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Girls ... if you've met someone from here, what made you decide to meet them?

December 11 2009

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generallykaiden posted recently asking why he never gets to meet any of the girls he messages from here.  It led me to wondering why girls DO decide to meet a particular person from here.  This might give guys an insight into how to get into our pants (haha!)  So girls ... why? :)Here's my story ...I joined RHP after the end of a 13 year mostly sexless relationship.  I was very private, shy, self conscious and confused.  I wanted to get my mojo back and can be an exhibitionist, so I hung out in hot chat, cammed and got to know people for chit chat. One night I met a guy in hotchat, quite a bit younger than me.  He was playing music and showing his face on cam and I started chatting to him about his music.  We hit it off and spent the night talking in chat, swapping songs etc.  It was really great fun and I felt fantastic.  We met online a few more times and then he asked for my number.  I gave it to him, we chatted on the phone for a few months and I found him easy, honest, kind and fun to talk to.  Then he asked me to visit him.  I flew to the other side of the country, we had a sexy and romantic few days and I flew home.  We stayed in touch on and off for a while afterwards, but both always knew it was a one-off kind of thing.  Most importantly, I was on my way to getting my mojo back.I met 2 other guys in chat that I spoke to on and off for a few weeks and then ended up meeting in person.  I had a FWB thing going with one of them for a bit, he was such a nice, gentlemanly kind of guy - much younger and on a totally different page than me but sexy and yummy and fun to be with.  The other guy, not so much!I met another guy in hotchat for the first time one night and I must have been in a seriously flirty mood because later that night he was in my bed.  That was fun.I have met some couples and girls from here that are just friends, but awesome friends.  I have 1 girlfriend from here I've never met in person but absolutely will for sure one day ... just as soon as she gets her ass over here from Perth!!  And I have met a guy on here that is really nice and I would be really happy to meet as a friend one day.And then, I met the love of my life on here!  I perved on him in hotchat, apparently I chatted him up (as if) and then he perved on me.  We chatted in msn for months until he FINALLY asked for my number.  The minute I heard his voice on the phone I completely melted, knew I had to meet him and was aching to just have his arms around me.  That was 7 months ago and now we live together.So for me, it seems hotchat is the way to get into my pants!!! :PI have a girlfriend though, that got a random "do you want to have sex" message and said sure - the guy came around, it was a disaster, but she was glad she had the adventure.So, what about you???

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    I have met quite a few guys on here, one ended up being my FWB for almost 2 years..... I find it helps if I have initiated the contact, either by sending a flirt or a message, and then messaging backwards and forwards a few times to see if there is any rythm in the flow of things.If a guy can make me laugh just by sending messages, he is pretty much a sure thing for me, cos I know we are both going to feel comfortable with each other when we meet.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Good to read such an uplifting tale...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    lilmissfussy... I agree wholeheartedly with eunuch... I love your story.   enough intelligence to laugh at oneself and witty enough make me smile is what gets me every time... I can't resist a smart guy or girl with a self-depreciating sense of humour...irresistable ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    So wonderful you found your man Mifussy..I am truely so happy for you!!  xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx   For me ...well  met a few guys from here..2 hurt me (feelings)....1 of them I forgave him and offer friendship but he can't seem to handle that...The other  well... he said he didn't want to lose me..2 week later poof!  he disappears..never to be heard of again...   Some have remaind friends....   Some I am glad I met..some I like to forget....lol   I was  living overseas..no sex for almost 6 yrs....just work and being a mother..I came back to Australia wanted my mojo back too....found RHP and hotchat..same as you..   Best part of my time here is making some wonerful friends  and my mind opening up to more pleasures I could possibly explore on day..   Now there is 1 man that I have been chatting to for a few months now on msn....have not met him as of yet..But hope one day soon I will...I adore him and hope that when we meet our friendhip only gets stronger..funny thing is..He is damn hot and I actually couldn't care if we never had sex..I just love our conversations and his friendship so much..   love my friends xxxxxxxxxxxxx   sweetpetite41 xxxx   Missfussy..Merry Xmas to you and your man xxxxxxxxxxxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Me thinks you have come full circle fussy...mojo is back and kickin and im soo happy for you....You are and have been on my faves list since I joined...can resist that bum and lower back of yours pmsl.   I agree with you ... As you know im in a different kind of rel where we have to live apart...(previous relationship ) but over all most of the women I have met on here have not had their pics up!! bizarre!!!! but true..   Im a reader so I love the lil nuances that women put up ...it shows intellect and a wonderful self awareness to describe oneself without the need for a pic ...That in its self is intreguing to me.     I read with an open heart as everyone is different....And I will not sleep with just  anyone but so willing to have a coffee with anyone and a chat...all good and nobody loses. You get to meet and greet and if the chem is the EAT!!! lol     I have not met any women from hot chat ...me thinks i cant type that fast and that is why we fliip to msn or yahoo   I agree with SOPH 64 tho. Humor intellect and the ability to enjoy the moment the ppl you are with and have a belly laugh is in my quality world kind regards Atomic ps that you r posting these poignant questions says alot about you fussy and where your head is at ...good on ya

  • platinumblonde69

    platinumblonde69

    16 years ago

    Lilmissfussy...u are one of the stand out women on this site....why??....cause u are a realist and dont tell people what they want to hear, but u say it like it is....people either luv it or hate it...abit like myself there....I have seen and chatted to u for a long long time....and....although u show great wit, conversion skills, sexy as on cam..hehehe...u always are respectful to people....which is why u have always been one of the "good ones" in my book...The fact u have scored one of, if not THE hottest guy in chat....says something about u....You are always sincere, respectful, and converse with all....and in this life...we get what we give.....so...i am happy u have found a guy that makes u so happy....I live in hope that more of the nice guys surface on RHP. ..Its sooo disappointing when u discover a guy is just putting on a "nice guy front" to get into your pants.... xoxox All the best you guys...

  • platinumblonde69

    platinumblonde69

    16 years ago

    Whoopsy..forgot to answer the question...What makes me meet a guy from RHP???...After chatting the guy i choose to meet will satisfy a few of my wanted criteria....he must have personality and wit.....enough to make me laugh and know he is real....he must be easy on the eye.....i have to meet in daytime so there needs to be a physical attraction (sorry if that sounds shallow)....he must not be a sleaze in the chatroom and secretly whisper other women or drool and say inappropriate sleazy comments to women.....he must respect my boundries.....he must be friendly when conversing in a phone chat....and he must be honest...which prob sounds like im a hypocrite but on sites like this i need to be able to trust someone...but above all...he must show respect to me...and other women....My criteria also includes making me feel super horny and creating an urge to wanna **** their arse off...(wonder if they will censor that?)....The type of guy who i DONT meet from RHP are the guys who r sleazy, disrespectful and have ****ed lots of women from sex sites....Hope that helps the guys out there.... xoxoxox

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    may your days of happiness continue for a long time...oh sweetpetite...great big hugs for yaand platinum...that must be incredibly disappointing...big hugs for ya as well...here's hoping that ya DO find something extra special under ya xmas tree this year...just hope he doesn't tip the tree over...giggles...cheesjose...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    for me, the first person i met from here since being back on this site, what made me meet him, a message saying he was on his way to see me LOL. it was a bit spontaneous but we had been exchanging mails everyday wich i was enjoying the hell outta and wanted to meet him sooner or later anyway coz i really liked his personality shining through, funny, witty, caring, intelligent.... oh lets not forget that he is eye candy too  i feel so comfortable around him and i know that i can talk to him about anything and he wont judge me and gives really good advice when i need it, just like a true friend does!we still talk and see each other when we can. i feel so very proud to call him my special friend and i love the fact i have met someone so amazing. i have had more disaster stories then good ones about meeting people from online, but friendships like these make it all worthwhile!!!love jemma365-117-082

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    are great! Thanks for your kind words :)I hope generallykaiden reads this forum and gets some tips!!lilmiss xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Wow @ your post Miss Fussy.....beautiful... in style form and function, not to mention the rest.....totally with your sentinments SOPHIE (except the guy bit..... i never could get into cock...my loss perhaps if judging by some on here...but alas 'tis the cookies curmble i guess lol :) )... just to add.... great post, great journey, great photo ( :P ), great writing.....in fact its almost 2good to respond to... lol..... TY for read... 2b :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    thanks for your insight also.... from reading the forums, and lots of chat...well lets just say.... lol :) 2b