Here's my number

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I've never cold-called anyone....I figure that the people who's number is listed probably already receive a bucket-load of calls/texts anyway so I don't see why I should add to their headache... However, I have sent an email or two to people when their email is listed in their profile and have had the same in return. Agreed on the awkward part....

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I much prefer to spend time (at least 1-2 weeks) chatting to people online before going to meet them. But I think it has a lot to do with what people are comfortable with - some people go to the white pages to look up a phone number for a business, whereas I'd rather look the business up online. Yay for my apparent social anti-socialness :p

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  CNG I like to use messaging first to get to know them, its only when we have agreed to meet up that phone numbers are exchanged and that is more to let someone know you are running late or whatever. When I was new I gave someone my phone number and it was a bad idea, however, I did discover quite quickly that he wasnt someone I wanted to meet and I was honest and said thanks but no thanks.   I suppose if you just want a quickie you could call up meet up wham bam thankyou mam, however dont forget your own safety is always the most important thing when meeting someone new. Public place etc, you should know the drill by now.   Even when you get to know someone over messaging and talking on the phone the final meet is always the deal maker or breaker.

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  contemplating1

  14 years ago

  And here I was looking for your number! Hehehe!   I guess its diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks. I note some peeps in their profile mention they don't like endless chat and just want a call. Must work for some!   Me? I guess I like an intro message that includes a "little" more content as well. A first up cold call to "wherever", esp from an unknown profile.... Ahh I think I'd want a lil more info too!   Have a good 'un!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  No Ive never cold called anyone and never will....call me old fashioned but I like to get to know someone and get a bit of a feel for them first before I do the exchange of the phone number thing....No Im not into endless emailing/chatting either however Im a single chick and I do have to look after my personal safety foremost........ .and Im perplexed that someone would in their very first contact send me their phone number...god I could be the Psycho chick from hell for all they know !!! ....I shake my head at people that put their phone numbers up on their public profile.. you only need one person to abuse that..and well, it could get scarey.....   And may I point out that at times Ive been damned sorry when Ive finally have given out my phone number...when we have finally met and it just hasnt worked for me (for whatever reason) ...Ive politely told them that ....only to be harassed via sms from them.... bit sad really...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  and the answer is...I only give my number out to men I am just about to meet.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I agree, I hate the phone and I would never cold call anyone. In fact I rarely call my friends let alone a complete stranger.Some guys just will not get the message that I will not just call them... I prefer to exchange some emails first to see if there is any chemistry there, well as much as you can tell from emails. xxMeeks

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I dont' call men as policy. I never have and I dont' intend to start now. I rarely call my friends, everything is online these days. If i want to interact with my friends i just inbox them because they usually have their phone on them which has their internet facilities. I would never list my number here anyway so i don't expect any calls. Only my closest friends and playfriends have my number.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We usually use the phone. If you get a message from some one and you both like each others profile enough to want to get to know the person more then why not the phone? For us the phone is the next step before meeting in person. We find its like instant proof the person is real . Weeds out the player's or guys posing as a girls, Not to mention the classic 1/2 a couple. The same goes for the other people involved. They get a chance to see we are both genuine to and not wasting there time. I guess the phone call is like verification for us before we commit to much time. Sadly due to the number of people not being who they say they are its a necessary 1st step. We find a 5 min phone call can revile if there is a good vibe about the person. Its usually just a brief call for a quick chat and to make arrangements to meet in person for a coffee or drink. In the end for us this is all about meeting people in person. That's the only way you get the full picture and can really know if you all click.We find the kind of people we like to meet and potentially play with. Are the kind that will happily exchange numbers, talk on the phone and meet in person. It Saves having a 10000 person contact list on MSN that are all dreamers & time wasters or 1/2 couples. No point talking to people that have no intention of ever meeting in person for what ever reason. Were is the fun in that? When we 1st joined RHP. We actualy started off taking to the time to talk to people on MSN or other chat programs along with emails. I can actualy say that not one of the people that insisted on MSN did we ever meet in person. We actually see MSN user names or an email addresses in reply to a message be a warning sign of not to bother now.We do have a mobile phone number that is used just for this purpose. To date no one has abused this number.We understand our situation is different to others. Perhaps if you lived out of town. Then chat programs are a option over driving 100's of km just for a meet and greet. I guess some people that are very shy but hey If your that shy RHP and this life style might not me for you. For the people that love chat programs its no loss to us. There are plenty of others that will happily join them in talking to there pc, about what they wish they were doing until the cows come home.Tim

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I guess it's partially based on a personality, and also on upbringing. I'm typical reserved English and the the thought of ringing anybody "cold" makes me feel uncomfortable. At least on a face to face meeting you can get round awkward silences by sipping your drink or eating your food...and emails have no concept of time either, even online chats seem easier when there is a pause in the flow. It's a shame, as some people won't entertain getting to know someone if they won't chat on the phone first, but tome, it's just a step too far.....#sigh#....Mr SiS

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  erotictouch4u

  14 years ago

  Once got a reply with a phone number asking me to call to arrange a meeting. I called and she sounded so desperate on the phone that it made me think she was a strung-out hooker looking for a customer. Needless to say I did not call backagain and when she called me a few days later I was too busy ET xox

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Once we find a couple or single that meets the needs and dont look too scarey. Then we will send them our mobile number and ask for theirs. easy..   We have learnt the sooner we get to real talking on phone , the odds of meeting and playing skyrocket. Usually we will sms 1st and check its a good time to ring, or let them know when the kids are asleep.   This confirms 2 things fairly quickly 1. they are real (talk to both partys) 2. They are serious about playing (not thinking about it for another year and only want to look at pics)   also we can talk to both partys and make sure they are both keen . ask about previous experience etc....and so the ice is broken. :)   If they dont sms or ring/answer ?? we know they arnt ready/not that keen/fake or whatever... and we can move on without wasting weeks messaging and winking.     Keep it simple is our idea

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'AdventureTime' Once we find a couple or single that meets the needs and dont look too scarey. Then we will send them our mobile number and ask for theirs. easy..   We have learnt the sooner we get to real talking on phone , the odds of meeting and playing skyrocket. Usually we will sms 1st and check its a good time to ring, or let them know when the kids are asleep.   This confirms 2 things fairly quickly 1. they are real (talk to both partys) 2. They are serious about playing (not thinking about it for another year and only want to look at pics)   also we can talk to both partys and make sure they are both keen . ask about previous experience etc....and so the ice is broken. :)   If they dont sms or ring/answer ?? we know they arnt ready/not that keen/fake or whatever... and we can move on without wasting weeks messaging and winking. That's 100% the same reasons I was trying to get at with my long rant. Until we hear a real voice we don't take anyone seriously. We don't want to meet some one who is to shy to even talk on the phone.if they cant do that. How would they handle talking face to face net alone naked in a play situation?Another good excuse we have heard is that a particular person or couple is to busy to talk on the phone. Yet its amazing that the same person has countless hrs spare to chat on MSN.Anyhow like I said before we find the phone number to be a great filter.The good ones always call.Tim

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