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February 24 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't know the background of your situation but I think it's natural to want to fill the void that's just been created . Getting into another Relationship , without first properly healing yourself and re-grouping is not advisable . It also wouldn't be fair to you or your new partner . Unresolved issues need to be resolved . The acceptable duration between one Relationship and the next is really up to the individual and the situation but if your previous Relationship had any depth I don't believe a couple of weeks is sufficient time . Sometimes it can take months . Is a new Relationship really , truthfully what you need right now ? Or is it just the Intimacy that you miss ? Best of Luck GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Pmsl...... I guess it just depends on the individual. Personally I wouldn't be keen to rush into anything with someone that had just come out of an relationship... I think after the breakdown of any relationship, both parties need time to find themselves again. I've been divorced for 16years and jumped straight into another horrible relationship, which lasted 2years. Then jumped into another relationship with someone who I call my saviour and we have been separated for 6years and I have only just found myself in the last 12months.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
12 years ago
on the person. I came out of a long marriage a while back and took my time (at least 12 months) to take stock and reflect on what has happened. I consciously turned down every offer to date during that time and just want to replenish my emotional and mental coffers. Good to just grieve for a passing of an era and see how that transformed you as a person and taking time to see where you want to go. Let yourself heal, you owe that to yourself. A good analogy is just coming out of a long roller coaster ride. As you get off it, take time to recalibrate your bearings, as it can get out of synch in a relationship, and see where you are at that point in life and where you want to be. Gives you a better path to travail from the doldrums of a break-up. A permanent and serious relationship can take a lot of energy - mentally, physically and emotionally - and should be entered into when you are not in your most vulnerable state. Enjoy your freedom and the discover the joy of solitude. Good luck
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RHP User
12 years ago
How long were you together? Who broke up with who? Was it a sudden break up? Are there residual feelings? Love/affection/anger/resentment/etc. And more.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been single now for two years after a marriage of 23 years. I did a lot of soul searching and met a few ladies in the time but found i was enjoying my time being single again . I have many lady friends and have endless opportunities of going with a lady for an outing for say a dinner, movies, or coffee etc. I say enjoy the time you have. RHP offers the opportunity to meet heaps of people looking for benefits and nothing more. I am loving who i meet and also the single status. I have been propositioned several times and in my opinion i am an ugly old fart but hey i dont knock back opportunities that coming knocking. Just my take on the matter.
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precious142
12 years ago
Very much single now 5 years after a 15year relationship.........spent 2 years in therapy "finding myself" and love what I have found. Being on RHP and another site has opened my eyes, mind and legs to a whole new world of experiences, especially in meeting some pretty good guys who have made me feel even better than I felt before.It would be fantastic to find a guy who ticks all the boxes for me but until he comes along, I am very happy and content with my life as it is
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RHP User
12 years ago
Forgive me I was being cynical, the reality there is no right or wrong time, it depends on the relationship, the break up and how fragile you feel, they say time is a healer, well maybe not quite a healer but it just takes the edge off the sharp bits.Give yourself time to laugh, if you start laughing at life then your ready..
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
When a woman meets a man, it's really hard to know what emotinal state they are in. So from my point of view I base it on signs of behaviors.. When I say that, I mean, at first they are all in for the hunt, persuasive, then after a while getting to know them, they do shows signs they are not ready...they maybe IE: Continuous talking about ex's (does my head in), hidden closet drinker to drown sorrows, blah blah blah the list goes on and on. These are the some of the behaviors to look out for that says to me they are not ready, no where near ready. Mr Emotionally unavailable I call them. I look for an OPEN HEART in someone, then I know they are ready. :) Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I highly doubt there can ever be a time-frame put on it. People need time to grieve (feel emotions) after a breakup, to some people it is quite scary to deal with,so they look for people to fill that void. Then the whole pattern repeats it's self, again and again... I call these people "relationship jumpers". They are not for me. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I was just after a casual fling or one night stand it really wouldnt matter how long it has been since the guy had broken up from their last relationship. It has been a long time since I could be bothered with a one night stand though as I find them void of emotion and usually result in some rather ordinary sex. Past experience has shown me that someone just out of a relationship still has stuff to work out....have fun with a few, experiment etc. And there is nothing wrong with that, my preference is to be with someone who has been out of a relationship for quite some time and have worked out exactly what they want or dont want and ready for more than just casual times together.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Speaking from a blokes perspective I think it is vital to come to a place where you really know that you are ready to move on and embrace what the person in front of you has to offer. Where you know that holding onto what ever came before really is not serving you and that you even if she did beacon you to her again that you would not go because you know it is over and finished. For me my last relationship ended nearly twelve months ago. I still ver for her and am still in contact with her I know after having been with several women now since we were together that I am over her in terms of that intimacy sort of connection. How do I know. Because when I was with the last couple of women she was not in my heart at all whereas with the first she was still there. That severing of connection is not easy, it is like loosing a limb… Looking forward to exploring connections with people here….
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RHP User
12 years ago
After being in a relationship for a long time you have forgotten to be one and the only to your self...so you need to live for that a bit, on your own, find out what it means to be>>>>>>>>I call it FREE>>>>>Then see what comes around.....I don't believe you can make any predictions what will happen.Just let it come.....embrace the opportunities and be open to all possibilities.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was suddenly and unexpectedly widowed. Having had a satisfying and frequent sex life, I found I was just cut off. Of course I went through a period of grieving and adjustment, but soon found I needed some intimacy. When I found someone to give me that intimacy, I guess I clung to that person because it was nice having someone around. We moved in together and it lasted 6 months. I wasn't even overly upset when he walked out of my life at the time. I came to realise I had to be my own person on my own. Now, although I prefer to have Fwb's, I tend to think I may never settle for living with anyone again, but having said that, I still need company and loving. So I guess my answer is, do what you feel you have to at the time. But, give your self time to heal. Take stock of your life and enjoy the freedom of not having someone who relies on you for the mundane things in life. Do what you want, go where you want and enjoy some self time. Spice it it up a bit with some gratuitous sex on here if that is what you need like I did.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just read your post after I wrote mine, and you virtually say what I said, though more succinctly. Hope you are having a wild time. L.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I became separated on the 11th Feb this year...my doing. 20 yrs and I wanted out. First thing i did when i was told of this site was join. I have gone out for coffee with 3 men who have all been gentlemen. No sex...just chatter n make a new friend...i am taking it slowly n doing thgs on my terms. I suggest you do too. I know I am going to have to scratch that itch soon though lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
...have I got the back scratcher for you???
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know you do. Itch itch scratch scratch...nudge nudge wink wink ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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