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Hook ups – Etiquette, Disappointments and Behaviour

December 08 2012

Following a recent thread in regards to expectations and disppointments. I’m just curious to hear people’s experiences of their hook-ups with fellow RHP members. Etiquette – I see many profiles which either read “I am looking for fun/ flings/ FWB and let what happens, happen from there” Do you see this as a way to draw people to your profile and giving a person a slight semblance of hope that there may be something on going? Is there a common etiquette after you have hooked up in the flesh e.g. not flaunting the pursual of other men/ woman... Disappointments – Have you ever thought the person you were talking/ texting/ camming up with in the chat rooms/ Skyping etc ... was disappointing and different in the flesh and why? I would be curious to hear from those who made the time and effort to travel to see the other person. Behaviour – RHP is a small community. What happens when things do not work out, go any further? Do people avoid each other, close down their accounts, stop frequenting the chat rooms/ forums or just continue on their pursuit?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    so many questions.I recently advised a man to take off the ''unless it leads to something more'' statement on his profile because if you are only wanting casual or nothing serious don't pretend otherwise as it is unfair to others. The question of ettiquette will vary from person to person.I don't want to hear about how fantastic so and so was,it is quite frankly off putting.If you want to be with me,be with me.If you have other lovers thats fine I just do not want to hear about it and I won't talk about other men in my life either past or present. Meeting people ''in the flesh'' can be disapointing but it can also be a pleasant surprise. I never go into chat rooms,and have only met forum peeps in a social setting.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Etiquitte I think I have someting similar on my profile. that is because I'm not so closed off that I would reject someone that starts getting too close. The FB or FWB situation needs to be as open and honest as a more traditional relationship. If not, someone will get hurt.   Disappointments Everyone I've been in contact with offline has been very close to the person I thought I would be seeing/chatting with. I have travelled to meet and have enjoyed my time with the ladies I met. There will be expectation that will be met, not met and exceeded as I don't believe you can really know a person unless you spend time with them in real life.   Behaviour I haven't had any bad experiences that has warrented my to avoid anyone on here. I treat people with respect and I find that most people respond in kind.   I think it's been said before, if you're honest on this site, you will probably find what you're looking for. If you are lying, you will just waste your time and the people who you are in contact with.     I can think of better ways to waste my time, anybody up for a game of strip poker??

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    There is ALOT of history on RHP, lots of people know each other, have slept with each other, have fallen in love and fallen in hate. There are lots of whispers going on in the background and lots of game playing and mind fucks too. People have come and gone but a lot of people are still here. Just nicely avoiding each other I am sure. :D

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Etiquitte I think I have someting similar on my profile. that is because I'm not so closed off that I would reject someone that starts getting too close. The FB or FWB situation needs to be as open and honest as a more traditional relationship. If not, someone will get hurt.   Disappointments Everyone I've been in contact with offline has been very close to the person I thought I would be seeing/chatting with. I have travelled to meet and have enjoyed my time with the ladies I met. There will be expectation that will be met, not met and exceeded as I don't believe you can really know a person unless you spend time with them in real life.   Behaviour I haven't had any bad experiences that has warrented my to avoid anyone on here. I treat people with respect and I find that most people respond in kind.   I think it's been said before, if you're honest on this site, you will probably find what you're looking for. If you are lying, you will just waste your time and the people who you are in contact with.     I can think of better ways to waste my time, anybody up for a game of strip poker??

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Thank you Freya and Meeka for your replies and honesty. RHP is like a country town. I can only imagine how hard it must be for those that have been loved and lost or been led own the garden path. I could only imagine the rumours and gossip too.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Thank you Funlover for sharing and your honesty. I think honesty and respect will certainly go a long way for any members time on RHP.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    People had been talking about me for quite a while andnimdidnt even know it. Ewwwwww!, it's HIM! I just hope I wasn't as revolting in person as on here:) Shock and awe.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    No it wasn't like that all!! Just that some of your posts have been a little outrageous in the past and I didn't know what to expect. I certainly wasn't going Ewww at all. You are a very nice man :)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    There are many of us now who have been around (well it feels like) for ever that we all 'know' each other - be it actually in person, online, MSN, telephone or 'friend of a friend' that the lines do get blurred.   Ive attended social meet and greet nights up and down the East Coast (including Tassie) and the only thing I carry through with me in all of them is that I am me. I love my personality and seriously, if ypure a forum regular and get offended by me online then we may have problems face to face.   Ive had a few disappointments (the persons online hype not quite living up to the actual person) however I have more pleasant surprises than disappointments.   Take each meet as a new experience, leave the previous ones in the past and enjoy the ride.   Kisses Focus

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I hate to blow your cover,but I too have met you and as Meeka has said, you are a very nice man,great conversationalist too.x R

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  • WhispersAndMoans

    WhispersAndMoans

    13 years ago

    Sometimes we don't hear what our senses are telling us because we want it to work. Invariably if our reaction has a particular direction (eg too sub, too enthusiastic, too short {she has these funny physical preferences}) when we hit the bedroom we find that surprise surprise those senses were right. These guys aren't waste of times (in the social sense), they just don't make her innards melt. That then means the big mental leap to making them hot! Better off just saying no and finding the one that provides the right chemistry up front - if you are not into notches on the bed post

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    It was just a few gasps from some others, but I think they meant it out of fun, which is fine. I guess I ask for it a lot:)

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