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Have you ever let go a love that you regret letting go?
January 19 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
But you know how it goes. You snooze you lose. *crawls back into bed wondering what could have been ...*
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MissBishere
12 years ago
We were a couple and he was the love of my life to this day I still think of him that way. We weren't bringing out the best in each other though at the time so we parted, he met an American chick and took off to the USA. He had always talked about moving there it was where he wanted to live and pursue his dream of being a professional drag racer. We lost touch, life went on, he got married I got married then when my divorce happened I ran into his sister and I tracked him down. He was single and I was single but he lived in the US. Anyway, that's life. We talk every week and soon he will be moving back to Australia, with his new wife and kids.So yes I often wonder "what if"... but I also think sometimes love is just not enough.
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MissBishere
12 years ago
We were a couple and he was the love of my life to this day I still think of him that way. We weren't bringing out the best in each other though at the time so we parted, he met an American chick and took off to the USA. He had always talked about moving there it was where he wanted to live and pursue his dream of being a professional drag racer. We lost touch, life went on, he got married I got married then when my divorce happened I ran into his sister and I tracked him down. He was single and I was single but he lived in the US. Anyway, that's life. We talk every week and soon he will be moving back to Australia, with his new wife and kids.So yes I often wonder "what if"... but I also think sometimes love is just not enough.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The love of my life. You know that moment of truth when you should have blind faith in someone who you love deeply, but instead you doubt them and the doubt changes your expectations, and suddenly you interpret every little thing as proof your doubt is valid, even when your interpretations aren't based on anything? I did that. I drove him away and I walked away almost in the same instance. Silly, silly me. So much regret. Let's hope life offers up more than one amazing love story. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
until we meet again in another realm of existence
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RHP User
12 years ago
Long ago I fell in love with someone without meaning to. Just casual friends till one night a look from her drove me wild, but she is totally unavailable, married, family. At first I thought that it was just my imagination, she has no feelings for me, but my friends picked up on the vibe. I was assured she was most definitely hot for me. Come rain or shine from then on I made sure I was there at the pub every Wednesday pool comp night. When ever we met everyone in the room just faded away, alone together in a crowed room. We would sneak intimate touches and longing gazes, and from time to time under our breaths whisper lustful intentions and secret love. This went on for just under two months Then one night, with exquisite bad timing just as the jukebox paused, someone not knowing she was married and that her husband was but a few feet away concentrating on his game, blurted out. "You two should get a room." Instantly I realized I was touching her and she was touching me, we had been talking for hours, our hands raced to our sides but it was too late. Her husband was now standing right behind her and she still looking at me, unaware he was there. I had guilt written all over me and and he gave me such a glare. She followed my eyes and turned to confront him. I never saw her again. Since then I did get an invitation to meet her, sent via friends. My mind screams out yes yes where and when, but there is no way in hell I can be alone with her, not even for a moment, for it would be too easy to embrace and way too hard to ever let go again. So with fake disinterest for her invitation, I forced out a no. Forever to imagine what if I had said yes.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love!! it's an over used word....in my world it doesn't warrant using and I only now believe in lust....sure u can care for a person but love is not worth the effort just to be knocked down over and over.....so for me it's ok to care and lust after someone but...note to self....never let them break down ur wall :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was young 24 yo and he was 32 yo we met on the beach in Bali , he just finished surf and i was running on the beach , i spotted that lean gorgeous blond thing as i was running along the beach ( Legian beach ) and said to my self i am goin to say something , a simple hello ...and i can see he saw me too as he walked back to the beach , and i was thinking ,now i am gonna make my self look like a pest to approach him, he,he..,as i run closer towards him he was walking slower also as if he was waiting for me , finally we crossed path and we actually open our mouth almost the same time to say hello and we laughed about it , we started chatting and the next thing i knew i was on his bike , rode all the way to his Villa in Canggu what a beautiful place and Bali was his home , this beautiful man was pure gentleman , so down to earth , beautiful inside -out , extremely intelligent and has a special soul slowly as i got to know him , and loved by so many even tho- he was young his friends a lot of them was older ( he even introduced me to his ex- who was 43 yo lady from California and she became my friend too),he has a special gift he knew how to communicate with people in whatever level and he knew what he wanted out of life , i think why he was different becouse he was born in France but grew up and spent time in various different countries from Africa-Middle east-Asia and also bit of time in Australia ( his father was working for french goverment ), and therefore he was a little bit different to your average man all those places had shaped him into fine gentleman ,he has very Asian soul particular in him i would say very sensitive and caring , he was definitely A Diamond , we were together for few years and we travelled to many places , since surfing was his life we go to places from Sumatra to Tahiti chasing big waves , it was excting time for sure ,..but at some point i too had to start my own journey doing my own thing establish my self , so i went and travelled by my self seeing places and decided i want to do something and it will separated us for a bit but i promised him i will be back , it was heart breaking for him becouse he didnt want us to be away from each other but i was very stubborn kid , i want to grow and experience the world , i didnt want to have kid/s just yet becouse i was too young but thats what he wanted me to be just a mother and staying at home with him i guess he was ready for children but i was not , thinking i was way too young definitely not ready , i didnt wanna do it my brain didnt except that ..i want to be challenge and want to enjoy my youth first , before any kind of baby business and it created a friction between us ...so i was being selfish instead i left him and continue on with my life i had let him down big time no question , i broke his heart , all the phone calls at nite ,begging me to come home to him ,all the tears and heartaches and he didnt even care even if i had new boyfriend by then he just wanted me to return to him almost as i was his life and everything stopped without me...i knew he was suffering terribly but stood my ground i wanted to learn first about the world ..he would visited my mother asked her to influence me to return to him all friends and family got involved as well telling me i should be with him and forget about everything else or whatever i was doing out there , it does made me very sad if i think back about all these now as i wish i could change it all for him and gave him all what he ever wanted , Children ,happy life with me next to him grow old together and him chasing waves in between ..he would always told me this over and over , yes he was always been simple beautiful man , anyway...he never stopped loving me ,but he was suffering living in Bali without me , it was too much for him so he decided to move away to Costa Rica for a new life sold his Bali Villa and Building a new Home In Costa Rica and he always told me about the progress with his new project and the waves he had on the day..he wanted me to know everything he was doing there and i was happy hearing his story and that he is doing well and was ok , he asked me to come and visit him in his new place for holiday and he was saying ," you would love this place " and i promised i will visit him there, it took nearly a year to built his Villa and on the last day they finished installed the Electricity so he can move in he got Killed, a bike accident claimed his life on the way to A party he was invited to , he always rode his bike very fast and that nite he didnt see the big hole on the road and he plunged into a big hole and broke his neck and died there alone , it was so sad he died so far away from everyone he loved friends and family , some old friends still blamed me for it ..and i will always excepted it that i have contributed to that in some way the pain he went through , and i do blamed my self in some way still , and yes i missed him a terribly sometimes we used to talk a lot even if we were not together at nite , and to be honest i often wonder how would my life be if i was just that house wife minding the Kids and the house as how he wanted me to be for him , i think i would have been doing quiet a good job actually and as for his Love i would never question it , so yes this is my regret ,and truly regretted it and especially when i actually still loved him very much and had planned to return to him one day but in my own time and never told him that i kept it secret as i didnt want him to say when? when? ...unfortunately Life didnt agree with me and claimed him first faster than i have in mind, if i only knew everything or knew what i know now it would be very different story ...and unfortunetly i was too young to understand everything then , and i still missed that handsome lean Blond Boy from the beach and when i go to the Beach often that scenes replied in my head , he will always be missed by so many of his friends and family and i would always live with " i wonder how my life would be if ...." but one thing for sure he is still the only man i truly ,truly loved...his love was like no other and i still compared every other men to him ..and the strange thing is all his dreams becomes mine ... i felt he lives through me now , RIP J.L
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RHP User
12 years ago
why cause urself all the grief of wondering what if???? Just carry on....retain ur memory but don't wast time giving urself a grand headf..k ...because i can guarantee u that the person u r thinking about does not and is not giving u a second thought... don't mean to sound negative but that's just my factual opinion afterall we r all entitled to one....so plz don't shoot me down...have fun all & enjoy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingRainbows' The love of my life. You know that moment of truth when you should have blind faith in someone who you love deeply, but instead you doubt them and the doubt changes your expectations, and suddenly you interpret every little thing as proof your doubt is valid, even when your interpretations aren't based on anything? I did that. I drove him away and I walked away almost in the same instance. Silly, silly me. So much regret. Let's hope life offers up more than one amazing love story. - Posted from rhpmobile Very recently. I sabotaged something that could of been amazing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had a short lived affair with him. I still wonder where he is and if he is happy. 1993 was the year.
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RHP User
12 years ago
so many romantics...I feel deprived...only thing I regret losing was a cat
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RHP User
12 years ago
it is a handsome frog
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RHP User
12 years ago
We met around 20 years ago at work. The chemistry was ridiculous. I swear I could feel when he was in the building. I sure as hell knew when he walked into the same room - even before I'd turned around to see him there. We eventually had a few intimate liaisons after many years of insane teasing, and they were the most erotic memories I have. He moved away (long way away) and a few years later got married. He's now very happy with his wife and life - and I'm very happy for him. I believe his is the love of my life and doubt anyone will ever stack up. I often think "if maybe"... But as long as he's happy, I'm happy for him.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Was about 7 years ago, I was 20, he was 32 separated at the time. We met, had an amazing connection, dated on and off for 3 years, until he got sick and passed away. He will always be my one true love and a "what if" if he had never of gotten sick. - Posted from rhpmobile
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Just wasn't meant to be :( As hard as it is , you can't go through life playing the "if only " game. It will do your head in. You must keep looking forwards Not backwards or you just might miss out on a new chance at happiness - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Miss is it not better to have loved than never loved at all ?? You cannot surely close yourself to things that you will never know exist if you build your wall to high ?? Honey take just a few bricks out and have a peek you may be missing something vital in your life shut yourself down you will never never know ???? Isnt that alone enough to break down your wall ??? Dont shut yourself in ! But most of all be careful ! yes , but dont shut everyone out ??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I haven't lost a love, and don't think about what could have been. All my relationships have had clear endings, with no lingering feelings. . Maybe I've been lucky?
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RHP User
12 years ago
But i am just happy to share my story with others some mite judged me or whateva ,but it doesnt matter to me and i wish i had only losing a Cat instead , but no i lost My Handsome frog and yes i still missed my handsome frog everyday ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
great white buffalogreat white buffalo great white buffalo
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
As the saying goes "It is better to have loved & lost, than never to have loved at all"
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
But there is no use in the what if"s or regrets.... It wasn't meant to be, so that's how it goes I guess.... It could be an unanswered prayer.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
with apparently nothing better to do than whinge in secret cos 'he' looked at your profile making you want to run a mile. Maybe practice the power of the block button and I'll no longer have to listen to you go on. .
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RHP User
12 years ago
and while I might have missed an ex in the past That is something long passed my life has been blessed I've got the best! The best in the West!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Smilingwithfun' As the saying goes "It is better to have loved & lost, than never to have loved at all"YeSome years have passed, my life has gone on (in fact, VERY full and busy with lots of great, positive changes), but as yet I haven't stopped wishing that I'd never met him. The relentless grief and pain has almost been too much to bear. I'm sure one day I'll see it differently, but for now ... :(
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RHP User
12 years ago
I assume that you are referring to my frog comment....I was very attached to my cat who died over thirty years ago.At the time my then partner had threatened to kill the cat if I left him.....the cat ran away and I left....my comment about him turning into a frog was because I think that it is a romantic notion...I actually love frogs...I have two ponds full of marsh frogs and tree frogs inhabit my garden. As I said in SWB ,when I was posting about the cat who is now a frog,a man who is a prolific sender of flirts was looking at my profile...his profile name is a frog name... I thought this was an amusing coincidence ...I also said perhaps if a man ''flirts'' enough princesses he may turn into a handsome prince.... If I have offended anyone with my silliness I apologise.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Smilingwithfun' As the saying goes "It is better to have loved & lost, than never to have loved at all" That quote originated from a poem written about the loss of the poet's friend which is in no way shape or form comparable to the loss of a 'soul mate' or 'the one'.
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RHP User
12 years ago
May your frog prince appear to you in a guise honest and true To ride the highs and lows and not just appear as a toad. With a demeanor brave and strong as you've deserved all along. . Sincerely, Peachy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wow what a fabulous sad life story thank you so much for sharing;-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'wingman2014' Just wasn't meant to be :( As hard as it is , you can't go through life playing the "if only " game. It will do your head in. You must keep looking forwards Not backwards or you just might miss out on a new chance at happiness - Posted from rhpmobile Regret is not a sin and not something to hide away. It is how we learn, for without regrets how will avoid similar mistakes in the future. Always found people that proclaim they have no regrets are hiding from their past. What will do your head in is not learning from the reasons you have what ifs in the past.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I ended a relationship with a woman with the generosity of spirit that would effortlessly move mountains for people without passing a second thought and was humble enough to never expect any thanks in return. It was self satisfying for her to do so. I then chose a relationship with a woman that was incredibly put out by the slightest inconvenience. I kicked my own ass so badly so many times over that. D'oh!
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wingman2014
12 years ago
You are correct when you say regret is something we learn from . Everyone responding here is doing so from their own personal experience so not all are the same. I can only speak for myself and know only too well the pain of having to let go . And how easy it is too let it consume you , do your head in. But you have to move on eventually or become Miss Havisham. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think the whole 'one true love' or 'one soul mate' concept has the potential to be one of the most detrimental concepts that you can instil into someone, as is the 'happy ever after' fairy tale. It's real, it's possible, it may last a lifetime (and that's great) but more often than not it may only be for a limited time. You can love again, but to compare it or someone else to that one experience (or even grievances from a previous bad relationship) defeats the purpose of fully appreciating the next person for who and all that they are to fully appreciate the relationship for all that it can be at any given moment (regardless of the nature of the relationship).
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RHP User
12 years ago
I let a great girl go :( hesitation is a killer? I missed the boat on meeting two rather interesting lady's recently and tether pissed at life n myself for not getting the chance to sit chat n laugh with these two wonderful hot sexy lady's ;) Lovinit28 and looking4qaulity Please forgive me :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I Truly appreciated your nice message as well .xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
And I've posted more on the topic in SWB. I did not see the ribbit comment until I read this post just now, and it certainly wasn't just you I questioned in SWB. I hope you will take into account I did realise I'd spoken out of turn and my last post on this thread was in recognition of that, I also hope you will take it in the spirit offered.
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
A long while back I read that time doesn't heal all things, the combination of time and action does. From that I took that if I'm hurting and I want that to change I must act to change it, but at the same time I must allow myself time for the actions to take effect and for the past to become less raw. To everyone who has said don't have regrets, don't look back, don't waste your time, I think that's a narrow view at best, and it assumes that sadness, grief, heartache etc are less valuable emotions than happiness. In my experience these challenging emotions, and allowing myself the time to experience them fully, have taught me more about life, people and myself than all the laughs and fun times put together. Every experience is valid, including the experience of reflecting on a lost love or even suffering indescribable grief. Be a friend to yourself and others if you're/they're struggling with this kind of grief - be gentle, listen, offer encouragement, and most of all be patient. JMO. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
thank you,all is well x Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'KiwiBred' I think the whole 'one true love' or 'one soul mate' concept has the potential to be one of the most detrimental concepts that you can instil into someone, as is the 'happy ever after' fairy tale. It's real, it's possible, it may last a lifetime (and that's great) but more often than not it may only be for a limited time. Youre right. Come over.... bring a friend. lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think I've ever even been in love, and happy for it to stay that way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Chelle63
12 years ago
Quoting 'sxcgal64' Love!! it's an over used word....in my world it doesn't warrant using and I only now believe in lust....sure u can care for a person but love is not worth the effort just to be knocked down over and over.....so for me it's ok to care and lust after someone but...note to self....never let them break down ur wall :) I know exactly what you are saying, I had a huge brick wall around my heart and I have let it down and had my heart smashed to pieces. I no longer believe in love. It has something I have searched for my whole life and found twice, then had it thrown in my face both times. Love is over-rated. The number of times I have been contacted by married men who "love" their wives but need more in their life.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...for me is that moment of realisation that the issues in the relationship are now insurmountable, and the only solution is to end things before the both of you drag each other into the abyss. Luckily, this thought is usually followed by a desire to take action, in my head at least. Call it self-preservation.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Unrushed1' I ended a relationship with a woman with the generosity of spirit that would effortlessly move mountains for people without passing a second thought and was humble enough to never expect any thanks in return. It was self satisfying for her to do so. I then chose a relationship with a woman that was incredibly put out by the slightest inconvenience. I kicked my own ass so badly so many times over that. D'oh! Why did you choose the wrong one? What made you decided in that way?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I must so shallow!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Marry me aha :) .. I think I've found my emotional soulmate lol :) :) .. On a more serious note though .. im inclined to agree on just about everything you have said . Love really is just that .. a word ! Like any other .. ! Tossed around more than a jailhouse salad :p & if there is no action to back this four letter relatively meaningless word up then .. it really means little to nothing at all !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Paintme Missb72 Chasingrainbows Kiwibred Blindman67 Sxcgal64 Kalifornia69 Inspirit Qefenta2 Apollothirteen Sexyris25 Wingman2014 Meander!!?? Mischieviouslad Smilingwithfun Lovinit28 Unrushed1 Warning69 Luckdragon23 Meeka100 And yes i forgive you mrs peachypear And any body else that tells a little story about a big part of there life i absolutely enjoy reading each and every one thanks . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sure have! Not sure about loved but liked someone a lot to only find out he was attached ... Ouch! Lesson learnt 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
No doubt, we are all entitled to our PERSONAL opinion but I find the term "factual opinion" laughable. It's either based on fact or it's a personal opinion - and that's a fact! In my PERSONAL opinion, I don't really believe in the man made idea of "love" but I do think everyone has their own interpretation of it and it comes in many different forms and for that reason, I would never suggest to the next person that it doesn't exist.... PERSONALLY, I do have a that one big regret but I find wasting time thinking about him, enjoyable, not disturbing in the slightest. And really, considering you know NOTHING of my personal regret, who are you to guarantee that he doesn't think of me too? You're no one, that's who. Be careful when you throw your opinion at people. It's fine to have one, but understand that it's YOUR OWN opinion and just because others may disagree, doesn't make them wrong :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I saw her today at the reception A glass of wine in her hand I knew she was gunna make her connection At her feet was a footloose man :p Define love before you talk about it. Also define money and God and the first-past-the-post electoral system and then maybe everyone will be a little less frightened :p Maybe you love everyone or you love no-one, or maybe it's just when you love yourself that you can love everyone else ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
there are 2 girls that I wish I had of gone further with but I don't regret that decision at all because I consider these 2 as some of my closest friends today. I wouldn't have it any other way
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RHP User
12 years ago
The Short version was, I love a fantastic woman.... she live in the west, I lived in the west. Her family, who never met me, hated my guts because she would move back to Vic. They made her life difficult, so I decided I would not come between her and her family and ended our relationship. It hurt her and I grieved badly... what I did, I did out of love and for the right reasons. A couple of years later we met for a drink and dinner when I was in Melbourne.... she had only just met someone and things were proceeding well. She told me I was a fool... She had move to WA and I was the reason she wanted to stay... what her family thought and did, she didn't care. She wanted me and that's what mattered. I loved her and certainly regret not having married her. However the "what if" could be that the issues created by her family may have destroyed us in the long run.... would she have remained happy? Would we have both moved to Victoria... so many "what if's". Yes I loved her and yes wanted to marry her. But it's a bit like a beautiful person dies young... she remains ever young. I remember that new love where the sex was great, everything was exciting, we were going places and making plans..... that is how the relationship and her remain in my memory. It remains an idea, but would it have been a reality?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I fall in love at the drop of a hat. Some may say that is a bad thing but I do not think so. My first love I screwed over, not intentionally, I was heart broken. But time heals and I moved on. My next true love I was determined to keep. No mistakes, no cheating, no lies. For 11 years I stuck in there despite the fact that 5 years in I had lost my love for her. I could not handle it anymore so I said goodbye. It was easy and a relief for me but not for her. Then the perfect woman came along, good looking, carer oriented, ticked every box I had. I was suckered, she emptied my bank accounts, kicked me out of my own house, stole almost everything i owned, two years of lawyers and courts. But I still loved her and was devastated. I stopped working and climbed into a bottle. Why try, I thought. But again I recovered, reset my goals, threw my distrust out the window and reopened my heart. Love comes and goes, and I love being in love. It is warm and fuzzy and more so to be loved in return. I know that it does not last for ever, I know that love returned is not always for the same reason. I know that lust and love are at times hard to distinguish between, and I know that it will hurt. But I am not going to hide in fear of pain. With all the regrets and pain in the past and maybe more to come I leave my heart open as I am at my best when in love.
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threesixty
12 years ago
This goes back to when I was in high school, when I discovered what girls were all about. Growing up in a small country town it's not hard to run into the opposite sex. As we left primary school and went to different schools the weekend was the time to meet up and do what teenagers do. On Saturday arvo the guys would gather wood and prepare a fire for later on, on a island that was serviced by only two entry points, one at either end. As it was a one horse town we would gather at what was then " Ollie's Trollies " and see who had managed to score spirits from the olds liquor cabinet, surprisingly the girls ended up being the more resourceful of us. Being the boys we had managed to find a willing adult to purchase beer for us and stash it mid afternoon knowing the local copper was itching to bust us for underage drinking that night. I know this has turned into a novel but it's a memory that is still alive. Once the restaurant closed we all headed off to the island. On route the plods would stop and harass us trying to find out where we were heading, after some false truths they lets us go on our merry way. There would have been approximately 12 of us and once we got there the fire was lit and the alcohol would start to flow. Now being young stupid males our beer was as warm as cats piss but did we care, fuck no because the girls were hooking into the spirits big time and before long the hormones would start to rage in both sexes and slowly the group around the fire started to dwindle. With everyone pairing up it and heading off into the darkness it was turning into a full on bash when suddenly these massive search lights illuminated the island from both ends.... Next thing I heard " Fuck it's the plods and they are coming from both ends " So still being half sober I looked at the girl I had paired up with and said, keep quiet and follow me. By now the panic had set in as 3 of the girls were totally trash and were left by their pick ups as they were trying save there own skin. She was terrified about being taken home to her parents drunk, I grabbed her hand and headed over towards the water. There was a tree that had been hit by lightening years before and it never really recovered but still had some growth on it, we got to the tree and I said its climb or face the olds. Being a bit pissed she was not confident about climbing a tree in near darkness except for the torch lights that were going mental as the plods searched for the scattering underage drinkers.... I managed to boost her up to the first branch and pulled myself up and some how guided her to the safety of the hollow that was several meters up that was toasted when the lightening hit the tree years before, I pushed her into the hollow and fell on top of her and we laughed as the tom foolery was unfolding below with the plods chasing pissed teenagers all,over the island. Being so far up and out of sight I had a cheeky look and it was not long before one by one they were escorted back to the fire to face the music. The plods knew there was 4 bodies missing, to the others credit they distracted and harassed the plods to the point the Sarg nearly blew a gasket. Once they had rounded up the stragglers, the plods marched them all off to be delivered to mum an dad and no doubt a heap of trouble... Not just for being pissed and underage but being bought home by the plods would have gone down like a shit sandwich at 2am in the morning. We stayed in that hollow for a good hour to make sure Mr plod was not waiting for us to emerge and suffer the same fate as the others... She was shitting herself about being caught so to distract her I kissed her and my god, that was the start of a lazy hour kissing, caressing and exploring each other's bodies in the confines if our hideout. Making enough noise to wake the dead I heard my name being whispered beneath us as my mate and his companion made the rounds to see if anyone had managed to elude the plods, I stuck my head out and checked the coast was clear, then yelled hoy and scared the shit out of both of them... We escaped the confines of the hollow and climbed down and had a good old laugh as it was just us 4 that had escape the clutches if the plods... And to top it off the fire was still going and with alcohol stashed in the mayhem we returned to the fire and spent the next few hours laughing about our good fortune... With the sun about to rise my mate suggested we go to his place which was only a 15 minute walk. He had a outside bedroom so to give us both some room to move we took the caravan and spent the next few hours doing what teenagers do!!! This was the start of a 2 year romance that was electrifying to sat the least. We spent every weekend together as that night moulded us into a group of friends that would turn out to be life long friends even when we went our separate ways... The plods took pity on the girls screaming about being taken home drunk to their parents, so after a long winded lecture about the evils of alcohol they dropped each person off at home much like a taxi service. Thanks girls, tears saved more tears... I caught up with this girl after 20 years of no contact and we talked about what could have been?? I still and always will hold a candle to this girl. So the answer is YES, no regrets but you know that you had something special that will always be with you for ever... Cheers...
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12 years ago
Met him at a concert at the hordern pavilion in Sydney,......lol....showing my age here !Dated for a while....went our separate ways....both got married ...kids etc....then got a phone call ny's day out of the blue....both single...kids have grown up............going to be a very interesting bbq Australia Day....can't wait !!
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12 years ago
I (and he) fell in love with my best friend .. He was and still is my second half and us being the silly 21 yr olds we were dismissed it as casual hook ups and pushed it aside... I moved on and I chose the wrong man to marry and we divorced ... My best friend is married and we are still close but I always will wish it were me he was with ... I would never do or say anything to hurt his wife or family but I love him and if being friends is all that I can have now well I'd rather have that than nothing at all ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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12 years ago
In heavens name why are you walking away hang on to your love In heavens name why do you play these games Hang on to your love Take time if your down on luck It so easy to walk out on love Take your time if the going gets tough its so precious So if you want it to get stronger you gotta not let go you gotta hold on longer if you want your love to grow You gotta stick together hand in glove Hold tight dont fight Hang on to your love!!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
yes I think we all have but I guess that's life. you live and learn No point looking backwards or you'll miss the next boat and isn't the grass greener over there hope So - Posted from rhpmobile
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12 years ago
I have said it before love the word is not the same as love the feeling!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
The next I fall in love it is for keeps.....but I don't fall in love easily, but when I do I fall hard. Not gonna wonder next. Until then, Ill have fun
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with!
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12 years ago
I have and its always there in my mind buts its a part of who I am and what I've learnt, I've moved on and had other love interests. I feel sorry for those who have never been in love because its such an amazing feeling and you really do feel on top of the world. You're meant to feel happiness and pain in life its all part of it, I have a few friends who are bitter about love due to bad experiences but I find it unfair to place that bitterness on others. thats just my opinion
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12 years ago
Is also unfair to place your expectations and ideas about love onto others. And condescending to feel sorry for those who don't want what you do. There are many other things in life that can bring amazing feelings of being on top of the world. Our society - for various reasons - places far too much weight - Posted from rhpmobile
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12 years ago
Our society places far too much weight on the concept and supposed 'ideal' of romantic love, particularly for women. It is promoted as being this ultimate requirement for human happiness, success and validation, and I call bullshit on that. All of those things can be provided by many other life experiences. - Posted from rhpmobile
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12 years ago
That epic tale is a ripsnorter!!! Long live youthful folly!
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12 years ago
That did sound a little masochistic. I should have clarified that it was years in between these two partners I mentioned in my post. The first was a country girl who made it big in the corporate world in the city here. She had all the dearest values that I admire in a human, and she saw the world simply and without cynicism. She was not a complex person, and I will admit to finding that this, and her loving simplicity (think white picket fence), fell short of my needs to keep me truly intellectually engaged and stimulated, hence breaking it off with her. The second partner is the one that I married. I have posted about our relationship here before, but the appeal of this woman was her strong persona and strength of character. She walked her talk, and personified integrity. She was, and is, very active in the women's empowerment and women's spirituality movements, taking feminism out of political debate and putting it into positive action at a ground level, often to women who need it most. She also had a world view that recognized the need for positive change, and was active in social justice and lived accordingly. On top of that, she had taken an enormous personal healing journey to deal with her own trials and tribulations in life, and was extremely self aware and had amazing emotional intelligence. I can't understate how enamored I was of this woman, and the initial connection was very powerful between us. In short, she had PTSD, and her mental and emotional stability deteriorated under stress, and the relationship became incredibly volatile, too much to overcome. Outside of the relationship, she came good, and there will always be an underlying level of respect between us, but the road was rocky and quite damaging to us both. Referring back to my former post, I was kicking myself over how I could go from something that was, by comparison, so easy and drama free to find myself in such a turmultuous situation with the woman I married. I have no regrets about the marriage ending, it was definately necessary and a positive action to take for us both, but I will choose the middle road with my next choice of partner.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do you have a ghost writer? Thanks for your answer.
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12 years ago
Big ocean, I reckon one can't live just on what ifs and regret too much. But having said that my first love that I should have been was stopped by a controlling parent. I ended up with someone who I never loved as much. I am however blessed to have my angel :-) so no regrets here on that point. You see it can never be with my first and true love he died many years ago so now I treasure the memories I have of him.
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12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' Miss is it not better to have loved than never loved at all ?? You cannot surely close yourself to things that you will never know exist if you build your wall to high ?? Honey take just a few bricks out and have a peek you may be missing something vital in your life shut yourself down you will never never know ???? Isnt that alone enough to break down your wall ??? Dont shut yourself in ! But most of all be careful ! yes , but dont shut everyone out ??? - Posted from rhpmobile This thread and the one on single forever married or defacto had me wanting to open another thread. just havent had the time of late...bit busy. I get very saddened when I hear people close themselves off to future relationships due to past pain. I feel I havent endured enough lost loves to qualify and I often hear peoples dilemas here, and hear of the openess to their losses. People men and women who have been burned badly in divorces, cheating partners, selfish partners those who have given only to be hurt. Surely there must have been some fun, enjoyment, something worthy of having another person in your life. My thread would have been to ask why single forever....would you change that thought open up to possibilities? Have you had that mindset and changed? I have seen many peoples here who want NSA or FWB attachments without commitment. I foresaw after a long and unhappy marraige that I may one day find someone to love and be loved by.....maybe I was dreaming.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Such a sad ending, I started traveling overseas when I was just 21 and that was in 1969, left someone behind, and now 45 years later I still wonder is she alive, what if? But I was lucky and had a whirlwind romance that lasted a long time.
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12 years ago
Have to say I also totally agree with that also !
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