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How critical is the Chemistry ??? Obvious ??
June 03 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
To be honest with you I have slept with a guy or two just to get satisfaction as I was climbing the walls and didn't really care about chemistry or attraction! I mean they were not butt ugly ... but ... I didn't care about getting to know them nor did I care about seeing them again! Just to get my rocks off basically! < On the other hand though and probably 98% of the time it is chemistry that counts and how well I get on with them! I had a guy message me the other day and after 3 messages I felt nothing...zip....wasn't there for me! Now you might say how do I know without chatting on the phone to him or even meeting him...but I guess I just know by his messages! < In the end...for me...it's 98% chemistry and only 2% of the time I will meet a guy cause I am so damn horny that I could pull my hair out or go on a crime spree just so the police would shoot me in the head hahaha! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
we all may have been guilty of the no chemistry thing.. just depends on how long it has been between drinks I guess. All in all, I think there has to be a sense of attraction. Is it the same for each male. Nope. I also think you can tell by speaking with people and their use of language is how well you may have things in common and how well you can relate to them. It is a fine line between having that spark to actually getting to know someone and thinking.. hey I like this person of which is not alwasy evident in the first 5 seconds. It is not always about the looks either, it is how they present themselves overall. Delilah (joke)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Your post sounds like something Carry Bradshaw would write... LOVIN' IT... he he
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have met one friend that we had it all hapening on line and on cam and phone. We couldnt meet fot close on two months and boy were they intense months. In the end.....we just didnt do it for each other. We are still friends but there is no benefits happening and never will be. Maybe when I was younger it was easier to pick up some random strictly for sex and nothing else but these days I prefer to know the person I am with. It is important for me and if we dont click face to face, nothing else is gonna happen either.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Naaaaaaah mot that important at all i would say .. a fuck is a fuck not looking for a life partner after all so No Big Deal
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RHP User
15 years ago
Again like FunLoving, if it has been a while and your feel you are going to turn yourself inside out, then chemistry isn't super important as you yourself are ooozzzing enough horn, desire for even more than two people! I have been there a few times, totally got what I was after, and on each occasion was fucking awesome, totally scratched that itch!!! Did i know anything about them, no, did i want to find out, no... Sometimes it just is what it is! Then moving onto RHP and messaging peeps with the intent of not wanting a 'relationship' and going for the FWB thing, well in this case you need both chemistry and a connection, and that connection for me has to be that my FWB can offer me either a physical or mental extension ie. I want something new from them that stretches either my mind, or body or both. If that isn't strong enough, then after a couple catchups it becomes obvious and that is cool, you just realise that it was a bit of fun and NEXT! And then......you do the FWB thing for a while and all of a sudden it is feeling a little ground hog day... As i on purpose I was targeting FWBs that were not looking for anything other than 'friends with benefits' feelings... So time to mix it up, try something new...FWB plus some...? Here there has to be oooddles of chemistry and mental connection and upfront have each other’s desires laid out, with all the baggage out there loud and proud. Just I guess going that next step above FWB upfront. But with the focus on ones sexual bucket list as this is RHP and I know i am here to expand my repertoire, if you are vanilla i think take it to a dating site please... i got caught up in that trap and i felt it wasn't appropriate to this site, hook up with someone and pretty much have no intention of sharing or playing on either side, and even worse, VANILLA SEX (like they only like two positions...hmmmm)?!?!?
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RHP User
15 years ago
mmm thanks to all so far.. hey funloving next time you are climbing the wall let me know and I be like plaster board !!! and mysterious maybe time you had something to drink. thanks for the in put .......
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RHP User
15 years ago
mmm Fiona mmm well done friends without benefits............. wowow keeps it simple best.... way maybe boobalisious..... fabulous love the complexity of it all !!!! and Charles Dickens ..like your syle...... and you deliver results without too much chemistry !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
The difference is : No real chemistry means the sex is okay, you may or may not repeat the experience To Great chemistry = Great sex! Or at least there is a greater potential for great sex. Or at least a very naughty fuck buddy you can have good fun with :P xx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
For me I need some chemistry or it's just not the same....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'there is more than one form of chemistry??? There's pheromonal chemistry - raw, animalistic, ripping each others clothes off, even leaving scratch marks (hahaha I didn't say that, really I didn't) Then physical chemistry - surface attraction, looks so hot you just HAVE to indulge, and you know it's only that type when they open their mouth to talk and all you can do in response to the horror crawling slowly over you is insist that they use a ball gag (what I don't hear won't hurt your sex appeal) And mental chemistry - a meeting of minds, ideas, intellect (or lack thereof) And soul chemistry - you both love the same kinds of things or share the same attitude or passion about life, or style And humour chemistry - you laugh till tears roll and your tummy muscles hurt later Don't forget spiritual chemistry - it's like you've come home again to a sweet place much longed for, and the sensation is that you're flying, inexplicable, unexplainable, and once you've experienced it you would shed your own blood to keep it If you've ever been lucky enough to find someone who utterly, devastatingly rocks your world by having all six forms of chemistry.... never, ever let go and be grateful for each day you're privileged enough to receive together Chilli xx Then go and buy a lotto ticket and think of me when you win... Wow!!! WHAT A GREAT ANSWER! P.S. Love your pussy
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RHP User
15 years ago
We look for certain standards, body shape same wants from the play. Of all the couples we have met, well over 95% have been lovely people. Chemistry / friendships is something couples may wish to build on with interests in common. Meeting to play....Are our standards meet?
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RHP User
15 years ago
If you had've asked me this question say....5 years ago (when I was going through my.....ahhh....oh fuck it, lets call it my "slut" phase), I would've said no, chemistry isn't really important. Physical attraction, sure, but anything further than that, not a necessity...NOW however, I think it plays a big part in being involved with another, even just if it's purely on a sexual level. No chemistry, and you don't really care. It's all about getting your rocks off and walking out the door. But as soon as there is that spark...well then you DO start caring about the other person...even if it's just to show them a more pleasurable time. Which in turn tends to be reciprocated...and a nice little snowball effect happens.To sum up, without any chemistry or spark there, I would find it near impossible to spend a weekend with someone having "fun". With some chemisty...I would find it hard NOT to spend a whole weekend with someone exploring, touching, caressing, experimenting....and about 48 other hot sexual adjectives...ending with a mind blowing experience. And to me, thats where the real fun is...
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RHP User
15 years ago
KD7784 just to let you know that slut phase hasn't disappeared, it's just laying dormant. You should really come to Sydney I know of a few ppl who would like to experiment with you. xx Meeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
The slut phase is probably still lingering around. My guess is if I went to Sydney, I'd have to find it. I think it's hiding under my bed somewhere...But I've heard stories about you Meeks. I think if I went to Sydney and you were one of the people wanting to experiment with me, I might get scared... Couldn't have poor little me being corrupted now...could we? *cheeky grins*
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RHP User
15 years ago
am wondering what that obscure q is that only you would know the answer to...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'There's emotional chemistry - the ability to perceive and relate to how someone is feeling and meet them in that place while mutually providing positive forward momentum And sexual chemistry - not the reasons for attraction but the ability to meet each other's sexual needs and launch them into 7th heaven with compatibility of sexual preferences In my head Boobs I'm just breaking down the different facets of who I am, and how they click with certain individuals and not others. I have a truly eclectic collection of friends, all of them special in their own unique way and lots of them and most don't know each other. It makes me a bit of a chameleon. Chilli xx ...I love your brain I wish I could have come up with your answers...not only to this, but on many previous occasions I have answered a post and then later you do and I am like Damm....how does she do it? Chilli again and again somehow captured what I think/agree with and said it better, you must have a more organised brain database than me hehe Luv ur work
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RHP User
15 years ago
KD7884 I don't know who would be telling stories about me... cough cough... but don't believe them. I am not a bad cop... I am an angel in the bedroom.. just don't let me tie you up though, will you :) xxMeeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well Meeks, I WAS just making the whole "stories" part up...but now it's nice to know there are people around who have stories about you to tell! I think I might just have to go on an information hunt. May have to put my own body on the line for that one...you know, bribe people with sex for goss. I can be quite..."tempting"...when I need to be... *cheeky grins**hides silk rope behind back* And I had no intention of letting you tie me up. Honest...the thought never crossed my mind...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Have nothing to say. I wouldn't know where to begin! Literally. But, you know what they say Meeks, give a guy enough silk rope .... .. I mean .. . Angelic, tight-lipped, Flirty x
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RHP User
15 years ago
for us, the whole point of being here is to explore/indulge/satisfy our fantasies........... this means that the 'bar' is set very high. we are neither of us into 'sex for sex's sake' and will not sleep with just anyone. so 'chemistry' plays a huge part in out 'play' .......being 'physically attractive' isnt enough.....there must be that chemical connection as well........and thats not something we can establish as the result of a 10 minute conversation in a chat room or via an external chat facility..........
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'KD7884'Well Meeks, I WAS just making the whole "stories" part up...but now it's nice to know there are people around who have stories about you to tell! I think I might just have to go on an information hunt. May have to put my own body on the line for that one...you know, bribe people with sex for goss. I can be quite..."tempting"...when I need to be... *cheeky grins**hides silk rope behind back* And I had no intention of letting you tie me up. Honest...the thought never crossed my mind... Hehe Meeks tried something new not too long ago, not sure if she has done it a second time? She wanted to get more practice by the sounds of things... Do you need another willing volunteer Meeks?
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RHP User
15 years ago
You girls !!! KD7884 I know a couple of people who be happy to trade your body for some gossip. hehehe. As for stories, well the only way to ascertain if they are true, is for you to come to Sydney and meet me yourself. xxMeeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
This would be the first time you've never had anything to say! You know I'll find out what I need to eventually. Why not make it easier on yourself, come sit on my lap, and use the fi....I mean tell me the first thing that pops up! Which brings me to Booby. See, now here is a lady whom I'm beginning to like a lot very quickly! Very smart. Very clever. Very beautiful! And very informed. So come on Booby...share the love...or should I say spill the love?? I promise the favour will be returned... And lastly, but hopefully not least, Meeks. I was going to ask you for some names of these people who apparently would be willing to "trade", but you may have a good point. The best way to make sure they're true, is to definitely find out for myself. And if they're not true, make them true...BUT, being the naive, yet spirited young lad I am, I guess I need to hear a few stories first. Find out exactly what I could be getting myself into. Cos, you know, I would hate to end up being a "statistic"... "In other news, a guy in his mid twenties, goes missing in Sydney's inner suburbs. Police have found a length of silk rope with the victims DNA on it. Authorities are baffled. This is the 3rd disappearance like this in as many weeks. We will keep you updated as news comes to hand..."
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel'for us, the whole point of being here is to explore/indulge/satisfy our fantasies........... this means that the 'bar' is set very high. we are neither of us into 'sex for sex's sake' and will not sleep with just anyone. so 'chemistry' plays a huge part in out 'play' .......being 'physically attractive' isnt enough.....there must be that chemical connection as well........and thats not something we can establish as the result of a 10 minute conversation in a chat room or via an external chat facility.......... From your previous posts you complain about hours of preperation both on yourselves and the surroundings and then they dont show at playtime? But you have established the chemistry prior to this, so to make this so called chemistry happen have you two met the people previously and they still dont show? Just curious the style of others. Maybe hot chillie has something, Chemistry is a subjective requirement with many variations?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'JustEnough' Quoting 'mikeandshel'for us, the whole point of being here is to explore/indulge/satisfy our fantasies........... this means that the 'bar' is set very high. we are neither of us into 'sex for sex's sake' and will not sleep with just anyone. so 'chemistry' plays a huge part in out 'play' .......being 'physically attractive' isnt enough.....there must be that chemical connection as well........and thats not something we can establish as the result of a 10 minute conversation in a chat room or via an external chat facility.......... From your previous posts you complain about hours of preperation both on yourselves and the surroundings and then they dont show at playtime? But you have established the chemistry prior to this, so to make this so called chemistry happen have you two met the people previously and they still dont show? Just curious the style of others. Maybe hot chillie has something, Chemistry is a subjective requirement with many variations? establishing that theres 'chemistry' doesnt guarantee reliability, honesty or even availability................ does it? ....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Quoting 'JustEnough' Maybe hot chillie has something, Chemistry is a subjective requirement with many variations? Ok so here's one that might ruin previously well established chemistry that looked all set and ready to explode...Hormonal Chemistry - the elusive endocrinological factor that leaves guys guessing and girls acting like a fiery redhead if you schedule between days 24 - 28! Scenario: a random guy (for arguments sake let's call him... Mike) and his unbelievably sexy wife take their time getting to know a hot redhead (for the sake of this story let's call her Julia) over email, webcam and also a few social events. Mike's frothing at the mouth and organises the perfect evening and on the afternoon of the event, Julia calls them up and inexplicably cancels causing considerable frustration on so many levels.The strange thing is, that as Julia hangs up the phone, they hear her muttering under her breath "Why the hell would I ever wana shag them anyway??? I don't even go for blondes, no matter how irresistible she looks draped seductively over their bed!!! FFS why would I want raunchy mind-blowing sex when I've got this box of chocolates and my tummy is all bloated anyway ????!!!!@#*!!!!????"I think you get the idea...Chilli xx but what if Mikes really not into redheads so was never interested anyway, just shrugs, says "meh" and turns his attention to the sexy blonde thats draped seductively over the bed and enjoys his evening without further thought of chocolates, bloated bellies or 'rangas?
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Letsgetcrazy09
15 years ago
Time to clean the shower........hehehe Lets
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RHP User
15 years ago
Might as well look after yourself without chemistry ..but when its there and its at its strongest ..WOW .. nothing better for me ...anyone wanting to submit a sample .. please line up here
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RHP User
15 years ago
for the internet users... for those of us that have met people from sites... I dont think the chemistry can really be assessed until you are face to face. Prior to that the one thing for me, is speaking on the telephone. If someone has a strong voice and is articulate in their speech, that is a winner for me! Delilah (pmsl)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Agree .. with you ...oh mysterious one.... for me the voice is important and that is often the begining of the chemistry. So talking on the phone is good start.... when you get the chance that is... Hello ... Hello ???
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RHP User
15 years ago
never! hardly ever use the telephone.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well maybe the phone is a place for live chatter....... I have heard mysterious women have strong articulate voices..... you know...not too.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
More heat than chemistry? I need heat. Of course we have all at some point just fucked some hot young thing crosseyed because we were desparately horny but even then HEAT is all important. Tellin ya, all in the kiss. First kiss=heat register. No heat (or wetness for that matter) and it's over before it even started. There are some gorgeous kissers out there. There are also some that go at you like slobbering dalmations but we try hard to wipe those from our memory. I have a top 5 best ever kissers list in my mind which i refer to occassionally just to put a happy little grin on my face.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes good girls.... kissiing is the no 1 check .... heat = good kisser .... yum Delilah is an expert in this area ...........
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RHP User
15 years ago
kissing.. mmmmmmm almost a preclude to the sex... or the anticipation of it... and I agree... smile when nothing is funny.. a private memory! then you have everyone wondering!
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