Guys for MFM - Is there no balance??

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Minx, you may be right in your observation, but it is difficult for a guy to get the balance exactly or even approximatly right when it comes to making the inital approach.  Possibly the guys with the OTT approach are self confident, or self assured, or are they just full of their own self importance? who can tell without actually meeting or at least talking in real time?  It is difficult to convey a balanced approach, especially for a single guy, because there are so many of us out there and if you get it wrong, you are more than likely to get blocked. Personally I tend to reply discussing points mentioned in the persons profile, but usually with the disclaimer thats its all fun, because to me thats what it is all about.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I prefer just to wait until I'm invited. This is because I'm kind of shy... well shy may be the wrong description for an exhibitionist... not really shy... just you know... not pushy.... and I expect that real couples are not desperate for a shag and for that matter neither am I... so if we're going to hook up, it will because there's some kind of mutual attraction, not because I've pestered someone into submission.  Warm hugs Gazza

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  its like ott are like a gambling game and posiblly back outs are surely jus wat theya re... hey i am normal...

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Perhpas the guys with the OTT profiles are more confident, whereas the respectful ones are actually timid.so more likely not to show?

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  This for what it's worth from a biguy. I have found that the newer members, like myself, tend not to be as pushy. If I exchange emails with OTT bi or gay guys and they want to meet that's great, Often the quiter ones need to be more discreet. When it comes to naming a time and place things can go quiet. One reason I guess is work/family commitments and location affecting both parties.   I have met a very horny female FB on RHP, we are both confident, discreet, quiet and respectful but that hasn't stopped us playing with others in group or club situations. When together we make love, (vigourously, madly and without boundaries)  in all it's various forms all evening.   I guess some of us take it for granted that we will always place the pleasuring of our partners ahead of our own and not feel the need to advertise the fact.   Playful, give the quiter ones a try now and then, If you can arrange a meet I'm sure you will both enjoy it. Cheers

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  fl37ch

  16 years ago

  well it's all a numbers game after all playfulminx.. ;-)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Over the top people would be confident, full of themselves and unafraid of new and strange situations.Honest, self-criticising profiles may lack that confident, and be afraid of committing to playing - being more intrigued and satisfied with the knowledge that they are wanted then the actual act of playing.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I find there are alot of time wasters on here. They either disappear as you are chatting on MSN or you add them to MSN and never hear from them again. Quiet ones...OTT ones...they are all the same. I think that some are on here for a "numbers" game...to see how many they can get to add them or chat to them with interest. My opinion and observation only. xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hi Minx, I agree with Captainsean, it is tricky to strike just the right tone in a profile to stand out from the crowd for a guy. I am not one for empty sex and prefer to get to know potential playmates with a conbination of email correspondence, chatting online, talking on the phone and meeting for lunch or coffee. As a result I have had some fantastic experiences with some great people in one on one MF and MFM situations. I find it just takes patience, honesty and a preparedness to listen. It seems those qualities of common decency are not so common. Sensual

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  or I am gunna spank you so hard !!...you won't be able to sit down for a week !!!...oops, sorry, that was me mum telling me i had to come in and to stop playing in the sandpit...hehe...but i gotta agree with ya...lotsa fcukwits on here...*nods head sagely*for the single guy, finding the balance is a challenge...sometimes i reckon it's easier pulling hen's teeth...and let me tell ya...some hens have damn big teeth !!...but if ya get on ok on msn, then more than likely he is gunna wanna meet up and make ya happy....cheersjose...NOW, where we meeting, huh?

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  And one I was not fully aware of. It's a bit of a dilemma allright. I fit into the category of "respect your boundaries, blah blah" but have never been one to back out of a chance to meet. I don't see being timid or shy as a way of dealing with any doubts I may have. So I don't have any valid excuse for any of my counterpart/category. Except to say, Stop being such spineless twits to whoever is creating this phenomina. An interesting and somewhat unsettling observation nevertheless.

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