't take much to work out that if there is the remotest possibily that they make it difficult to contact them at any time, or difficult to get together or can't get mail address or an invite there then you can bet yr ass they are attached/married and lying. Who peed in your cornflakes?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' Quoting 'Maxking2010' .To answer your question MS Focus, it is the same thing that you would look out for.The dead giveaways are these, or a combination of Can only meet during the day Only online during the day or late at night Your chatting away on msn, and suddenly they are gone Cant get out at night, or if they can need plenty of notice Have to rush back at a certain time Phone switched off in evenings and night. It's a simple thing. If your single, there should be no reason for any or all of the above to happen consistently. Im single, you can call me anytime , night or day. Hope that helps Miss Focus..How is the mechanical work going?? Maxy Sorry Max but I completely disagree. I am single and have been for four years now and those things will happen to me consistently. I have children and give them my attention until 8:30 and often later on weekends. They are at school during the day so day times is real good for me. I do need plenty of notice as they are not my children tend to need specialist carers to babysit. During the day I do need to rush yes. They have doctors, counceling, dentists, any amount of sessions booked. MSN? Often they just wander in looking for me so I click off what am doing. The only one that does not apply is the phone and even then I will not talk to a "friend" when they are about. I bet many of the women here are the same so you see it is not as simple as all that. Ms Fiona, I did say also "a combination of". I may be wrong, but your circumstances may be a little different to most.I dont know the exact circumstances of your kids, but i presume the special carers maybe because they have special needs. There will be exceptions to every rule, but as a whole, i stand by my points. Maxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'bianca_dd'It doesn't take much to figure it out.1. If you are male you couldn't care either way no point testing the waters.2. For females it's a piece of cake a. ask for their HOME phone number. If they won't give it, no matter what the excuse, don't have one, it's broken, telstra have probs, someone stole it etc etc etc. 99.999999999% they are lying and married. b. if you are only asked to call at work or call a mobile or office number, read above. c. if they make it difficult for you to contact them, especially after work hours or weekends, read above.There isn't a guy on the planet who wouldn't sell his soul to get sex so it doesn't take much to work out that if there is the remotest possibily that they make it difficult to contact them at any time, or difficult to get together or can't get mail address or an invite there then you can bet yr ass they are attached/married and lying. Bianca, How do you generlize like that. I for one, would not play with a married or attahced women in a pink fit. I don't care how good looking she maybe. As for a female giving her home number, i would suggest that 99% of females would not give out their home number to a stranger. Your last two points are reasonable, but not the mobile number. Once again, doubt too many would give out a work number. Maxy.. p.s. Can i have your home number?
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RHP User
15 years ago
ask for their home 'phone number. if its not forthcoming, give them the heave - ho...........
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RHP User
15 years ago
ha ha ha! :) but at least you know IM married. am i still invited to your party ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
none of us want to be caught up in a situation that is not how we thought it would pan out. A few things come to mind. Do you know the person's real name? How long whenyou are seeing someone do you even tell them where you live? A one nighter, it would hardly seem relevant. I dont think any of us want to see them sitting in the car outside watching us. A one nighter, although I wouldn't like the deception, would it matter if they were single or married? But if you wanted to see someone ongoing, then their relationship status is more important. I dont have a land line and my answer to this is... show ur driver licence. You know their real name and address. Rules out alot of fakes and you get to see how bad some photos can really be... he he
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RHP User
15 years ago
so if i have this right.... we should all be giving out our home numbers and if your a sinlge bloke then you dont have a life outside of work just incase you get a call saying "come fuck me" by one of the many single girls your rooting what a load of shit single guys have lives outside of work...some have kids every second weekend, some have kids 24/7, some play sport, have training, go to school as well as work, have friends and like to socialize sometimes you cant go to their house because they have roomies and some are either still living with the parents or have moved back in with the parents,i even know of a few that are living with their exes because its easier and cheaper and they just havent moved out yet they cant just drop everything and come round for sex just like us single girls cant drop everything and come round for sex i wouldnt give a man my home number in a pink fit...hell no would that ever happen, my kids answer that phone roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
There's obviously no such thing as a foolproof rule, so go with your gut. If something feels off, ask, if the answer doesn't feel right, NEXT!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'aniceone71' none of us want to be caught up in a situation that is not how we thought it would pan out. A few things come to mind. Do you know the person's real name? How long whenyou are seeing someone do you even tell them where you live? A one nighter, it would hardly seem relevant. I dont think any of us want to see them sitting in the car outside watching us. A one nighter, although I wouldn't like the deception, would it matter if they were single or married? But if you wanted to see someone ongoing, then their relationship status is more important. I dont have a land line and my answer to this is... show ur driver licence. You know their real name and address. Rules out alot of fakes and you get to see how bad some photos can really be... he he Dear Aniceone71 Interesting input you have. Funny thing about the licence thing. I dated a guy for a while, purely a casual relationship. I did sort of know where he lived, I met him at a friends party,knew he lived close by. Never went to his house because he lives with his daughter. I am cool with that and I don't want to meet the kids if a casual affair is happening. Although it did annoy me or frustrate me when we went to the club and you need to sign in. He covered up signing in by putting his shoulder toward me so I couldnt see what he was writing as his address. Care factor zip! I wasn't trying to look over his shoulder, simply standing alongside him as good manners. Hence this was a guy who I trusted in my home, with my belongings etc including me! I soon ended this arrangment. I don't want to interogate nor inhibit someones privacy or make them feel uncomfortable, although some honesty and trust should come across naturally IF YOUR SINGLE! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think it is interesting how you had him in your home... I agree that you gave him alot of trust and yet he couldn't return the favour by not allowing you to see where he lived when signing in... I am glad you ended it quickly after that.. I think if you met someone and it goes beyond that coupld of rolls in the hay and they are willing for it to be at one party's home, then anything beyond that should essentialy be mutual, even if it is less frequent, just to demonstrate that trust. Doesn't mean you are moving in... I am protective of my privacy, yet happy to have someone at my home when the time is right. Living alone, I have that pleasure of pleasing myself who I have here, yet I am not quick to invite someone here. For me their stories have to 'stack' up before I let them into my life on that level. I can answer my mobile at night and on weekends! What is good for the goose... Sighs... the world we live in....
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am protective of my privacy, yet happy to have someone at my home when the time is right. Living alone, I have that pleasure of pleasing myself who I have here, yet I am not quick to invite someone here. For me their stories have to 'stack' up before I let them into my life on that level. I can answer my mobile at night and on weekends! What is good for the goose... Thank you for that! Exactly! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78'There's obviously no such thing as a foolproof rule, so go with your gut. If something feels off, ask, if the answer doesn't feel right, NEXT! Bang!! Absolutley smashed it with that comment.Case by case. All are different. Funny isnt it how just a few words wraps it all up. End this topic. Its all covered now..... Maxy,,,,
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'aniceone71' I dont have a land line and my answer to this is... show ur driver licence. You know their real name and address. Rules out alot of fakes and you get to see how bad some photos can really be... he he Oh no now I am really screwed - I dont drive!!! Dont have a drivers licence....no land line...oh yeah I could be anyone...hahahahahaha . Quoting 'aniceone71' I am protective of my privacy, yet happy to have someone at my home when the time is right. Living alone, I have that pleasure of pleasing myself who I have here, yet I am not quick to invite someone here. For me their stories have to 'stack' up before I let them into my life on that level. I can answer my mobile at night and on weekends! What is good for the goose... Sighs... the world we live in.... Exactly....though I have a flatmate (he is really understanding...he would want to be sharing a place with me...hahahaha) I am still protective of who is allowed to come my home... . Kisses Focus
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Tart_Du_Jour
15 years ago
I wan to echo what others have said earlier. Very few of my friends have my actual land line, so I am hardly going to give it to a someone I haven't even met If you have doubts as to whether I am single or not, is it really up to me to change my mind?
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platinumblonde69
15 years ago
Interesting topic...The saying is "We only know what someone tells us" is very very true...Ive had the opposite happen...I saw a "married" guy for 3 years...spoke as friends for a further 2 years, before he finally told me he was a single guy...I beat myself up over that one....But it turned out he lived at home with his parents still and didnt want them knowing he was seeing anyone.....So there ya go... Plat
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just to let everyone know:1. Some guys HAVE A LIFE and don't carry their mobile phone everywhere with them 24 hours a day.2. Some guys PLAY REGULAR SPORT (the thing that stops you getting fat!) and again don't look at their phone every 5 seconds - it tends to annoy the other players.3. Some guys have WORK requirements which restrict the use of mobile phones.4. Some guys go to bed BEFORE MIDNIGHT and sometimes at 8.00pm (especially if they have to start work at 4am !)5. Some guys would rather watch a boring TV show or read a dull book than be constantly text messaged by unintelligent women who use predictable excuses not to meet up.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I saw a guy from RHP for eight wonderful months before I finally cottoned on that he was married (and I reckon I'm far from stupid - I just trusted him and he was a brilliant liar!) If only I'd known from the outset I never would have let myself get in so deep...it's why my profile nowadays says 'strictly no married men!' It really hurts to be duped. I don't lie on MY profile! Some guys are good though...they lie through their teeth and have convenient excuses for why they're rotten cheapskates and can't take you out for dinner. They don't want a 'relationship'...just the 'fuck buddy'. Nowadays, if I was lucky enough to meet someone I actually had some chemistry with, I'd want to check his wallet for I.D. and snapshots of the wife and kiddies too, before the action ever moved to the bedroom...I learned my lesson the hard way.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Debrouillard' Just to let everyone know:1. Some guys HAVE A LIFE and don't carry their mobile phone everywhere with them 24 hours a day.2. Some guys PLAY REGULAR SPORT (the thing that stops you getting fat!) and again don't look at their phone every 5 seconds - it tends to annoy the other players.3. Some guys have WORK requirements which restrict the use of mobile phones.4. Some guys go to bed BEFORE MIDNIGHT and sometimes at 8.00pm (especially if they have to start work at 4am !)5. Some guys would rather watch a boring TV show or read a dull book than be constantly text messaged by unintelligent women who use predictable excuses not to meet up. And especially those people you see regularly. I take issue with finding out that someone I was seeing on a regular basis over a period of a year, was using a false name and incorrect status.Surely I could be trusted after that amount of time, to actually know his real christian name?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Eatplaylove' And especially those people you see regularly. I take issue with finding out that someone I was seeing on a regular basis over a period of a year, was using a false name and incorrect status.Surely I could be trusted after that amount of time, to actually know his real christian name? Sounds as if you and I were hoodwinked by the same chap! But unfortunately, there are far too many out there playing the same cheating game...
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