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How Far Out Do You Plan Your Play Dates?

June 07 2026

One thing we’ve noticed in the lifestyle is that everyone seems to operate on completely different timelines when it comes to meeting. Some couples like to lock something in weeks ahead, get to know each other, build anticipation, and make sure schedules line up. Others seem to prefer a more spontaneous approach and will message on the day to see who’s available for drinks, a social catch-up, or something more. We’ve experienced both, but we’ve also noticed that last-minute plans can be exciting while long-term plans sometimes end up getting cancelled. On the flip side, planning ahead can make it easier for busy couples to organise childcare, work commitments, and everything else life throws at us. So we’re curious: * How far in advance do you usually plan your play dates? * Do you prefer spontaneous meetups or scheduled dates? * Have you found one approach leads to fewer cancellations? * What’s the longest you’ve chatted with someone before finally meeting? * Any tips for separating genuine interest from people who just like to chat? Interested to hear everyone’s experiences and whether this differs between couples, unicorns, and solo males.

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MsSuperFoxy

23 days ago

I like to meet within a week. I work full-time shift work and prefer to meet on my days off. For me, chatting for weeks on end tends to drag out and becomes time wasted. If the connection fades, it fades. NEXT! I've done spontaneous meets before, but I always have a phone call first. By the end of the call, I usually know whether I'd like to meet or whether I'm just not feeling it. If it's a yes, we organise a meet from there. Ms Foxy

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The_Perfect_Pair

23 days ago

Once we’ve spoken to a couple or a single lady for a week, and it’s established that everyone is feeling it, we like to plan a catch up, even if it’s just drinks or coffee within a few weeks. You’re right in that things can easily drift online and people move on to the next account. We could never do spontaneous though. Unless you don’t have kids, or you had very adult kids, going out at the drop of a hat is almost impossible. We prefer it to feel less like a booty call, and more an exciting adventure.

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Felicitous

22 days ago

Unrelated to this... But I'm sad you took the other post down.. regarding the dissolving of connections. Would have definitely contributed and it was very well written and poised great questions! I would have loved to hear others thoughts also. Sometimes the best questions are slow to get started as responses require more pensiveness! Vxx

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Everest

22 days ago

I’ve got kids so fortnight schedule but also we’re all busy so I’ve got people booked in for 3 weeks away. Spontaneity is with your current play partners and I love booked in intentional dates with new connections

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CallMeV

22 days ago

Organising a time/day is the hardest part than playing for hours. I will always throw some dates to them and see if it aligns, also I give importance to couples as they have kids etc. You can easily pick the people if they are here just to chat. My longest chatting/waiting time was 1 year. She was from Sydney, met at a party, exchanged numbers and played after a year. Chatting before meet up is always good to know each other and to build some sexual tension/anticipation. Not a fan of chatting for months but there were a few exceptions lol Always hard to play spontaneous ones with my line of work. Cheers

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VibingBunny

7 days ago

Within a week or fortnight at the max - I work long hours and have a horrible memory so if it’s not locked in early then I’m horrible at remembering. But then again when bored - I can be spontaneous

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