M29
Genuine cougars
March 18 2023
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Ex007
a year ago
My advice would be to start with a thoughtful message after reading their full profile. Some older women are particular with who they play as past experiences has taught them what they like and what they don't.
Generally, it has little to nothing to do with looks unless it's obvious someone doesn't respect themselves with some basic care and maintenance. But we all have our little things that are an instant turn-off.
Personally and others may be the same I need a mental connection. What I've found is younger guys will message a few times and then ask to meet.
But no mental connection has taken place so there is no driver for me to want to meet them. Older women value their time and they don't like wasting it.
When I explain to them that creating that connection takes a few weeks maybe a month depending on how much communication takes place.
At a guess, I suspect that when I say that it's just all too hard and they disappear.
However some step up and put in the work and they are well worth meeting if a connection has been established.
Just because someone is young and fit doesn't mean they're going to strike gold. Well not with me.
I hope this helps.RHP User
a year ago
You are the same age as my kids, so that would be an instant no from this old duck 😊.
Kokoflamingo
a year ago
I have had some great experiences with younger guys, have had long term fwb and been treated like a queen. What is off putting with some younger men is the fact that they think they are doing you a favour. Messages such as " How would you like to have a treat, I have a nice hard young cock here" or "Young cocksman here to service you" are cringeworthy............no difference in young cock or old cock, to be honest, it is the guy attached to said dick that is the attraction. Cougars are not desperate, they know their worth. You sound pretty switched on, good luck to you.
EarthQueen
a year ago
The problem is older women are fetishised and most younger men want to meet us for sex and fill a fantasy. They want us to be a teacher blah blah. It gets boring hearing the same lines and responses. Most conversations are framed in the "older women" language when really, everyone just likes being treated like a person in their own right and form a connection. I like younger men , I love their energy but seriously can't really trust them for anything other than a casual fling and at the moment not even that .There's plenty of older women that will have sex with younger men though. Shouldn't be too hard to find I would have thought if you are leading with genuine communication ?
teamaj2
a year ago
I know cougars exist . When I divorced aged 41, I had no idea why I seemed to attract only young men . They always told me the same thing . Older women know what they want , they don’t play mind games and it was just more fun .
I love younger men . I married one . As long as they are respectful and don’t think they are doing me any favours being with me I’m happy if a young guy joins us . I love their energy and enthusiasm .
No matter what age someone is we seek someone willing to make a connection . We aren’t into someone asking to connect with us NOW as they are free ,working near us NOW or they have an itch to scratch NOW. Some young guys want it NOW . That’s absolutely fine but not what this ‘cougar ‘ ( I’m not keen on the terminology) wants .
My advice in searching for anyone , be patient , respectful and honest.
Good luck in your search , I wish you only success. AxRHP User
a year ago
lol
boobsandbusted
a year ago
Mrs b may be in the minority ,she is happy with all guys reguardless of age if they get along and being honest a younger man helps float the ego nicely and puts a pep in her step but if you so much as mention cougar ,that’s put a taste in her mouth that will make her turn into aspro and dissappear faster than a tradie working in the rain ,
Mr b
madotara69
a year ago
I’ll try.
Cougars like taverns, pubs, clubs, etc, generally Cider on tap, long bars opposite tables and stools or chairs or groups of 4 kind of thing,
You, or with some mates, spruced up, ready to dance, hit the doors entering in style, walking tall, smiles and walk down that narrow path between the bar and keep walking 🚶♀️ 🚶 🚶♂️ don’t take to the bar for a drink, you’ll have troubles but hold fast, keep walking as you are in the cougars den, all them at them tables and in 4’s easy all cougar’s in a pack, keep walking and you will be picked off one by one and your cougar is ready to pounce, she will ask you in her own feline curiosity who are you, her body language seductive and sharp, direct and sexually hungry.. Your’e a ski instructor from France over to teach back country search and rescue survival deep quick dig and naked bonding to keep warm squeezing into snug tight little tunnel and hold each other tight and Survive, dangerous …
Maybe a pilot 👨✈️ on a round the world environment economic tropically ambient temperature, native fruits and …
What ever you are, you have to be in character satisfactorily a flavour she likes and you have become hunted by a cougar, she will drag you to her home near by and into her bed, she will fuck you and fuck you and fuck you at least three times, you won’t have track of time, you will be drained and all your young energy her fill and done., get dressed hurry up . Get, get ,go out the door and you find your way back to wherever you go and go. Don’t try stay, don’t ask to come back, just go.
Can you walk through into the Cougar’s Cider houses.
Back in the day the old Stoned Crow Two of my mates took off with Cougars, I was way to shy, kept walking all the way past and it’s much like a regular bar, I’m guessing Cider houses because most get cheerful and happy, hardly fights, especially y testosterone fuelled young men looking for a root and to the pecking order, Cougars get first pick.
95% Cougars get a fuck. who ever is the Cougar guy you know is still waiting to have a conversation with a woman lol.
Mado
Mado Tara xxSawadee
a year ago
Never chased a Cougar ? ' not that l didnt want to , it just never worked out that way..
Mostly ' l always seemed to attract younger females, which l probally spent too much time on instead of looking for someone with more maturity ? Since learned ' its never too late...RHP User
a year ago
As an older woman, I don't want a man as old as my kids. Although at parties if a guy is genuinely interested I'm not going to ask their age unless they look really young.
I sometimes feel that younger guys go after cougers because they think we won't bother with a condom. No chance of getting pregnant etc. Or we're desperate. I'm not desperate and prefer quality and someone who'll last rather than a quick change of bath water for the guy.RHP User
a year ago
“Cougars” …. Can’t stand the word
Lookinghard2340
a year ago
I prefer younger as guys my age look old enough to be my Dad especially with beards yuk
RHP User
a year ago
34 right here, babii, haha.
Mermaid11
a year ago
Okay, so one thing about younger guys, and don't get me wrong, I love younger guys, is that some of them have grown up in this over the top porn generation where they think that every woman wants to be choked, every woman wants anal, hair pulling, having their face pushed into the pillow, slapped etc. This may be true of some and I may enjoy some but I don't want to be made to feel like I am in a porno. It's those types who think they are the older women's savouir and that we are all desperate and can't get any.
I appreciate a younger man who takes time even on the first meeting to establish boundaries and ask me what I like and share instead of just assuming we are desparate toys.
I hope that helps, and I am not categorising you or anyone else but just saying that this small fraction can be off putting.
😊RHP User
a year ago
I can understand why some women may have had a bad experience of two but I can't say I have. At 43 i can confidently say i am a cougar. My last two longer term relationships (1 year plus) have been with younger guys - 30 & 32. I prefer to date younger because they have the sexual stamina to keep up with me and that's important in a relationship for me. I also find they have less baggage and treat me better than their older counterparts. I have also had some FWB that were between the age of 26 - 30 and only had an issue with one of the guys as he was trying to hook up with other women. But , that was not an age issue just an insecurity issue on his behalf. When I first started dating younger guys I thought it may be a fetish thing for them but soon found out it wasn't the fetish side that attracted them to me- they were attracted to me because I am comfortable in my body and didn't need constant reassurance about my appearance. Like I said , that's just my opinion ...
Skarlet79
a year ago
Remove that juvenile emoji from your profile pic....that's an instant ignore/block from me.
Skarlet79
a year ago
Oh....and never use cougar/MILF in conversation. Women over 45 have had enough of everyone's crap! Be transparent & respectful.
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