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HOT or NOT - Young 'Single Mothers' (time to ditch the stigma, please!)
August 19 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Honeybee,As if you havent figured us out already, males are a weird species.Some will have issues with it, and others wont. This is a sex site, and not RSVP or Match.Motherhood is part of who you are and there are many men who will embrace that....but only as long as you do first.I suggest you put a few more sentences in the "looking for" part of your profile. Take the sentences out of your post above even, but let them know you cant catch up on a whim because you have children, and that your out to have some fun, not husband hunting.Women on this site are usually bombarded with flirts and email. This way the only guys approaching you already know what your looking for from them :)Good luck....and let us know how you go!
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RHP User
13 years ago
for the post as have kids myself so and can completely understand where you are coming on a logistical effort on getting time to go out and them being massive yet not defining you as a person.Yes, there are plenty of guys at that age who won't want someone with kids or go there at that stage of there life. Is just how it is I think. What I can say is though is, your by far from damaged :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well, we're a couple, so can't comment on behalf of single guys, but for us none of the things you mention would be an issue. Could just be that a large proportion of people on here don't follow through, and the kids may just be the convenient excuse they use? Rockin bod by the way, from the photos on your profile!
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RHP User
13 years ago
you get milf status.. so hot? lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
with Mrs P,you don't have to reveal everything about yourself if you are not seeking a serious relationship.There are also young men here who are divorced single dads,I imagine they would exprience similar problems. Most people have scheduling problems ,whether it is to do with family or work committments,few are available 24/7. As for the tattoos ,I have a tattoo on my shoulder,and have never been asked about it yet.I think you will find most men tend to be distracted by others aspects of your body and are quite incurious.However if someone asks ,give a simple and to the point explanation such as, they are the names of your children who you have shared custody of.That tells the questioner that you are not looking for a father for them, because they already have one. You are an attractive young women OP and I hope you find what you ar looking for here.x Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Hesione' with Mrs P,you don't have to reveal everything about yourself if you are not seeking a serious relationship.There are also young men here who are divorced single dads,I imagine they would exprience similar problems. Most people have scheduling problems ,whether it is to do with family or work committments,few are available 24/7. As for the tattoos ,I have a tattoo on my shoulder,and have never been asked about it yet.I think you will find most men tend to be distracted by others aspects of your body and are quite incurious.However if someone asks ,give a simple and to the point explanation such as, they are the names of your children who you have shared custody of.That tells the questioner that you are not looking for a father for them, because they already have one. You are an attractive young women OP and I hope you find what you ar looking for here.x Hugs H but I'm a divorced single dad and yeah, I get the same. Prolly more so 'cos I don't get any time off.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I had a look on your profile it says romance, dinners that kind of thing. You also have 14 hunks on your friends list, so that may intimidate some nice not so hot guy who may want to wine you and dine you. Kids can be an issue a some guys do not want the complication and also would not want to get to meet your kids under any circumstance, especially if all they want is to bonk the yummy mummy. children do make men think of that other c word, commitment. Just go to the pub if you want to get laid, your pretty just find a bar stool and they will come. I am sure you are doing very well , I had to wipe my chin from drool when I looked at your friends list.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Usually guys know up front that I am a single mother. The only times I have had problems with it is when I reject a guy and then they get all offended so they take a stab at me about how "single mums can't afford to be fussy"... yet me being a single mum didn't seem to bother them until I rejected them lol.Honestly if they aren't OK with me being a single mum then they aren't someone I want to hang out with/fuck anyway as they are usually closed minded, immature and ignorant.Children can be compared to "work commitments" in the sense that a lot of people can't meet up randomly due to work commitments and need to plan ahead, just like those with children.Hmm would like to hear the guys points of view.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If being a single mom is an issue for a guy, then he's missed out on knowing a hot momma like you.I too have kids - I don't do any meeting nor lovin' when I have my kids. I do tell the people that I am chatting to when I am available (mostly a week or so away) and see if they still want to meet. If they say no - then its cool; if they say yes - then great! I know the spontaneity of it all is gone, but that's the way it is. Doesn't answer your question but there are plenty of men on here that being a single mom is a non-issue for them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's like this....as far as I can see, as Mischievious said if they can't accept you as a mother, then they can't accept you as a lover. Me personally, I would choose a mother over those that aren't, unless they are a very switched on person. The reason for this, is you don't need to explain how things work, you don't need to train them into thinking about things other than getting their rocks off. Not that's a bad thing but simply, they come with maternal or paternal instincts of a natural sense, not just because they want to have some fun. Chris
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hot hot hot!! Mums are real woman single or not :P
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zoe69r
13 years ago
well as a single guy i dont have any problems meeting a lady with children , i mean who dosnt have some form of baggage theses days . and there is nothing wrong with being a single mum with kids they are people to and need someone in their lives as well even if its a fwb or it turns into more
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RHP User
13 years ago
as a guy i cant understand why guys would run away just becuase u have kids.. for a start ur very attractive.. even when i was 20 , if a hot lady like yourself was interested , even if she had 10 kids , i wouldnt of said no .. some blokes are too weird. id say just keep trying , its a big world and there are plenty of normal blokes out there without issues.. i saw your pics you really do look hot ..i think you should change your body type from average to sexy..
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Smilingwithfun
13 years ago
I am in the same situation as and agree with mischevious lad. As far as some do a runner,think positive,probably way to immature and you have saved yourself some grief.Probably all about themselves & thats how they would be in bed.Possibly aim for the higher end of your age profile,to find someone more in touch with reality. Love the RED DRESS.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are absolutely gorgeous - as DG pointed out! ... Honey you are a mum, if any man doesn't want you because of that pfffft who cares ... I mean really, would we want to sacrifice anything that is essentially us for a man ... Mmmm NO! ... Even thinking about those who don't want you leaves you closed to those who do ... Relax, don't even think about it ... And you might be surprised... And if I can say; be really simple and clear in yourself what you want - and you'll get it... Kisses Cassandra x
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RHP User
13 years ago
While you may think you are damaged goods you are far from it, it is a perfect situation to sort the men from the boys, there are guys out there that would jump at the chance knowing there is nsa but respect the fact you have the courage to lay it all on the line and those that run aren't really worth your time and effort. Respect yourself always
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RHP User
13 years ago
Children can be a problem if your casual lovers thing starts to move into something more serious. For two years I dated a wonderful woman who's two children were fighting over her attention. While we were shag buddies I did not even notice this. 9 months later, we fell in love and it became a real drama.In the end I'd not visit her at her place as I'd just get constant verbal attacks. Even open threats of physical violence on two occasions. In the end I voted with my feet.The other thing..I don't know about other men, but there is something really special about being inside a pussy that's given birth. I can't put my finger on it, but it really gives me shivers thinking about it.~waves back from the gutter~
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RHP User
13 years ago
You have miracle lines honey!! xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Trust me, this has NOTHING at all to do with you being a single mother. This has to do with you not dropping EVERYTHING to go and root them...In their mind it is "How dare you pick ANYTHING over my cock"! Don't let them get to you hun..They really are not worth getting your Golden Ticket! Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think that your children are an important part of you. Why should this became a problem? If you met guys that cannot understand this.... they are missing something. Not you. Be proud of yourself, as you are. With the "whole package" !!! I wish you the best....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Honeybee,Have you considered couples instead?
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RHP User
13 years ago
It doesn't matter if you have 100 kids like me. When the right man comes along he won't care. He will fit in around you and the kids and he won't care one little bit.....until then. Have fun ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
In fact, Jennylee had three kids while I had two when we met. We've since had two together. There's definitely a limit. I've been snipped now. I guess, as with everything else, different people will have diferent attitudes towards this. You won't find a consensus on this question, Honeybee. You are very cute. As long as you're not bringing the rug rats along on your dates, I can't understand how you're having problems.
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beebs
13 years ago
Am I being overly precious not liking the term MILF? Is it a harmless label that can be used with good humour or is it a term trying to define the woman as one dimensional and brings to mind the psychological issues of guys that want to get physical with Mummy??? Maybe I am being too precious....
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RHP User
13 years ago
why all the posts giving the "when the right guy comes along, have fun until then" - when the OP specifically isn't saying she's after 'the one', the problem is the fun she's missing out on.Having recently spent some time with a hot 26yr old single mum, it really didn't worry me that she had kids, she clearly wasn't after a new head-of-the-household or any long lasting entanglement - so it had zero impact.You'll get people that flip out over anything, but I think for the majority, it will depend on how it is presented and how clear it is that they're not being vetted to be the new Dad, just some fun sexy times together when both your schedules align.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Honeybee There is ALOT of meaning behind the phrase - number one mum Seriously, think about it .... If a guy isn't interested in getting to know you (in any capacity) because you have kids the firstly it's HIS loss, but more importantly it's YOUR gain ;-) In some (and I use this loosely as I am sure there will be repercussions) cases he's not worth knowing Your children are a huge part of your life and who makes you the special person you are and that is far too important to worry about some .... man If he can't get past that hurdle he should have taken up long jump ! As for so many others have said before and I can totay concur, OMG baby, have you looked at your profile pics .... you are smoking, kids or not. As for damaged goods, no such thing Call it being a proud beautiful mum Your planning would make the thrill and excitement of meeting so much more intense - let's just hope some jerk doesn't sand you up at the last minute as your time is obviously limited I would say good luck, but you don't need that, what you need is a better radar that avoids idiots ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' If my parental duties or obligations is an issue for someone that they are incapable or unwilling to work around...... I say, I am their loss for not realising that I am worth it. You are a young, very attractive, open minded, sensual, sexual human being........ who happens to proudly raise two children. If others find any of that is not to their liking...... NEXXXXTTTTT DG PS.... loving you as a red DG, thank you babe, I AM proud of my babies, but the "rejection" for want of a better term was causing a bit of self doubt about the possibilities of catching someone for a dirty romp lol i just have to PLAN it, not randomly catch up.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ElementGC'Honeybee, As if you havent figured us out already, males are a weird species. Some will have issues with it, and others wont. This is a sex site, and not RSVP or Match. Motherhood is part of who you are and there are many men who will embrace that....but only as long as you do first. I suggest you put a few more sentences in the "looking for" part of your profile. Take the sentences out of your post above even, but let them know you cant catch up on a whim because you have children, and that your out to have some fun, not husband hunting. Women on this site are usually bombarded with flirts and email. This way the only guys approaching you already know what your looking for from them :) Good luck....and let us know how you go! See, I thought it would be too forward... Adelaide has a rather, how do I say this without offending anyone, small selection of people who I would find worthy of my time - It's limited time to be sure, but I can and do make it worth it. I just dont see WHY the fact that I have kids should be anyone's business - they'll never ever meet them, I'll never want more than a planned fuck - should I actually have to divulge such information to total strangers!?!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'TongueCramps'Well, we're a couple, so can't comment on behalf of single guys, but for us none of the things you mention would be an issue. Could just be that a large proportion of people on here don't follow through, and the kids may just be the convenient excuse they use? Rockin bod by the way, from the photos on your profile! Couples are slowly starting to enter my range of want - I have found myself thinking more and more about going there with a couple - seems to me there is a bit more respect involved with two people who love each other and are willing to share. I think I might have to re-evaluate my profile and my preferences ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Araps' for the post as have kids myself so and can completely understand where you are coming on a logistical effort on getting time to go out and them being massive yet not defining you as a person. Yes, there are plenty of guys at that age who won't want someone with kids or go there at that stage of there life. Is just how it is I think. What I can say is though is, your by far from damaged :)Thank you babe, I feel damaged - boobs n belly all that shit - nothing a bit of 'work' and about $25k wont fix HAHAHA.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear'Maybe, adopt an aura of mysteryNo matter why you can't meet at the drop of a hat, you just can't. Say so in your profile. If you want of course.I only suggest so because we are made up of many parts. Sometimes it pays to put a part of us in the backseat depending how deeply we want to know people to know us and vice- a- versa. Sex and babies can be synonymous but sometimes it doesn't pay to make that connection too obvious lol. Guys can be a bit wary I imagine.Only my thoughts... I like the way you sound, hugs... Mrs P I agree - I shall adopt said aura of mystery and see where that gets me! ;) I particularly liked the bold and underlined bit you wrote - I think that's what I find the most frustrating, I am NOT defined by my being a mother, its a PART of me not ALL of me - and frankly its no-ones business anyway!!! Hugs back at you lady P xoxo
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RHP User
13 years ago
spanks! xo
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hesione, I've seen your replies to posts and your posts on here and I find your life experience and intelligence to be a very endearing trait :) Thank you for your insight. HB xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Trust me, this has NOTHING at all to do with you being a single mother. This has to do with you not dropping EVERYTHING to go and root them...In their mind it is "How dare you pick ANYTHING over my cock"! Don't let them get to you hun..They really are not worth getting your Golden Ticket! Hugs...xFunlovingxhahaha - love this one!!! :) my golden ticket is not for them!!! BAM :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' You are very cute. As long as you're not bringing the rug rats along on your dates, I can't understand how you're having problems.HAHA - that's hilarious, I should do that just to see a reaction one day! I kid, I kid :) but seriously, honestly I cant see why I am having problems either. Weird.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ElementGC'Honeybee, Have you considered couples instead?getting there ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Single Dad here ... Nope it never has bothered me Allthough i dont state i am a single dad as i have no desire to mention Kiddies on here
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dam honeybee! If your"damaged" then bring on the train wreck! Your a yummy mummy no two ways about it! It's so good to hear the same plight from the other side of the garden. Having two lil angles of my own, when saying to a sexy woman (as yourself) " please feel free to come over and have a romantic dinner at my place ... Straight after I have them to bed" .... It all flies in the face of spending time with a woman so we can explore each other, and no on not just talking the physical exploration there, but dam, that physical energy is so intoxicating Mmm lol. Wow you get a weekend of! Lol what's one of those again?
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RHP User
13 years ago
See, I thought it would be too forward... Adelaide has a rather, how do I say this without offending anyone, small selection of people who I would find worthy of my time - It's limited time to be sure, but I can and do make it worth it. I just dont see WHY the fact that I have kids should be anyone's business - they'll never ever meet them, I'll never want more than a planned fuck - should I actually have to divulge such information to total strangers!?!Honeybee,I put it to you that you want a little more than a "planned fuck". You probably want someone who gives you respect and courtesy and perhaps some honesty too. Just maybe if you let them know what you are looking for up front and that "family commitments" mean meet ups take a little planning, you might have better success.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am a single mum and have not come across a guy yet that had a problem with it in fact they adore my little girl, I guess I've been lucky in that sense but i guess it depends on how selfish and shallow some guys are..
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abcplus1
13 years ago
We had a lunch date last weekend with a single mum, we have a dinner date with her this weekend. At worst we meet someone new who we have can share a meal with, at best.......?
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lukeyboybad
13 years ago
Hey honeybee, you really are at the dodgy end of the stick because most....sorry a crapload of guys within 5 years older and younger than yourself to put it plainly just won't understand it which ever way you put it, they see a mother and forget that your a person as well cause they get wrapped up in the children.....I have read your profile and see a fun sexy and intelligent woman who I could get along with really well and have a lot of fun with in or out of the bedroom as a person, friends or more....even knowing that whatever happens your the main reason I'm there.....now this may be because I am not afraid of kids or just because I have just come out of a similar situation to understand it a little better than most... P.s it's a pity I'm in Melbourne or I'd prove there are guys out there who don't run away from you because of your children
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RHP User
13 years ago
Honeybee , ( an older guy so perhaps my opinion is irrelevant ) for me whether a woman has kids or not has no bearing on my attraction to them. Personality and attitude are far more important them looks or parental status. In fact I would say that usually being a mother makes a woman a more rounded and interesting person. And any guy with a modicom of common sense is going to realise that being a mother makes your availability different to a single woman and would make the necessary adjustments. Stay sexy ( you are damn attractive) kept smiling and hopefully you will find what you want.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ive got two lovely girls , i wasnt going to mention in my profile but in the end found out it was easier. i have kids when i dont have them im free all other times they get me! This sorts out all questions , can we meet this day. Just makes clear from the start and ill meet people that can handle this situation. As for young guys they need to listen to what you want! I want to have fun then i have my kids so ill see you again when i dont have them , sounds ideal to me but maybe thats me
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RHP User
13 years ago
HoneyBee, Obviously the guys who have issues with you having kids are not worth the time. If i was in Adelaide i would be chasing you for fun every day of the week. (Joking, but you get the idea.) IMHO i dont have an issue if there is kids involved because for me it means that you will have less chance of getting attached to me and the relationship can be kept casual and when both parties are free and able to meet up for some fun. Give the younger guys the ass and start looking for us older guys who have a bit of life experience and some may have kids themselves and have more understanding!?!? Just some thoughts, i hope you find what you're looking for!Dazza xoxoxox
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RHP User
13 years ago
A few things... But nothing negative towards you, only men in general lol. Women having children is not a problem, men associating children with commitment is the problem. I think kids are awesome, only now that I have been with a woman who had three. Made it a little tricky at times, meeting up was a little difficult on a regular basis. But still, amazing sex and some very fond memories... Now as I'm sure nearly everyone here has said... You are definitely not damaged! You have an amazing post bub physique that I would very much enjoy :P So no... Guys are not instantly turned off by a woman with young children, some guys can accept it others cannot. The one's that can't accept you for you and the two bundles of joy you have? Not worth worrying about anyways :) You have a lot to offer any sane man (you like anal sex, as IF your sex life would be average lol) and I for one would love to meet you if we were closer!
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RHP User
13 years ago
honeybee i too am a mum experianceing the same issue..and my profile clearly states that my child will always come first so dont try making me put then before my son.. cause it wont happen.. i agree with many of the replies..babe..if they cant understand you have kids.. NEXT!!! I too hit the Next button (as well as Block...lol) I too have had many an argument using the same words you did.. "im a single mum.. i cant just drop everythiing cause u want to fuck, my life is no longer a series of spontanious events & now requires careful..almost military presciion planning..." honestly babe... the ones worth knowing.. will understand the kids factor.. and should embrace it too.. i was dating a guy recently who never actually met my son (other than stick his head in his room once to see what he looked like) and when he went overseas to singapore.. he knew of my Sons Disney Cars obsession and bought him back a cool jumper and some Cars merchandise not available in australia.. so babe.. there are occasional gems out there.. just got to sift through all the dead rocks to find them hot bod too babe..... i hope you find what you are looking for... mwah!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well said
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RHP User
13 years ago
You ladies are only attracted to the sort of blokes that have issues with children? The rest of us just make "good friends".. And I hear we're all good at changing light bulbs too..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dude, she's only a days drive away from you. Have your self a long week end man.. ~smiles~
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RHP User
13 years ago
No not at all I have son and it's been an issue for me telling women about him, people think your a bad dad coz you don't live it's your kids. I think being a mum is a great quality need i mention the many great attributes mothers share? I see it as a quality rather than a hinderence but preferences will differ unfortunately but hey there loss and a real mans gain.
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thisisme_700
13 years ago
The hardest thing I find is girls who reject me for having kids which also do not live with me (no thanks to the wanker judge). I am very much aware of peoples choices to separate and what they have now. I also know how many people are shallow. As for having a small selection of people in Adelaide, Perth is pretty much the same to be honest.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'bighandssa'Dam honeybee! If your"damaged" then bring on the train wreck! Your a yummy mummy no two ways about it! It's so good to hear the same plight from the other side of the garden. Having two lil angles of my own, when saying to a sexy woman (as yourself) " please feel free to come over and have a romantic dinner at my place ... Straight after I have them to bed" .... It all flies in the face of spending time with a woman so we can explore each other, and no on not just talking the physical exploration there, but dam, that physical energy is so intoxicating Mmm lol. Wow you get a weekend of! Lol what's one of those again? We should meet :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine'You ladies are only attracted to the sort of blokes that have issues with children? The rest of us just make "good friends".. And I hear we're all good at changing light bulbs too.. lol :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
If you are only looking for fun, there really is no need for questions when obviously you wont have your kids with you when you play! It has never been a big deal for me! x
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RHP User
13 years ago
To me doesnt matter about if you have kids. Hot is hot if its just for something casual.I guess allot of guys see it as a future problem if you hit ot off or might think its weird to have kids around and have to meet them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd have seen this post, ducked onto the next JetStar with my "don't burn your fingers and look like a dufus while handling a hot bulb" gloves and helped you out..~hangs head~But I'm guessing you've got it all sorted now. I don't suppose you have some blocked plumbing that needs seeing to? ~smiles~ Quoting 'honeybee0086'...."my kitchen bulb just blew.." lol :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
Couldn't help but notice only 5 guys under 30 replied to your post. Don't know if it's because the rest are that shit scared they can't or won't answer... or the majority of them don't look at the forums. In any case if the lads are doin the runner, you're better off without those guys whose mentality is not mature enough to handle the situation. Don't think it's your, as you put it, "damaged" body. Put those thoughts out of your head. You seem to be a smart, well spoken girl who's hot to boot. Think quality honeybee and let the rest of the "boys", (and I mean boys if they're that scared) flee. You'll attract some quality guys that appreciate you for who you are. Respect to the single parents!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Trust me, guys run because they're afraid of what can be in this country. Let's face it morals and ethics are a word and that's the truth and they're history. Just take the classic tiger woods episode where the whole worldbagged him for doing what he did, but not a word was ever mentioned about the 14 or so " ladies " he had an affair with got a mention of wrong doing. And tell me they didn't know who he was and if he was married. Yeh go figure. The tabloids and marketing have all got us by the short and curlies. I challenge anyone to disagree.... Balls in your court. And to you my sweet I say chin up there's plenty of nice guys out there you just have to "weed them out". PS. I'm too old for you but I understand. Your ok.
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TomatoSauce33
13 years ago
This is just my honest opinion, and mine alone. Every (young) guy is different, so don't make a generalization from my word alone. Other forum readers are going to crucify me for what I'm going to say, but you did ask for honesty so here goes. Yes it is a turn off. I have some friends from school and I know of other girls my age and even younger (16/17) that have had a child, or are currently pregnant. From what I've observed, young single Mums turn out to have extremely strong characteristics from constantly dealing with every day life and being bombarded with stereotypical garbage thrown at them continuously, so I do respect and my hat comes off to young single Mums. Attraction wise you could have the most charming and attractive personality but as soon as you drop the bombshell about kids, the attractiveness of wanting to develop the relationship decreases dramatically. It could be compared with a charming and attractive guy who seems perfect, but then later says he's married, and I've seen a myriad of topics about how wrong it is to develop a relationship with a married man. It's baggage and initially with all else aside its less appealing than someone with no baggage. Kids take up time, money and complicate a relationship from what I can imagine. Being young I wouldn't want to be involved with someone elses kids and would rather spend my time with someone with less responsibility on their hands which frees them up. I only view this way if I'm looking at more than a 'friends with benefit' relationship, because I myself have a vice for older woman, but have no interest in forming 'proper' relationships with them. I find 'Milfs' extremely attractive sexually because of their confidence, intelligence and life experience that younger girls can't match. Like I said, this is just my opinion and I know some people won't like what I've written and I don't mean to offend anyone, I just wanted to answer your question with honesty :) So guys, younger guys in particular, what's the dealio? Is a single mum/MILF/procreating superwoman a huge turn off or is it ok? Be honest, explicit in why it's a turn off, I need to avoid people like that obviously! You can't and won't offend me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hello I have 5 beautiful kids and know the feeling well,I think. some select males tend to think us woman want a father figure. for our kids and can freak them out but its further than the truth they sometimes forget we like the company and adult time I am with a lovely man whose kids are all grown up but there has never been an issue when I have my kids he goes and does his own thing so my full attention on them somebody right will come along and things will fall into place if u just want a root alot of men dont care if your married have kids ect but if you want something special he will take you for who you are and get to know everything that comes with you,your beautiful xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi ya Honeybee, As the old saying goes, "Theres plenty of fish in the sea" let these losers lye in their own beds..alone! You've got the Mojo going there girl..and that's all that matters in life.. Enjoy the journey! Be as picky as you desire.. Mwah.. Tia and Bryan
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RHP User
13 years ago
@honeybee there are two common terms used to describe someone such as yourself honeybee, and I agree with both of them!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
....a not so young single mother..... I also have tattoos and my youngest child is still at home aged almost 12. I tend to take in strays and waifs so there are usually a few foster kiddies roaming the house as well. I have had absolutely no problems finding men to "play" with when I so desired so maybe the problem lies with your approach. Many are on here looking to fulfill thier fantasies...mummies, kids and schedules mean less time for them. The ultimate focus is never going to be on them and that is why they move off when they find out about the kiddies. Now every single one of us say that we are only on here for sex, dont want anything permanent and maybe if you are one of a couple that is true. The fact of the matter is that you dont think you are looking for anything more, and possibly at this point in time you are not, however, the human animal is such that we are not designed to live alone, we are a pack animal. Way down deep inside we are all secretly looking. Men know that, women know that, and we act accordingly. I dont like it when I have managed to arrange respite for residential kids, a babysitter for myself, traveled out of town to play (because I live in a small rural area and no one needs to know my business) only to have a man cancel on me at the last minute because his kids are sick, the ex dumped them on him or whatever other reason. It is hard to re-schedule....is this selfish of me? Possibly but I dont care. This is MY fantasy and I want it to go MY way! My play time is just that and I am assuming that yours is scarse and looked forward to as well....so is thiers. When I do manage to meet, I dont want him dashing off because little Jimmy landed in hospital or whatever. I dont want dinner interupted because he had to ring little Susie to say good night. I dont want to discuss children, I want it to all be about ME ME ME!!!!! . The solution? You are only after a good time...you are only after sex and not happily ever after.....dont mention the kids then....or choose a different type of man. They are out there.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know some pretty hot mums that I'd never say know to. Children no worries as I've got my own as well.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've never approached/been approached by anyone who has a child or children (whether full custody or otherwise), and so I've never contemplated the issue of how I would react until now...I've been exchanging emails and chatting with a lovely (gay) lady over in Perth, and during one of our recent conversations on chat, she said that she wanted to tell me something, and told me that she had a four year old daughter, as a result of being raped five years ago.Did this change the way I felt about her? Absolutely. I was a little shocked at first, but in a few seconds I managed to establish how I felt about it. I have no doubt that she would have contemplated that she would see the face of her rapist in the future child, but considering the fact that she is gay, she is unlikely to have children in the future unless it's through adoption or IVF means.I wouldn't say that now I find her 'hot', but what I do feel is extreme admiration for her. Admiration for her plight, courage, and determination in rearing a beautiful child from a horrible experience in her life.
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RHP User
13 years ago
For me i have no problem with having children. Just have to work around that fact a little. With the pics i have seen of you on your profile, their loss if they pass you by :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Probably the only thing damaged is their eyesight, because clearly they can't read " nothing serious" what part of that don't they understand . Never doubt yourself , doubt them , you were better off without them , your friend that accepts what you have and is willing be patient is certainly worth the wait . We all have busy lives and a past , your kids are part of your life , if they can't accept it they weren't worth it . Besides that your cute ,
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can't tell you why. I have 7 kids from 2 relationships and have no fear of meeting a lady with her own. Some guys haven't finished being kids themselves, how can you mother them if you have kids of your own. Better to see them run a mile early than have them leave you with a forgetable experience and run anyway. The right guys are everywhere, persistence pays. Guys traditionally take a lot longer to mature than women, around your age is the worst. Just be you, if they don't want you for who you are, good and bad, then you sure as hell don't need and shouldn't want them
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Playful2looking
13 years ago
There is no stigma about bonking mummies. Its just that your profile sugests that you are after romantic dinner dates. Plus you have a big check list; on what type of guy you want; the guy must do this and have that. check list seem ok at the time but generally the guy that pushes your buttons may not measure up to your check list. Quoto: I like quiet nights in; does that mean cuddling on the couch while the kids are at their dads. which suggests that you want romance with your sex. You may not want a relationship but if the guys put in romance; sexy dinners and all those things that usually are assoiated with dating; then it sounds like you want a dating experience with the danger that the guy might fall in love with you. Some guys then might think bugger I have fallen in love and now she wants to give me the flick. That would make some guys cautions about getting involved. Guys that are after just sex could get a bit freaked out about tripping over kids toys while trying to nail you to the mattrest. It would all feel a bit sufficating to be surrounded by all the kid stuff and not have that doubt in your mind that she wants commitment as well as some sex after reading your profile.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am paiteint and willing to work around the kids as being asingle mother is hard work and mothers work hard and therefore need tou party just as hard .im up for it givme acall
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can't talk from a single man's perspective anymore, however, as a young male I see no reason that relatively casual encounters should be influenced by what your home life is like. Similar to the concept that a guy runs away because you have a term deposit with the bank for 10 years. It's a long term comitment that does not effect him one iota. (not trying to relate your children to a financial institution's investment option, sorry if it seemed that way). If I was a single guy around your area I'd definitely be trying to get some time with you. all the best
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hot,Hot ,HotHourglass figure and character for stating what you want ,Stay sexy
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RHP User
13 years ago
all comes down to baggage and how mature you are to accept the fact every one has some in one form or another and that you need to work in with itgeneral rule kids first play comes second if they can't deal with that then they aint worth having aroundalways plan ahead ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
A 26 year old single mother who is only looking for casual meets. I cant see the problem Trying to put myself into other guys shoes though guys around this age, myself included assume that because your a mother, you are the type of women who is looking to settle down in life. As a younger guy, we enjoy nothing more then going out and having a good time as well as trying to get a career on track for a future standpoint. So I hope that helps but be patient, your only 26 and an extremely attractive MILF if you wish to be known as that. The guys your seeking, although limited are out there. Luke
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RHP User
13 years ago
I fully agree with Mischeviouslad also being a single mumma of 2 if someone has an issue with me having children then NEXT for them they are not worth the worry. Im totally up front about the fact i have kids at home its on my profile and i still get contacted by many guys who are fine with that There are plenty of single parents and single men (including the young ones) on here who understand your situation and that your children come first rather then some late night fun. But in saying that there are alot of jerks who will hound you and not take no for an answer or as you say flip their shit and run screw them hun. Your a gorgeous woman who i assume has alot to offer and your children are a part of that package. If a guy cant understand that then i say fuck em (excuse the language) but they are just not worth yoir time or worry
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think that you need to
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N4November
13 years ago
I really enjoyed reading your post and how you described yourself and the love for your children. You are beautiful person doing the best job in the world so you have much reason to hold you head up high in this world.Should a man not find that attractive..... NEXT!If you seem to be constantly attracted to these type of guys, you must be doing something wrong when you are vetting them. You need to learn how to make better decisions and go with your first gut instinct. I think I can tell very quickly from a man's profile what he (fundamentally) about or very soon after when we first start communicating.As for "damaged"?!! WTF girlfriend! My body is testament to my achievements (2 children like you) and I fondly look at body as a visual history of those. lol except the ugly little scar on my shin from getting drunk as a 16 year old and doing something stupid. They all have a story to tell that is all mine!!PLUSwith a gorgeous smile like yours - they probably won't even see them! In my case, most guys lose concentration when the boobs come out!
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RHP User
13 years ago
In my opinion, hot. i find something strangly erotic about a motherly woman and especially a woman that is expecting. Don't get yourself down about the guys that don't want to know you just because you have kids, nsa or not. i think you'll find a much better experience with guys that love the fact that you have kids. and i'd say if kids were a turn off for these guys for nsa then they probably aren't the type of guys you'd want around for any purpose. but thats just what i think.
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