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Hall pass. Agree or disagree
August 06 2013
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Does the "one off hall pass" mean you and your hubby would go and play separately??? I can't see why not if you guys have agreed to do so. Life is too short to be regretted is all I can say.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
that's a good motto I reckon. You mention one off. Pandora's box there, however that's for the debrief between you n hubby. It will make it or break it.Enjoy your freedom
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RHP User
12 years ago
One off? I bet that one becomes two... becomes three.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I actually get the feeling OP, that one of you, are a little unsure about this.....otherwise what does it honestly matter what we think?? You know your relationship better than any one of us could ever know....so if its reassurance, one of you seek, then seek it from your partner. My personal view on hall passes are that, there aren't any. If a partner of mine ever wished to explore something on their own, they're more than free to do what they wish if its something that I can't or won't explore with them. 👍👍- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Isn't it between you..... and him? Not sure why you want our views if you think your marriage/relationship is solid enough to agree with it. Seems you've already discussed and decided upon it. DG
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Beachlover1999
12 years ago
With Meeka, could be a slippery slope.....why now......may lead to more intrigue or widen the cavern..... Both my marriages together didn't reach 15 so what do I know!!! Lol :-// More fantasies could reawaken and get you to the next 15!!!!! Bon Voyage!!!! ;)))
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RHP User
12 years ago
the gamble,could be the best thing you ever did,could be the worst....wot if,you find someone,he doesn't?.......,wot if, it's the best sex ever,?........wot if, there is jealousy,?wot if?,wot if,? wot if?....but if you are secure and confident in your realtionship ,it shouldn't matter.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But if you are on here already then it's not a "once off" is it?Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unless he is a hunky confident sex god....You will have the pick of the stable and he will sweep up the shit.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So what happens after that? *neon flashing warning lights*Does Mr realise that odds are that your 'hall pass' through RHP will be fulfilled first? What happens then? None of my bizzo but you did ask.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My wife has told me as long as I come home to her she is happy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
With Paintme and Meeka on this- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
My partner and I have had an open relationship (basically and extended hall pass for when either of us travel) for over eight years and it has worked well for us. The reasons are simple - mutual respect and the tiredness over years in previous relationships of having to deny who you are deep down. Finding someone who feels the same. Both being intensely sexual people. To step outside your relationship requires more than understanding and respect however. Clear lines of understanding. Some basic rules to provide agreeable boundaries. Lots of love. Lots ! In short if your relationship is strong and you both understand fully what you are getting into...go for it and then don't look back...just don't ! Once its on, its on. No second thoughts. No recriminations. Ever. Teasing and building it into your own sex life - Yes. Recriminations - No. Enjoy the ride and make sure its sexy and fun ! The make up sex is totally awesome when you get back together after your stray cat ways ! LOL D.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do you have plans to discuss what it is you have given each other hall passes for?Why can't you experience it together?
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RHP User
12 years ago
We are secure in our relationship, and have never felt any doubts. Then again we only play together, or with the other watching and directing, by webcam if need be. If you have doubts, do it together.
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Can be A very dangerous game... But if you play it fairly I could wk - good luck
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enduran
12 years ago
i love this idea...it has made our lives better i think because there is no guilt or worry.And we travel a lot for work. Much easier if we dont have to feel bad about meeting someone while on travels.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have been together since you were eighteen? It makes me wonder a bit if you know what you are getting yourself into. Please correct me if I'm wrong. I agree with Freya, have you thought of all the "What if"s? My suggestion is you come up with at least a dozen of them, and discuss them with your partner. And don't do the "That won't happen to us", when it comes to possible problems. You won't know that until afterwards. Honest communication is key if you want to be able to come to an informed decision. Good luck!
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madotara69
12 years ago
Sounds like the beginning for a one off ticket to backstage.Mado
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BrightBubbly
12 years ago
I have a question...How can you have a "one off" hall pass and already have 25 male friends on your list.That sounds like way more than a "one off"If you want to play then you really need to sit down with your hubby and talk to him about it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Someones playing with fire...Meeees thinking they will get burnt.FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
To have a very open and frank chat over time about this. The ins and outs of what it may mean for your relationship. The jealousy, which will arise and how you will deal with it. It can sound really simple (how you've typed it) But it's not. It take reassurance from both parties and knowledge and honesty/openess on what you are both getting into .
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would think maybe if you are just getting into this now you would be best off starting by playing together?I agree with what a few others have said... why one off? I think it is just going to lead to problems down the track..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had a GF who went over seas for a month and gave me one, I used it and it was quite interesting and fun to use. Just make sure you spell out the deal to that person you're " Hall passing" with even if its a one night thing, because that other person deserves to be told and avoids any future complications. Experience :s
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hope you don't mind me asking, but did you tell your girlfriend afterwards? And was she still ok with it? I'm curious to find out if the reality was what she expected, or if she regretted making you the offer.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' I hope you don't mind me asking, but did you tell your girlfriend afterwards? And was she still ok with it? I'm curious to find out if the reality was what she expected, or if she regretted making you the offer. I want to know if she told HIM DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mmmmmmmmm! things that make you go bump, or hump or what ever it is... I can't remember now. grumpy grampa knots
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe I got the definition of a "hall pass" wrong - please correct me if I do: it's an agreement that for period of time one partner lets the other partner do whatever they want without wanting to know what has happened (ever). Like a "pass" from a hall (relationship) - you are going "out" and when you come back you pretend that nothing "important" or significant has happened and you continue in the relationship (hall) as if you have never left it. If that is the understanding then I think it is flawed on so many levels. Don't even contemplate it... You either have a good relationship with your partner - you can ask them to go out for a reason, and tell them what that reason is - then go out and after returning you share that experience... Anyway, the short answer is NO, unless you talk about it openly "before" and "after"Mr Sparks
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I want to know if she told HIM DG This!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep I actually told her during we skyped about it and she said that's fine. She said when she gets back she will get back to taking care of things ;) I made sure everyone knew what was going on. I just advise to make sure the person you hall pass with is aware of the situation. She did get a little jealous and upset the sex would stop but soon after she got a bf and has been asking me for sex advice ever since. I think she's trying to make me jealous but I don't get jealous.
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RHP User
12 years ago
you're both on the same wavelength and mature enough to accept the fact its about the excitement of physical interaction with someone other than each other.. and if your ready' then decide on the rules of what is acceptable and stick to them and go out and enjoy it for what it is. Accept as part and parcel that you or your partner may experience some unexpected emotions , thats all part of it.. the trick is to stick to your rules no matter what and dont look to blame one or the other. Stepping outside the normal boundrys is desirable to almost every couple here on rhp.. . Some act on it' some ponder and some just can't.. Iv'e meet with some wonderful couples who love each other very much, who acknowledge there's more out there if thats what you want. Watching a couple cuddle up with a twinkle in their eye after the event is magic.. Good luck with what ever you decide.. Jay
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' you're both on the same wavelength and mature enough to accept the fact its about the excitement of physical interaction with someone other than each other.. and if your ready' then decide on the rules of what is acceptable and stick to them and go out and enjoy it for what it is. Accept as part and parcel that you or your partner may experience some unexpected emotions , thats all part of it.. the trick is to stick to your rules no matter what and dont look to blame one or the other. Stepping outside the normal boundrys is desirable to almost every couple here on rhp.. . Some act on it' some ponder and some just can't.. Iv'e meet with some wonderful couples who love each other very much, who acknowledge there's more out there if thats what you want. Watching a couple cuddle up with a twinkle in their eye after the event is magic.. Good luck with what ever you decide.. Jay From now on, we shall think of you as twinkles.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Almost spat my beer out when I read that... haha.. Jay.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thankyou all. We have discussed it in great length, pros vs cons. Every little detail has been discussed. The point was to experience something new. I think we will be doing this together not separately.. Too many cons! And just to clarify I have 8 friends on my friends list NOt 25 and a few of these are female. Thought about using my hall pass differently :-) Thankyou all for your thoughts. Like a lot of you I believe this could be damaging to the strongest relationship... Regardless of how well it has been discussed...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oops... I'm wrong sorry... Just checked...
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Fantasyplus
12 years ago
Dont believe in "Hall Passes" Hubby and I were swingers before we got married, left the scene to start our family, and now I have lost all my post wedding and baby weight I have my sex drive back (which is pretty damn huge!) Hubby is away for work all the time so now I am looking fuck buddies. Hubby is well aware of my needs and wants, he also knows its one day a week. As I work nights and I only have 1 day a week without our kids...sex drive is driving my crazy! If you want to do the whole "Hall Pass" thing, go to a swingers club and use seperate rooms to see how you go first.
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RHP User
12 years ago
sinfulsister.. Your thinking is right. Playing together is a better option than playing alone if your not comfortable with it. Decide what you want to experience. Have your boundaries , then go enjoy your self together.. Trick is to accept whatever eventuates no matter what.. You dont want to die wondering... Fantasyplus..Obviously you and your man are comfortable for you to go it alone if you need to get that itch scrathed.. lol. Only goes to show ' how different we can be. Im sure there are plenty out there who would love to be as carefree.. I have some friends with the same arrangement and they are a very happy couple..
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madotara69
12 years ago
It is an insecurity I have. Though it is a sexy moment, when She tells me where she could have. We do not keep secrets, and I have learned that some guys can be persistent.The reason I do not understand jealousy, is because I do not know how it feels.Mado
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' It is an insecurity I have. Though it is a sexy moment, when She tells me where she could have. We do not keep secrets, and I have learned that some guys can be persistent.The reason I do not understand jealousy, is because I do not know how it feels.Mado Tara
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like the way you 2 communicate.. Here .? lol.
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Fantasyplus
12 years ago
We have been swingers for a fair few years so yes we are very comfortable with it and trust each. Without 100% trust it would not work...no secrets no with holding information everything has to be laid out on the table. Set boundaries and rules in place i.e no kissing and always safe sex
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmmmm.... Horses for courses but not for me..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Go for it . Could Learn to love it .. Can def spice up your own sex lives ;) M
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zkool' Unless he is a hunky confident sex god....You will have the pick of the stable and he will sweep up the shit.
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RHP User
12 years ago
May I say this Don't do the hall pass as one of you will be left hanging (the male I wld say) the other my open that door n never return ?? If u r a couple play as a couple then once u have meet honest peeps u cld do that hall pass then with a complete understanding as u wld have both played with the same peeps ?? Be careful with hall passes:) Have fun either way
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RHP User
12 years ago
walk up to your husband, kiss him passionately. Like that first time you met (when people could walk by and you wouldn't notice) whisper in his ear "thanks for all the memories", while you softy nibble on his ear. Then open that door (totes a metaphor) make observations and walk deep into the hall (totes euphemistic) just remember the way back to the things that are important to YOU!. Its easy to get distracted and even lost (I totes got lost, still walking in the hall)What's life, if you're not enjoying the ride (walk, hall pass - insert anything here - )happy adventures.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Could open a mine field --- personally , we would find a couple to go away and stay in seperate appartment or same in different rooms -- for the night ----- but everyone is different and as long as happy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sounds like a way better idea each to their own but if yr full of what ifs and unsure seems like you have made the right decision for you both .good luck :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
we've both got a hall pass..but she uses hers a lot more than I use mine..lucky bitch..lol
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madotara69
12 years ago
Here is just the same as anywhere, We are here in a playful sense with a bunch of playful people, it is a sex site, so general chat is about sex. Unless we learn otherwise, everyone here are friends to a common interest and why not give ourselves to all just as we are. There is not much that beats being amongst a bunch of friends and having a good time. Norty is norty and being with a few people that do not see norty as dirty, well it is a party. Good communication means good for everything, how else do we find the best in people."Watching a couple cuddle up with a twinkle in their eye after the event is magic.. " May seem like a simple few words, though they speak for so many meanings, and once again we have found the best in someone.Thanks Jay
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Like the way you 2 communicate.. Here .? lol. We ,us 2 communicated in the chat rooms audio and cam, that is here too. he he
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RHP User
12 years ago
this sounds like something you want to experience, to know what its like to be with another guy, and for hubby , it sounds like the more he thinks about you with another guy, the more excited he will get, this also sounds familiar to a fantasie but are unsure whether you could make it reality, honestly, you dont need the views of others and what wwe think, this is about you trying something new, i think you guys are testing your strength whether you could go this with no hang ups between, and if you do and you both excited from it then i bet there will be more
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you for the compliment. It's nice coming from a couple I enjoy bouncing off. . I guess the same quirky sense of humour helps... haha. thanks again... Cheers Jay...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a little confused.What the OP describes is not something I would call a 'hall pass' at all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have to say, like a few others have posted, don't really get the "once off hall pass" thing. Just seems like its "permission" to do something you think you shouldn't, just once... If its something you're both comfortable with, why the need for the "pass"? As you seem to have decided, do it together and enjoy together.
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RHP User
12 years ago
depends on your confidence level.you know its happening can you feel secure he will still come back and desire you?if so its a great option but inner security is a must first cause he is going to enjoy it and that can make you feel weird
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