Hard Core Swingers

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  From what I've seen 'hardcore" swingers aren't as picky about who they swing with. It's only about the sex. Soft core swingers must have some sort of attraction with the other people involved. I'm more soft core than hard core.

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  N4November

  14 years ago

  My interpretation of what hardcore swingers means is that they aren't 'picky' about who they play with - that they don't discrimate by age, size, class, etc.   But interestingly, I know from my own experience that there has been times in a group play I haven't 'sized up' who I was touching - just accepting that I didn't find them unattractive which was enough to keep going or let them continue ;)   I suspect in any other social or sexual situation I wouldn't be so liberated. But isn't that the whole point of swinging? Exploring pleasure, experimenting and having some goddamn fun?!!!   But.... does that make me a hardcore swinger then??

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Of course it is all subjective. From our experiences it seems to be couples that revolve their lives around swinging, meeting others, planning to meet on as many occasions as possible and they don't seem to be as 'picky' about the people that they have sex with. The total opposite to us!I would say we are really soft core, we have an 'if it happens it happens' attitude and it's not at the front of our mind to organize meetings at every opportunity. Actually the best stuff happens with no planning involved.....I mean who would have thought we would meet 2 girls at a strip club in New Orleans and then they would happen to wind up back at our hotel....Mich x

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  what newi said i think :) hard core swingers play every weekend and sometimes during the week too. they dont want to get to know you, just get down to sex...then move on.   Most of us fall into the soft swingers, where time/kids/standards/location and choice in playfriends dicatates when and how often we play ..   As a couple for example/instance we only get 2nd weekends kid free. then add the fact we like to meet for brief meeting before we play.. Plus we want some pysical attraction too.. so sometimes we will only play once every 2 months. or at partys

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  suggests the 'lifestyle' is their entire life.......'not hard core' suggests its only play. frequency comes into it...if you are driven to indulge every spare moment you have, then 'hard core' would be an understatement..........just thoughts.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Yes I agree its all about perception.Jane and I were just having this same conversation not long ago. When a couple send us a message and after reading the message and there profile. We just got the feeling swinging was all to new to them. I remember saying to Jane that I didn't want to hold anyone's hand through the process. I then said to Jane hmm are we hard core?When we were new to it all if we could see into the future and judge what we get up to now. I think we would have considered ourself hardcore. Once again perception at the time.We still have a picture in our head of what we now consider a hardcore swinger's. It has changed from when were new to it all.To date we would consider ourself moderate swingers with a healthy appetite for fun. Although day to day life, kids, Work and other interests keeps tabs on things.Tim

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  TWOfourYOU

  14 years ago

  We reckon difference is Hardcore will do it as much as they can with anyone thay meet, weather there is a phiscal attraction or not, Soft core maybe doesn't play regulary i.e. Every other weekend and is more selective. Our thoughts in any case...

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  LoveFrenzy

  14 years ago

  Basically it would seem that hard core and soft core relate more to who you chose to play with and often as opposed to what you do when you play?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'kazma' We reckon difference is Hardcore will do it as much as they can with anyone thay meet, weather there is a phiscal attraction or not, Soft core maybe doesn't play regulary i.e. Every other weekend and is more selective. Our thoughts in any case... Are there actually people out there like this ? People that swing without any consideration to the looks or personality of there playmates .As in no criteria other than wanting sex with them. People that are just up for anything at any time with anyone. It would be a very very small minority if there was and It defiantly sounds crazy (hard core ) to me.Tim

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Majority of people are fussy and play is not that important, I can only think of one person that hardcore would apply too out of the thousands I have had the pleasure of meeting. Leesa

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'timandjane' Are there actually people out there like this ? People that swing without any consideration to the looks or personality of there playmates .As in no criteria other than wanting sex with them. People that are just up for anything at any time with anyone.It would be a very very small minority if there was and It defiantly sounds crazy (hard core ) to me.Tim hey darls, yeah there are people around like this. I have been to a party where ppl have not even spoken to me and the next thing they want me to do is to get my gear off. personally I need to get to know someone and actually like them before I play but there are people out there where this is not important. I need both physical and mental atraction on some level but i guess its a case of different strokes for different folks. And you right at some point it is all about perception. I also think "hardcore" relates to what you actually do...some do full swap but will only swap in the same room as their partner.... whereas to me hardcore swinging would mean you could be in different rooms to that of your partner. Other friends of mine who are swingers have foursomes but won't do full swap if that makes sense so again I would call that '"softcore swinging" just my thoughts :) x

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ...is that it is open to everyone else's interpretation. It's another of those words out there to confuse us, just like "Professional" (but let's not go there again).I always think hard core means that they like to keep it impersonal and will only ever meet you if they can get down to action pretty much straight away, and then want to leave pretty much straight afterwards. That's not to say that they aren't picky. I think a better word for those that aren't at all picky are slappers....lol

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