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Have you good looks been a secret curse?

September 13 2015

I have been noticing more and more especially as I will be entering my thirties in the next coming years (something I thought would never happen) but I have noticed that myself and people around me especially coming up to this age that they seem more and more depressed about hitting later stages and not having accomplished what they set out to do in life or missed it all together while revealed up in attention from being attractive. Perhaps a false sense of getting what they want by being attractive (men and woman) and that gift slowly diminishing as the years progress for young and more energetic substitutes. The popularity game that went on in highschool perhaps following through into adult life...Have you yourself or known people who got by on good looks only to have that taken away from them later on when age and the stress of life wear them down?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    The best looking guy in Australia....... I reckon I'm about fourth. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Have ever had to worry about...glad to have brains over great beauty any day...work on other aspects of yourself...actually I believe that the sexy nerds are where it's at these days not the deeply shallow pretty boys xxFreya

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    10 years ago

    as Freya. Looks will only get you so far and so long in life - if you've got nothing between the ears your star will burn out very quickly. Tall

  • MissBishere

    MissBishere

    10 years ago

    speechless at this post actually. It comes across as so very shallow but I'm not sure thats how you mean it. i will just say this, you can't live life with regrets and it's never to late to change yourself.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I've been to a few. We are a pretty social group and get together every couple of years with a big turn out. At the very first one we had, everyone was hanging out to see the hotties. We kept looking around because they had indicated that they would attend but we couldn't see them. Turns out we didn't recognise them because their looks had taken a massive slide down a slippery slope. It was the quiet and unassuming little black ducks that had blossomed and a couple had grown into drop dead gorgeous men and women. Thank heavens for name tags! I guess some peoples looks peak at an early age while others are like fine wine and mature better with age. Some just don't change and look the same as they did back in their school years. It all comes down to life experiences, lifestyle choices and family genes that determine the toll it takes on us and how we handle things.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I've been to a few. We are a pretty social group and get together every couple of years with a big turn out. At the very first one we had, everyone was hanging out to see the hotties. We kept looking around because they had indicated that they would attend but we couldn't see them. Turns out we didn't recognise them because their looks had taken a massive slide down a slippery slope. It was the quiet and unassuming little black ducks that had blossomed and a couple had grown into drop dead gorgeous men and women. Thank heavens for name tags! I guess some peoples looks peak at an early age while others are like fine wine and mature better with age. Some just don't change and look the same as they did back in their school years. It all comes down to life experiences, lifestyle choices and family genes that determine the toll it takes on us and how we handle things.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    oops sorry don't know how that happened!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    There are plenty of people in the world who have gotten by based on their looks. But seriously mate, who cares? Be the best version of yourself and let the chips fall as they may. Being happy and genuine is far more attractive to most people than actual physical beauty. Sorry for the cliche response, just a bit of advice from someone at a similar age

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    When I had the good looks in my twenties I didn't have the confidence to be aware of them, let alone use them to my advantage purposely. I did get a lot of free drinks from barmen though and DJ's used to take all my song requests. These days (20 years older, 20 kilos heavier, etc.) I don't get the attention I did then, but I'm a lot happier in my skin and think I'm more beautiful on the inside now. I happy growing older, I just wish those bags under my eyes would go away after a good night's sleep like they used to. I feel bad for those who when their looks fade have nothing to fall back on.

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Leo_girl' oops sorry don't know how that happened! You obviously like your reunions... Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    From what I've seen in your profile pics, you are still absolutely stunning.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ..a friend who was the same age as me...and whose birthday was coming up...said to me " D###, I'm turning 30 tomorrow and I feel like I haven't done anything with my life ". Even then, at the ripe old age of 30, I was speechless. I felt exactly the same at 30 as I had at 29...not a day older...and certainly not a member of a different generation. This midlife crisis at 30 is something Ive seen in a few others too. Try not to fall for it...it's just an illusion. Life has gotten richer and...by default...better in the years since 30 and I'm a more complete person than i was back then. Just relax and enjoy the ride.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Can actually be a great burden..I have a male friend who in his twenties was head turningly good looking...he hated attracting such attention..now in his late thirties he is nearly bald and so much happier...His brother on the other hand embraced his looks..he is a muscian and married to a very famous Australian actress xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya70' Can actually be a great burden..I have a male friend who in his twenties was head turningly good looking...he hated attracting such attention..now in his late thirties he is nearly bald and so much happier...His brother on the other hand embraced his looks..he is a muscian and married to a very famous Australian actress xxFreya Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I don't think you would know them..definitely nobody here xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Can be defined in different ways. I've never been a stunner ( some of my friends are still gorgeous in their 50 s ) but I make the most of what I have and would rather people liked me for my company rather than my looks anyway. Like the others have said, looks will fade but personality will always shine through.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You're only 28.......embrace your youth!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    When I was thirty I was just beginning to get the hang of being a grown up. I look at it now and shudder with embarrassment. Chill ax and enjoy. All will be revealed in the fullness of time.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    There's just not enough hours in my day to date all the men who approach me because of my good looks. .....if only! 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    after a really bad illness I watched my gorgeous older girlfriend literally age over night. She based all of net worth on her looks. If only she realised that her soul radiated beauty not the layer of skin upon it laid. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If only everyone realised that gem. Alas, it's a revelation that usually seems to come with age. And maturity.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Looks are not that important. It is how you carry yourself and the confidence you carry that attracts us more. A winning personality great conversation and sexy confidence will get us into you much quicker than the shallowness of how you look. - Posted from rhpmobile