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Guys that sulk and get rude when you say no thanks,
June 29 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
It depends how you worded. When I was actively looking I almost never received a negative response. What are you saying to them SweetJen?
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RHP User
8 years ago
That should say. It depends how you word it - your response that is.
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RHP User
8 years ago
And unfortunately that is the reason I often don’t reply, for fear of what they will then return with Love the old ‘fat b*tch, I wouldn’t want to meet you anyway ‘ after rejection - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Orange blossom, soft Jasmin, calming Ylang ylang, or the hypnotic Tahitian Tiare flower in your laundry detergent. ( personal observation )
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RHP User
8 years ago
Have over inflated egos and senses of self importance. It’s a power game for them and when they can’t get what they want they resort to childish behaviour and name calling so as to stroke their bruised and rejected ego. I mean how dare a female not fall at their feet shedding lingerie and expressing their desire for them??? 😱 Not all guys react this way but a fair few do. Chalk it up as a thank god I never met them in person experience! If they are asses like that behind computer screens imagine what they’d be like in real life! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Categorizing all guys in the same basket is pretty unfair...seriously its just basic math...you will all ways have a percentage of good guys, fk sticks, weidos, and peeping toms lol...I will generally write a well thought message and leave an open ended respectful invitation so the ball is in her court as to weather she wish's to pursue things...I'm not by any means saying I'm all that but I like to be well mannered and give a compliment to an attractive woman...even if I get rejected but she gets a smile from a compliment then all good...life goes on...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sadly, some people do not handle rejection well.
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Seachange73
8 years ago
You're really having a bad run o here sweetjen? Any good experiences? Anyway.... Initially when I was a newbie, I got one or two rude replies. I had a big learning curve on figuring out the dynamics in this site where we all try to move on with our pride intact when there is no attraction. After much thought, I changed my behavior and replies to soften the rejection and never received another bad response since. So you see, we do have 'some' control over the situation. I see threads of late where single men have been demonized and single men bashing is tolerated if not encouraged. We forget there are many many lovely sweet men out there (met so many) and they too have feelings. It so happens they outnumber the single women and couples so as in real life, the bad apples stand out and seem more due to the disproportionate ratio on site. A few fwbs showed me some extremely rude, mean and entitled replies from females, who I'm sure won't get a second look in the 'real world'. Seriously insensitive, definitely not cool. Just to say bad manners is not the domain of a specific gender. Most single men and couples here I have been in contact with had treated me well and with respect regardless of the outcome. For me, i subscribe to the dogma you reap what you sow. If they replied negatively, not my issue and I don't spend anymore of my energy on some online avatars. Next I say. Simple. Hope your experience here gets better. Life is too good to dwell on the negatives and sad people. Best wishes.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
For those who can’t handle rejection, who are selfish , have bad manners and a lack of respect. We see it as a blessing in disguise, that they show their true colours early on. We get to dodge a bullet . - Posted from rhpmobile
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Forus1234
8 years ago
Hardly ever receive rude comments, more thank yous for returning the message & compliments on our photos.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm sorry that you and other people get that kind of treatment. I don't know whether it's some kind of self-esteem backlash, or some kind of entitlement issue, but I honestly don't see why people need to be so disrespectful. I think some people don't seem to understand that RHP is a veritable cyclone of dick and women get a *lot* of propositioning, or that some people are looking for something very specific. It seems some people believe you basically go in, fire off a message and have a fuck within 24 hours of going gold, and when that doesn't pan out, it's seen as something on them.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I know a little about it... Rejection is like any other response....in the eye of the receiver. They can choose to emotionally invest into it, or use it as an opportunity to grow. I’ll share a recent experience....to demonstrate my point..... Messaged a profile(yes the profile owner will read this), and by about the 3rd message the profile owner apologised and said I was boring the profile owner. This is where a guy is at a crossroad.... On one hand, you could interpret the rejection as “I’m a boring person” Or.... You can see it as I did, as a helping hand to be more engaging with the profile owner.... I never replied...why?? Don’t think I really needed to as it really can be a fine line between prosperous and petulance in their mind....and it’s not a line I wanna try to walk... Moral of the story is that rejection can either make you, or break you....ultimately the choice is yours.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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181Dinner4Two
8 years ago
1 - You're reason's for saying, 'thanx, though no thank you' were spot on. 2 - Best to, 'Block' and carry on carrying on, and 3 - Your, 'Bestie' is just around teh corner and all those others were just the unfortunate few (many) You had to pass over to find Your diamond in the rough. imho tat tiz, churz edd. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
The responses youve typed..... are not from confident or capable men..: But the brittle and insecure ones who expect everything while offering very little and hide behind their computers like weak little boys They have merely clarified why you declined them in the first place. 👍😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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kisslids
8 years ago
I have asked “why”? It’s not that I’m pissed off, I mostly want to know if I’m doing something that is disliked I am trying to improve myself, I don’t think this is wrong... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You just drop a fart and piss off like all your other posts about the same thing.Have the balls to stick around. reply even
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well...I do drop farts...and I do piss... Mainly because I’ve felt that little niggle from Mother Nature... You know that one that hints “if you keep pushing like that I’ll show you why it’s not a good idea!!” Kinda hint... Messy...very messy in public.. When I get that balance right I’ll be sure stick around longer ... 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You seem to be having a horrible time with it Sweetjen, some serial posting going on with this topic. The manbashing, in recent times instigated by the same few over and over, I am finding a bit yawnsome.
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RHP User
8 years ago
It’s called mutual respect. What I hate is no answer at all. Complete lack of manners fostered by the anonymity of the internet. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
At the end of the day, rhp is like any dating scene and I think there's a lot of wankers around the world in general. In here you get to meet them and cross them off the list faster though. If you're not being rude when you let them know that there's no connection there for you, then it's 100% their ego that's the issue. I hope your experience gets better - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It’s not the normal response. Most guys I have encountered are terrific if rejected, wishing you all the best and moving on , then every so often you run into one whose ego is so fragile, that all niceties go by the wayside and you rejecting them somehow becomes your loss. Still not sure how that works, and then the need to then comment on how you look, or your profile makes me smile. Yeah babe, keep going, but remember you wanted me 4 messages back But I’m grateful for them losing their shit as it saves you so much time in the long run. Dodges bulletins like Neo in The Matrix
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RHP User
8 years ago
On iPad Bullets , bullets
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kisslids
8 years ago
I’m sure you would get those questions all the time, and I apologise for the genuine guys that ask. I still live by the moto of “if you don’t ask questions you’ll never get answers “ 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would like to see some of the messages sent as no's to have a basis for why abuse is sent in return. I have no doubt the majority of abuse in return to no messages is not earned... But feel sure that the refused has a basis to be offended at times but we'd need the whole story for that. Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Verbosity doesn’t equal interesting! The person who replied may have been having a shit day! Or maybe had been inundated with inane replies Can’t be a fiery redhead Amazon woman without a few flaws!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with what a lot of women and men are saying, majority of guys here have fragile and bruised egos so when they don’t get the desire they want they tend to exhibit their feelings in way of verbal abuse and expressions of distaste. A few spoilt apples ruins the basket unfortunately.. on the plus side there are definitely humble and respectful males here that do make the troublesome individuals seem like children, that’s how you sort the men from the boys imo. Hopefully your encounters have been more positive and wholesome with other men interested in you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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cockasian
8 years ago
As has already been noted, any forum will have a mixed bag of results, ranging from a straight out, "No thank you", to comments that are rather more passive/aggressive. So far we've no on a fairly regular basis, and only had one instance where the male in a couple lost the plot, and was summarily blocked. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Obi1kenietzsche
7 years ago
Is it because they think that online they are invincable. And then when they recieve what they perceive to be a rejection, they realise that they are actually vincable? Xx Obi1
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RHP User
7 years ago
What’s wrong with me? After I point out that they should have contacted someone that matched their criteria they still persist saying I like a bit of fire I’m left with no option but to let them know my scorn for pushy single guys that don’t take no for an answer! I’m a fiery Amazonian redhead don’t push my buttons!
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HarleyQandMrO
7 years ago
I have and never had an interest in men except for my partner and have made this very clear in our profile.. In the past we have been messaged and flirted to by couples wanting to get together, once explained that I have no interest in the males and only the women they tend to not come back and have on occasion been rude. On one occasion I went to a club with my partner and a male of a couple that had been constantly flirting and messaging us on RHP we rejected the but they were not getting the point. When I walked In.to the club this man walked up to me and grabbed me like I was there for him and was rude and pushy. Unfortunately, this had to be dealt with and I told him in no uncertain terms not to touch me and just because he had messaged me, did not give him the right to expect anything, I Am a very outgoing flirtatious and sexually confident women, just because I am at a club/ party does not give anyone the right to assume I want them. Some people think that sex is a given because they are at a party or club or website. They feel they are entitled and should have their pick of whoever they want. They don't like rejection or other people getting the attention of women / men they have set there sites on. Or another couple taking their glory or couples they have been with in the past .It's a very uncomfortable situation, no one has any right to anything and everyone should be treated with respect and should not have their desires and choices questioned. Everyone / couple has there own fetish's, kinks, needs wants and desires and looking for excitment, this may not fit into the norm of swingers. No means no. - Posted from rhpmobile
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