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How do I get my wife into a threesome?
October 23 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
If she says she doesn’t want to, you don’t go there otherwise it is just going to end in disaster for both of you. There is also a little thing called consent that you seem to have forgotten about and from your post it appears she agreed when intoxicated and it was withdrawn when sober. It sounds more like your fantasy than hers and for you both to decide if the lifestyle is right for you, it is a conversation that can only be had when sober otherwise I doubt you would be calling her your wife much warning. The only advice we have for you is that sometimes a fantasy is better to remain just that unless it is equally shared by both of you.
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RHP User
7 years ago
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks. Makes sense. I guess I should wait till her intoxicated consent turns into a sober consent 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
She says yes, because she's under pressure.Says no, the next day in the hope that the discussion has ended.AND you think its a good idea to "surprise" her with one? Its you're fantasy, not hers.Have you considered, just knocking her on the head with the jaw bone of an ass....... You've got a jawbone in your head right?
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
WOW! This has disaster written all over it. If your wife is that pissed and can't remember the threesome discussion, but soberly says no..... leave it. Not going to end well. 90 percent of fantasies stay a fantasy for a reason. Does she even know you have a couples profile here and have posted a forum topic? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I assume when you put MMF and Gang bangs in your profile she knew about that. Or does she 🤔 Ms PF
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
Pressure her, get her intoxicated to talk about it, make comments or manipulate her in any shape or form. It's her choice, not yours. Back off and give her the time and space for her to decide, not you. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Dude...... you’re a grown up.... and in a marriage where you’re SUPPOSED to have your wife’s back and best interests in mind. I read this topic, and I read “fail” - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Would request people to not become trolls and use this opportunity to waste their time. Thanks. We have been active swingers for five years. But we’ve never tried a threesome before. Please don’t be prejudiced before making any comment. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Perhaps of you gave us all the information then people would jump to the wrong conclusion. If you have been swinging for 5 years, a threesome is a natural course l would have thought. But still no go for surprises. It's not a birthday party......
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
You're making a decision for your wife and removing her choice. You assume she's going to want a hot stud and will not say "No". You want posters to agree with you? Sorry Dude, I can not agree with anyone who removes their partners choice. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Well sorry all, absolutely she's gotta be into it. I know mine certainly is and personally I very much enjoy it too. Something about her with another or two and she's enjoying. So we always looking for fun hit us up if it interests you
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'm confused. You've been active (swinging??) for 5 years and your wife is shy about a 3some. What have you been doing in that 5 years??
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RHP User
7 years ago
Um...... so as “active swingers” of 5 years.... you’ve not had activity involving three participants as part of your history..? Hmmmmm. Somethings not legit here. I’m out. Drops the mic 🎤
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RHP User
7 years ago
Right got you 🙄
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abcplus1
7 years ago
When she gets you in a threesome..... Just saying
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RHP User
7 years ago
Polyamorous and swinging for 5 years? This is why I ignore 90% of the “couples” on RHP - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
(Turns his head into the breeze, his nose twitching) Why, what is this tantalizing scent teasing my nostrils? From whence does it arise? Oh, I see... from those cattleyards over yonder. Now that's trolling.
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RHP User
7 years ago
What in the hell is going on in your relationship with your poor wife.If your for real sit down and discuss all your fantasies with her while she is sober thats if she is real.Lots of questions with this one.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'ROBJEN' If she says she doesn’t want to, you don’t go there otherwise it is just going to end in disaster for both of you. There is also a little thing called consent that you seem to have forgotten about and from your post it appears she agreed when intoxicated and it was withdrawn when sober. It sounds more like your fantasy than hers and for you both to decide if the lifestyle is right for you, it is a conversation that can only be had when sober otherwise I doubt you would be calling her your wife much warning. The only advice we have for you is that sometimes a fantasy is better to remain just that unless it is equally shared by both of you.Quoting 'Mel_Sarah' Thanks. Makes sense. I guess I should wait till her intoxicated consent turns into a sober consent 👍 Advice well taken... Have fun. For the naysayers, perhaps try to base your attacks on something more concrete than suspicious minds? It makes sense that swingers have not had a threesome, specially when the profile shows it is seeking couples and groups. And the write up only mentions couples. Shakes head in bewilderment at the lack of fun... Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'PassionFreaks' I assume when you put MMF and Gang bangs in your profile she knew about that. Or does she 🤔 Ms PF Considering they have groups and couples, gang bangs could make sense but MMF does not. OP, why is MMF on your profile, if you don't mind me asking? And do you realise that means the male is bisexual? That could explain the confusion here? Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Of why you don’t piss into a head wind 😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
You could always up the ante, alcohol didn't work. Try something criminal like a date rape drug and be prepared for a ton of shit. That or take some of the advice above.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Tis okay I know you’re being facetious...but fuck that was dark 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
...just man up and tell her that's what's happening and she's gonna fucking do it! I've been married and divorced "a few" times so know what I'm on about! Now if that sound stupid when your read it then perhaps talking someplace where you are both relaxed, comfortable and feel secure in the topic then...talk about it. If you can't talk about it then it isn't going to happen, right? Just remember too, my friend..."no" is a complete sentence and most women do know how to use it! Good luck!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'The_Antichrist' Tis okay I know you’re being facetious...but fuck that was dark 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Obviously the OP didn't clarify everything up front. Who does on a forum? or we will be writing essays.Yes it was worded badly, but as Peachy says check info before becoming a troll. If OP wants a bi male experience with wife's consent, then he is at least doing the right thing and opening it up for discussion. Maybe he just wants to see her with another man and she has previously only had female encounters? So many possibilities and I think he probably knows his partner better than we do. My response to OP is...No, don't organise until you know for sure that she's keen and good luck finding a reliable sexy guy to participate.
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
You’ve asked for options and you’ve received some from other members. Perhaps you just aren’t getting the answers you’d hoped for? From our perspective you’re motives for a 3some sound incredibly selfish. If your partner isn’t even open to having a conversation about the idea then you should drop the idea completely and wait for her to bring it up. One thing we think you’re missing in al of this is that a MFM 3some is supposed to be about mostly the females pleasure and not your own. If you’re partner isn’t aroused by the idea then that’s her choice. Take the advice or leave it. It’s up to you. But we wish you both the best in your journey together. - Posted from rhpmobile
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
Bloody auto correct! - Posted from rhpmobile
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BungCpl
7 years ago
Is with a bunch if flowers, some jewelry or a holiday. Never ever with a sexual treat that satisfies my fantasy, that's just bound to end bad on all fronts. Being active swingers I would have thought the art of communicating would have been learnt long long ago, no one should ever take one for the team so talk it out and make sure you are both on the same page. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Conversations around poss new experiences take time. Initiate the conversation. Explain yourself. Communicate what would turn u on about it honestly. Don’t try to make it about her enjoyment if it’s really more about yours. Give her time to process and consider. Tell her that to so she knows. This may take a few days or more. Be patient. When the topic comes up again, really listen to what she has to say. Answer her questions honestly. Respect her position and resist attempting to push yr agenda. (This is difficult sometimes!) Now it’s yr turn to process and consider what she has communicated to you. This scenario works both ways of course. She may have some fantasies that you find confronting. Mutual respect. Honesty and above all, the protection of trust. Yr relationship with each other must take top priority. Therein lies real Intimacy. Focus less on the end game. Your relationship will benefit in so many ways. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
It is hard enough opening up the lines of communication in a relationship when there is a difficult topic to discuss, add to this the nature of this particular topic you are wanting to explore and you have a very fiery gumbo stewing away, it needs constant attention or else it's gonna blow up all over your imaginary kitchen and face. I agree that suprising her with another person is a bad idea - as a woman myself, I would want to be prepped and preened to perfection, also if I could take the day off to just relax into the anticipation of the event and build excitement throug my imagination and sending sexy texts to my partner about the possibilities of the night. There are a lot of women that need to be mentally stimulated to achieve orgasm - if you take that aspect away from her, you're basically asking her to perform a triple axel without lacing the skates. My suggestion would be attend a workshop that helps you both communicate without mind altering substances on board. If deep down that is what she wants, but is too afraid to ask without being drunk - then help her feel more comfortable to open up about her desires. If it is just some dirty talk that she says in the heat of the moment, then for your sanity - you need to have that clarified so you aren't badgering her for something she never intends to perform. I see you live in Thailand - so this link may not be of much benefit - but it may provide you and your partner with some topics to start talking about, I would suggest a time when you both haven't been drinking so you can be fully present to actively listen to what one another has to say. Here is the link to a company that I myself have used: https://www.curiouscreatures.biz/ I've gone and done it again - another novel reply! All the best with exploring each others boundaries and to learning new things about the ones we love & lust over Gia & Zane
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RHP User
7 years ago
But tell ya what, since your so keen on having another lady join you weather your wife wants to or not, how about you return the favour and do maybe something she would like and get another guy?? Are you confident enough to watch your wife enjoying herself with another man as you want her to be with watching you with another woman??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Have and show respect for your wife, the love of your life, and her choices and decisions - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
My bad sorry lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Interesting solution of a difficult question)
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RHP User
7 years ago
The forced surprise extra man is a way. You know your wife and if at the exposure of the extra guy...she can always decline the advance.Perhaps watch more 3some porn with her. Note the parts she is phased by. Explore the fantasy till it develops into one (except a real extra man). Reciprocate the interest in a topic she finds erotic....
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RHP User
7 years ago
This is why i hardly get on these forums anymore - people would rather flame someone than offer constructive advice.First of all, i would agree with most on here - Do not surprise your wife with a stranger in the motel or bedroom- But, you can still surprise your wife another way Have you thought about this Take her out one night and book a nice motelYou can "Arrange" to meet with another guy for a few drinks only at the local bar(For shits sake do not get her drunk - Shes your wife, look after her) Then the two of you go back to your room - ALONE Once there you can let her know that the guy you met at the bar could be keen to join you guys If she says no, leave it and have a great night just the two of you If she says yes, then you have consent - unless she is drunk. If you let her get drunk and she says yes - then its still a no!
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RHP User
7 years ago
after years of my wife saying she wants a 3some but only if it happened by chance . Then I got on here found an exp guy and asked if he was interested in hitting on her at a bar , I didn't think she would go for it and told him that but he was keen to try ..they chatted at bar for a minute then she introduced him , drank her drink and aske me if Dan could come to our room for a drink ...The rest is history
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DonnaBrett
7 years ago
Does she actually know that you have a couples profile on here? If so what it is she's looking for ? To surprise her with something she doesn't really want could swiftly result in your profile going from a couple to single.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Why not have a guy come over whilst she is out? She can come home and find you two sucking each other off. She will probably open a bottle of wine, enjoy the show and join in if she feels like it.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Also verify your profile. More chance of being taken seriously by anyone who is actually real.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Well if she says she doesn’t want it when she is sober then I would leave the idea alone. Is she aware of this rhp profile you have? I would definitely not organise one as it may end in disaster for the both of you, especially if you push it on her. Drunk threesomes are not recommended either as she will regret it if she didn’t want to partake in the fantasy that you have.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Surprised how many wankers are in this forum. Instead of helping and giving you an idea they judge you. Well they are wankers, don’t worry. I have an advice for you. Obviously never force a woman, they are conservative compared to a man. They can’t handle unknow situations. You could just invite your wife and that handsome man to a bar without mentioning anything and see how the conversation goes. If she has no interest you all would know. Enjoy exploring beyond what stupid and judgmental people think. Life is too short to get advice from wankers.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Pineapple 🍍 Is The Answer!
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couplereadyto
7 years ago
Let your lady take charge of your rhp account for a while. Let HER talk to the single makes; perhaps message with them. Let HER flirt and feel sexy. You canning be in the initial equation as she is the one needing to be attracted to him unless you are wanting a bi experience. We have been swinging for over 12 years and only recently had an mfm. There are plenty of men wanting to be with a couple but SOO many that aren’t right for me, being the female. We started wth couples, me p,aging and then eventually having sex with the guy. An mfm is often ALL about the woman and that can be a lot of pressure. Perhaps she has fears of not being desired enough? We woman are funny creatures.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Really in sure she like a lot your idea ..
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sensualplay
7 years ago
When there is clearly no (sober) consent I wouldn't be arranging any surprises. I'd suggest if she is in the grey area of a maybe, and I don't consider this consent, but I'd let her know my fantasy is still alive and if she was curious for her to do all the choosing of who, where, when and what happens with very clear communication. And also letting the guy know that she is curious and may want to back out at any moment without pressure. This can also create a sense of safety that she might want if she is indeed curious but wants to play on her terms, making things more likely to happen. If not leave it in fantasy land without pressure. Considering your profile says you are polyamorous, enabling a partner's person sovereignty I imagine would be high on your agenda beyond any fantasies that come to mind.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Does she even know you have a RHP account??
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sexual exploration is a personal thing and that needs to be respected, allow her the space to play and come to broadening her sexual horizons without pressure. For my wife and I playing with others separately is igniting her naughty and explorative side. I have very few boundaries so I work to hers and without any coaxing from me she has started to discuss the idea of threesomes. It won’t happen yet but when she is ready I’ll be completely on board. Respect, respect, respect is what I find works.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I for one would not like my partner going behind my back and organising someone for a MFM even if he was a stud ..after me saying no I don't want one. Give her time and she may change her mind without any pressure
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RHP User
7 years ago
I for one would not like my partner going behind my back and organising someone for a MFM even if he was a stud ..after me saying no I don't want one. Give her time and she may change her mind without any pressure
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RHP User
7 years ago
We are a couple. Happy to meet for a drink and go from there.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sounds like my lady when we started this adventure. She loved to hear me talk about another man fucking her from behind while we were having sex and it used to make her horny as hell. The next day when I would talk about it she would look at me like I was demented. I took the initiative and persued a couple of sexy guys with large cocks online. When I told her I had lined up someone that wanted a meeting she was pretty pissed off with me initially. However, when she saw the sexy guy and the large cock she succumbed to the temptation. We met at a pub for drinks and she agreed to take the next step. A couple of nights later we met at a hotel and spent the night having great sex. We haven't looked back since then.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mate, seriously. Find a full length mirror and take a long, hard look at yourself. No means NO.
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us2shebi
7 years ago
Well doesn’t this have RAPE written all over it Oh what a great plan! She will love this, appreciate that you listened to her and her feelings ( the one bit you thought you heard) THIS WOULD BE ABUSE work it out We didn’t read the other replies but we don’t need to
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us2shebi
7 years ago
Also your profile has Gandbang as your interested fetish as a couple yet your wife isn’t sold on a 3sum - Who’s profile???
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RHP User
7 years ago
We agree with couplereadyto let your wife chat to people on RHP on her own and decide if she wants to go further. Far too many guys and a few ladies that run the whole RHP thing without consulting their partners. We have found that just leads to false impressions and failed meets.
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us2shebi
7 years ago
Agree with CaptainNemo How could we not😜😍
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi. You want to be 100% sure she is up for it. Or it will turn to crap and you can say good by to any other opertunities.
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RHP User
7 years ago
my wife says yes when she was in sex with me. and she says that first make her drunk then try with other guys because it was her first time.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Maybe she'll be more keen on different kind of threesome..what makes you assume she wants another "hot stud" and not a lady.. just saying;))
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RHP User
7 years ago
Everybody assumes he's been swinging for 5 years with his wife. Possibly he's had another partner for that scenario.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Just "get her into" a threesome by forcing her mate,or double shots in her drinks until legs don't work and bingobango ...you have got it sorted bro 😉.....(dude let her be lol ...go have paid 3way and tick it off your "Fucketlist" ...your marraige will last alot longer 😉
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RHP User
7 years ago
Maybe just see where it takes you both and not set yourselves up to fail or pressure.Maybe a nice day quiet when the sun is out and go to Swanbourne or warnbro nude beach and relax for the day.see if she gets turned on by nudity or being outdoors .Otherwise a nice massage by a male without any intentions to sooth and relax her body and mind .let her make the call on her being touched in areas by a male and you may find she lets herself free for you to annoy your fantasy .
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RHP User
7 years ago
Agree it is her choice - so respect he wishes . But more generally it is about open communication . Sharing desires and experimenting but at an appropriate pace for all . And if it’s not shared - give up or work out another solution !
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RHP User
7 years ago
🙂
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RHP User
7 years ago
If she is open to the idea when under the influence but does not “remember” these conversations the next day and no longer seems open then chances are that she is not fully comfortable with admitting to herself just yet that she really does like the idea of being shared with another man. Give her time as there could be loads of important factors stopping her from taking that massive step. Things such as upbringing, past relationship experiences etc From personal experience It took me awhile to get my head around it. I was always a 1 on 1 kinda gal and could never imagine being with another male as that was the same as cheating even though he suggested it and I had his permission. Baby steps. Reassuring your lady that you are genuinely interested and that this fantasy is all about her pleasure... Mrs Lens Helpful tip... try bringing home or downloading the odd Porno with titles such as “dp my wife with me” and anything with the word “Hotwife” (research that one) feel free to PM us if you have any questions.
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RHP User
7 years ago
If your seriously after her enjoying her self you take it slow and she calls the shots I'd could east her in to it and help get expand her mind to this new experience it must be about her enjoyment and marking sure she feels secure in her self mind and body if you want to have a third threes some she must have a experience she want to have a gain if you want to contact me id be happy to help
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi, how r u? We cpl and interested
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madotara69
7 years ago
if the guy is a hunk, you bet and sure she will like it, '''it' however may very well be because she likes him and thinks you are an arsehole for taking advantage, whatever comes to mind for how she feels about your intensions based on her being under the influence of alcohol to your advantage, disrespect perhaps if she has been less for sakes when sober and by saying no because she has her wits about, 'no' for reasons she may be treating as caution to the chances you will crash in a bad way if she lets her hair down and unsure in herself where 'deserve' has it's place or not. Smart thing would be to confide with your wife and listen to her, she will be protecting you. IMHO Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
7 years ago
Wow pushy hubby, you asked the question and the majority have spoken. This is a classic example of why single women & couples overwhelmingly prefer single men. Going to a swingers club is very different to meeting a couple on your own. Never felt uncomfortable in a club. Bar one couple I met, I felt like a band aid the other times and never felt the woman was 100% in it heart and soul. No one is looking for that experience.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Im ready
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RHP User
7 years ago
Simple wait and give her plenty of time to think about it. After all she should enjoy a d begin pushed where no one is happy.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Omg how do I convince my m fiance of 8 years to do a 3sum? first male I've ever met and been with who doesn't want a 3sum with another f. He knows Im bi and I've hooked up with women before but just doesn't want a bar of it and I miss the girl on girl fun. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to have sex with him and haven't for 3months but every night I service myself watching lesbian porn. What do I do?
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'MzUrbanGamer' Omg how do I convince my m fiance of 8 years to do a 3sum? first male I've ever met and been with who doesn't want a 3sum with another f. He knows Im bi and I've hooked up with women before but just doesn't want a bar of it and I miss the girl on girl fun. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to have sex with him and haven't for 3months but every night I service myself watching lesbian porn. What do I do? I think you are answering your own question. No sex for 3 months and not even married. And a profile on here. Do him and yourself a service. The urge cannot be ignored forever. I tried a few times
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RHP User
7 years ago
unless she is fully ready and rather interested herself to enjoy never force let it be swap or threesome or gang bang etc unless the female participating not active its not worth
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RHP User
7 years ago
3 times a No, No, No, Firstly, why?Secondly, is she can't talk about it sober, well, she isnt into it! Thirdly, Never, a 3rd Ever!! Well, this is the first time I have read the warnings.... marriage will fail if you go down that trail....
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RHP User
7 years ago
We been doing this for a long time. I advise you not to do this as have seen many and heard many a bad ending it must be agreed to by both of you. With agreed rules on how who were it will happen and except your partners right to say stop do not over step each other's rules. Being intoxicated is not a good way to start this fantasy coming true . You will never hear the end of it. If the To of you are open to the idea go to a swingers party and be vouyers and watch other how they behave..
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RHP User
7 years ago
DON’T surprise her. You can never ever tell if the chemistry is there between all three of you from just your opinion and the other person is not a toy you’re purchasing that is ‘one size fits all’. You need to find someone with her. You need to be equally confident about trying this fantasy. You need to have discussed what would happen with regards to different scenarios, your boundaries, jealousy, etc. You also need to see the third person as a complete and equal human being who will need to assess you to see if you fit with them, and what their boundaries and wishes are. I would suggest going to a sex club and just watching and flirting first. See if you can both cope with that. Don’t go to a party where people strip off. Go to a club where you can keep your clothes on, just to see how it feels to be seen as people who can be approached by others again.
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RHP User
7 years ago
You don't "get your wife/partner into a three some". SHE gets you into one! It's no wonder women think all men do their reasoning with their little head with ridiculous topics as this.
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RHP User
7 years ago
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RHP User
7 years ago
Think you can do it lots of fun in and out of bed I have 9 inch beautiful Dick cock if you interesting let me know My number is+61 474 828 956 really hope to your from you soon ❤️😜💋💋👻
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RHP User
7 years ago
This reminds me of the day my gf floored me and texted me what I thought about having a threesome. I was looking at my phone and didn’t know what to write back 😂. Seriously. This has got to be a trick question. She’s out to catch me say something horribly wrong. I’m a dead man if I respond to this. This is the foot in mouth disease you’ve been dreading will come one day. I’m stuffed. Hahahaha. Quickly learned she was serious. To answer your question, If there’s doubt on her part, don’t even think of surprising her. O my lord help you if you do! Love to be the fly on the wall to watch that horribly go epically wrong. Just kidding. Feel for ya but don’t do it. It’ll be like Honey I Shrunk the Kids meets Bruce Lee’s Enter the Dragon. Think Quentin Tarantino and you’re there.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
I think you just became a cock, posting your mobile number for all to see. 🙈 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
You're right on the money there Ms Foxy.
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