Heart Broken but free

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  You're asking for tips on how to have fun? Or how to avoid relationships? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Play safe. Good luck in your ventures, and have fun :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  So I'm assuming here that the opposite of relationship guy is someone who has lots of casual/NSA/FWB sex :). Well, RHP is a great place to start if that's the case. Advice? Firstly, practice safe sex. Always. Secondly, use this as an opportunity to explore & try out new things. I found myself in a similar situation about 18 months ago, and I've had so much fun with it... my confidence, self esteem and self-awareness has increased 100%. I'm at the point now where I'd be happy to be back in a relationship if the right person came along. But I'm in no rush :). Final piece of advice: treat the people you encounter with respect, and not like a Kleenex that you jerk off into and then discard. If someone/something is not your cup of tea, say so politely and move on. Hope you have heaps of fun out there :). Much love, Micki.

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  MissBishere

  11 years ago

  Don't be a tool and always play safe.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Make your profile at least twice as long and put a face pic up (in your private gallery if you prefer.) Have fun x

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  That you now have aaaalll this free time - use it doing something useful, get out and about and so on. Every sexual encounter you may have, whether from here or RL will validate you in your own mind - as Mickelle said, your self-confidence will go through the roof. Enjoy! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Same thing. :P

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I have seen sooooo many men fall out of long term relationships, to then immediately play the field with a broken heart. Ultimately they are women haters, who seek revenge on their bitch of an ex by being an insensitive, using, lying, cheating jerk. My advice would be this: don't rush into casual sex or endless 1 night stands. Take a few months of celibacy to clear yr head & heart. Use this time to analyse yr thoughts & feelings. Allow yrself time to grieve over the lost relationship, & to get over having her presence in yr life. Gain some clarity on yr present situation & focus on new hobbies, skills, friendships etc. When U truly feel that U can give each woman U have casual sex with, yr full attention & energy - then go for gold. Just be upfront & honest about yr sexual intentions. This way, no one gets hurt - including yrself...

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  Smilingwithfun

  11 years ago

  How you would want to be treated. And be honest about what you are wanting in case you meet someone with different expectations.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  As you meet, hook up with, date, move on from, rinse and repeat with women, my tip is always avoid weasel words! They're cheap and lazy and usually cause more confusion and hurt than the truth does. Lots of men (and maybe some women, I wouldn't know) have an almost pathological inability to be direct and clear about what they want, how they feel, their reasons why etc. Case in point: A friend recently wanted to stop dating a woman he hadn't known for long. They'd had sex a few times, been on some dates, hung out at each other's house. He's a bit old-school so definitely not NSA, but it was early days so fairly casual. He was nervous about telling her because he didn't want to hurt her. He was planning to say something like "I'm not the right man for you, you can do better, you deserve to be happy" blah blah blah. I saw red, as I do, at his weasel words. On questioning him, the truth was that SHE wasn't the right woman for him. She didn't excite him enough for him to imagine continuing. After talking he decided to rephrase what he was going to say to her, be direct and clear, while still sensitive, and to own his own feelings and thoughts instead of passing them off as trying to look after her best interests. Thank gawd for that! She was hurt and angry, naturally, but she didn't fall into the trap of trying to change his mind, because he'd been so clear and honest. Better all around. Moral of the story: don't resort to weasel words.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Practise honesty and respect, also. And remember to love yourself, often when a relationship breaks down we blame ourselves and go on a self destruct mission for a while...tell yourself you are a young single guy worthy of attention, have fun and enjoy your "Singledom" !

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Enjoy yourself and respect others fully all the time.Have fun too.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  RHP is a great place to explore this as you can be upfront about what you're looking for and if everyone has their eyes open, no-one should get hurt. But be nice, women on here who are looking for one night stands/no strings attached sex are not just holes waiting to be filled, they are people too. Be respectful and as in to their pleasure as you are your own. If you're lucky, you'll get invited back.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  say nasty things about your ex it reflect badly on you and your choices And be safe and respectful good luck

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Just have fun, be respectful, be safe

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  If your attempting to use RHP as this supposed launch pad for "fun", work on your profile and change those pictures. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  For most people coming out of long term relationships, becoming a one night stand or casual sex person, is not going to truly full a void or be any quick fix for still feeling heartbroken etc. Good luck with learning to enjoy single life :)

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