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Help Dating Tips and Advice for someone Lost touch with the Dating Scene!

January 23 2011

Hi everyone, I need all your help.I want to give a brief overview on my situation. I am only my late 20's. My ex fiance was a guy i was with since i was 18. I was with him for about 6 years. 3 years ago, he passed away. :( I was very devastated and i fell into depression mode. I eventually got out of depression mode and i then started putting all my time into work. I lost my social life because all i did was work. I end up working 16-18 hours per day and in the time off, i am so tired that i sometimes sleep without dinner or food. I now am ready to go back in the dating scene but i have lost touch on how to date and Lost touch on how to be an attractive person. When i was with my Late partner i remember i used to be a very charming and very witty person. I used to come up with the right things to say at the right time and i was a very quick thinker when it came to what to say and how to act in situations to get a guy to just want me. Now I have no idea what to say or what to do on dates. The only thing i can think of to talk about is Work which i feel like it would just bore everyone.I didn't used to be like this. I remember i used to be able to talk for 8 hours straight on the phone with friends and my late partner without mentioning work in the whole conversation. The problem is that it was so long ago, i can't remember what kinds of things i used to talk about.Please Help me and give me some tips and pointers! I really am out of touch and i want to get back in the Dating scene!

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RHP User

15 years ago

Well... whatever it is your doing now.. it works. You're naturally charming, I think. I suggest you don't change a thing... except maybe your profile pic! Let's be open about this stuff.. if you have to put on a show and be someone else in the dating scene it's going to wear thin on your patience and mislead others. You're obviously a honey trap... so keep yourself in plain view and the bees... err.... boys.. whatever... will come to you. :p.I saw on Oprah the other night that the difference between Australians and Americans is that Americans live to work and Australians work to live. That's not a bad reason to drop a few hours at the office if you're throwing in 18 hour days. We all perform better and make fewer mistakes when well rested.HugsStalky

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15 years ago

hello :) If you were a charming and witty person, then guess what? You still are :) . Grief is like being trapped in a box...you turn left... BLOCKED. You turn right... BLOCKED. But it's when you look up, that you can see the light and a way to get out. It sounds like it's time to get out of that box :) . Food and sex...start thinking about them and start enjoying them. They are waaay more enjoyable than work or work! And they are what we are working for in the end....although sex is a lot cheaper than food! But put sex on your shopping list and keep your eyes open...it's easier to see what's on offer that way. Beware of the pressure sale though....window shopping is perfectly acceptable ....men groan at the thought...but too bad! Ask the salesman lots of questions...and if he's too busy or rude or pushy, walk out of the store and into another that catches your eye. When you are ready to purchase, go ahead. And if it wasn't the right fit, then feel free to exchange. . I feel a big shopping trip coming on!!! Good luck!

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