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How do I know if he is bi curious?

January 08 2010

I have been seeing a guy on and off for a yr now and just as we get serious he backs off and totally cuts all ties and communication with me. He then starts contacting me after a few weeks and we end up back together. I had a friend of mine who is gay, once see us out together and he informed me that he had been with him on one occasion and they were about to have sex but he freaked out at him and made him leave his house. I asked him about it and he lost his mind and said he would rather die than be gay. I told him I am open minded and have no problem at all if he wanted to experiment with it but he was really angry and wouldnt talk about it. I am close friends with his brothers girlfriend too and she said she went to his house one morning and he pretended not to be home but she could see through the window that there was a guy there with him. I have tried to talk to him but had no luck and I have strong feelings for this guy so not sure if I should just give it up or continue to see what happens, sorry about the long story but this is actually the short version, I just dont know what to do from here and would appriciate any advice

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16 years ago

Sounds like the guy is just not honest. Nothing worse than a liar and cheater. Mars

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RHP User

16 years ago

Being bi is not the issue here as much is this guys reluctance to be open and honest and maintain a relationship with you. Joanna

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RHP User

16 years ago

Sounds like your friend is in denial and possible deluding himself as well. Not much you can do but be his friend and let him find himself ciaoHermes

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RHP User

16 years ago

Sounds like he is in denial. You can try to talk to him about it again but he's not going to be any good to you till he comes to terms with his sexuality - if he ever does. Meantime to be brutally honest your best move is to let him go and move on. Hugs from Damo

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RHP User

16 years ago

We have to agree with xJoannax here. It seems to be his commitment to you that would be of more concern. Maybe next time he back's away from your relationship and then calls you again in a few weeks, ask him whether he's seriously interested in you or just using you for company and sex. On the other hand, you might be riight onto him about being bi-curious. As non of us know this guy and we don't know what life experiences he's been through, it'd be hard to judge him. He might have grown up with a lot of slander towards gay's from his family and/or friends and as such feels really embarressed maybe even ashamed to admit it. We admire you for being so open-minded, you must really like this guy. So what to do from here. Work out what sort of relationship you have with him, is it just one of convenience? You obviously really like this guy and if your happy with being on 'tap for him' then continue as you are. If you want more of a commitment from him then ask him for it, his answer to this should determine if you keep seeing him or not. This is just our opinion, don't know if it's right or wrong - just hope it might give you something to think about.

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16 years ago

a little bit of advice that may help,,,,buy a strap on , get him in the mood ,,,,a few drinks ,,,,may be a cone or two if he,s a choofer ,,,,,,,bring out the strap on ,,and see how you go ,,,,,,,,,but be careful ,,,any humiliation and he will dive back into his shell and you may have fucked up a good thing ......so treat him like its all perfectly normal ,,,,the thing you need to find out is if he,s a giver or a taker ,,,,,,lots of luck and hope that it may help............

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