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Honesty
June 14 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
If they just want token honesty from you then that's all you're going to get back from them. Is that what you want? . If their standard response to something they don't like is to become nasty and mean it's time to call "Next!"
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RHP User
16 years ago
it almost got me in trouble today,, as long as no one gets hurt its ok A
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RHP User
16 years ago
you bruised his ego...Isn't this why most people get upset if you're honest with them? But, I wouldn't change who you are just for those that can't accept honesty and I wouldn't waste my time on these people either. Now, if only we had a "Fuck off" flirt lol. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Should always be given. If they have asked for it then cant take it I agree with JG its time call NEXT!!! Obviously this person doesnt really want to get to know you, they are just giving you lipservice and telling you what they think you want to hear. Follow the doctors advice: NEXT Kisses Focus
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RHP User
16 years ago
Some ppl cannot handle honesty because they take it as a negativity against themself, something they cannot fulfill, cannot change. Say if someone states im attracted to blue eyes only and they have brown, then its a personnal attack they feel, it cannot be changed and thus they feel upset / get angry cause its stating then that in the future you will change for what they could not fulfil. Would you like hearing something that you cannot change is a bad thing in the other persons eyes? That makes sense? But in the long run, honesty is better then lying as in time the truth always comes out.. I suffer foot in mouth all the time..lol Just my 2c
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RHP User
16 years ago
I suppose a lot dirty talk and some home videos don`t help the situation
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RHP User
16 years ago
yes i suppose so.. if you want it cum and get it these days..
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RHP User
16 years ago
"You want the truth you can,t handle the truth" spring to mind ,honesty is the best policy full stop.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Is something that is rare to find in another person, most of us always say we want honesty, but only the kind that suits us, its the honesty that we only want to hear, and we do get upset when we get it. But at least when you do it gives you a trust in another and you move forward... But, for me personally I would rather honesty that may hurt because I at least know that I can trust that person, rather than have someone be dishonest with me and hurt me alot more and that would end up in me not trusting them... Because its true, the truth does come out eventually and if you dont have trust then there is no point being with that person... If your having someone get mad at you because of your honesty and they dont "get over it" then you shouldnt waste your time, because they obviously arent the right person for you... Late x
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RHP User
16 years ago
im with everybody else always be honest...but if he cant handle it tell him to piss off and never contact you again then call "NEXT"....as the saying on here goes lol roxxy
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RHP User
16 years ago
being frank..???let me expand on this...l e t m e e x p a n d o n t h i s...l e t m e e x p a n d o n t h i s....ok, ok....if i ask you do you like my butt and the answer is no, you don't...being honest you would say..."well, it is a nice butt, however it isn't what i really like in my men"...being frank you would say..."omg, that is the ugliest butt i have ever seen"...so, when a guy asks you to be honest, he wants you to couch your words in a nice way, not a frank way...this is your guy i'm talking about, not me...cheers and hope this helps...jose...me?...i prefer frankness every day of the week...
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RHP User
16 years ago
...we love Jose's butt, hang on what was this about? Oh yes honesty, it's a wonderful thing and being online allows you to be very honest and sort out who fits and who doesn't. One thing that will always get my goat is how some people can be so damn nasty when they don't know the whole person. There's really no need to be nasty in real life and most people wouldn't dare as they might get a fist in the face but it's soooo easy to rip into someone in the safety of online chat.Miss if he's nasty now, he'll be nastier later. Use that block function and move onto someone who'll show you the love you deserve!
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RHP User
16 years ago
The fact is that the truth often hurts and people should really learn not to ask questions to things they don't really want the answers to, however it is never a good idea to lie either, i grew up in a fearful situation where i lied a lot to stay safe, this became a habit that in adult life i had to work really hard to break and i wont go back for anyone.While the truth often hurts, lies always hurt more because when you get found out (and you always do) there is a whole level of betrayal that ruins friendships/relationships and reputations.If this guy really cant handle the things you have to say then you are most likely not compatible and like others have said it may be time for 'Next' but dont change who you are and tell him what you think he wants to hear, it's just not worth it, honesty truly is the best policy.Good luck with itxxMrs GC
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RHP User
16 years ago
honesty is about trust. truth and not being insecure,like its pretty simple..
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RHP User
16 years ago
There's a difference between being truthful and being just plain mean. Some thoughts simply should not be said. Not saying them makes you no less honest. It's a constant challenge to remain truthful without being hurtful and denigrating someone. It's difficult to make people feel sexy about themselves if being honest means telling someone they're an ugly fucker. Not everything should be said. It makes you no less honest to hold your Tongue sometimes. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Subject closed. Ultrajum out. Peace x
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RHP User
16 years ago
everytime... however, if you don't get asked the right question then don't volunteer information. Being open and honest is the way I do things, but having said that there is the flip side that it often offends and thats not so good. hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
i think that is the honest truth
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RHP User
16 years ago
Misswantu..we are always experiencing the good and bad of relationships or communications ..A wise man once told me ..never ask a question if you dont want to hear their answer..When talking of sex it makes the water more muddy ..I say when asked a question make sure you know the person asking well enough to hear the truth and they will respect your answer and you after it.. Like in the movie " you cant handle the truth " not you of course but the wankers who bash you after hearing it..
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RHP User
16 years ago
with Jose and Stalky.Being honest requires a lot of tact and consideration for the person you are dealing with. We do not know what was said, and I do understand the frustration of being asked to be honest and then finding they do not really want honesty at all.I think you should always be honest, but then I did tell my kids father Christmas, the Easter bunny and the Tooth fairy are real :P Thankfully this belief has been slightly altered when at the age of six, my son said to me " Whatever you believe is the truth for you" Phew, that one gets me out of many a jam!xx Salina
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RHP User
16 years ago
Your honesty may not be someone else's honesty...it may be just your opinion.I always temper honesty with compassion....sure...we should be honest...but not at the expense of someone's feeling of self worth.There's a difference between...fuck, your ass looks HUGE in those jeans...as opposed to...the jeans look ok...but I think those black slacks you have look HOT!Same point....different reception...and reaction!Some people just need to put their filters in...and realise that not every thought that pops into their heads needs to be spoken out loud...and not everyone thinks how they do...so if you're prepared to dish it...be prepared to take it too..however THEY like to dish it out.As always...this is Just My Opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
and MissWantu...this is in no way a reflection on you...Personally....life is too short..so unless you're really into this guy...I would move on.JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Or else he's just a jerk and trying to make u feel bad so you'll try harder to please him. I'm guessing its that. Plenty of fish my dear, just keep casting, ur a nice girl, you'll find someone awesome.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' It's always the way though, those that are going to yell and screqm and throw a hissy are always the ones who bleet on about honesty. Everyone, their children, their spouses, their workmates, their friends lie to them because they are frightened of their response. I agree with BJ, perhaps time to move on. I don't have the strength for high maint like that. As prev. stated by me...........that kind of person is just too much for me to deal with. Life is too short for living in fear of someone reaction xx Mrs S Pretty much this. I have an awful lot of trouble living with this issue myself, given my past I've had mixed experiences with being honest. However like others have said, tactfulness does help too.In terms of getting to know someone, honesty is the best bet. If the reaction is negative or they don't like hearing no, it just tells you that person isn't right for you. So be honest, saves time and hassle.So how does it go? 'NEXT!'Cheers,Z
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' There's a difference between being truthful and being just plain mean. Some thoughts simply should not be said. Not saying them makes you no less honest. It's a constant challenge to remain truthful without being hurtful and denigrating someone. It's difficult to make people feel sexy about themselves if being honest means telling someone they're an ugly fucker. Not everything should be said. It makes you no less honest to hold your Tongue sometimes. Hugs Stalky ... you intrigue me. What makes you tick?lilmiss x
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' There's a difference between being truthful and being just plain mean. Some thoughts simply should not be said. Not saying them makes you no less honest. It's a constant challenge to remain truthful without being hurtful and denigrating someone. It's difficult to make people feel sexy about themselves if being honest means telling someone they're an ugly fucker. Not everything should be said. It makes you no less honest to hold your Tongue sometimes. Hugs Stalky ... you intrigue me. What makes you tick?lilmiss x
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree sometimes LITTLE white lies to save someones feelings are okay. But I guess there is a fine line! I am just intrigued that Stalky holds his tongue? Seems to me that you say what ever outrageous thing that comes into your head half the time. Keep doing it tho Meeka
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' ..A wise man once told me ..never ask a question if you dont want to hear their answer.. That's my problem - I wont ask the question if I don't want to hear the answer.... Or is it that I know the answer but don't want to acknowledge the truth......
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RHP User
16 years ago
You say "Then he gets nasty and mean when he hears something he doesn't like." That's just not on I'm afraid whether he asks you to be honest and up front or not. If we involve ourselves in peoples lives, share time, space and bond then we need to be receptive to constructive criticism in order for the friendship/relationship to progress or even at least remain static. It's not like you gave him a character assassination is it? lol.
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RHP User
16 years ago
He's free to move on if he doesn't like it :)
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